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7 Free Ways to Make Yourself More Attractive

7 Free Ways to Make Yourself More Attractive

To be more attractive doesn’t need to cost you any money. Your goal of becoming more attractive can be made much easier by taking these tips and applying them in your own life.

Laughter is a lovely thing.

Ever notice how some of the hottest people have a wicked sense of humor? They’re busy laughing rather than taking life too seriously, and they keep you grinning too. These hotties aren’t afraid of a few laughs at their own expense either. After a long day at school or work, take some time to watch a comedic television show or read posts on one of your favorite websites. It will help you relax and maybe even take yourself a little less seriously. Laughter is not only a great method for de-stressing, keep it up and you will even burn some calories. Go ahead, crack a smile.

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Take a moment to become more cultured, because you’re classy like that.

Cultured individuals are aware of various areas of society. People are drawn to their knowledge, experiences and their curiosity for new things. There are simple ways to become more cultured. Many of today’s films have been adapted from books. Why not try a book that you’ve always heard about, but never read? After you’ve finished the book, watch as you suddenly recognize all the cultural references that point to that piece of literature. You can become familiar with just about anything from books, to wine or music. Everyone knows that one song from an advertisement they’ve heard so many times, they can recite the lyrics word-for-word. Despite that fact, if anyone asked you the artist or even the name of the song, you wouldn’t have a clue. Here’s what you do: type the lyrics into a search engine and find the song. As you dance to the sweet, sweet melody, take in important details such as the artist as well as the year it was released. Congratulations, you’ve just gained some musical knowledge—equating to a bit of culture.

Generosity makes for one fine specimen.

Doing your research and finding a charity that you support is just one way to be generous to others. If you don’t have funds to donate, give others your time. Whether it’s helping your mother with yard work, tutoring kids at your local schools or simply listening to a friend vent over daily stress, when people recognize your willingness to do for others they will appreciate it.

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Walk with confidence and you’ll feel foxy.

Confidence is an attractive trait to have. If you want to communicate to anyone around you that you possess this characteristic, a great place to start is with your walk. Making sure that you walk with your eyes facing forward can help give off a positive impression. An upright position helps improve your posture and looks so much more attractive than slouching. This can translate into the way that you sit as well. There is even the possibility of preventing excessive back pain in the future. For men, taking large steps sends signals of confidence and purpose. In women, finding a pace at which you are comfortable is a great way to help project confidence as you walk. Get into the practice of lifting your chin and pulling in your shoulders whenever you walk. Your walk is an important nonverbal indicator of how you feel.

Sticking to Your Convictions? That’s a beautiful thing.

Do you have a set of beliefs that you try your best to live by each day? Convictions come in many forms and are specific to each individual. Where one person may find an act morally wrong, another might feel the opposite. Because of your convictions, you may expose only minimal skin or you may find it necessary to confess to bad behavior. The fact is, mature adults may not necessarily agree with all of your choices but they will be able to respect that it is a part of who you are. If you express your convictions and are unwavering toward sticking to them without feeling the need to push these convictions onto others, that is all the more reason to respect you.

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Hey good-looking, do you work out?

Do you work out? If you don’t, you definitely should. There are an infinite number of reasons why individuals should make time in their day to work out. Getting in at least 30 – 45 minutes of exercise three to five days a week will help maintain your body weight, and contribute to long-term benefits as well. Creating and adhering to a workout schedule will result in strengthening of your muscles and weight loss. You will benefit internally and the results will eventually become physically noticeable as well.

Put good inside, and get a gorgeous glow.

Take a look in your refrigerator and make a meal or fix yourself a drink using the colorful array of tastes and textures that fruits and vegetables offer you. Making these items a large part of your diet will help create a beautiful complexion. Another item to incorporate into your diet is green tea. With a large list of health benefits including improved blood pressure, oral health and even weigh, this is a powerful food product that you’ll definitely want to take in. Water is a fluid you will always want to have an abundance of inside your body. Not only does it hydrate you, it contributes to cell growth. Remember to never underestimate the effectiveness of these food and drink options in helping you get the best glow possible. Your goal of becoming more attractive can be made much easier by taking these tips and applying them in your own life. They’re free and so easy to do. Use these suggestions and begin feeling more attractive right away.

