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7 Ways To Feel Miserable and Hate Yourself

7 Ways To Feel Miserable and Hate Yourself

Building a fulfilling life of bliss and satisfaction is incredibly difficult and requires a lot of self-reflection, soul-searching, and hard work. Going through the motions without a care in the world, however, is quite simple. Below are 7 easy ways to feel miserable. Please read this as an exercise in reverse psychology (or the worst self-help article ever written).

1. Stress out about everything.

If you want to feel miserable, I encourage you to begin by stressing out everything that is beyond your control.

Long line at the grocery store? Argh!
Stuck in a traffic jam on the way to work? Buh!
Step in dog poop? Crap! (hee hee, see what I did there?)
Cruddy cell-phone signal and unable to check your Facebook for a whole 5 minutes? Drats!

Agonizing about minor inconveniences always makes you feel better, right?

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“People won’t have time for you if you are always angry or complaining.” – Stephen Hawking

2. Pass the buck.

You would LOVE to pursue a new hobby or interest, but you’re just too stressed out.
You can’t lose weight, because your metabolism is too slow (or you have “bad genes”).
You can’t find the time to exercise, because you’re WAY too busy (playing Candy Crush).

The more excuses you make (and the more public you make them), the better you will feel about yourself. Your friends would never think you are a self-loathing eternal complainer who can’t accept responsibility for anything.

“He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else.” – Benjamin Franklin

3. Blindly follow conventional wisdom.

If everyone else is doing it, obviously it must be the only way to do things, so you might as well follow the other sheep off a cliff. Besides, being different is way too difficult and if you try something original or innovative that is more true to your authentic self, people might look at you funny.

“Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect.” – Mark Twain

4. Hang out with negative people.

Hey, they are charismatic and funny! Never mind the fact that they complain about everything, make fun of people, and are toxic influences on your life. Their life is so difficult that they have every right to feel the way they do. What would they do without you? And besides, finding more positive people to hang out with would be too inconvenient.

“You cannot expect to live a positive life if you hang with negative people.” – Joel Osteen

5. Live in the past.

Never mind the fact that every new day is another opportunity to improve your situation in life. If you want to feel miserable, your best bet is to obsess with past mistakes even though you can’t do anything about it now. Dropping your baggage would allow you to move on with your life, but that would require developing the inner-strength you need to forgive yourself, and who has the time or energy for that?

“Never look back unless you are planning to go that way.” – Henry David Thoreau

6. Never confront problems in your relationships.

Even though your romantic partner keeps asking you what’s wrong, it’s much easier to dodge the issue. What could possibly go wrong? It’s not like you could risk turning an uncomfortable (but brief) argument into a trust-damaging (and long-lasting) squabble or anything.

“I think confrontation is healthy, because it clears the air very quickly.” – Bill Parcells

7. Throw in the towel.

You worked out for a whole two weeks and didn’t lose a single pound. Of course, you didn’t even bother including healthier natural foods in your meal plan in place of all that processed junk you’re eating, but who cares about details? Clearly you have put a lot of thought and dedication into this, so this exercise thing must not be for you. Oh, well. Might as well go home and eat a pint of Ben & Jerry’s, because that definitely won’t make you feel miserable about yourself.

“Never give up. You only get one life. Go for it!” – Richard E. Grant

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Daniel is a writer who focuses on blogging about happiness and motivation at Lifehack.

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Last Updated on July 18, 2019

What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

Some people just seem to float through life with a relentless sense of happiness – through the toughest of times, they’re unfazed and aloof, stopping to smell the roses and drinking out of a glass half full.

They may not have much to be happy about, but the simplicity behind that fact itself may make them happy.

It’s all a matter of perspective, conscious effort and self-awareness. Listed below are a number of reasons why some people are always happy.

1. They Manage Their Expectations

They’re not crushed when they don’t get what they want – or misled into expecting to get the most out of every situation. They approach every situation pragmatically, hoping for the best but being prepared for the worst.

