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7 Ways to Create Your Own Luck

7 Ways to Create Your Own Luck

I’ve been told I’m lucky before because of what I do for a living, people I’ve met, places I’ve been, and events I’ve attended. While there’s definitely an element of luck to it, the idea that successful people sit around waiting for luck to happen is a complete fallacy. Luck is something you create and take advantage of. It doesn’t call while you’re on your couch watching TV – luck finds you at work. Here’s how to create your own luck.

1. Think Positive

Life is about perspective. Good and bad things happen to everyone. People who always focus on the bad see themselves as realists, but they’re really just cynical. When you’re negative, you’re less likely to try, and when you do try, you don’t give it your best shot.

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2. Use Placebos

Kids are always after me lucky charms. Those green clovers, purple horseshoes, and severed rabbit limbs (that’s a marshmallow right?) may or may not work, but it doesn’t matter so long as you believe they do. Placebos are a powerful thing, so rub Buddha’s belly, imbibe your Jesus juice, and thank your lucky stars for every gift you receive.

3. Seek New Experiences

The definition of insanity is to continue doing the same thing the same way over and over expecting a different result. If you lack luck, put yourself in new positions. It’s easy to look at someone like Jennifer Lawrence, who was “discovered” just walking through Times Square, and wonder why that never happens to you.

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It’s not like everything just fell into her lap; J-Law jumped on an opportunity you may have ignored because you were too focused on your routine. Lawrence got a lucky break, but it was only lucky because she took it. Take a chance – you never know where it may lead.

4. Show Up

The only lucky thing that’ll likely happen to you at home is bad luck, like a bullet, car, or plane hitting your house. Every single lottery winner had a ticket, if you catch my drift. You miss out on every opportunity you don’t take, so get dressed, and show up.

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5. Stick Out

There’s an old Japanese proverb – the nail that sticks out gets hammered. They mean it as a way to keep people in line, but staying in line with everyone else means you’re just another drop in a bucket. You can still get lucky this way, but you’re competing with a much larger pool. Finding a way to stick out makes you the highlighted line on a page; people will be more likely to notice you, and you’ll find your luck improving.

6. Embrace Failure

Failure can easily deter you if you’re not careful. Things may not work out the way you want, but a flower grows its brightest when covered in piles of fertilizer.

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Last month, I hit a string of bad luck – I found myself broke, homeless, and stranded for the majority of the month. I even spent a night sleeping under a tree in a ditch, with all my stuff in a shopping cart. It sucked, but I survived. Two weeks later, I was a VIP with an all-access pass to the Cannabis Cup. That’s the way luck goes.

7. Get on Your Grind

The more you put yourself out there and try, the luckier you’ll be. If you want to be a musician, keep playing your instrument, finding stages, and getting your name out there. Maybe you didn’t get discovered today, but you may tomorrow.

Even if you never get discovered, after you put in 10,000 hours, you’ll be an expert. At that point you won’t need to be discovered because you’ll have the experience, knowledge, and connections necessary to succeed on your own. Then, when asked what you attribute your success to, you can pick whatever lucky moments you choose.

Featured photo credit: Hans via pixabay.com

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Last Updated on September 17, 2018

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.

Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.

When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).

Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:

1. You’re depressed about your home life.

No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.

However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.

If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

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When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.

You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.

2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.

If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.

If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.

3. You can’t stop snooping.

Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.

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I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.

Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.

So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.

It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.

If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.

4. You’re afraid of commitment.

If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.

Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.

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No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.

If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.

Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.

5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.

If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.

Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.

Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.

Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.

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If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?

6. You resent, rather than love your partner.

When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.

When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.

If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.

7. You chase past feelings.

It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.

You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.

When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.

Final thoughts

If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.

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