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7 Free Ways to Make Yourself More Attractive

7 Free Ways to Make Yourself More Attractive

To be more attractive doesn’t need to cost you any money. Your goal of becoming more attractive can be made much easier by taking these tips and applying them in your own life.

Laughter is a lovely thing.

Ever notice how some of the hottest people have a wicked sense of humor? They’re busy laughing rather than taking life too seriously, and they keep you grinning too. These hotties aren’t afraid of a few laughs at their own expense either. After a long day at school or work, take some time to watch a comedic television show or read posts on one of your favorite websites. It will help you relax and maybe even take yourself a little less seriously. Laughter is not only a great method for de-stressing, keep it up and you will even burn some calories. Go ahead, crack a smile.

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Take a moment to become more cultured, because you’re classy like that.

Cultured individuals are aware of various areas of society. People are drawn to their knowledge, experiences and their curiosity for new things. There are simple ways to become more cultured. Many of today’s films have been adapted from books. Why not try a book that you’ve always heard about, but never read? After you’ve finished the book, watch as you suddenly recognize all the cultural references that point to that piece of literature. You can become familiar with just about anything from books, to wine or music. Everyone knows that one song from an advertisement they’ve heard so many times, they can recite the lyrics word-for-word. Despite that fact, if anyone asked you the artist or even the name of the song, you wouldn’t have a clue. Here’s what you do: type the lyrics into a search engine and find the song. As you dance to the sweet, sweet melody, take in important details such as the artist as well as the year it was released. Congratulations, you’ve just gained some musical knowledge—equating to a bit of culture.

Generosity makes for one fine specimen.

Doing your research and finding a charity that you support is just one way to be generous to others. If you don’t have funds to donate, give others your time. Whether it’s helping your mother with yard work, tutoring kids at your local schools or simply listening to a friend vent over daily stress, when people recognize your willingness to do for others they will appreciate it.

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Walk with confidence and you’ll feel foxy.

Confidence is an attractive trait to have. If you want to communicate to anyone around you that you possess this characteristic, a great place to start is with your walk. Making sure that you walk with your eyes facing forward can help give off a positive impression. An upright position helps improve your posture and looks so much more attractive than slouching. This can translate into the way that you sit as well. There is even the possibility of preventing excessive back pain in the future. For men, taking large steps sends signals of confidence and purpose. In women, finding a pace at which you are comfortable is a great way to help project confidence as you walk. Get into the practice of lifting your chin and pulling in your shoulders whenever you walk. Your walk is an important nonverbal indicator of how you feel.

Sticking to Your Convictions? That’s a beautiful thing.

Do you have a set of beliefs that you try your best to live by each day? Convictions come in many forms and are specific to each individual. Where one person may find an act morally wrong, another might feel the opposite. Because of your convictions, you may expose only minimal skin or you may find it necessary to confess to bad behavior. The fact is, mature adults may not necessarily agree with all of your choices but they will be able to respect that it is a part of who you are. If you express your convictions and are unwavering toward sticking to them without feeling the need to push these convictions onto others, that is all the more reason to respect you.

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Hey good-looking, do you work out?

Do you work out? If you don’t, you definitely should. There are an infinite number of reasons why individuals should make time in their day to work out. Getting in at least 30 – 45 minutes of exercise three to five days a week will help maintain your body weight, and contribute to long-term benefits as well. Creating and adhering to a workout schedule will result in strengthening of your muscles and weight loss. You will benefit internally and the results will eventually become physically noticeable as well.

Put good inside, and get a gorgeous glow.

Take a look in your refrigerator and make a meal or fix yourself a drink using the colorful array of tastes and textures that fruits and vegetables offer you. Making these items a large part of your diet will help create a beautiful complexion. Another item to incorporate into your diet is green tea. With a large list of health benefits including improved blood pressure, oral health and even weigh, this is a powerful food product that you’ll definitely want to take in. Water is a fluid you will always want to have an abundance of inside your body. Not only does it hydrate you, it contributes to cell growth. Remember to never underestimate the effectiveness of these food and drink options in helping you get the best glow possible. Your goal of becoming more attractive can be made much easier by taking these tips and applying them in your own life. They’re free and so easy to do. Use these suggestions and begin feeling more attractive right away.

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Last Updated on December 17, 2018

Why You Think You’re Not Good Enough and How To Believe in Yourself

Why You Think You’re Not Good Enough and How To Believe in Yourself

Have you ever wanted to say something at work, but a little voice of doubt crept in and said, “what if you are wrong”?

Maybe you wanted to apply for that promotion or ask that special someone on a date, but something kept you from taking action. When you think you’re not good enough, you tend to fear the outcome and lack faith in your abilities. That is why it is vital you discover how to believe in yourself so you can accomplish your goals and create your dream life.

Whatever your situation, the fears and self-doubt your false beliefs create will always stop you in your tracks. Identifying the beliefs that cause you to sabotage your life is the first step to removing them.

Self-doubt causes inaction, and inaction leads to regret. When you are not following your passion and living your dream life, you are left with a lot of questions:

  • What if I took a chance on myself?
  • Could I have had a better life if I took more risks?
  • Am I be satisfied with the legacy I am leaving behind?
  • What could I have accomplished if I did not settle for less?

So why would you think you’re not good enough?

1. Parenting

The perception you have of yourself is based on your past experiences. There are studies that show children mimic everything from their parents ability to regulate emotions, to their parents belief about money.[1]

I have had clients who did not believe they were good enough because they did not receive any positive reinforcement as a child. When they were young, their parents were extremely overprotective.