2. They Don’t Set Unrealistic Standards

Similar to the last point, they don’t live their lives in a constant pursuit towards impossible visions of perfection, only to always find themselves falling short of what they want.

3. They Don’t Take Anything for Granted

Happiness rests with feeling fulfilled – those who fail to stop and appreciate what they have every now and again will never experience true fulfillment.

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4. They’re Not Materialistic

There are arguing viewpoints on whether or not money can really buy happiness; if it can, then we know from experience that we can never be satisfied because there will always be something newer or better that we want. Who has ever had enough money?

5. They Don’t Dwell

They don’t sweat the small things or waste time worrying about things that don’t really matter at the end of the day. They don’t let negative thoughts latch onto them and drain them or distract them. Life’s too short to worry.

6. They Care About Themselves First

They’re independent, care for themselves and understand that they must put their needs first in order to accommodate the needs of others.

They indulge, aim to get what they want, make time for themselves and are extremely self-reliant.

7. They Enjoy the Little Things

They stop to smell the roses. They’re accustomed to find serenity when it’s available, to welcome entertainment or a stimulating discussion with a stranger when it crosses their path. They don’t overlook the small things in life that can be just as important.

8. They Can Adapt

They’re not afraid of change and they work to make the most out of new circumstances, good or bad. They thrive under pressure, are not overwhelmed easily and always embrace a change of pace.

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9. They Experiment

They try new things, experience new flavors and never shy away from something they have yet to experience. They never order twice from the same menu.

10. They Take Their Time

They don’t unnecessarily rush through life. They work on their own schedule to the extent that they can and maneuver through life at their own relaxing pace.

11. They Employ Different Perspectives

They’re not stuck in one perspective; a loss can result in a new opportunity, hitting rock bottom can mean that there’s no where to go but up.

12. They Seek to Learn

Their constant pursuit of knowledge keeps them inspired and interested in life. They cherish information and are on a life-long quest to learn as much as they can.

13. They Always Have a Plan

They don’t find themselves drifting without purpose. When something doesn’t go as planned, they have a plan for every letter in the alphabet to fall back on.

14. They Give Respect to Get It

They are respectful and, in turn, are seen as respectable; the respect they exude earns them the respect they deserve.

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15. They Consider Every Opportunity

They always have their eyes open for a new road, a new avenue worth exploring. They know how to recognize opportune moments and pounce on them to make the most of every situation. Success is inevitable for them.

16. They Always Seek to Improve

Perpetual self-improvement is the key towards their ongoing thirst for success. Whatever it is they do, they take pride in getting better and better, from social interactions to mundane tasks. Their pursuit at being the best eventually materializes.

17. They Don’t Take Life Too Seriously

They’re not ones to get offended easily over-analyze or complicate matters. They laugh at their own faults and misfortunes.

18. They Live in the Moment

They don’t live for tomorrow or dwell on what may have happened yesterday. Every day is a new opportunity, a new chapter. They live in the now, and in doing so, get the most out of every moment.

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19. They Say Yes

Much more often than they say no. They don’t have to be badgered to go out, don’t shy away from new opportunities or anything that may seem inconvenient.

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20. They’re Self-Aware

Most important, they’re wholly aware of themselves. They self-reflect and are conscious of their states of mind. If somethings bothering them, they fix it.

We’re all susceptible to feeling down every now and again, but we are all equipped with the necessary solutions that just have to be discovered.

Lack of confidence, inability to feel fulfilled, and susceptibility to stress are all matters that can be controlled through the way we handle our lives and perceive our circumstances.

Learn about How Self-Reflection Gives You a Happier and More Successful Life.

Final Thoughts

The main philosophy employed by the happiest includes the idea that life’s simply too short: life’s too short to let things get you down, to take things for granted, to pursue absolute and unrealistic perfection.

For some, employing these characteristics is a second nature – they do it without knowing. For others, a conscious effort must be put forth every now and again. Self-Awareness is key.

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