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60 Thought Provoking Questions That Will Change Your Perspective On Life

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60 Thought Provoking Questions That Will Change Your Perspective On Life

We spend most of our lives whizzing through our days. There is precious little time to self-reflect in order to change our perspective on life.

These questions are designed to help you get started on one of the most important things you can do for yourself; become more self-reflective in order to improve yourself and your relationships.

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As you read these questions, consider how they might challenge long held assumptions you may have about yourself and others.

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  1. Who are the people you surround yourself with?
  2. Do you have a personal mission statement?
  3. How do you express your gratitude for good things and people you have in your life?
  4. What are you spending your money on?
  5. Are you satisfied with your work?
  6. If you had unlimited resources, how would you live your life?
  7. Did you pause to celebrate the last time you accomplished a goal, big or small?
  8. Do you consider yourself worthy of love and admiration?
  9. How do you react when you encounter a homeless person?
  10. Do you meditate daily for at least 5 minutes?
  11. What story are you telling yourself about your life?
  12. How do you deal with failure?
  13. What is your favorite quote?
  14. What do you want your life to look like in 5 years? Do you have a plan to get there?
  15. What messages have you internalized?
  16. What inspires you?
  17. If you could only speak one word today, what would you say?
  18. When was the last time you took some time to be alone?
  19. If you could spend 15 minutes with anyone, living or dead, who would it be? Why?
  20. Did you say “I love you” to the most important person in your life today?
  21. What step can you take today in order to fulfill your deepest desire?
  22. How have you educated yourself today?
  23. What did failure to reach your goal teach you about yourself?
  24. Did you read a positive or uplifting book today?
  25. Are you holding on to any past mistakes?
  26. What habits are holding you back from success?
  27. Are you feeding your fears or your hopes and dreams?
  28. What gives you peace?
  29. How do you challenge your assumptions?
  30. What is the biggest frustration you’re facing now?
  31. Are your goals and dreams written down?
  32. What is your relationship with money?
  33. How do you keep a sense of perspective when life gets difficult?
  34. Are you a good listener?
  35. What gives you meaning?
  36. How often do you keep in touch with family and friends?
  37. What is the source of your procrastination?
  38. How much time are you spending on social media?
  39. Are you able to say no, even when it makes you unpopular?
  40. Who are your professors in the school of life?
  41. Do you bring your work home with you?
  42. When was the last time you had an exciting idea that kept you awake most of the night? Are you pursuing that idea today?
  43. What are the top 2 compliments you hear from people about yourself?
  44. When someone sees your name on caller ID, what thoughts and feelings do you want them to have?
  45. Have you ever invested in yourself financially? Why or why not?
  46. If you were asked to describe yourself in one word, what would it be?
  47. What books have influenced you the most?
  48. Who are the people under your influence?
  49. Do you trust your own instincts?
  50. Do you choose happiness or leave it to chance?
  51. Are you open to experiencing something outside your comfort zone everyday?
  52. What small habit can you change today?
  53. What’s your favorite exercise routine?
  54. Name one psychological barrier in your life? What is it holding you back from doing?
  55. Do you fear rejection? What are you doing to overcome this fear?
  56. Do you follow through on commitments?
  57. How many times a day do you check your email?
  58. Are you content? If not, what is the source of your lack of contentment?
  59. If you could eliminate one things from your life today, what would it be?
  60. Who are you becoming?

I encourage you to go through the questions again, slowly and deliberately. This list is not exhaustive, so I hope it inspires you to ask more thought provoking questions and inspire you for the better.

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Last Updated on November 18, 2021

10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

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10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

We all fall into the trap of judging a person’s character by their appearance. How wrong we are! All too often, the real character of the person only appears when some negative event hits them or you. Then you may see a toxic person emerging from the ruins and it is often a shock.

A truly frightening example is revealed in the book by O’Toole in Bowman called Dangerous Instincts: How Gut Instincts Betray Us. A perfectly respectable, charming, well dressed neighbor was found to have installed a torture chamber in his garage where he was systematically abusing kidnapped women. This is an extreme example, but it does show how we can be totally deceived by a person’s physical appearance, manners and behavior.

So, what can you do? You want to be able to assess personal qualities when you come into contact with colleagues, fresh acquaintances and new friends who might even become lifelong partners. You want to know if they are:

  • honest
  • reliable
  • competent
  • kind and compassionate
  • capable of taking the blame
  • able to persevere
  • modest and humble
  • pacific and can control anger.