Think of your childhood challenges like dragons you had to slay. Each obstacle you overcame was another dragon you successfully removed from your life. As you slay more dragons, your self-esteem and confidence increase. When someone has overprotective parents, their parents end up slaying the dragons.

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As a result, the child builds more confidence in their parent’s abilities, while still doubting their own.

If you are never encouraged to slay your own dragons, you start to doubt whether you can. It is only natural for a child to conclude their parents are always helping them because they think they need it. This child ages into an adult who still believes they are not good enough. They seek the help and confirmation of others, and they rarely stand-up to opposition.

Solution: Slay Your Dragons!

If you want to believe in yourself, you are going to have to take steps to rebuild your trust in yourself. Start by keeping your word to others and arriving on-time. By showing yourself that others can (and do) trust you, you are going to feel more comfortable trusting yourself.

As you move onto larger and more challenging tasks, you have built a foundation of trust in your ability to keep your word. Next, you are going to want to reclaim your sword from others. At first, you may want to confide in whoever it is currently slaying your dragons.

Understand if it is your parent or someone who loves you, they want the best for you and mean well. You are simply going to tell them that you want to do the work, and will ask them for their thoughts in the planning phase. Feel free to check in with them and give them updates on your progress, while making sure they understand you are wanting to do the work yourself.

Then when the task is completed, let them know so you can celebrate together. Now that you have slayed your own dragon, you can start to reclaim your confidence. By you utilizing them as your guide, you get the added bonus of someone you respect and admire, telling you how amazing you are.

Think of it like a symbolic passing of the torch. Now, you are both dragon slayers. Which means all the positive attributes you attributed to them slaying your dragons, now belong to you.

2. Over-Exaggerating and Oversimplifying

Your past experiences may involve you or someone close to you failing. When you experience failure, you can lose your desire to continue. This has less to do with whether you are brave or scared, and more to do with the fact that your mind does not like failure.

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No one enjoys participating in events in which they under-perform. Outside of the usual reasons of embarrassment, feelings of inadequacy, and fear of failure – it is simply not fun.

Who wants to play baseball if they strikeout every time it is their turn? Would you enjoy singing in front of an audience if you were booed off the stage every time you performed? I could go on, but I think you get the point.

The thing about those two examples is no one really strikes out “every” at-bat. It is also unlikely someone could be booed off the stage “every time” they performed in-front of an audience.

What ends up happening is you oversimplify and exaggerate your past experiences and then your mind believes you. If you believe you are not good enough to ask someone on a date because they “always” tell you no, then do not be surprised you never muster the courage to do so.

If you want to overcome these feelings of inadequacy, start by changing your beliefs. This exercise does not need to be complicated. If you believe you strikeout every time it is your turn, I want to you to go to a batting cage and keep swinging until you hit the baseball.

When you experience success, I want you to take a mental note, write it down, or have someone video it. This is your proof that you do not always strike out. Then, whenever your belief that you are not good enough resurfaces, you are going to replay that video.

Regardless of the situation, you can find a successful experience that you are overlooking.

Solution: Read About the Failures of Others

It sounds a little crazy, I know, but reading about the failures of other successful people will improve your confidence. In a study conducted by Columbia University, they found that teaching students about the failures of great scientists encouraged them to do better.[2]

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When you are battling fear and self-doubt, you tend to over-exaggerate the abilities of others and diminish your own by comparison. You start to believe the successful are successful because they are courageous risk-takers, who do not take no for an answer. You tell yourself, they are meant to succeed, while you on the other hand are not.

When you are able to relate to the successful, you start to realize they have the same struggles and challenges you do. The only difference is they kept going.

Now it is not a question of whether you can succeed, it is a question of whether you want to succeed.

3. Undervalue Yourself

What is the main difference between someone who believes they are good enough and someone who does not? The person who believes they are good enough understands they are a person of value.

What I mean by this is if you do not believe you are worth being listened to, you will not have anything to say. If you do not believe you are good enough to be respected and treated as such, you will accept and rationalize all kinds of mistreatment.

There is an old saying that we are treated as we allow ourselves to be treated. When someone has the confidence and self-esteem that commands respect, they will not accept being treated any kind of way. However, if someone does not see themselves as worthy, they will remain in toxic situations because they do not believe anything better is on the horizon.

Dr. Jennifer Crocker, who worked on a series of self-esteem studies, found in her latest research that:[3]

“College students who based their self-worth on external sources–including appearance, approval from others and even their academic performance–reported more stress, anger, academic problems, relationship conflicts, and had higher levels of drug and alcohol use and symptoms of eating disorders”

Solution: Internalize Your Self-Worth

Instead of valuing yourself based on the awards, recognition, and accolades of others, you need to search internally. By basing your perception of yourself on your core values, you can regain control over self-image.

Instead of focusing on things that are outside of control, keep your mind on what it is that makes you special. You are not defined by your job, relationships, religion, or education. Rather, you are defined by the manner in which you participate in these things. You may be a creative, hard-working, and compassionate person; and that shows up in every thing you do.

Understand that you do not need to be creative, hard-working, and compassionate all the time to consider yourself these things. You are not trying to be perfect, but you are trying to connect with your true self.

By understanding the similarities in which you tackle objectives, you will build a consistent and powerful self-worth that stands apart from external confirmation.

Final Thoughts

Do not allow your past experiences do dictate your future success. You do not want to look back on your life and have a lot of questions and regrets.

Build trust in yourself by taking action today. This will help you build the confidence you need to believe in yourself and your ability to become the champion of your life.

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