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8 Remarkable Things to Do with Your Life

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8 Remarkable Things to Do with Your Life

We can all live life to the fullest, be happy and successful, leave a great legacy and be legendary.

You may doubt it and think only the lucky ones live like that, but the following list is going to change your mind.
You can build the ideal lifestyle and turn your dreams into a reality, if you do these remarkable things with your life (and stick to them).

It takes time, energy, courage and dedication. But you’re not alone. Everyone else has goals like these and fights a thousand small battles each day. But whether or not you become a winner depends on your consistency.

Start by doing these 8 things. They are what can change the course of your life and take you in the direction you’re meant to follow.

1. Find your passion

One of the most beautiful things for me is to see the look of a person who’s found their passion.
There’s such contentment, determination and peace in their eyes that you just can’t help but stay there and admire them.

People who follow their passion live a life of satisfaction, inspiration and joy. They’ve managed to find it, do something in order to make it a permanent part of their lives and, hopefully, make money and help others at the same time.

Your passion is what makes you feel alive and forget about time, it’s the thing you love doing and the activity that makes you happy.

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To find it, you need to follow your heart and listen to your instincts, to notice the things that move and inspire you. Then make the best of it.

2. Do everything with a purpose

There’s no point in the things we do if there’s no purpose behind them, if we don’t really want to do them and just feel obligated to.

So think again before you keep doing what others tell you, before you complete all the tasks on your to-do list and before you do what others do or what is considered right, although you don’t agree with it.

If you do something it must have a purpose: it may help you improve and grow, help you or others live a better life, etc.

3. Get in the best shape possible

We can spend centuries going from one diet to another, buying gym memberships, reading about nutrition and healthy lifestyle, hiring people to help us stick to our programs, buying supplements and other stuff that is known for helping people get fit fast, losing some weight then gaining it again, starving for days then overeating, etc.

But without committing to getting in shape and taking control over our habits, we will never become successful in other areas of our life or feel happy and satisfied in general.

So take the decision to do it right this time. Plan, start small and do something each day to get 1% closer to your goal.

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4. Give

In good and bad times, when you have a lot and when you have nothing, when you are happy and when you are depressed, remember to be there for others.

Life is nothing if we don’t share, help and give. That’s the ultimate contentment. Because after that we get twice as much.

Become a remarkable person – someone people would love to be with and will respect and be inspired by – by always giving instead of taking.

There’s always something to give. And expecting nothing in return makes it the ultimate good deed. Not to mention the unbelievable bliss you feel once you see how you help people, how you change their lives and how grateful they are.

5. Break free from your comfort zone

We are all used to doing the same thing every day, to living in a safe environment, to being average but being alright with that.

But all that security and peace are an illusion. And nothing new and exciting ever happens in that circle.

So go out there and challenge yourself whenever you meet the opportunity. Each day try something new, do something that scares you or just accept challenges. This way you’ll expand your limits and see things from another point of view. You’ll become an interesting person, who’s not afraid of anything and is always ready for adventures.

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6. Hack your life

For everything in life there’s a simpler, easier and faster way to do it.

Learning new languages, getting fit, achieving your goals, making money, changing your habits, conquering your fears, becoming an extrovert, etc. – these are just some of the things you can do in no time and with less effort than you think.

You will need total dedication, of course, but there are so many resources out there that are absolutely free, which can help you with that. Also, so many people that have done it before you share their tips, the steps they took and the problems they encountered.

7. Learn how to enjoy life

Living in the moment, truly experiencing it, being grateful about it and focusing on what you have right now is an attitude that can change your world.

Just concentrating on your current activity and doing it with joy is something that can give you a much better result and make you a happier person.

Never take anything for granted and learn how to enjoy each moment and live in the now. Then you’ll have a fulfilling life.

8. Use the power of attraction

Everything in the world consists of energy, and we are human magnets. So the moment you focus your thoughts on something, the whole universe does everything possible to give you events, things and people that are at the same energy level.

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So if you are positive, know exactly what you want and concentrate on that all the time, you can make your dreams come true.

Never underestimate the law of attraction as it’s the most powerful law in the universe. What you think, you attract and become. So let go of fears, doubts, negative thoughts and worries. And focus on the good things and goals of yours.

Think about these 8 items and decide whether you’re ready to make these changes and start living a remarkable life. But always know that it’s up to you.

You can be happy, and you can be miserable. It’s all a matter of choice.

And I believe we can all make the right choice.

