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7 Ways To Find Your New True Love This Year

7 Ways To Find Your New True Love This Year

Some people have their heart broken so many times, their logical side wants to cut off everyone and never try again. Putting your heart on the line gets harder and harder with each new person. Falling in love, however, inspires passion, creativity, and comfort that you can’t give up on. Don’t let the emotional trauma and financial loss of past breakups ruin your search for love; instead follow these seven easy steps to find new love this year:

1. Forgive and Forget the Past

The first step to moving forward is looking forward. If you’re focusing your energy on the past, you’ll never get anywhere. Instead, focus on the things you can do now that will affect your future. Nothing’s going to change by focusing on arguments you had with your ex. It doesn’t matter who was right or wrong, and, if resolution were possible, you’d still be together. Forgive your ex and move on; not for them, but to enable you to find new love.

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    2 . Love Yourself

    Once you’ve forgiven yourself and let go of the past, it’s time to discover how to be comfortable in your own skin. We all have flaws and that’s o.k.  Maybe you’re not the smartest, strongest, funniest, or most physically appealing person – whatever your shortcomings are, it doesn’t mean you’re never going to find someone who will love you for who you are instead of loathing you for what you’re not.  Stand up tall and be proud of who you are, whomever that may be; that way, when you find new love, you’ll recognize each other.

    3. Decide What You Want

    Now that you’re comfortable with yourself, spend a little time doing you and discovering what it is you truly want. When you were a kid, you didn’t know what a government, economy, money, job, or any of that other stuff was; it was just you and your dreams. As you got older, you were taught how to fit into society. Somewhere in between your dreams and the reality you fit into is what truly makes you happy, and that’s where you’ll find new love that’s worthy of your time, effort, and resources.

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    It’s important that you and your partner enjoy and support the same things. This doesn’t mean that sharing a love for hip-hop is an automatic reason to share a bond, but it does mean that if you enjoy an active lifestyle, a couch potato probably isn’t the best match for you. You’ll know when you find new love that’s real when you support each other.

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      4 . Check Your Fears at the Door

      I’ve heard countless people say they don’t open themselves up because they don’t want to get their heart broken again. It’s easy to be cynical about matters of the heart: people are liars, selfish, and only like you because they want something. If you’re afraid of being hurt, you’re going to be hurt. You won’t be comfortable and you won’t act like the real you.

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      Confidence is essential to finding true love, so stop being afraid. Break out of your comfort zone and open yourself up to trying new things with someone new. Talk about yourself without fear of judgment; if the person you’re with judges you, they weren’t the right person, and it’s better you find out sooner than later.

      5. Stop Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places

      You can most definitely meet someone at a bar, but it’s a crap shoot; people are amped up, drunk (and likely on other substances) in the club, and there’s a good chance the person isn’t really who they say they are. If you’re doing you, you’re already in the ideal places to meet someone who shares similar interests. Instead of sitting around at home all day, go out and enjoy life. You’ll bump into people doing the same thing and can form an immediate connection.

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        6. Keep Calm, and Go Online

        Don’t limit your search for love.  Aside from going out and talking to people, you can also search online. Dating sites and social media sites are filled with people looking for a connection. Paid dating sites often have a better chance of success as the payment filters out many people who aren’t serious about dating, but remember that internet people are still people like everyone else, so treat them as such, and use your instincts.

        Dating sites aren’t the only places to find love online; people have connected and hooked up on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, in video games, on YouTube, and all over the internet. Human connection is something we all need, so anywhere there are people, there’s always someone seeking a connection.

        7. Patience Is a Virtue

        Overnight success is a myth, even in love. Although you can successfully make a connection (and push it to the point of fornication) within a night, don’t expect the first person you meet to be “the one.” You may get lucky on your first swing, but don’t give up. Just because you’re looking for true love doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy the journey; dating is supposed to be fun, not a chore.

        True love can be found anywhere; as long as you’re out there searching, you’re doing the right thing. Let go of your inhibitions and put yourself out there. Smile, laugh, and enjoy life with the people around you – sooner or later, you’re going to find someone who you truly love and who truly loves you. Remember, there’s someone out there for everyone and you won’t find them if you don’t try. If you’re still unsure, hit me up on Twitter – I’m more than happy to lend a hand in matters of the heart!

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        Last Updated on September 17, 2019

        10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

        10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

        Positive thinking can lead to a lot of positive change in your life. Developing an optimistic outlook can be good for both your physical and mental health.

        But sometimes, certain situations arise in life that makes it hard to keep a positive outlook. Take steps to make positive thinking become more like your second nature and you’ll reap the biggest benefits.

        Here are 10 ways to make thinking positive thoughts easy:

        1. Spend Time with Positive People

        If you surround yourself with constant complainers, their negativity is likely to rub off on you.

        Spend time with positive friends and family members to increase the likelihood that their positive thinking habits will become yours too. It’s hard to be negative when everyone around you is so positive.

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        2. Take Responsibility for Your Behavior

        When you encounter problems and difficulties in life, don’t play the role of the victim. Acknowledge your role in the situation and take responsibility for your behavior.

        Accepting responsibility can help you learn from mistakes and prevent you from blaming others unfairly.

        3. Contribute to the Community

        One of the best ways to feel good about what you have, is to focus on what you have to give.

        Volunteer in some manner and give back to the community. Helping others can give you a new outlook on the world and can assist you with positive thinking.

        4. Read Positive and Inspirational Materials

        Spend time each day reading something that encourages positive thinking. Read the Bible, spiritual material, or inspirational quotes to help you focus on what’s important to you in life. It can be a great way to start and end your day.

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        5. Recognize and Replace Negative Thoughts

        You won’t be successful at positive thinking if you’re still plagued by frequent negative thoughts. Learn to recognize and replace thoughts that are overly negative. Often, thoughts that include words like “always” and “never” signal that they aren’t true.

        If you find yourself thinking something such as, “I always mess everything up,” replace it with something more realistic such as, “Sometimes I make mistakes but I learn from them.”

        There’s no need to make your thoughts unrealistically positive, but instead, make them more realistic.

        6. Establish and Work Toward Goals

        It’s easier to be positive about problems and setbacks when you have goals that you’re working toward. Goals will give you motivation to overcome those obstacles when you encounter problems along the way. Without clear goals, it’s harder to make decisions and gauge your progress.

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        Learn to set SMART goals to help you achieve more.

        7. Consider the Consequences of Negativity

        Spend some time thinking about the consequences of negative thinking. Often, it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

        For example, a person who thinks, “I probably won’t get this job interview,” may put less effort into the interview. As a result, he may decrease his chances of getting the job.

        Create a list of all the ways negative thinking impacts your life. It likely influences your behavior, your relationships, and your feelings. Then, create a list of the ways in which positive thinking could be beneficial.

        8. Offer Compliments to Others

        Look for reasons to compliment others. Be genuine in your praise and compliments, but offer it frequently. This will help you look for the good in other people.

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        9. Create a Daily Gratitude List

        If you start keeping a daily gratitude list, you’ll start noticing exactly how much you have to be thankful for. This can help you focus on the positive in your life instead of thinking about all the bad things that have happened in the day.

        Getting in the habit of showing an attitude of gratitude makes positive thinking more of a habit. Here’re 40 Simple Ways To Practice Gratitude.

        10. Practice Self-Care

        Take good care of yourself and you’ll be more equipped to think positively.

        Get plenty of rest and exercise and practice managing your stress well. Taking care of your physical and mental health will provide you with more energy to focus on positive thinking.

        Learn about these 30 Self-Care Habits for a Strong and Healthy Mind, Body and Spirit.

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