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7 Ways To Feel Miserable and Hate Yourself

7 Ways To Feel Miserable and Hate Yourself

Building a fulfilling life of bliss and satisfaction is incredibly difficult and requires a lot of self-reflection, soul-searching, and hard work. Going through the motions without a care in the world, however, is quite simple. Below are 7 easy ways to feel miserable. Please read this as an exercise in reverse psychology (or the worst self-help article ever written).

1. Stress out about everything.

If you want to feel miserable, I encourage you to begin by stressing out everything that is beyond your control.

Long line at the grocery store? Argh!
Stuck in a traffic jam on the way to work? Buh!
Step in dog poop? Crap! (hee hee, see what I did there?)
Cruddy cell-phone signal and unable to check your Facebook for a whole 5 minutes? Drats!

Agonizing about minor inconveniences always makes you feel better, right?

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“People won’t have time for you if you are always angry or complaining.” – Stephen Hawking

2. Pass the buck.

You would LOVE to pursue a new hobby or interest, but you’re just too stressed out.
You can’t lose weight, because your metabolism is too slow (or you have “bad genes”).
You can’t find the time to exercise, because you’re WAY too busy (playing Candy Crush).

The more excuses you make (and the more public you make them), the better you will feel about yourself. Your friends would never think you are a self-loathing eternal complainer who can’t accept responsibility for anything.

“He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else.” – Benjamin Franklin

3. Blindly follow conventional wisdom.

If everyone else is doing it, obviously it must be the only way to do things, so you might as well follow the other sheep off a cliff. Besides, being different is way too difficult and if you try something original or innovative that is more true to your authentic self, people might look at you funny.

“Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect.” – Mark Twain

4. Hang out with negative people.

Hey, they are charismatic and funny! Never mind the fact that they complain about everything, make fun of people, and are toxic influences on your life. Their life is so difficult that they have every right to feel the way they do. What would they do without you? And besides, finding more positive people to hang out with would be too inconvenient.

“You cannot expect to live a positive life if you hang with negative people.” – Joel Osteen

5. Live in the past.

Never mind the fact that every new day is another opportunity to improve your situation in life. If you want to feel miserable, your best bet is to obsess with past mistakes even though you can’t do anything about it now. Dropping your baggage would allow you to move on with your life, but that would require developing the inner-strength you need to forgive yourself, and who has the time or energy for that?

“Never look back unless you are planning to go that way.” – Henry David Thoreau

6. Never confront problems in your relationships.

Even though your romantic partner keeps asking you what’s wrong, it’s much easier to dodge the issue. What could possibly go wrong? It’s not like you could risk turning an uncomfortable (but brief) argument into a trust-damaging (and long-lasting) squabble or anything.

“I think confrontation is healthy, because it clears the air very quickly.” – Bill Parcells

7. Throw in the towel.

You worked out for a whole two weeks and didn’t lose a single pound. Of course, you didn’t even bother including healthier natural foods in your meal plan in place of all that processed junk you’re eating, but who cares about details? Clearly you have put a lot of thought and dedication into this, so this exercise thing must not be for you. Oh, well. Might as well go home and eat a pint of Ben & Jerry’s, because that definitely won’t make you feel miserable about yourself.

“Never give up. You only get one life. Go for it!” – Richard E. Grant

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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