7 Ways To Find Your New True Love This Year

7 Ways To Find Your New True Love This Year

Some people have their heart broken so many times, their logical side wants to cut off everyone and never try again. Putting your heart on the line gets harder and harder with each new person. Falling in love, however, inspires passion, creativity, and comfort that you can’t give up on. Don’t let the emotional trauma and financial loss of past breakups ruin your search for love; instead follow these seven easy steps to find new love this year:

1. Forgive and Forget the Past

The first step to moving forward is looking forward. If you’re focusing your energy on the past, you’ll never get anywhere. Instead, focus on the things you can do now that will affect your future. Nothing’s going to change by focusing on arguments you had with your ex. It doesn’t matter who was right or wrong, and, if resolution were possible, you’d still be together. Forgive your ex and move on; not for them, but to enable you to find new love.


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    2 . Love Yourself

    Once you’ve forgiven yourself and let go of the past, it’s time to discover how to be comfortable in your own skin. We all have flaws and that’s o.k.  Maybe you’re not the smartest, strongest, funniest, or most physically appealing person – whatever your shortcomings are, it doesn’t mean you’re never going to find someone who will love you for who you are instead of loathing you for what you’re not.  Stand up tall and be proud of who you are, whomever that may be; that way, when you find new love, you’ll recognize each other.

    3. Decide What You Want

    Now that you’re comfortable with yourself, spend a little time doing you and discovering what it is you truly want. When you were a kid, you didn’t know what a government, economy, money, job, or any of that other stuff was; it was just you and your dreams. As you got older, you were taught how to fit into society. Somewhere in between your dreams and the reality you fit into is what truly makes you happy, and that’s where you’ll find new love that’s worthy of your time, effort, and resources.


    It’s important that you and your partner enjoy and support the same things. This doesn’t mean that sharing a love for hip-hop is an automatic reason to share a bond, but it does mean that if you enjoy an active lifestyle, a couch potato probably isn’t the best match for you. You’ll know when you find new love that’s real when you support each other.

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      4 . Check Your Fears at the Door

      I’ve heard countless people say they don’t open themselves up because they don’t want to get their heart broken again. It’s easy to be cynical about matters of the heart: people are liars, selfish, and only like you because they want something. If you’re afraid of being hurt, you’re going to be hurt. You won’t be comfortable and you won’t act like the real you.


      Confidence is essential to finding true love, so stop being afraid. Break out of your comfort zone and open yourself up to trying new things with someone new. Talk about yourself without fear of judgment; if the person you’re with judges you, they weren’t the right person, and it’s better you find out sooner than later.

      5. Stop Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places

      You can most definitely meet someone at a bar, but it’s a crap shoot; people are amped up, drunk (and likely on other substances) in the club, and there’s a good chance the person isn’t really who they say they are. If you’re doing you, you’re already in the ideal places to meet someone who shares similar interests. Instead of sitting around at home all day, go out and enjoy life. You’ll bump into people doing the same thing and can form an immediate connection.


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        6. Keep Calm, and Go Online

        Don’t limit your search for love.  Aside from going out and talking to people, you can also search online. Dating sites and social media sites are filled with people looking for a connection. Paid dating sites often have a better chance of success as the payment filters out many people who aren’t serious about dating, but remember that internet people are still people like everyone else, so treat them as such, and use your instincts.

        Dating sites aren’t the only places to find love online; people have connected and hooked up on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, in video games, on YouTube, and all over the internet. Human connection is something we all need, so anywhere there are people, there’s always someone seeking a connection.

        7. Patience Is a Virtue

        Overnight success is a myth, even in love. Although you can successfully make a connection (and push it to the point of fornication) within a night, don’t expect the first person you meet to be “the one.” You may get lucky on your first swing, but don’t give up. Just because you’re looking for true love doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy the journey; dating is supposed to be fun, not a chore.

        True love can be found anywhere; as long as you’re out there searching, you’re doing the right thing. Let go of your inhibitions and put yourself out there. Smile, laugh, and enjoy life with the people around you – sooner or later, you’re going to find someone who you truly love and who truly loves you. Remember, there’s someone out there for everyone and you won’t find them if you don’t try. If you’re still unsure, hit me up on Twitter – I’m more than happy to lend a hand in matters of the heart!

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        60 Things To Be Thankful For In Life

        60 Things To Be Thankful For In Life

        Sometimes it’s easier to focus on what we don’t have, rather than what we do have. It’s important to take time out and remember all of the things to be thankful for that many of us take for granted.

          Here you’ll find 60 very solid things to be thankful for in your everyday life. These are great reminders for you to treasure everything you have.

          1. Good Health

          Even if you’re health isn’t great, it could be worse and you likely still have some working parts to be thankful for.

          2. Money in the Bank

          Having just a few coins makes you richer than most people on Earth.

          3. Good Friends

          Often, it’s the quality of friendships, not the quantity.

