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8 Types of Toxic Partners You Should Never Let Stay with You

8 Types of Toxic Partners You Should Never Let Stay with You

There are toxic partners we simply can’t handle. They are just detrimental to our existence and progress. Relationships should fulfill us and help us to become better people—not tear us apart and make our lives unlivable. In a relationship, it is important for you to find yourself an ideal match. And certainly, that match shouldn’t break your world apart with a toxic flow.

1. The Jealous Partner

A bit of jealousy is okay—it adds spice to a relationship. But like salt, you can sprinkle too much of it onto a meal. A partner can be so jealous that it makes your relationship acidic. Little things, like not being able to spend time with your friends or chat on the phone with other people can be infectious. Taking jealousy too far can be toxic.

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2. The Domineering Partner

How does your partner feel about your projects or goals? Does he/she want to make every decision for you? A relationship should not turn you into a robot; rather there should be cases when the other person wants to support you and watch you take actions that you consider ideal. If a partner becomes too controlling, you should understand that you are in a relationship with a toxic person.

3. The Extremely Insecure Partner

Nothing you seem to say or try to do can be assuring enough for this sort of partner. Even when you have made and offered tons of proof to make him/her accept and believe in your love, they still remain terribly insecure. Such toxic partners can drag away your positive energy and be a frustrating distraction most of the time.

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4. The Absolute Perfectionist

It is great to be in a relationship with a perfectionist, as they encourage more purpose and action. However this could be excessive and could be obsessive if they want everything in your life and everything that surrounds both of you to be perfect. Such people with a perfectionist streak will always be looking for flaws with you and make it impossible for you to enjoy the relationship.

5. The Narcissistic Partner

This type of partner may love and adore you. There is nothing that would have been so wrong with them except that they treat you like an accessory. They are materialistic and are more concerned about physical appearances. The world should revolve around them and your relationship should be the one that is always talked about by others. You are more of a doll to accomplish their purpose of being noticed. If you want to improve your self-esteem, you have to avoid such a relationship.

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6. The Blaming Partner

This type is never in the wrong or never takes responsibility for their mistakes. Their frustrations and disappointments are something they pile on you. You cannot turn the cards on them as that will only lead to more frustrations with you. If you are always blamed by a partner for things you do not know anything about then you are in a relationship with a toxic partner.

7. The Competitive Partner

Even when they claim they love you and they would do anything for you, they see you only as competition rather than a partner. They don’t want you to beat them at anything, whether it is in earning money or a game. They never want to lose and are sore losers when they do. Your fall is something they cherish, as they see this as an opportunity to pick you up again on your feet and show you how on top they are.

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8. The Lying Partner

We all lie. It is in our nature to lie out of fear, doubts or worry. But some partners are chronic liars. They simply lie all the time. They treat lying as a means to get at you. While you become insecure and frustrated about their act of lying, the drama excites them.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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