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7 Free Ways to Make Yourself More Attractive

7 Free Ways to Make Yourself More Attractive

To be more attractive doesn’t need to cost you any money. Your goal of becoming more attractive can be made much easier by taking these tips and applying them in your own life.

Laughter is a lovely thing.

Ever notice how some of the hottest people have a wicked sense of humor? They’re busy laughing rather than taking life too seriously, and they keep you grinning too. These hotties aren’t afraid of a few laughs at their own expense either. After a long day at school or work, take some time to watch a comedic television show or read posts on one of your favorite websites. It will help you relax and maybe even take yourself a little less seriously. Laughter is not only a great method for de-stressing, keep it up and you will even burn some calories. Go ahead, crack a smile.

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Take a moment to become more cultured, because you’re classy like that.

Cultured individuals are aware of various areas of society. People are drawn to their knowledge, experiences and their curiosity for new things. There are simple ways to become more cultured. Many of today’s films have been adapted from books. Why not try a book that you’ve always heard about, but never read? After you’ve finished the book, watch as you suddenly recognize all the cultural references that point to that piece of literature. You can become familiar with just about anything from books, to wine or music. Everyone knows that one song from an advertisement they’ve heard so many times, they can recite the lyrics word-for-word. Despite that fact, if anyone asked you the artist or even the name of the song, you wouldn’t have a clue. Here’s what you do: type the lyrics into a search engine and find the song. As you dance to the sweet, sweet melody, take in important details such as the artist as well as the year it was released. Congratulations, you’ve just gained some musical knowledge—equating to a bit of culture.

Generosity makes for one fine specimen.

Doing your research and finding a charity that you support is just one way to be generous to others. If you don’t have funds to donate, give others your time. Whether it’s helping your mother with yard work, tutoring kids at your local schools or simply listening to a friend vent over daily stress, when people recognize your willingness to do for others they will appreciate it.

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Walk with confidence and you’ll feel foxy.

Confidence is an attractive trait to have. If you want to communicate to anyone around you that you possess this characteristic, a great place to start is with your walk. Making sure that you walk with your eyes facing forward can help give off a positive impression. An upright position helps improve your posture and looks so much more attractive than slouching. This can translate into the way that you sit as well. There is even the possibility of preventing excessive back pain in the future. For men, taking large steps sends signals of confidence and purpose. In women, finding a pace at which you are comfortable is a great way to help project confidence as you walk. Get into the practice of lifting your chin and pulling in your shoulders whenever you walk. Your walk is an important nonverbal indicator of how you feel.

Sticking to Your Convictions? That’s a beautiful thing.

Do you have a set of beliefs that you try your best to live by each day? Convictions come in many forms and are specific to each individual. Where one person may find an act morally wrong, another might feel the opposite. Because of your convictions, you may expose only minimal skin or you may find it necessary to confess to bad behavior. The fact is, mature adults may not necessarily agree with all of your choices but they will be able to respect that it is a part of who you are. If you express your convictions and are unwavering toward sticking to them without feeling the need to push these convictions onto others, that is all the more reason to respect you.

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Hey good-looking, do you work out?

Do you work out? If you don’t, you definitely should. There are an infinite number of reasons why individuals should make time in their day to work out. Getting in at least 30 – 45 minutes of exercise three to five days a week will help maintain your body weight, and contribute to long-term benefits as well. Creating and adhering to a workout schedule will result in strengthening of your muscles and weight loss. You will benefit internally and the results will eventually become physically noticeable as well.

Put good inside, and get a gorgeous glow.

Take a look in your refrigerator and make a meal or fix yourself a drink using the colorful array of tastes and textures that fruits and vegetables offer you. Making these items a large part of your diet will help create a beautiful complexion. Another item to incorporate into your diet is green tea. With a large list of health benefits including improved blood pressure, oral health and even weigh, this is a powerful food product that you’ll definitely want to take in. Water is a fluid you will always want to have an abundance of inside your body. Not only does it hydrate you, it contributes to cell growth. Remember to never underestimate the effectiveness of these food and drink options in helping you get the best glow possible. Your goal of becoming more attractive can be made much easier by taking these tips and applying them in your own life. They’re free and so easy to do. Use these suggestions and begin feeling more attractive right away.

