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5 Ways to Live the Life of Your Dreams Right Now

5 Ways to Live the Life of Your Dreams Right Now

Are you living the life of your dreams right now?  If your answer is no, there are five things you could actually do, right now, that could help change your life immediately.

1. Get Conscious.

Take explicit not of what is working in your life and what isn’t working.  Are there areas of your life that you’re ignoring because they aren’t working, or because you feel like you have no choice other than to keep doing things the same old way?  Are you allowing time and space for what is working in your life to be nurtured, expanded, and grown or do you stuff it into 5 minute increments at the end of the day when no one else is looking?  Are you happy in your body? In your vocation? In your primary relationships? In your home? Why or why not?

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2. Stop being complacent and start being intentional.

Here’s a radical thought – you do not exist in reaction to your life.  Your life is not puppeteered by another person.  Every aspect of your life exists because on some level you made the choice to allow that aspect to show up.  If something negative happens what do you make that mean? That the universe is out to get you? That you deserved it? That you can never have what you want or get ahead? Or is it simply an obstacle that can be dealt with as you continue to move forward? How you think about things affects their impact on you.

Here’s another radical thought – you actually don’t have to suffer in order to have what you want.  You don’t have to compromise, be someone you’re not, or make choices out of alignment with your authentic expression.  You can make positive choices for yourself and your life that give you energy and make you happy.

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3. Really understand what it means to be at choice.

Life doesn’t happen to us, we consciously (or unconsciously) choose everything in our own life.  For example, when something awful happens to you do you blame someone else or decide you are a victim?  Or do you recognize that you actually get to choose how to respond to the situation?

4. Get clear about who you are.

Who are you? What is your authentic expression? What are you doing in the world?  What is uniquely yours to offer to the world? If you don’t know who you are and what you want then by golly it’s no surprise that you’re not living a life of your dreams.

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5. Lean into your Authenticity.

Once you get clear on what you are REALLY doing here start to live into it.  Maybe your unique purpose is to show the world that true love is possible, or that the paradigm of corporations could change, or that creativity is the root of happiness.  Whatever your purpose is, when you actually begin to align your life with that purpose your life will get easier.

Easier, you say?  Yes, easier. Because being yourself is life-giving.  Because being in touch with your unique purpose means decision-making gets easier – every choice becomes about what brings you closer to living your purpose and what draws you away from your purpose.  Your decisions become less influenced by other people’s opinions, how much money you can acquire, and what you can buy to numb yourself out because you hate your life.  You start to take inspired action.  In addition to ease you start to experience joy and fulfillment.  Funny how those can fit together (smile).

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If you are serious about beginning to live the life of your dreams right now, take some time to sit with and answer the following questions:  Who am I? What is my unique purpose? What makes me jump out of bed in the morning?  Conduct a moral inventory – what is out of alignment in your life? Where do compromise who you are in order to make other people comfortable or because you think you have to?  Get some support from a life or business coach to help you articulate who you are and what you want.  Then start living your dream life!

Featured photo credit: Christie via flickr.com

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12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Here are 12 things to remember:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

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2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

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7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

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Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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