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7 Reasons To Tell Someone They Are Loved Today

7 Reasons To Tell Someone They Are Loved Today

Love: arguably the most powerful emotion and experience in life. Love transcends all ethnicity, race, gender, age, status, and wealth. Love breaks down barriers and rebuilds brokenness. But love does not simply just ‘happen.’

Love is not like the newspaper that gets delivered each day. Love requires effort. It is not only a noun but also a verb. The novelist Anaïs Nin explains this truth beautifully, “Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don’t know how to replenish its source.”

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In a world that is too often driven toward obtaining selfish power, we have become blind to the profound power we possess in selflessly loving another person. You may not change the world, but you will certainly change their world. Here are 7 reasons to tell someone they are loved today:

1. Perfect Timing.

You have no idea what someone may have just gone through. Think of how amazing it was the last time you randomly received a word of encouragement from someone else. You probably responded in surprise and said, “You have no idea how much I needed to hear that.” There are so many awful things that can unfold in the course of a day. Some simple words of love and encouragement may be the exact remedy they need.

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2. Unbreakable Bonds.

Oxytocin, otherwise referred to as the love hormone, is released by the brain when a mother is nursing her child, and when two people hug. The neurochemical is responsible for trust-building, bonding, and empathy. If you want to strengthen your relationship with someone, expressing care and love toward them is the key.

3. Remove Scars.

A lot of people hate sushi. Until they try it. Then they become the biggest sushi evangelist in the world. Letting someone know you love them has a very similar effect. There are people from very tough upbringings, never told that they are loved. You can bring healing to their soul.

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4. Energy Boost.

If only the marathon runner craving that ‘second-wind’ knew how to put love in a bottle, he would be sprinting across the finish line. In a fascinating study on activities that boost our energy, researchers Janet Nikolovski, PhD, and Jack Groppel, PhD, asked people to report their energy levels on a scale from 1–10 after a range of stimuli. While the popular coffee scored a 6.8, talking to a love one scored a 7. If someone is looking physically worn out, this is extra reason to have a loving chat with them.

5. Better Than Drugs.

No kidding. Dopamine is one chemical that is released by the brain when someone is in love. It is also what is released when someone takes a hit of cocaine. Expressing love is certainly far better than taking drugs—the same euphoric experience without the awful side effects! Give someone a hit of dopamine today by telling them they are loved.

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6. Stress Less.

Cortisol is the stress hormone that is released when we become anxious, frustrated, or worn out. Dr. Helen Fisher, an expert who studies the neurohormonal phenomena of love, highlights these great stress-relieving reasons to express love to someone, “Your brain floods with dopamine, which gives you focus, energy and optimism and those things can all be good to counter stress.”

7. Domino Effect

Want to set off an incredible chain reaction of love? Many people have been wronged and hold on to bitterness. By loving them you are subconsciously freeing them to pass that love on to others. Enable them to forgive and love as they are overwhelmed by love. Be the spark that sets things alight. Be the initiator and take the first step.

The Beatles were on to it when they sang that hit song All You Need Is Love. Indeed love is all you need to turn someone’s day around. Stop holding back and share a ton of love today!

Featured photo credit: Mother and her child enjoy the summer in park. Outdoors. via shutterstock.com

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Last Updated on October 16, 2019

5 Powerful Ways for Building Fulfilling Relationships

5 Powerful Ways for Building Fulfilling Relationships

We all have relationships. We have acquaintances, relatives, colleagues, neighbors and friends. However, for a large percentage of us, many of these relationships are not fulfilling.

They are unfulfilling because they lack real strength; and they lack real strength because they lack real depth.

Unfortunately, in today’s society, we tend to have shallow, superficial relationships with others, and it’s extremely hard for this kind of relationships to provide anything more than faint satisfaction.

I’d like to show you, based on my experience as a communication and confidence coach, how you can add a significant amount of depth, and thus strength, to your relationships and make your social life a whole lot more meaningful.

Here’re 5 simple yet powerful ways for meaningful relationships building:

1. Meet More People

This is an apparent paradox, but the quality of the people you meet has considerably to do with the quantity of people you meet.

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If you don’t know a lot of people and you barely meet one or two new people every season of the year, considering the variety of individuals out there, you won’t meet very often people who are a good match with you in terms of personality, interests and values.

And since this natural match plays a huge part in building strong relationships, you’ll just as seldom have the opportunity to develop strong relationships.

Conversely, if you go out a lot, you meet a lot of new people and you constantly expand your social circle, you’re much more likely to meet people you match up well with, and these people have a tremendous potential to become good friends, reliable partners, etc.

This is why it’s important to meet more people.

2. Talk about the Things That Matter To You

A relationship becomes the strongest when two people discover they believe in the same things and have similar interests. It’s these commonalities regarding values and interests that create the strongest emotional connection.

I’ve noticed that many people keep conversations shallow. They talk about trivial stuff such as the weather, what’s on TV, the lives of various movie stars, but they rarely talk about what really matters to them in life. This is a mistake from my perspective, because it’s the perfect method for a relationship to not develop.

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Talk about the things that truly matter to you and give others a chance to know what you care about and what you believe in. If they believe in the same things and they care about the same things, they’ll eagerly let you know. Thus you’ll find meaningful common ground and you’ll feel more connected.

3. Express Vulnerability

Many people try to come off as perfect. They don’t talk about their failures, they hide their shortcomings and they never say anything that could embarrass them.

This is all just a facade though. You may appear perfect to some, but you know you’re not perfect and they know that too. You’re only human and humans have flaws.

However, by hiding your flaws, what you do succeed in is appearing cold and impersonal. You seem like a marble statue rather than a real person. And this makes it very hard for anyone to connect with you emotionally.

Humans connect with other humans, not with ideals. Keep this in mind and don’t be afraid to let your vulnerability and your humanity show. This is what takes a relationship to the next level.

Take a look at this article and find out Why Showing Vulnerability Actually Proves Your Strength.

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4. Have Integrity

Integrity, as I see it, is the alignment between your thoughts, your words and your actions. When you say what you think and you do what you said you’ll do, you have integrity.

This is a crucial trait because if you have integrity, people can trust you. They can trust you to give them an honest feedback, even when it’s hard to shallow, and they can trust you to keep your promises.

This trust is one of the central pillars of a strong relationship, both in your personal and your professional life. So, as challenging as it can be sometimes, always try to have integrity.

Be honest with the people around you, even when this will initially hurt them. It’s more important for them to trust you than to not feel hurt. And always do what you promised. Even better, think twice before you promise anything, and only promise what you really can and you are willing to do.

5. Be There for Others

Another central pillar of strong relationships is support. Connections between people grow sturdy if they can rely on each other for support when it’s needed, whether that support means a few kind words or several massive actions.

Of course, you can’t be there for everybody, all the time. Your time, energy and other resources are limited. But what you can do is identify the genuinely important people in your life and then seek to be there as much as possible, at least for them.

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Your support will help them practically, and it will comfort them emotionally; which makes one hell of a difference in a relationship.

The Bottom Line

With the right mindset and the right behavior, you can strengthen a wide range of relationships in your life and advance them as far as they can be advanced.

And with strong relationships, not only that you feel more fulfilled, but you feel more connected to the entire world. You feel that your life has real value, you have more fun and you live in the moment. An entire world of opportunities opens up in front of you.

Then your task is to simply walk through the open doors.

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