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Last Updated on March 30, 2020

What Does Self-Conscious Mean? (And How to Stop Being It)

What Does Self-Conscious Mean? (And How to Stop Being It)

Have you ever walked into a room and felt like your nerves simply couldn’t handle it? Your heart beats fast, you start to sweat, and you feel like all eyes are on you (even if they’re really not). This is just one of the many ways that being self-conscious can rear its ugly head.

You may not even realize you’re self-conscious, and you may be wondering, “What does self-conscious mean?” That’s a good place to start.

This article will define self-consciousness, show how practically everyone has faced it at one point or another, and give you tips to avoid it.

What Does Self-Conscious Mean?

According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, self-conscious is defined as “conscious of one’s own acts or states as belonging to or originating in oneself.”[1]

Not so bad, right? There’s another definition, though — one that speaks more to what you’re going through: “feeling uncomfortably conscious of oneself as an object of the observation of others.” For those of us who regularly deal with extreme self-consciousness, that second definition sounds about right.

There are many different ways self-consciousness can spring up. You may feel self-conscious around people you know, like your family members or closest friends. You may feel self-conscious at work, even though you spend hours every week around your co-workers. Or you may feel self-conscious when out in public and surrounded by strangers. However, you probably don’t feel self-conscious when you’re home alone.

How to Stop Being Too Self-Conscious

When you’re in the throes of self-consciousness, it’s nearly impossible to remember how to stop feeling that way. That’s why it’s so important to prepare ahead of time, when you’re feeling ready to tackle the problem instead of succumbing to it.

Here are a variety of ways to feel better about yourself and stop thinking about how others see you.

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1. Ask Yourself, “So What?”

One way to banish negative, self-conscious thoughts is to do just that: banish them.

The next time you walk into a room and feel your face getting red, think to yourself, “So what?” How much does it really matter if people don’t like how you look or act? What’s the worst that could happen?

Most of the time, you’ll find that you don’t have a good answer to this question. Then, you can immediately start assigning such thoughts less importance. With self-awareness, you can acknowledge that your negative thoughts are present and realize that you don’t agree with them.[2] They’re just thoughts, after all.

2. Be Honest

A lie that self-consciousness might tell is that there’s one way to act or feel. Honestly, though, everyone else is just figuring life out as well. There isn’t a preferred way to show up to an event, gathering, or public place. What you can do is be honest with your feelings and thoughts.[3]

If you feel offended by something someone says, you don’t have to smile to be polite or laugh to fit in with the crowd. Instead, you can politely say why you disagree or excuse yourself and find a group of people who you relate to better. If you’re nervous, don’t overcompensate by trying to look relaxed and casual — it’ll be obvious you’re putting on a front. Instead, nothing is more endearing than saying, “I’m a little nervous!” to a room of people who probably feel the exact same way.

On the same note, if you don’t understand why someone wants you to do something, question it. You can do this at work, at home, or even with people you don’t know well. Nobody should force you to do something you don’t want to do.

Also, even if you’re willing to do what’s asked of you, there’s nothing wrong with asking for more clarification. People will realize that you’re not a person to be bossed around.

3. Understand Why You’re Struggling at Work

Being self-conscious at work can get in the way of your daily responsibilities, your relationships with co-workers, and even your career as a whole. If you’re facing some sort of conflict but you’re too nervous to speak up, you may be at the whim of what happens to you instead of taking some control.

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If you’re usually confident at work, you may be wondering where this new self-consciousness is coming from. It’s possible that you’re dealing with burnout.[4] Common signs are anxiety, fatigue and distraction, all of which can leave you feeling under-confident.

4. Succeed at Something

When you create success in your life, it’s easier to feel confident[5] and less self-conscious. If you feel self-conscious at work, finish the project that’s been looming over your head. If you feel self-conscious in the gym, complete an advanced workout class.

Exposing yourself to what you’re scared of and then succeeding at it in some way (even just by finishing it) can do wonders for your self-esteem. The more confidence you build, the more likely you are to have more success in the future, which will create a cycle of confidence-building.

5. Treat All of You — Not Just Your Self-Consciousness

Trying to solve your self-consciousness alone may not treat the root of the problem. Instead, take a well-rounded approach to lower your self-consciousness and build confidence in areas where you may struggle.

