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7 Things Modern Women Look for in a Man

7 Things Modern Women Look for in a Man

Today’s woman isn’t interested in the 1950’s notion of being barefoot and pregnant. Instead, women all over the world are taking charge of their lives by earning college degrees and pioneering entrepreneurship. Surely, if a guy is interested in a woman of ‘the now’, he must be prepared to play, all in the name of love. In this article, you’ll find 7 head-turning things that modern women look for in a man.

1. Similar Values.

Opposites still do attract in this day and age; kudos to the couples who benefit from this old adage. For everyone else: taking a risk on a polar opposite isn’t always worth the thrill. When having found yourself interested in modern woman, it’s beneficial to do the minimal research to see if she’ll even be intrigued by your hello. If you see her in passing every day, pay attention to the obvious things about her – if she drinks coffee, carries a briefcase, has children – and strike a conversation about what those things mean to you, too.

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2. A Visionary.

In the 1950’s, it was the norm to find a “good job”, work it for 50 years and retire comfortably. Unfortunately (and in some cases, thankfully), we don’t have that same “luxury”. While it’s expected that you should have a legal and viable source of income, modern women are interested in your next move. Are you crazy enough to turn your passion into a business or nonprofit organization? If so, how do you expect to do this within the next 5 to 10 years? Showing your woman that you’re a no-holds-barred go-getter is exciting and is bound to gain her interest, respect and loyalty.

3. A Conversationalist.

Talking online is the convenient way of meeting prospects and making love connections. These days, everyone has at least one social networking profile that they use to post pictures and interesting things about themselves occasionally. Before using this as your only method of communication, it’s a great idea to assess how well you can hold a real conversation, in person. A modern woman can pick up on a fake a mile away, so in between chats and IM, brush up on your conversation strategies. Be knowledgeable in the things that she’s interested in, along with world events to show off your cultured side.

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4. Boss in his own right.

Taken literally, a boss makes his own rules in the boardroom. While this is admirable, a boss must also be able to govern his own life and handle tough situations outside of the boardroom. Being able to command attention without even trying to is breath-taking and shows a certain alpha-ness, if you will. Modern women find this attractive, leading them to believe that you’ll be a great partner along the way.

5. Ability to Teach.

Your modern woman may be well-educated and experienced. While these are awesome qualities to have, a woman loves it when a man can teach her something worth learning. This doesn’t mean that you have to be a professor or expert in a particular area. No. This is the time when you put your fantastic listening skills to use to “listen for things she doesn’t mean for you to hear” and casually appeal to the student in her. Let’s say she mentions that she’s always wanted to go fishing one night. Log that in your memory and give her a surprise fishing date when she least expects it.

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6. Spirituality.

At the end of the day, do you show gratitude for your life? Are you genuinely happy to be in the place you’re in with the people around you? Expressing this gratitude to your higher power is intriguing to women looking to spend lifelong time with you. This shows that you’re in tune with a sense of self and that you may also have a kind heart. (This is also a great quality to teach children, if you plan to have them.)

7. Balancing Act.

It’s such a turn-on to be with an affluent man. Most women dream of a man who has the ability to take care of her. However, not knowing how to balance such power with home life is the ultimate no-no. Instead of using money as your focus when meeting women, tell her how easy it is for you to give yourself a monthly allowance, manage quality time, and still make time for the important people and things in your life. This sounds like she has a place to fit in your life and that you’ll be supportive to her needs and wants, as opposed to presenting the old cliché of “I have money”. It also shows you have self-discipline, respect for her place, and a future that is secured, all of which are admirable.

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The most important thing that you can be with any woman is supportive. Regardless of her titles and accolades, at the end of the day, a lady wants to come home to let her hair down and be loved on.

Featured photo credit: WHAT MEN LOOK AT FIRST? WRONG ANSWER! via cosmoladies.com

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Last Updated on September 17, 2018

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.

Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.

When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).

Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:

1. You’re depressed about your home life.

No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.

However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.

If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

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When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.

You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.

2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.

If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.

If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.

3. You can’t stop snooping.

Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.

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I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.

Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.

So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.

It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.

If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.

4. You’re afraid of commitment.

If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.

Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.

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No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.

If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.

Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.

5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.

If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.

Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.

Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.

Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.

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If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?

6. You resent, rather than love your partner.

When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.

When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.

If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.

7. You chase past feelings.

It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.

You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.

When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.

Final thoughts

If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.

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