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7 Ways to Create Your Own Luck

7 Ways to Create Your Own Luck

I’ve been told I’m lucky before because of what I do for a living, people I’ve met, places I’ve been, and events I’ve attended. While there’s definitely an element of luck to it, the idea that successful people sit around waiting for luck to happen is a complete fallacy. Luck is something you create and take advantage of. It doesn’t call while you’re on your couch watching TV – luck finds you at work. Here’s how to create your own luck.

1. Think Positive

Life is about perspective. Good and bad things happen to everyone. People who always focus on the bad see themselves as realists, but they’re really just cynical. When you’re negative, you’re less likely to try, and when you do try, you don’t give it your best shot.

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2. Use Placebos

Kids are always after me lucky charms. Those green clovers, purple horseshoes, and severed rabbit limbs (that’s a marshmallow right?) may or may not work, but it doesn’t matter so long as you believe they do. Placebos are a powerful thing, so rub Buddha’s belly, imbibe your Jesus juice, and thank your lucky stars for every gift you receive.

3. Seek New Experiences

The definition of insanity is to continue doing the same thing the same way over and over expecting a different result. If you lack luck, put yourself in new positions. It’s easy to look at someone like Jennifer Lawrence, who was “discovered” just walking through Times Square, and wonder why that never happens to you.

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It’s not like everything just fell into her lap; J-Law jumped on an opportunity you may have ignored because you were too focused on your routine. Lawrence got a lucky break, but it was only lucky because she took it. Take a chance – you never know where it may lead.

4. Show Up

The only lucky thing that’ll likely happen to you at home is bad luck, like a bullet, car, or plane hitting your house. Every single lottery winner had a ticket, if you catch my drift. You miss out on every opportunity you don’t take, so get dressed, and show up.

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5. Stick Out

There’s an old Japanese proverb – the nail that sticks out gets hammered. They mean it as a way to keep people in line, but staying in line with everyone else means you’re just another drop in a bucket. You can still get lucky this way, but you’re competing with a much larger pool. Finding a way to stick out makes you the highlighted line on a page; people will be more likely to notice you, and you’ll find your luck improving.

6. Embrace Failure

Failure can easily deter you if you’re not careful. Things may not work out the way you want, but a flower grows its brightest when covered in piles of fertilizer.

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Last month, I hit a string of bad luck – I found myself broke, homeless, and stranded for the majority of the month. I even spent a night sleeping under a tree in a ditch, with all my stuff in a shopping cart. It sucked, but I survived. Two weeks later, I was a VIP with an all-access pass to the Cannabis Cup. That’s the way luck goes.

7. Get on Your Grind

The more you put yourself out there and try, the luckier you’ll be. If you want to be a musician, keep playing your instrument, finding stages, and getting your name out there. Maybe you didn’t get discovered today, but you may tomorrow.

Even if you never get discovered, after you put in 10,000 hours, you’ll be an expert. At that point you won’t need to be discovered because you’ll have the experience, knowledge, and connections necessary to succeed on your own. Then, when asked what you attribute your success to, you can pick whatever lucky moments you choose.

Featured photo credit: Hans via pixabay.com

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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