Even professional counselors are embracing this holistic type of treatment[6] because they feel that the health of the mind and body are inextricably linked. This approach combines physical, spiritual, and psychological components. Common activities and treatments include meditation, yoga, massage, and healthy changes to diet and exercise.

If much of this is new to you, it will pay to give it a try. You never know how it will impact you.

If you’re feeling self-conscious about how your body looks, a massage that makes you feel great could boost your confidence. If you try a new workout, you could have something exciting to talk about the next time you’re in a group setting.

Putting yourself in a new situation and learning that you can get through it with grace can give you the confidence to get through all sorts of events and nerve-wracking moments.

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6. Make the Changes That Are Within Your Control

Let’s say you walk into a room and you’re self-conscious about how you look. However, you may have put a lot of time and effort into your outfit. Even though it may stand out, this is how you have chosen to express yourself.

You have to work on your internal confidence, not your external appearance. There’s nothing to change other than your outlook.

On the other hand, maybe there’s something that you don’t like about yourself that you can change. For example, maybe you hate how a birthmark on your face looks or have varicose veins that you think are unsightly. If you can do something about these things, do it! There’s nothing wrong with changing your appearance (or skills, education, etc.) if it’s going to make you more confident.

You don’t have to accept your current situation for acceptance’s sake. There’s no award for putting up with something you hate. Confidence is also required to make changes that are scary, even if they’re for the better. Plus, it may be an easier fix than you thought. For example, treating varicose veins doesn’t have to involve surgery — sometimes simple compression stockings will take care of the problem.[7]

7. Realize That Everyone Has Awkward Moments

Everyone has said something awkward to someone else and lived to tell the tale. We’ve all forgotten somebody’s name or said, “You too!” when the concession stand girl says to enjoy our movie. Not only are these things uber-common, but they’re not nearly as embarrassing as you feel they are.

Think about how you react when someone else does something awkward. Do you think, “Wow, that person’s such a loser!” or do you think, “What a relief, I’m not the only one who does that.” Chances are good that’s the same reaction others have to you when you stumble.

Remember, self-consciousness is a state of mind that you have control over. You don’t have to feel this way. Do what you need to in order to build your confidence, put your self-consciousness in perspective, and start exercising your “I feel awesome about myself” muscle. It’ll get easier with time.

When Is Being Self-Conscious a Good Thing?

Self-consciousness can sometimes be a good thing[8], but you have to take the awkwardness and nerves out of it.

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In this case, “self-aware” is a much better term. Knowing how you come off to people is an excellent trait; you’ll be able to read a room and understand how what you do and say affects others. These are fantastic skills for people work and personal relationships.

Self-awareness helps you dress appropriately for the occasion, tells you that you’re talking too loud or not loud enough, and guides a conversation so you don’t offend or bore anyone.

It’s not about being someone you’re not — that can actually have adverse effects, just like self-consciousness. Instead, it’s about turning up certain aspects of yourself to perform well in the situation.

Final Thoughts

When you’re self-conscious, you’re constantly battling with yourself in an effort to control how other people view you. You try to change yourself to suit what you think other people want to see.

The truth, though, is that you can’t actually control how other people view you — and you may not even be correct about how they view you in the first place.

Being confident doesn’t happen overnight. Instead, it happens in small steps as you slowly build your confidence and say “no” to your self-consciousness. It also requires accepting that you’re going to feel self-conscious sometimes, and that’s okay.

Sometimes worrying that there is a problem can be more stressful than the problem itself. Feeling bad for feeling self-conscious can be more troublesome than simply feeling it and getting on with the day.

Forgive yourself for being human and make the small changes that will lead to better confidence in the future.

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Reference

[1] Merriam-Webster: Self-conscious
[2] Bustle: 7 Tips On How To Stop Feeling Self-Conscious
[3] Marc and Angel: 10 Things to Remember When You Feel Unsure of Yourself
[4] Bostitch: How to Protect Small Businesses From Burnout
[5] Psychology Today: Self-conscious? Get Over It
[6] Wake Forest University: Embracing Holistic Medicine
[7] Center for Vein Restoration: What Causes Venous Ulcers, and How Are They Treated?
[8] Scientific American: The Pros and Cons of Being Self-Aware

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