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7 Reasons To Tell Someone They Are Loved Today

7 Reasons To Tell Someone They Are Loved Today

Love: arguably the most powerful emotion and experience in life. Love transcends all ethnicity, race, gender, age, status, and wealth. Love breaks down barriers and rebuilds brokenness. But love does not simply just ‘happen.’

Love is not like the newspaper that gets delivered each day. Love requires effort. It is not only a noun but also a verb. The novelist Anaïs Nin explains this truth beautifully, “Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don’t know how to replenish its source.”

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In a world that is too often driven toward obtaining selfish power, we have become blind to the profound power we possess in selflessly loving another person. You may not change the world, but you will certainly change their world. Here are 7 reasons to tell someone they are loved today:

1. Perfect Timing.

You have no idea what someone may have just gone through. Think of how amazing it was the last time you randomly received a word of encouragement from someone else. You probably responded in surprise and said, “You have no idea how much I needed to hear that.” There are so many awful things that can unfold in the course of a day. Some simple words of love and encouragement may be the exact remedy they need.

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2. Unbreakable Bonds.

Oxytocin, otherwise referred to as the love hormone, is released by the brain when a mother is nursing her child, and when two people hug. The neurochemical is responsible for trust-building, bonding, and empathy. If you want to strengthen your relationship with someone, expressing care and love toward them is the key.

3. Remove Scars.

A lot of people hate sushi. Until they try it. Then they become the biggest sushi evangelist in the world. Letting someone know you love them has a very similar effect. There are people from very tough upbringings, never told that they are loved. You can bring healing to their soul.

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4. Energy Boost.

If only the marathon runner craving that ‘second-wind’ knew how to put love in a bottle, he would be sprinting across the finish line. In a fascinating study on activities that boost our energy, researchers Janet Nikolovski, PhD, and Jack Groppel, PhD, asked people to report their energy levels on a scale from 1–10 after a range of stimuli. While the popular coffee scored a 6.8, talking to a love one scored a 7. If someone is looking physically worn out, this is extra reason to have a loving chat with them.

5. Better Than Drugs.

No kidding. Dopamine is one chemical that is released by the brain when someone is in love. It is also what is released when someone takes a hit of cocaine. Expressing love is certainly far better than taking drugs—the same euphoric experience without the awful side effects! Give someone a hit of dopamine today by telling them they are loved.

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6. Stress Less.

Cortisol is the stress hormone that is released when we become anxious, frustrated, or worn out. Dr. Helen Fisher, an expert who studies the neurohormonal phenomena of love, highlights these great stress-relieving reasons to express love to someone, “Your brain floods with dopamine, which gives you focus, energy and optimism and those things can all be good to counter stress.”

7. Domino Effect

Want to set off an incredible chain reaction of love? Many people have been wronged and hold on to bitterness. By loving them you are subconsciously freeing them to pass that love on to others. Enable them to forgive and love as they are overwhelmed by love. Be the spark that sets things alight. Be the initiator and take the first step.

The Beatles were on to it when they sang that hit song All You Need Is Love. Indeed love is all you need to turn someone’s day around. Stop holding back and share a ton of love today!

Featured photo credit: Mother and her child enjoy the summer in park. Outdoors. via shutterstock.com

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Last Updated on December 10, 2019

5 Smart Reasons to Start Journal Writing Today

5 Smart Reasons to Start Journal Writing Today

Here’s the truth: your effectiveness at life is not what it could be. You’re missing out.

Each day passes by and you have nothing to prove that it even happened. Did you achieve something? Go on a date? Have an emotional breakthrough? Who knows?

But what you do know is that you don’t want to make the same mistakes that you’ve made in the past.

Our lives are full of hidden gems of knowledge and insight, and the most recent events in our lives contain the most useful gems of all. Do you know why? It’s simple, those hidden lessons are the most up to date, meaning they have the largest impact on what we’re doing right now.

But the question is, how do you get those lessons? There’s a simple way to do it, and it doesn’t involve time machines:

Journal writing.

