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7 Things Modern Women Look for in a Man

7 Things Modern Women Look for in a Man

Today’s woman isn’t interested in the 1950’s notion of being barefoot and pregnant. Instead, women all over the world are taking charge of their lives by earning college degrees and pioneering entrepreneurship. Surely, if a guy is interested in a woman of ‘the now’, he must be prepared to play, all in the name of love. In this article, you’ll find 7 head-turning things that modern women look for in a man.

1. Similar Values.

Opposites still do attract in this day and age; kudos to the couples who benefit from this old adage. For everyone else: taking a risk on a polar opposite isn’t always worth the thrill. When having found yourself interested in modern woman, it’s beneficial to do the minimal research to see if she’ll even be intrigued by your hello. If you see her in passing every day, pay attention to the obvious things about her – if she drinks coffee, carries a briefcase, has children – and strike a conversation about what those things mean to you, too.

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2. A Visionary.

In the 1950’s, it was the norm to find a “good job”, work it for 50 years and retire comfortably. Unfortunately (and in some cases, thankfully), we don’t have that same “luxury”. While it’s expected that you should have a legal and viable source of income, modern women are interested in your next move. Are you crazy enough to turn your passion into a business or nonprofit organization? If so, how do you expect to do this within the next 5 to 10 years? Showing your woman that you’re a no-holds-barred go-getter is exciting and is bound to gain her interest, respect and loyalty.

3. A Conversationalist.

Talking online is the convenient way of meeting prospects and making love connections. These days, everyone has at least one social networking profile that they use to post pictures and interesting things about themselves occasionally. Before using this as your only method of communication, it’s a great idea to assess how well you can hold a real conversation, in person. A modern woman can pick up on a fake a mile away, so in between chats and IM, brush up on your conversation strategies. Be knowledgeable in the things that she’s interested in, along with world events to show off your cultured side.

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4. Boss in his own right.

Taken literally, a boss makes his own rules in the boardroom. While this is admirable, a boss must also be able to govern his own life and handle tough situations outside of the boardroom. Being able to command attention without even trying to is breath-taking and shows a certain alpha-ness, if you will. Modern women find this attractive, leading them to believe that you’ll be a great partner along the way.

5. Ability to Teach.

Your modern woman may be well-educated and experienced. While these are awesome qualities to have, a woman loves it when a man can teach her something worth learning. This doesn’t mean that you have to be a professor or expert in a particular area. No. This is the time when you put your fantastic listening skills to use to “listen for things she doesn’t mean for you to hear” and casually appeal to the student in her. Let’s say she mentions that she’s always wanted to go fishing one night. Log that in your memory and give her a surprise fishing date when she least expects it.

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6. Spirituality.

At the end of the day, do you show gratitude for your life? Are you genuinely happy to be in the place you’re in with the people around you? Expressing this gratitude to your higher power is intriguing to women looking to spend lifelong time with you. This shows that you’re in tune with a sense of self and that you may also have a kind heart. (This is also a great quality to teach children, if you plan to have them.)

7. Balancing Act.

It’s such a turn-on to be with an affluent man. Most women dream of a man who has the ability to take care of her. However, not knowing how to balance such power with home life is the ultimate no-no. Instead of using money as your focus when meeting women, tell her how easy it is for you to give yourself a monthly allowance, manage quality time, and still make time for the important people and things in your life. This sounds like she has a place to fit in your life and that you’ll be supportive to her needs and wants, as opposed to presenting the old cliché of “I have money”. It also shows you have self-discipline, respect for her place, and a future that is secured, all of which are admirable.

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The most important thing that you can be with any woman is supportive. Regardless of her titles and accolades, at the end of the day, a lady wants to come home to let her hair down and be loved on.

Featured photo credit: WHAT MEN LOOK AT FIRST? WRONG ANSWER! via cosmoladies.com

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Last Updated on December 3, 2019

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

There are so many lessons I wish I had learned while I was young enough to appreciate and apply them. The thing with wisdom, and often with life lessons in general, is that they’re learned in retrospect, long after we needed them. The good news is that other people can benefit from our experiences and the lessons we’ve learned.

Here’re 10 important life lessons you should learn early on:

1. Money Will Never Solve Your Real Problems

Money is a tool; a commodity that buys you necessities and some nice “wants,” but it is not the panacea to your problems.

There are a great many people who are living on very little, yet have wonderfully full and happy lives… and there are sadly a great many people are living on quite a lot, yet have terribly miserable lives.

Money can buy a nice home, a great car, fabulous shoes, even a bit of security and some creature comforts, but it cannot fix a broken relationship, or cure loneliness, and the “happiness” it brings is only fleeting and not the kind that really and truly matters. Happiness is not for sale. If you’re expecting the “stuff” you can buy to “make it better,” you will never be happy.