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Published on April 7, 2021

6 Signs Of A Controlling Person To Be Aware Of

6 Signs Of A Controlling Person To Be Aware Of

Some of the most manipulative people are so good at what they do that their words and actions can convince you into thinking they truly care about what’s best for you when in reality, it’s quite the opposite. The most common signs of a controlling person are rarely obvious to outside observers. And for someone enmeshed in a controlling relationship or friendship, it can be incredibly challenging to stay away from this toxic person, even if you’re aware of their emotionally abusive tendencies.

While it’s ultimately up to you to decide whether to preserve or leave a lopsided, unfulfilling relationship, it’s nevertheless critical to understand the following six signs of controlling people so you can better advocate for yourself and mitigate the influence of their manipulative tendencies in your own life.

1. They Push Their Own Personal Agenda

Do you know someone who always tries to micromanage the words, behaviors, and attitudes of people around them? Does this person act like they have the right to know anything they want about you, including your location, what you’re doing in a given moment, who you’re talking to online, or any other private information about you? And when planning events and special occasions, does this person dominate conversations, steer plans in their own preferred directions, disparage others’ suggestions, and refuse to collaborate with anyone who might disagree with them?

If you answered “yes” to some of the above questions, then those are clear signs of a controlling person whom you absolutely need to be cautious around. Controlling people are reluctant to even consider alternative ideas, let alone enthusiastically work with people who have differing views. They prefer to be the captain of every ship—regardless of how much or how little an issue personally impacts them—and they have an arsenal of manipulative tactics to deploy if someone stands in the way of them achieving their own personal agendas.

In long-term relationships with controlling people, you may feel constantly pressured to meet their demands, follow their schedule, and focus on whatever they feel is most important. It’s not an exaggeration to say that these people act like the universe revolves around them, which can be exhausting to deal with for their family members, friends, and colleagues.

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2. They Make Everything Transactional

Controlling people aren’t always self-centered, but they’re not too empathetic either. Empathy for them tends to appear in the form of strategic concessions they use as a means to get what they want. They typically view interpersonal relationships as transactional opportunities to extract more value from people surrounding them, which can have a draining effect on those they interact with.

For example, one sign of a controlling person may be their insistence on “keeping score.” This can involve doing nice things for you with the ulterior motive of demanding something from you at a later date in exchange for what you thought was just an act of kindness or a friendly support.

Perhaps they shower you in praise (also known as “love-bombing”) or gifts then blow up at you if you don’t intuitively know they’re expecting something back from you. None of us are mind-readers, but controlling people behave as though everyone else should think and act like they want others to and those who fall out of line are punished for failing to meet their impossible expectations.

A controlling person may also threaten to withhold support if you don’t adhere to their demands, but they do so in such subtle ways that the guilt they impose blinds you from the unreasonable nature of their behaviors.

Some statements to be wary of include:

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  • “I did ___________ for you. What do you mean you can’t do ___________ for me?”
  • “Remember how I helped you with ___________? That took a lot of time and energy from me, but I guess you didn’t appreciate my help.”
  • “I always give you ___________. Don’t you care about my needs too?”
  • “You’re so selfish!” or “You don’t care about me at all!” (gaslighting if you respond with hesitation or politely decline their request for help for perfectly valid reasons, such as not having enough time or resources to assist them)

3. They Criticize Everything

One of the most common telltale signs of a controlling person is their capacity to criticize anything and everything, even small things that seemingly don’t matter. As with many toxic traits in relationships, these problems typically start out so small that you may not even notice. At first, you may even agree with their criticism or at least be able to understand their perspective when they bring up an issue.

