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8 Types of Toxic Partners You Should Never Let Stay with You

8 Types of Toxic Partners You Should Never Let Stay with You

There are toxic partners we simply can’t handle. They are just detrimental to our existence and progress. Relationships should fulfill us and help us to become better people—not tear us apart and make our lives unlivable. In a relationship, it is important for you to find yourself an ideal match. And certainly, that match shouldn’t break your world apart with a toxic flow.

1. The Jealous Partner

A bit of jealousy is okay—it adds spice to a relationship. But like salt, you can sprinkle too much of it onto a meal. A partner can be so jealous that it makes your relationship acidic. Little things, like not being able to spend time with your friends or chat on the phone with other people can be infectious. Taking jealousy too far can be toxic.

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2. The Domineering Partner

How does your partner feel about your projects or goals? Does he/she want to make every decision for you? A relationship should not turn you into a robot; rather there should be cases when the other person wants to support you and watch you take actions that you consider ideal. If a partner becomes too controlling, you should understand that you are in a relationship with a toxic person.

3. The Extremely Insecure Partner

Nothing you seem to say or try to do can be assuring enough for this sort of partner. Even when you have made and offered tons of proof to make him/her accept and believe in your love, they still remain terribly insecure. Such toxic partners can drag away your positive energy and be a frustrating distraction most of the time.

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4. The Absolute Perfectionist

It is great to be in a relationship with a perfectionist, as they encourage more purpose and action. However this could be excessive and could be obsessive if they want everything in your life and everything that surrounds both of you to be perfect. Such people with a perfectionist streak will always be looking for flaws with you and make it impossible for you to enjoy the relationship.

5. The Narcissistic Partner

This type of partner may love and adore you. There is nothing that would have been so wrong with them except that they treat you like an accessory. They are materialistic and are more concerned about physical appearances. The world should revolve around them and your relationship should be the one that is always talked about by others. You are more of a doll to accomplish their purpose of being noticed. If you want to improve your self-esteem, you have to avoid such a relationship.

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6. The Blaming Partner

This type is never in the wrong or never takes responsibility for their mistakes. Their frustrations and disappointments are something they pile on you. You cannot turn the cards on them as that will only lead to more frustrations with you. If you are always blamed by a partner for things you do not know anything about then you are in a relationship with a toxic partner.

7. The Competitive Partner

Even when they claim they love you and they would do anything for you, they see you only as competition rather than a partner. They don’t want you to beat them at anything, whether it is in earning money or a game. They never want to lose and are sore losers when they do. Your fall is something they cherish, as they see this as an opportunity to pick you up again on your feet and show you how on top they are.

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8. The Lying Partner

We all lie. It is in our nature to lie out of fear, doubts or worry. But some partners are chronic liars. They simply lie all the time. They treat lying as a means to get at you. While you become insecure and frustrated about their act of lying, the drama excites them.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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