2. Pace Yourself

Often when we’re young, just beginning our adult journey we feel as though we have to do everything at once. We need to decide everything, plan out our lives, experience everything, get to the top, find true love, figure out our life’s purpose, and do it all at the same time.

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Slow down—don’t rush into things. Let your life unfold. Wait a bit to see where it takes you, and take time to weigh your options. Enjoy every bite of food, take time to look around you, let the other person finish their side of the conversation. Allow yourself time to think, to mull a bit.

Taking action is critical. Working towards your goals and making plans for the future is commendable and often very useful, but rushing full-speed ahead towards anything is a one-way ticket to burnout and a good way to miss your life as it passes you by.

3. You Can’t Please Everyone

“I don’t know the secret to success, but the secret to failure is trying to please everyone” – Bill Cosby.

You don’t need everyone to agree with you or even like you. It’s human nature to want to belong, to be liked, respected and valued, but not at the expense of your integrity and happiness. Other people cannot give you the validation you seek. That has to come from inside.

Speak up, stick to your guns, assert yourself when you need to, demand respect, stay true to your values.

4. Your Health Is Your Most Valuable Asset

Health is an invaluable treasure—always appreciate, nurture, and protect it. Good health is often wasted on the young before they have a chance to appreciate it for what it’s worth.

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We tend to take our good health for granted, because it’s just there. We don’t have to worry about it, so we don’t really pay attention to it… until we have to.

Heart disease, bone density, stroke, many cancers—the list of many largely preventable diseases is long, so take care of your health now, or you’ll regret it later on.

5. You Don’t Always Get What You Want

“Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans.” – John Lennon

No matter how carefully you plan and how hard you work, sometimes things just don’t work out the way you want them to… and that’s okay.

We have all of these expectations; predetermined visions of what our “ideal” life will look like, but all too often, that’s not the reality of the life we end up with. Sometimes our dreams fail and sometimes we just change our minds mid-course. Sometimes we have to flop to find the right course and sometimes we just have to try a few things before we find the right direction.

6. It’s Not All About You

You are not the epicenter of the universe. It’s very difficult to view the world from a perspective outside of your own, since we are always so focused on what’s happening in our own lives. What do I have to do today? What will this mean for me, for my career, for my life? What do I want?

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It’s normal to be intensely aware of everything that’s going on in your own life, but you need to pay as much attention to what’s happening around you, and how things affect other people in the world as you do to your own life. It helps to keep things in perspective.

7. There’s No Shame in Not Knowing

No one has it all figured out. Nobody has all the answers. There’s no shame in saying “I don’t know.” Pretending to be perfect doesn’t make you perfect. It just makes you neurotic to keep up the pretense of manufactured perfection.

We have this idea that there is some kind of stigma or shame in admitting our limitations or uncertainly, but we can’t possibly know everything. We all make mistakes and mess up occasionally. We learn as we go, that’s life.

Besides—nobody likes a know-it-all. A little vulnerability makes you human and oh so much more relatable.

8. Love Is More Than a Feeling; It’s a Choice

That burst of initial exhilaration, pulse quickening love and passion does not last long. But that doesn’t mean long-lasting love is not possible.

Love is not just a feeling; it’s a choice that you make every day. We have to choose to let annoyances pass, to forgive, to be kind, to respect, to support, to be faithful.

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Relationships take work. Sometimes it’s easy and sometimes it’s incredibly hard. It is up to us to choose how we want to act, think and speak in a relationship.

9. Perspective Is a Beautiful Thing

Typically, when we’re worried or upset, it’s because we’ve lost perspective. Everything that is happening in our lives seems so big, so important, so do or die, but in the grand picture, this single hiccup often means next to nothing.

The fight we’re having, the job we didn’t get, the real or imagined slight, the unexpected need to shift course, the thing we wanted, but didn’t get. Most of it won’t matter 20, 30, 40 years from now. It’s hard to see long term when all you know is short term, but unless it’s life-threatening, let it go, and move on.

10. Don’t Take Anything for Granted

We often don’t appreciate what we have until it’s gone: that includes your health, your family and friends, your job, the money you have or think you will have tomorrow.

When you’re young, it seems that your parents will always be there, but they won’t. You think you have plenty of time to get back in touch with your old friends or spend time with new ones, but you don’t. You have the money to spend, or you think you’ll have it next month, but you might not.

Nothing in your life is not guaranteed to be there tomorrow, including those you love.

This is a hard life lesson to learn, but it may be the most important of all: Life can change in an instant. Make sure you appreciate what you have, while you still have it.

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