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7 Signs You’re in Love

7 Signs You’re in Love

Ah, love. It is an amazing, mysterious, and often terrifying thing. Could your partner be Mr. or Ms. Right? To help you navigate matters of the heart, watch out for these 7 signs you’re in love.

1. Your ex is nothing but a distant memory.

If you’ve been through a nasty breakup, you have probably learned that jumping from one relationship straight into another (i.e. “the rebound”) is one of the worst ideas ever.

It takes a while to get over a split with a person who we’ve developed a case of the feels for. Take the time to figure out who you are without this person in your life before you jump into another relationship. When your ex stops being a dominating thought and becomes a distant memory, this is a sign you’re ready to move on.

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2. You wonder what makes them tick.

You are fascinated by everything they say and could listen to them talk for hours. Maybe you’ve had a marathon phone chat that turned into a Q&A where you talked about your favorite bands, places you’d like to travel, what you hope to accomplish in life, and so on.

3. You don’t notice cute/hot people like you used to.

Even if you were having drinks in a VIP lounge with Justin Timberlake or Angelina Jolie, you’d find yourself thinking, “I wonder what _________ is doing?”

4. You go out of your way to see/talk to/surprise them.

You walk really slow as you leave class, because you know her class ends at the same time yours does, and if you time it just right, you might run into her.

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You chat with him past midnight even though you know you’re gonna feel like a zombie the next day if you don’t get to bed, stat.

You surprise them with a thermos of hot chamomile tea (their favorite!) at work because they have a cold (aren’t you sweet?).

5. You can’t shut up about them.

You find everything about them captivating, so you can’t help talking about it to your friends (who now reply, “OMG, I know she plays drums in a rock band (which is really cool), but you’ve told us four times now.”

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6. You daydream about the future (and they’re in it).

You have an ever-growing list of stuff you want to do with this person. So many things to do, places to visit, and sights to see! When you start to plan trips months in advance, you know this person has a starring role in your future.

7. You feel like you’re trapped on an emotional roller-coaster.

A study at the State University of New York at Stony Brook found that falling in love affects the brain like addiction. Just like an addict craves a fix from their drug of choice, those smitten by another person crave the object of their desire.

Romantic love is one of the most powerful (and random) emotions you can experience. One minute, you feel joyful because this person makes you so happy you could leap; the next, you’re anxious because you wondered, “What if they don’t return the feeling?”

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The most intense of romantic feelings typically decline as a relationship matures and you grow accustomed to having a person in your life (this could be because the fear of losing a person fades over time).

If any of these signs you’re in love sound familiar, you just might be smitten. The object of your affection isn’t gonna figure it out all by themselves, so if you’re feeling brave, tell them! If there are any signs you think should be a part of this list, tell us in the comments below.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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