          4. Freedom of Religion

          Being able to worship whomever and however you want is something many people don’t ever experience.

          5. Your Parents

          Even if they’re dysfunctional, they gave you life.

          6. Weekends

          There’s something magical about weekends.

          7.Having a Partner

          Being in a romantic relationship can teach you so much about the world and yourself.

          8. Pets

          Pets offer one of the best examples of unconditional love.

          9. Learning from Mistakes

          If we never made mistakes, we wouldn’t learn much so it is one of those things we should be thankful for.

          10. Opportunity to Get an Education

          The opportunity to attend school is something many people don’t have.


          11. Having a Home

          Whether you live in an apartment, a mansion, or a tent, having a place to call home is something to be thankful for.

          12. An Ability to Read

          If you’re reading this right now, you have a lot to be thankful for.

          13. Breathing Fresh Air

          Being able to step outside to breathe in fresh air is a good reminder how many little things we should be thankful for.

          14. A Bed to Sleep

          A bed is one of those things that’s easy to take for granted, until you don’t have one.

          15. Laughter

          Without laughter, the world would be a sad place.

          16. Safety and Security

          Being able to wake up without immense fear frees us up to really live life.

          17. Cars

          Without cars, it would take a lot longer to get our activities done.

          18. Sunshine

          The sun’s warmth can brighten any day.

          19. Time

          Although we often don’t think there’s enough of it, time is something we shouldn’t take for granted.

          20. Clean Water

          Many people on earth lack access to clean water.

          21. Cell Phones

          Cell phones make talking to loved ones easy.

          22. Love

          The world sure would be a different place if we lacked the ability to love.

          23. Books

          Books provide an opportunity to enter another world all from the comfort of your own home.


          24. Kindness of Strangers

          Never take the kindness of a stranger for granted.

          25. Campfires

          The simplicity of a campfire creates lifelong memories.

          26. Pain

          Without pain, it would be difficulty to appreciate life’s joys.

          27. Art

          The world would be less beautiful if art didn’t exist.

          28. Holidays

          Any reason to celebrate is something we should be thankful for.

          29. Freedom of Speech

          Being able to express your thoughts and feelings freely should never be taken for granted.

          30. Rainbows

          The beauty of a rainbow is unmatched.

          31. Tears

          Sometimes when there are no words to say, tears express how we feel for us.

          32. Waking up Today

          Simply waking up today means you have things to be thankful for.

          33. Indoor Plumbing

          Indoor plumbing not only provides convenience, it spares us from disease.

          34. Wisdom that Comes with Age

          Thankfully, we grow smarter over time.

          35. Mountains

          Mountains provide us with beauty and recreation.

          36. Eyesight

          Being able to see allows us to view the world’s beauty.


          37. Grocery Stores

          Grocery stores mean we don’t have to spend all of our time getting our own food.

          38. Sunsets

          Sunsets are a reminder that we should enjoy the simple things in life.

          39. Entertainment

          Entertainment gives us a way to relax and enjoy life.

          40. Your Mind

          Being able to think, remember, and solve problems sure makes life easier.

          41. Employment

          Even if you don’t like your job, being employed means someone thought you were special enough to hire.

          42. Diversity

          The world would be a boring place without diversity.

          43. Moon and Stars

          The moon and stars encourage us to dream.

          44. Electricity

          Electricity makes most of our chores efficient.

          45. Air Conditioning

          Staying cool on a hot day is something people wouldn’t have dreamed about in past centuries.

          46. Hearing

          Being able to hear your loved one’s voice is something that not everyone gets to do.

          47. Children

          Watching children laugh, grow, and dream can keep things in perspective.

          48. Ability to Learn

          The ability to learn new things means we have endless potential.

          49. People Willing to Teach

          Whether it’s your grandmother teaching you to knit or your plumber showing you how to prevent future problems, be grateful that others are willing to use their time and talents to teach you something new.


          50. Oceans

          The sea creatures in the ocean almost seem too mystical to be real.

          51. Modern Medicine

          Without advances in modern medicine, many of us wouldn’t be alive.

          52. Music

          Music brings out new emotions.

          53. Entrepreneurs

          Some of life’s best inventions resulted from an entrepreneur who was willing to take a risk.

          54. Warm Clothing

          On a cold day, there’s nothing more important than warm clothing.

          55. Freedom to Vote

          Being able to have a say in the laws should never be taken for granted.

          56. An Internet Connection

          It’s hard to believe how easy it is to take the internet for granted, seeing how none of us had just a couple of decades ago.

          57. Challenges

          Without challenges in life, we wouldn’t be the people we are now.

          58. Hiking Trails

          Hiking trails give us the chance to enjoy mother’s nature beauty.

          59. Vaccines

          Many of us wouldn’t be alive without today’s vaccinations.

          60. Armed Forces

          Our lives would likely be very different if we didn’t have protection from the armed forces.

          Realizing all the things you should be thankful for is the first step, practicing gratitude is what you should start doing:

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