The secret is to reserve judgment and take your time. Observe them in certain situations; look at how they react. Listen to them talking, joking, laughing, explaining, complaining, blaming, praising, ranting, and preaching. Only then will you be able to judge their character. This is not foolproof, but if you follow the 10 ways below, you have a pretty good chance of not ending up in an abusive relationship.

1. Is anger a frequent occurrence?

All too often, angry reactions which may seem to be excessive are a sign that there are underlying issues. Do not think that every person who just snaps and throws his/her weight around mentally and physically is just reacting normally. Everyone has an occasional angry outburst when driving or when things go pear-shaped.

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But if this is almost a daily occurrence, then you need to discover why and maybe avoid that person. Too often, anger will escalate to violent and aggressive behavior. You do not want to be near someone who thinks violence can solve personal or global problems.

2. Can you witness acts of kindness?

How often do you see this person being kind and considerate? Do they give money to beggars, donate to charity, do voluntary work or in some simple way show that they are willing to share the planet with about 7 billion other people?

I was shocked when a guest of mine never showed any kindness to the weak and disadvantaged people in our town. She was ostensibly a religious person, but I began to doubt the sincerity of her beliefs.

“The best index to a person’s character is how he treats people who can’t do him any good, and how he treats people who can’t fight back.”

Abigail Van Buren

3. How does this person take the blame?

Maybe you know that s/he is responsible for a screw-up in the office or even in not turning up on time for a date. Look at their reaction. If they start blaming other colleagues or the traffic, well, this is an indication that they are not willing to take responsibility for their mistakes.

4. Don’t use Facebook as an indicator.

You will be relieved to know that graphology (the study of that forgotten skill of handwriting) is no longer considered a reliable test of a person’s character. Neither is Facebook stalking, fortunately. A study showed that Facebook use of foul language, sexual innuendo and gossip were not reliable indicators of a candidate’s character or future performance in the workplace.

5. Read their emails.

Now a much better idea is to read the person’s emails. Studies show that the use of the following can indicate certain personality traits:

  • Too many exclamation points may reveal a sunny disposition
  • Frequent errors may indicate apathy
  • Use of smileys is the only way a person can smile at you
  • Use of the third person may reveal a certain formality
  • Too many question marks can show anger
  • Overuse of capital letters is regarded as shouting. They are a definite no-no in netiquette, yet a surprising number of  people still use them.

6. Watch out for the show offs.

Listen to people as they talk. How often do they mention their achievements, promotions, awards and successes? If this happens a lot, it is a sure indication that this person has an over-inflated view of his/her achievements. They are unlikely to be modest or show humility. What a pity!  Another person to avoid.

7. Look for evidence of perseverance.

A powerful indicator of grit and tenacity is when a person persists and never gives up when they really want to achieve a life goal. Look for evidence of them keeping going in spite of enormous difficulties.

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Great achievements by scientists and inventors all bear the hallmark of perseverance. We only have to think of Einstein, Edison (who failed thousands of times) and Nelson Mandela to get inspiration. The US Department of Education is in no doubt about how grit, tenacity and perseverance will be key success factors for youth in the 21st century.

8. Their empathy score is high.

Listen to how they talk about the less fortunate members of our society such as the poor, immigrants and the disabled. Do you notice that they talk in a compassionate way about these people? The fact that they even mention them is a strong indicator of empathy.

People with zero empathy will never talk about the disadvantaged. They will rarely ask you a question about a difficult time or relationship. They will usually steer the conversation back to themselves. These people have zero empathy and in extreme cases, they are psychopaths who never show any feelings towards their victims.

9. Learn how to be socially interactive.

We are social animals and this is what makes us so uniquely human. If a person is isolated or a loner, this may be a negative indicator of their character. You want to meet a person who knows about trust, honesty and loyalty. The only way to practice these great qualities is to actually interact socially. The great advantage is that you can share problems and celebrate success and joy together.

“One can acquire everything in solitude, except character.”

Stendhal

 10. Avoid toxic people.

These people are trying to control others and often are failing to come to terms with their own failures. Typical behavior and conversations may concern:

  • Envy or jealousy
  • Criticism of partners, colleagues and friends
  • Complaining about their own lack of success
  • Blaming others for their own bad luck or failure
  • Obsession with themselves and their problems

Listen to these people talk and you will quickly discover that you need to avoid them at all costs because their negativity will drag you down. In addition, as much as you would like to help them, you are not qualified to do so.

Now, having looked at some of the best ways to judge a person, what about yourself? How do others see you? Why not take Dr. Phil’s quiz and find out. Can you bear it?

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