Featured photo credit: 42andpointless via flickr.com

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Lidiya is the founder of Let's Reach Success, a blog on personal, spiritual and business growth.

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Last Updated on July 20, 2021

How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

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How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

You’re standing behind the curtain, just about to make your way on stage to face the many faces half-shrouded in darkness in front of you. As you move towards the spotlight, your body starts to feel heavier with each step. A familiar thump echoes throughout your body – your heartbeat has gone off the charts.

Don’t worry, you’re not the only one with glossophobia(also known as speech anxiety or the fear of speaking to large crowds). Sometimes, the anxiety happens long before you even stand on stage.

Your body’s defence mechanism responds by causing a part of your brain to release adrenaline into your blood – the same chemical that gets released as if you were being chased by a lion.

Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you overcome your fear of public speaking:

1. Prepare yourself mentally and physically

According to experts, we’re built to display anxiety and to recognize it in others. If your body and mind are anxious, your audience will notice. Hence, it’s important to prepare yourself before the big show so that you arrive on stage confident, collected and ready.

“Your outside world is a reflection of your inside world. What goes on in the inside, shows on the outside.” – Bob Proctor

Exercising lightly before a presentation helps get your blood circulating and sends oxygen to the brain. Mental exercises, on the other hand, can help calm the mind and nerves. Here are some useful ways to calm your racing heart when you start to feel the butterflies in your stomach:

Warming up

If you’re nervous, chances are your body will feel the same way. Your body gets tense, your muscles feel tight or you’re breaking in cold sweat. The audience will notice you are nervous.

If you observe that this is exactly what is happening to you minutes before a speech, do a couple of stretches to loosen and relax your body. It’s better to warm up before every speech as it helps to increase the functional potential of the body as a whole. Not only that, it increases muscle efficiency, improves reaction time and your movements.

Here are some exercises to loosen up your body before show time:

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  1. Neck and shoulder rolls – This helps relieve upper body muscle tension and pressure as the rolls focus on rotating the head and shoulders, loosening the muscle. Stress and anxiety can make us rigid within this area which can make you feel agitated, especially when standing.
  2. Arm stretches – We often use this part of our muscles during a speech or presentation through our hand gestures and movements. Stretching these muscles can reduce arm fatigue, loosen you up and improve your body language range.
  3. Waist twists – Place your hands on your hips and rotate your waist in a circular motion. This exercise focuses on loosening the abdominal and lower back regions which is essential as it can cause discomfort and pain, further amplifying any anxieties you may experience.

Stay hydrated

Ever felt parched seconds before speaking? And then coming up on stage sounding raspy and scratchy in front of the audience? This happens because the adrenaline from stage fright causes your mouth to feel dried out.

To prevent all that, it’s essential we stay adequately hydrated before a speech. A sip of water will do the trick. However, do drink in moderation so that you won’t need to go to the bathroom constantly.

Try to avoid sugary beverages and caffeine, since it’s a diuretic – meaning you’ll feel thirstier. It will also amplify your anxiety which prevents you from speaking smoothly.

Meditate

Meditation is well-known as a powerful tool to calm the mind. ABC’s Dan Harris, co-anchor of Nightline and Good Morning America weekend and author of the book titled10% Happier , recommends that meditation can help individuals to feel significantly calmer, faster.

Meditation is like a workout for your mind. It gives you the strength and focus to filter out the negativity and distractions with words of encouragement, confidence and strength.

Mindfulness meditation, in particular, is a popular method to calm yourself before going up on the big stage. The practice involves sitting comfortably, focusing on your breathing and then bringing your mind’s attention to the present without drifting into concerns about the past or future – which likely includes floundering on stage.

Here’s a nice example of guided meditation before public speaking:

2. Focus on your goal

One thing people with a fear of public speaking have in common is focusing too much on themselves and the possibility of failure.

Do I look funny? What if I can’t remember what to say? Do I look stupid? Will people listen to me? Does anyone care about what I’m talking about?’

Instead of thinking this way, shift your attention to your one true purpose – contributing something of value to your audience.

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Decide on the progress you’d like your audience to make after your presentation. Notice their movements and expressions to adapt your speech to ensure that they are having a good time to leave the room as better people.

If your own focus isn’t beneficial and what it should be when you’re speaking, then shift it to what does. This is also key to establishing trust during your presentation as the audience can clearly see that you have their interests at heart.[1]

3. Convert negativity to positivity

There are two sides constantly battling inside of us – one is filled with strength and courage while the other is doubt and insecurities. Which one will you feed?