However, the criticism tends to get more intense, more constant, and more perplexing for people who maintain relationships with controlling people. You’ll likely notice how they rarely seem to criticize something they do. It’s almost always other-oriented and these types of people are so manipulative that any rationale they offer can seem plausibly legitimate.

Some warning signs of a controlling person who’s overly critical to the point of abusiveness include:

  • Criticizing things about you that you have little to no control over (e.g., appearance, disability, family)
  • Criticizing your personal choices and interests, such as educational pursuits, career, clothing, favorite music, time spent on your hobbies, etc.
  • Punishing you for expressing vulnerability by invalidating thoughts and feelings you share with them
  • Attacking you whenever you express an opinion counter to theirs

4. They Balk When Someone Criticizes Them

We all know the adage, “what goes around, comes around.” But this statement doesn’t apply as much to toxic, controlling people. They’d much prefer to dish out criticism without ever having to take it in return.

For instance, if your friend constantly talks about your appearance with little regard for your emotions but flips out if you make just a single comment about their appearance, there’s a possibility that they could have some hidden controlling tendencies left unchecked. Remember, these people aren’t just controlling in their behaviors towards others. They’re also actively trying to stay in complete control over every aspect of their lives, which includes how others view them.

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This seemingly insatiable desire for control can prompt them to lash out against even the smallest bits of criticism, leaving people around them too weary or scared to speak up again in the future. While it’s possible they may suffer from something called rejection sensitivity dysphoria, this does not excuse them from the consequences of their words and actions. They should seek professional help to better manage their reactions to criticism.

5. They Socially Isolate You

Not all controlling people do this, but for manipulative narcissists, socially isolating victims is a go-to strategy for maintaining control because it’s effective at preventing people from truly understanding how toxic their partner, family member, or friend is treating them. Think of it this way—if you don’t talk to many other people in your life, there’s less of a risk that you’ll damage their reputation by revealing their abusive tendencies.

Socially isolating others also gives the person more control over you and your life as it becomes more difficult to break away from them if you don’t have other healthier channels of communication and interpersonal support to turn to.

This process doesn’t happen overnight, nor is it something you can readily recognize as abusive. At first, it may seem reasonable, such as asking you to stop engaging so often with family members with whom both of you disagree on major social or political issues. As the social isolation progresses, they may suggest cutting people out of your life—especially if they don’t like that person, regardless of how you personally feel—or even conjure up high-stakes problems like “it’s me or them” under the guise of saving you from people in your life whom they don’t like for whatever reason.

In a controlling person’s life narrative, they’re always the protagonist who’s incapable of any wrongdoing. The blame is always redirected at someone else, whether that’s you or other people in your life. The more they isolate you from other supportive people in your life, the more susceptible you’ll be to falsely believing that they’re right and you “don’t need” your other friends and family when you have someone as perfect as this person.

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6. They’re Emotionally Abusive

It’s hard enough to be in control of your own emotions but when someone else is constantly belittling you and your interests or leveraging guilt and shame to manipulate you into saying or doing what they want, this can make it even more challenging to stay in control of your own life and emotional well-being.

Emotional abuse is another sign of a controlling person that is often overlooked in relationships. After all, human personalities vary widely in terms of passivity, and it’s not uncommon for one person in a relationship to be significantly more passive than the other. This becomes an issue when the controlling partner or friend exudes signs of emotional abuse, which can start subtly and become much more pronounced over time.

Concerning signs of emotionally abusive language or behavior to watch out for include:

  • Dismissing your needs and/or belittling your interests in counterproductive ways
  • Privately or publicly shaming or humiliating you
  • Making you feel as though you can never live up to their expectations or do anything right (according to their own vague, subjective standards)
  • Gaslighting you into thinking they said or did something that never actually happened (making you question your own reality)

Final Thoughts

It’s sometimes hard to see the negative things about someone with whom we have a relationship. We may sometimes unconsciously overlook the signs of a controlling person, especially if that person is someone we have known for a long time or are close to us. However, cutting them off your life is the best thing you can do for yourself. Just watch out for these six signs of a controlling person and take immediate action when you spot them.

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