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7 Reasons To Tell Someone They Are Loved Today

7 Reasons To Tell Someone They Are Loved Today

Love: arguably the most powerful emotion and experience in life. Love transcends all ethnicity, race, gender, age, status, and wealth. Love breaks down barriers and rebuilds brokenness. But love does not simply just ‘happen.’

Love is not like the newspaper that gets delivered each day. Love requires effort. It is not only a noun but also a verb. The novelist Anaïs Nin explains this truth beautifully, “Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don’t know how to replenish its source.”

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In a world that is too often driven toward obtaining selfish power, we have become blind to the profound power we possess in selflessly loving another person. You may not change the world, but you will certainly change their world. Here are 7 reasons to tell someone they are loved today:

1. Perfect Timing.

You have no idea what someone may have just gone through. Think of how amazing it was the last time you randomly received a word of encouragement from someone else. You probably responded in surprise and said, “You have no idea how much I needed to hear that.” There are so many awful things that can unfold in the course of a day. Some simple words of love and encouragement may be the exact remedy they need.

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2. Unbreakable Bonds.

Oxytocin, otherwise referred to as the love hormone, is released by the brain when a mother is nursing her child, and when two people hug. The neurochemical is responsible for trust-building, bonding, and empathy. If you want to strengthen your relationship with someone, expressing care and love toward them is the key.

3. Remove Scars.

A lot of people hate sushi. Until they try it. Then they become the biggest sushi evangelist in the world. Letting someone know you love them has a very similar effect. There are people from very tough upbringings, never told that they are loved. You can bring healing to their soul.

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4. Energy Boost.

If only the marathon runner craving that ‘second-wind’ knew how to put love in a bottle, he would be sprinting across the finish line. In a fascinating study on activities that boost our energy, researchers Janet Nikolovski, PhD, and Jack Groppel, PhD, asked people to report their energy levels on a scale from 1–10 after a range of stimuli. While the popular coffee scored a 6.8, talking to a love one scored a 7. If someone is looking physically worn out, this is extra reason to have a loving chat with them.

5. Better Than Drugs.

No kidding. Dopamine is one chemical that is released by the brain when someone is in love. It is also what is released when someone takes a hit of cocaine. Expressing love is certainly far better than taking drugs—the same euphoric experience without the awful side effects! Give someone a hit of dopamine today by telling them they are loved.

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6. Stress Less.

Cortisol is the stress hormone that is released when we become anxious, frustrated, or worn out. Dr. Helen Fisher, an expert who studies the neurohormonal phenomena of love, highlights these great stress-relieving reasons to express love to someone, “Your brain floods with dopamine, which gives you focus, energy and optimism and those things can all be good to counter stress.”

7. Domino Effect

Want to set off an incredible chain reaction of love? Many people have been wronged and hold on to bitterness. By loving them you are subconsciously freeing them to pass that love on to others. Enable them to forgive and love as they are overwhelmed by love. Be the spark that sets things alight. Be the initiator and take the first step.

The Beatles were on to it when they sang that hit song All You Need Is Love. Indeed love is all you need to turn someone’s day around. Stop holding back and share a ton of love today!

Featured photo credit: Mother and her child enjoy the summer in park. Outdoors. via shutterstock.com

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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