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7 Signs You’re in Love

7 Signs You’re in Love

Ah, love. It is an amazing, mysterious, and often terrifying thing. Could your partner be Mr. or Ms. Right? To help you navigate matters of the heart, watch out for these 7 signs you’re in love.

1. Your ex is nothing but a distant memory.

If you’ve been through a nasty breakup, you have probably learned that jumping from one relationship straight into another (i.e. “the rebound”) is one of the worst ideas ever.

It takes a while to get over a split with a person who we’ve developed a case of the feels for. Take the time to figure out who you are without this person in your life before you jump into another relationship. When your ex stops being a dominating thought and becomes a distant memory, this is a sign you’re ready to move on.

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2. You wonder what makes them tick.

You are fascinated by everything they say and could listen to them talk for hours. Maybe you’ve had a marathon phone chat that turned into a Q&A where you talked about your favorite bands, places you’d like to travel, what you hope to accomplish in life, and so on.

3. You don’t notice cute/hot people like you used to.

Even if you were having drinks in a VIP lounge with Justin Timberlake or Angelina Jolie, you’d find yourself thinking, “I wonder what _________ is doing?”

4. You go out of your way to see/talk to/surprise them.

You walk really slow as you leave class, because you know her class ends at the same time yours does, and if you time it just right, you might run into her.

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You chat with him past midnight even though you know you’re gonna feel like a zombie the next day if you don’t get to bed, stat.

You surprise them with a thermos of hot chamomile tea (their favorite!) at work because they have a cold (aren’t you sweet?).

5. You can’t shut up about them.

You find everything about them captivating, so you can’t help talking about it to your friends (who now reply, “OMG, I know she plays drums in a rock band (which is really cool), but you’ve told us four times now.”

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6. You daydream about the future (and they’re in it).

You have an ever-growing list of stuff you want to do with this person. So many things to do, places to visit, and sights to see! When you start to plan trips months in advance, you know this person has a starring role in your future.

7. You feel like you’re trapped on an emotional roller-coaster.

A study at the State University of New York at Stony Brook found that falling in love affects the brain like addiction. Just like an addict craves a fix from their drug of choice, those smitten by another person crave the object of their desire.

Romantic love is one of the most powerful (and random) emotions you can experience. One minute, you feel joyful because this person makes you so happy you could leap; the next, you’re anxious because you wondered, “What if they don’t return the feeling?”

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The most intense of romantic feelings typically decline as a relationship matures and you grow accustomed to having a person in your life (this could be because the fear of losing a person fades over time).

If any of these signs you’re in love sound familiar, you just might be smitten. The object of your affection isn’t gonna figure it out all by themselves, so if you’re feeling brave, tell them! If there are any signs you think should be a part of this list, tell us in the comments below.

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Daniel Wallen

Daniel is a writer who focuses on blogging about happiness and motivation at Lifehack.

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Last Updated on September 17, 2019

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

Positive thinking can lead to a lot of positive change in your life. Developing an optimistic outlook can be good for both your physical and mental health.

But sometimes, certain situations arise in life that makes it hard to keep a positive outlook. Take steps to make positive thinking become more like your second nature and you’ll reap the biggest benefits.

Here are 10 ways to make thinking positive thoughts easy:

1. Spend Time with Positive People

If you surround yourself with constant complainers, their negativity is likely to rub off on you.

Spend time with positive friends and family members to increase the likelihood that their positive thinking habits will become yours too. It’s hard to be negative when everyone around you is so positive.

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2. Take Responsibility for Your Behavior

When you encounter problems and difficulties in life, don’t play the role of the victim. Acknowledge your role in the situation and take responsibility for your behavior.

Accepting responsibility can help you learn from mistakes and prevent you from blaming others unfairly.

3. Contribute to the Community

One of the best ways to feel good about what you have, is to focus on what you have to give.

Volunteer in some manner and give back to the community. Helping others can give you a new outlook on the world and can assist you with positive thinking.

4. Read Positive and Inspirational Materials

Spend time each day reading something that encourages positive thinking. Read the Bible, spiritual material, or inspirational quotes to help you focus on what’s important to you in life. It can be a great way to start and end your day.

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5. Recognize and Replace Negative Thoughts

You won’t be successful at positive thinking if you’re still plagued by frequent negative thoughts. Learn to recognize and replace thoughts that are overly negative. Often, thoughts that include words like “always” and “never” signal that they aren’t true.

If you find yourself thinking something such as, “I always mess everything up,” replace it with something more realistic such as, “Sometimes I make mistakes but I learn from them.”

There’s no need to make your thoughts unrealistically positive, but instead, make them more realistic.

6. Establish and Work Toward Goals

It’s easier to be positive about problems and setbacks when you have goals that you’re working toward. Goals will give you motivation to overcome those obstacles when you encounter problems along the way. Without clear goals, it’s harder to make decisions and gauge your progress.

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Learn to set SMART goals to help you achieve more.

7. Consider the Consequences of Negativity

Spend some time thinking about the consequences of negative thinking. Often, it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

For example, a person who thinks, “I probably won’t get this job interview,” may put less effort into the interview. As a result, he may decrease his chances of getting the job.

Create a list of all the ways negative thinking impacts your life. It likely influences your behavior, your relationships, and your feelings. Then, create a list of the ways in which positive thinking could be beneficial.

8. Offer Compliments to Others

Look for reasons to compliment others. Be genuine in your praise and compliments, but offer it frequently. This will help you look for the good in other people.

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9. Create a Daily Gratitude List

If you start keeping a daily gratitude list, you’ll start noticing exactly how much you have to be thankful for. This can help you focus on the positive in your life instead of thinking about all the bad things that have happened in the day.

Getting in the habit of showing an attitude of gratitude makes positive thinking more of a habit. Here’re 40 Simple Ways To Practice Gratitude.

10. Practice Self-Care

Take good care of yourself and you’ll be more equipped to think positively.

Get plenty of rest and exercise and practice managing your stress well. Taking care of your physical and mental health will provide you with more energy to focus on positive thinking.

Learn about these 30 Self-Care Habits for a Strong and Healthy Mind, Body and Spirit.

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