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7 Things Modern Women Look for in a Man

7 Things Modern Women Look for in a Man

Today’s woman isn’t interested in the 1950’s notion of being barefoot and pregnant. Instead, women all over the world are taking charge of their lives by earning college degrees and pioneering entrepreneurship. Surely, if a guy is interested in a woman of ‘the now’, he must be prepared to play, all in the name of love. In this article, you’ll find 7 head-turning things that modern women look for in a man.

1. Similar Values.

Opposites still do attract in this day and age; kudos to the couples who benefit from this old adage. For everyone else: taking a risk on a polar opposite isn’t always worth the thrill. When having found yourself interested in modern woman, it’s beneficial to do the minimal research to see if she’ll even be intrigued by your hello. If you see her in passing every day, pay attention to the obvious things about her – if she drinks coffee, carries a briefcase, has children – and strike a conversation about what those things mean to you, too.

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2. A Visionary.

In the 1950’s, it was the norm to find a “good job”, work it for 50 years and retire comfortably. Unfortunately (and in some cases, thankfully), we don’t have that same “luxury”. While it’s expected that you should have a legal and viable source of income, modern women are interested in your next move. Are you crazy enough to turn your passion into a business or nonprofit organization? If so, how do you expect to do this within the next 5 to 10 years? Showing your woman that you’re a no-holds-barred go-getter is exciting and is bound to gain her interest, respect and loyalty.

3. A Conversationalist.

Talking online is the convenient way of meeting prospects and making love connections. These days, everyone has at least one social networking profile that they use to post pictures and interesting things about themselves occasionally. Before using this as your only method of communication, it’s a great idea to assess how well you can hold a real conversation, in person. A modern woman can pick up on a fake a mile away, so in between chats and IM, brush up on your conversation strategies. Be knowledgeable in the things that she’s interested in, along with world events to show off your cultured side.

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4. Boss in his own right.

Taken literally, a boss makes his own rules in the boardroom. While this is admirable, a boss must also be able to govern his own life and handle tough situations outside of the boardroom. Being able to command attention without even trying to is breath-taking and shows a certain alpha-ness, if you will. Modern women find this attractive, leading them to believe that you’ll be a great partner along the way.

5. Ability to Teach.

Your modern woman may be well-educated and experienced. While these are awesome qualities to have, a woman loves it when a man can teach her something worth learning. This doesn’t mean that you have to be a professor or expert in a particular area. No. This is the time when you put your fantastic listening skills to use to “listen for things she doesn’t mean for you to hear” and casually appeal to the student in her. Let’s say she mentions that she’s always wanted to go fishing one night. Log that in your memory and give her a surprise fishing date when she least expects it.

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6. Spirituality.

At the end of the day, do you show gratitude for your life? Are you genuinely happy to be in the place you’re in with the people around you? Expressing this gratitude to your higher power is intriguing to women looking to spend lifelong time with you. This shows that you’re in tune with a sense of self and that you may also have a kind heart. (This is also a great quality to teach children, if you plan to have them.)

7. Balancing Act.

It’s such a turn-on to be with an affluent man. Most women dream of a man who has the ability to take care of her. However, not knowing how to balance such power with home life is the ultimate no-no. Instead of using money as your focus when meeting women, tell her how easy it is for you to give yourself a monthly allowance, manage quality time, and still make time for the important people and things in your life. This sounds like she has a place to fit in your life and that you’ll be supportive to her needs and wants, as opposed to presenting the old cliché of “I have money”. It also shows you have self-discipline, respect for her place, and a future that is secured, all of which are admirable.

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The most important thing that you can be with any woman is supportive. Regardless of her titles and accolades, at the end of the day, a lady wants to come home to let her hair down and be loved on.

Featured photo credit: WHAT MEN LOOK AT FIRST? WRONG ANSWER! via cosmoladies.com

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

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For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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