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50 Wrong Assumptions that You Always Make

50 Wrong Assumptions that You Always Make

We can make wrong assumptions about almost anything in life. Sometimes we make mistakes from them, sometimes they misguide us and sometimes we can even use them as an excuse. They can be misleading or sometimes even irrational. There are assumptions about anything from work ethics, mathematics and even relationships and happiness. Here are fifty of the most common misassumptions. Perhaps you have heard these or even said some yourself.

  1. Just ignore it the problem will go away.
  2. he person next to me is better off!
  3. I have enough time for exam, I will start studying tomorrow.
  4. I am being perfectly logical and fair and everyone that disagrees with me is just plain stupid.
  5. They have the right to be loved.
  6. Quick to attribute to malice what can be explained by ignorance.
  7. My moral system is the social norm, if you don’t agree with me, something is wrong with you.
  8. Rational persuasions are persuasive.
  9. Being in a relationship gives you the right of ownership of your partner.
  10. Things will work out.
  11. They have sufficient informational for a rational decision.
  12. What is important to them is as important to others.
  13. The grass is greener on the other side.
  14. I can get a partner as long as I’m smart and attractive and friendly.
  15. It will not happen to me. One day, they will be wrong.
  16. There are no lessons to be learned from history.
  17. We all believe to be a bit smarter than somebody else, specially when our ego is involved.
  18. We are free and we can be completely free, in thinking, behavior and actions…
  19. The reward comes later.
  20. I am not appreciated because no one has told me recently.
  21. The harder you chase, the closer you get.
  22. You can balance things by taking revenge.
  23. Having more money can make them happy forever.
  24. Having fun costs money.
  25. I am important and I am right.
  26. Everything happens for a reason.
  27. Finding your true self is an on-going and endless process.
  28. Any assumption made is wrong.
  29. Love is respite to every other problem in life.
  30. If you’ve seen one, you’ve seen them all.
  31. Society watches you closely on whatever you do.
  32. Good times will eventually come.
  33. If I do this, people will think I am wrong.
  34. All eyes are on you.
  35. We can own something out there.
  36. We all are here to conquer something.
  37. Everyone is having an affair or cheating on their partner.
  38. We are making it up as we go along, some better than others.
  39. People are always completely to blame for their own actions regardless of the situation.
  40. You can fake it to make it, when there is someone else who will readily do it with more talent.
  41. My girlfriend splits up with me. ‘Ah, good thing I didn’t marry her and end up in a divorce.
  42. My wife splits up with me. ‘Ah, good thing we don’t have children yet. Could have been far more stickier.
  43. My wife who I have children with splits up with me. ‘Ah, good thing I’m not too old to remain single for the rest of my life.
  44. Everyone else is paying close attention to everything you do and judging you for it.
  45. They have been perfectly clear, so the onus of understanding is on the listener.
  46. Someone else will take responsibility.
  47. People often attribute the behavior of others to personality, while justifying their own behavior.
  48. We know what we’re talking about.
  49. Data is normally distributed.
  50. Functions are continuous.

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7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.

Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.

When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).

Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:

1. You’re depressed about your home life.

No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.

However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.

If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

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When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.

You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.

2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.

If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.

If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.

3. You can’t stop snooping.

Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.

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I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.

Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.

So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.

It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.

If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.

4. You’re afraid of commitment.

If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.

Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.

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No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.

If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.

Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.

5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.

If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.

Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.

Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.

Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.

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If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?

6. You resent, rather than love your partner.

When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.

When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.

If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.

7. You chase past feelings.

It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.

You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.

When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.

Final thoughts

If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.

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