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7 Reminders That Some People Are Happier with Less Than What You Have

7 Reminders That Some People Are Happier with Less Than What You Have

“We need much less than we think we need.”- Maya Angelou.

When you travel to poorer countries, you are immediately struck by the fact that people are happier, even though they have a lot less than you have. When you are constantly seeking to upgrade your life with a better car, new job, or a more modern smartphone, just think you can still be happy with what you have got.

The most toxic thoughts that can really pollute your mind are those that begin with, “I wish I had..’ or ‘If only…”These are useless regrets and speculation which are worse than a gambling addiction. Look around you and remind yourself that some people are happier with less than what you have.

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1. Someone has little money but they never have to worry about being exploited

People who are rich have a terrible time in that they worry endlessly about actually losing what they have. They fear being exploited and are always wary of new friends who may regard them as a soft touch. In addition, they never enjoy comfort or convenience because they are obsessed with saving the last penny.

I once got to know one of the richest women in the UK. When she went on holiday, she flew low cost which sometimes meant getting up at 4.a.m. in the morning. She shopped around when buying  postcards and could rarely enjoy a holiday without thinking of what it was costing her! The person who is poorly off is often much richer in that they have understood that happiness is not the bottom line in their bank account.

2. Someone is single but they know that happiness does not depend on getting hitched

Many people are convinced that being single automatically means misery and loneliness. They sometimes make mistakes in choosing the wrong partner and end up in unhappy relationships. The person who is single actually has a better chance, statistically, of enjoying better health and also being more socially involved. They have also understood that a partner is no guarantee of finding happiness. They know that their job, interests and friends are the cornerstones in their lives.

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3. Someone has problems but knows that this is just a blip on their radar

I grew up in a home where my father constantly told us to “look on the bright side and also to count your blessings.” My mother, on the other hand, was rather pessimistic and would remark gloomily that “the best of the day has gone” while journeying to the seaside. Fortunately, my father’s genes prevailed and I grew up to be optimistic. I know that setbacks are just temporary and that pessimism is escapable as Martin Seligman points out in his excellent book, “Learned Optimism: How To Change Your Mind and Your Life.

4. Someone never sets goals and is missing out

Some people fall into despair because they can never realize their life ambitions. Failure after failure means that they never set goals to get out of the swamp. They think that life has bestowed on them a horrible fate. They think that luck and destiny have dealt them a lousy hand. They have failed to learn that their attitude and behavior are going to determine their success or failure in life. Setting mini goals and loving what you do can help to get back on track.

“The only way to do great work is to love what you do.” – Steve Jobs

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 5. Someone is powerless but is self-sufficient

“Earth provides enough to satisfy every man’s need, but not every man’s greed.” – Mahatma Gandhi.

Gandhi had no earthly possessions and indeed seemed bereft of any kind of power, influence, wealth and authority. Yet he was able to show that the people of India could be self-sufficient with the little they had and they did not have to rely on foreign powers for economic survival.

6. Some people rely on simple pleasures to enrich themselves

“If you have a garden and a library, you have everything you need.” – Cicero.

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There is no need for fancy holidays or expensive electronic devices. Some people have discovered that the simple pleasures of life, such as a walk in the park at twilight, tending a garden, picking flowers, and reading a good book can be more than enough to enjoy the pleasures of life.

7. Someone gives thanks every day for what they have

We take so much for granted. Steve Taylor has written about how important it is to practice gratitude and appreciation after a long journey through India. There have been countless experiments carried out by psychologists which show that once you start practicing gratitude and counting your blessings, you will have better health and it is the foundation for your well–being. So, you see, my father was right!

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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