Are you living the life of your dreams right now? If your answer is no, there are five things you could actually do, right now, that could help change your life immediately.
1. Get Conscious.
Take explicit not of what is working in your life and what isn’t working. Are there areas of your life that you’re ignoring because they aren’t working, or because you feel like you have no choice other than to keep doing things the same old way? Are you allowing time and space for what is working in your life to be nurtured, expanded, and grown or do you stuff it into 5 minute increments at the end of the day when no one else is looking? Are you happy in your body? In your vocation? In your primary relationships? In your home? Why or why not?
2. Stop being complacent and start being intentional.
Here’s a radical thought – you do not exist in reaction to your life. Your life is not puppeteered by another person. Every aspect of your life exists because on some level you made the choice to allow that aspect to show up. If something negative happens what do you make that mean? That the universe is out to get you? That you deserved it? That you can never have what you want or get ahead? Or is it simply an obstacle that can be dealt with as you continue to move forward? How you think about things affects their impact on you.
Here’s another radical thought – you actually don’t have to suffer in order to have what you want. You don’t have to compromise, be someone you’re not, or make choices out of alignment with your authentic expression. You can make positive choices for yourself and your life that give you energy and make you happy.
3. Really understand what it means to be at choice.
Life doesn’t happen to us, we consciously (or unconsciously) choose everything in our own life. For example, when something awful happens to you do you blame someone else or decide you are a victim? Or do you recognize that you actually get to choose how to respond to the situation?
4. Get clear about who you are.
Who are you? What is your authentic expression? What are you doing in the world? What is uniquely yours to offer to the world? If you don’t know who you are and what you want then by golly it’s no surprise that you’re not living a life of your dreams.
5. Lean into your Authenticity.
Once you get clear on what you are REALLY doing here start to live into it. Maybe your unique purpose is to show the world that true love is possible, or that the paradigm of corporations could change, or that creativity is the root of happiness. Whatever your purpose is, when you actually begin to align your life with that purpose your life will get easier.
Easier, you say? Yes, easier. Because being yourself is life-giving. Because being in touch with your unique purpose means decision-making gets easier – every choice becomes about what brings you closer to living your purpose and what draws you away from your purpose. Your decisions become less influenced by other people’s opinions, how much money you can acquire, and what you can buy to numb yourself out because you hate your life. You start to take inspired action. In addition to ease you start to experience joy and fulfillment. Funny how those can fit together (smile).
If you are serious about beginning to live the life of your dreams right now, take some time to sit with and answer the following questions: Who am I? What is my unique purpose? What makes me jump out of bed in the morning? Conduct a moral inventory – what is out of alignment in your life? Where do compromise who you are in order to make other people comfortable or because you think you have to? Get some support from a life or business coach to help you articulate who you are and what you want. Then start living your dream life!
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