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Improved mental clarity, the ability to see our lives in the big picture, as well as serving as a piece of evidence cataloguing every success we’ve ever had; we are provided all of the above and more by doing some journal writing.

Journal writing is a useful and flexible tool to help shed light on achieving your goals.

Here’s 5 smart reasons why you should do journal writing:

1. Journals Help You Have a Better Connection with Your Values, Emotions, and Goals

By journaling about what you believe in, why you believe it, how you feel, and what your goals are, you understand your relationships with these things better. This is because you must sort through the mental clutter and provide details on why you do what you do and feel what you feel.

Consider this:

Perhaps you’ve spent the last year or so working at a job you don’t like. It would be easy to just suck it up and keep working with your head down, going on as if it’s supposed to be normal to not like your job. Nobody else is complaining, so why should you, right?

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But a little journal writing will set things straight for you. You don’t like your job. You feel like it’s robbing you of happiness and satisfaction, and you don’t see yourself better there in the future.

The other workers? Maybe they don’t know, maybe they don’t care. But you do, you know and care enough to do something about it. And you’re capable of fixing this problem because your journal writing allows you to finally be honest with yourself about it.

2. Journals Improve Mental Clarity and Help Improve Your Focus

If there’s one thing journal writing is good for, it’s clearing the mental clutter.

How does it work? Simply, whenever you have a problem and write about it in a journal, you transfer the problem from your head to the paper. This empties the mind, allowing allocation of precious resources to problem-solving rather than problem-storing.

Let’s say you’ve been juggling several tasks at work. You’ve got data entry, testing, e-mails, problems with the boss, and so on—enough to overwhelm you—but as you start journal writing, things become clearer and easier to understand: Data entry can actually wait till Thursday; Bill kindly offered earlier to do my testing; For e-mails, I can check them now; the boss is just upset because Becky called in sick, etc.

You become better able to focus and reason your tasks out, and this is an indispensable and useful skill to have.

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3. Journals Improve Insight and Understanding

As a positive consequence of improving your mental clarity, you become more open to insights you may have missed before. As you write your notes out, you’re essentially having a dialogue with yourself. This draws out insights that you would have missed otherwise; it’s almost as if two people are working together to better understand each other. This kind of insight is only available to the person who has taken the time to connect with and understand themselves in the form of writing.

Once you’ve gotten a few entries written down, new insights can be gleaned from reading over them. What themes do you see in your life? Do you keep switching goals halfway through? Are you constantly dating the same type of people who aren’t good for you? Have you slowly but surely pushed people out of your life for fear of being hurt?

All of these questions can be answered by simply self-reflecting, but you can only discover the answers if you’ve captured them in writing. These questions are going to be tough to answer without a journal of your actions and experiences.

4. Journals Track Your Overall Development

Life happens, and it can happen fast. Sometimes we don’t take the time to stop and look around at what’s happening to us at each moment. We don’t get to see the step-by-step progress that we’re making in our own lives. So what happens? One day it’s the future, and you have no idea how you’ve gotten there.

Journal writing allows you to see how you’ve changed over time, so you can see where you did things right, and you can see where you took a misstep and fell.

The great thing about journals is that you’ll know what that misstep was, and you can make sure it doesn’t happen again—all because you made sure to log it, allowing yourself to learn from your mistakes.

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5. Journals Facilitate Personal Growth

The best thing about journal writing is that no matter what you end up writing about, it’s hard to not grow from it. You can’t just look at a past entry in which you acted shamefully and say “that was dumb, anyway!” No, we say “I will never make a dumb choice like that again!”

It’s impossible not to grow when it comes to journal writing. That’s what makes journal writing such a powerful tool, whether it’s about achieving goals, becoming a better person, or just general personal-development. No matter what you use it for, you’ll eventually see yourself growing as a person.

Kickstart Journaling

How can journaling best be of use to you? To vent your emotions? To help achieve your goals? To help clear your mind? What do you think makes journaling such a useful life skill?

Know the answer? Then it’s about time you reap the benefits of journal writing and start putting pen to paper.

Here’s what you can do to start journaling:

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