‘What if I mess up this speech? What if I’m not funny enough? What if I forget what to say?’

It’s no wonder why many of us are uncomfortable giving a presentation. All we do is bring ourselves down before we got a chance to prove ourselves. This is also known as a self-fulfilling prophecy – a belief that comes true because we are acting as if it already is. If you think you’re incompetent, then it will eventually become true.

Motivational coaches tout that positive mantras and affirmations tend to boost your confidents for the moments that matter most. Say to yourself: “I’ll ace this speech and I can do it!”

Take advantage of your adrenaline rush to encourage positive outcome rather than thinking of the negative ‘what ifs’.

Here’s a video of Psychologist Kelly McGonigal who encourages her audience to turn stress into something positive as well as provide methods on how to cope with it:

4. Understand your content

Knowing your content at your fingertips helps reduce your anxiety because there is one less thing to worry about. One way to get there is to practice numerous times before your actual speech.

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However, memorizing your script word-for-word is not encouraged. You can end up freezing should you forget something. You’ll also risk sounding unnatural and less approachable.

“No amount of reading or memorizing will make you successful in life. It is the understanding and the application of wise thought that counts.” – Bob Proctor

Many people unconsciously make the mistake of reading from their slides or memorizing their script word-for-word without understanding their content – a definite way to stress themselves out.

Understanding your speech flow and content makes it easier for you to convert ideas and concepts into your own words which you can then clearly explain to others in a conversational manner. Designing your slides to include text prompts is also an easy hack to ensure you get to quickly recall your flow when your mind goes blank.[2]

One way to understand is to memorize the over-arching concepts or ideas in your pitch. It helps you speak more naturally and let your personality shine through. It’s almost like taking your audience on a journey with a few key milestones.

5. Practice makes perfect

Like most people, many of us are not naturally attuned to public speaking. Rarely do individuals walk up to a large audience and present flawlessly without any research and preparation.

In fact, some of the top presenters make it look easy during showtime because they have spent countless hours behind-the-scenes in deep practice. Even great speakers like the late John F. Kennedy would spend months preparing his speech beforehand.

Public speaking, like any other skill, requires practice – whether it be practicing your speech countless of times in front of a mirror or making notes. As the saying goes, practice makes perfect!

6. Be authentic

There’s nothing wrong with feeling stressed before going up to speak in front of an audience.

Many people fear public speaking because they fear others will judge them for showing their true, vulnerable self. However, vulnerability can sometimes help you come across as more authentic and relatable as a speaker.

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Drop the pretence of trying to act or speak like someone else and you’ll find that it’s worth the risk. You become more genuine, flexible and spontaneous, which makes it easier to handle unpredictable situations – whether it’s getting tough questions from the crowd or experiencing an unexpected technical difficulty.

To find out your authentic style of speaking is easy. Just pick a topic or issue you are passionate about and discuss this like you normally would with a close family or friend. It is like having a conversation with someone in a personal one-to-one setting. A great way to do this on stage is to select a random audience member(with a hopefully calming face) and speak to a single person at a time during your speech. You’ll find that it’s easier trying to connect to one person at a time than a whole room.

With that said, being comfortable enough to be yourself in front of others may take a little time and some experience, depending how comfortable you are with being yourself in front of others. But once you embrace it, stage fright will not be as intimidating as you initially thought.

Presenters like Barack Obama are a prime example of a genuine and passionate speaker:

7. Post speech evaluation

Last but not the least, if you’ve done public speaking and have been scarred from a bad experience, try seeing it as a lesson learned to improve yourself as a speaker.

Don’t beat yourself up after a presentation

We are the hardest on ourselves and it’s good to be. But when you finish delivering your speech or presentation, give yourself some recognition and a pat on the back.

You managed to finish whatever you had to do and did not give up. You did not let your fears and insecurities get to you. Take a little more pride in your work and believe in yourself.

Improve your next speech

As mentioned before, practice does make perfect. If you want to improve your public speaking skills, try asking someone to film you during a speech or presentation. Afterwards, watch and observe what you can do to improve yourself next time.

Here are some questions you can ask yourself after every speech:

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  • How did I do?
  • Are there any areas for improvement?
  • Did I sound or look stressed?
  • Did I stumble on my words? Why?
  • Was I saying “um” too often?
  • How was the flow of the speech?

Write everything you observed down and keep practicing and improving. In time, you’ll be able to better manage your fears of public speaking and appear more confident when it counts.

If you want even more tips about public speaking or delivering a great presentation, check out these articles too:

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