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5 Steps To Find Out Your Life Purpose

5 Steps To Find Out Your Life Purpose

Finding out your life purpose is one of the most fulfilling journeys that you can ever take.

Why are you here in this world?

Why do you exist?

What do you think is your reason for living?

Now, you don’t have to immediately have the answers to all of these questions–you need to discover the answers gradually.

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Here are five simple steps you will need to undergo in order to discover your purpose in life.

1. Your life purpose matters to you. Find that One Thing that absolutely catches your interest.

Look deep into your heart and pinpoint that One Thing that captivates you. What makes you awestruck? Check out your bookmarked websites–what do they have in common? Bring out your reading list–what’s that topic that you’re particularly interested in?

Look back to the times when you talk with people–what subject matter can you find yourself talking about for long hours?

What’s that One Thing that you’d feel fulfilled to pursue?

Singing? Writing? Speaking? Dancing? Painting? Crafts-making? Reading?

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Be honest with yourself. You’ll find that One Thing soon enough.

2. It should serve people around you. Lend some of your time and do some volunteer work.

Remember, the volunteer work that you should be doing must be connected with the One Thing that you were able to pinpoint in step one. Just do the work without any expectation of being compensated or being given the credit.

Your life purpose should have a massive impact to your community–it should be something that you love doing and something that people love seeing you do. Purpose, after all, is best when shared with others.

3. Your life purpose should enhance your growth as a person. Pinpoint your primary talent.

Some people say that they’re good at everything–this isn’t true at all. You can only be absolutely excellent at one thing and just average at the others.

You can find out your talent if you know which of your abilities can make you stand out like an ultimate celebrity. What are you wonderful at? What is the skill that compels people to come up to you and say, “Good job!” or “Wow, you really have a skill for that”?

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4. Passion, service and talent should be all interrelated to form your life purpose. Connect the dots.

Once you’ve discovered that One Thing that you love doing, that thing that you can use to serve others and that thing that you’re very great at, you might be surprised to know that all of these are connected!

Take Nick Vujicic for example.

Nick loves communicating and expressing his religious views to everyone.

Nick serves people by inspiring them and motivating them to be the best that they can be.

Nick is absolutely wonderful at communications and public speaking.

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5. Act on it.

Your family and friends may discourage you and tell you to just sit back and let things happen. Now, they do this because they think they’re protecting you, when in fact, they’re really just protecting themselves. They’re scared that you have the desire to find out your life purpose. This the first time they’ve seen someone do this, so forgive them. Forgive their negativity, their discouragement and their frustration.

Just go out there and really get your feet wet and your hands dirty.

Serve people by doing that One Thing that you’re passionate about.

Reach out to mentors in the same industry that you’re targeting.

Finding out your life purpose isn’t about attending classes, dissecting being-centered theories or working on a thesis. It’s about exploration–it’s an adventure that you can only take if you’re willing to.

Promise yourself that you will discover your life purpose so that you can make a difference.

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Lianne Martha Maiquez Laroya

Lianne is a licensed financial advisor, Registered Financial Planner, entrepreneur and book author.

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Last Updated on August 6, 2020

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

We’ve all done it. That moment when a series of words slithers from your mouth and the instant regret manifests through blushing and profuse apologies. If you could just think before you speak! It doesn’t have to be like this, and with a bit of practice, it’s actually quite easy to prevent.

“Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.” – Napolean Hill

Are we speaking the same language?

My mum recently left me a note thanking me for looking after her dog. She’d signed it with “LOL.” In my world, this means “laugh out loud,” and in her world it means “lots of love.” My kids tell me things are “sick” when they’re good, and ”manck” when they’re bad (when I say “bad,” I don’t mean good!). It’s amazing that we manage to communicate at all.

When speaking, we tend to color our language with words and phrases that have become personal to us, things we’ve picked up from our friends, families and even memes from the internet. These colloquialisms become normal, and we expect the listener (or reader) to understand “what we mean.” If you really want the listener to understand your meaning, try to use words and phrases that they might use.

Am I being lazy?

When you’ve been in a relationship for a while, a strange metamorphosis takes place. People tend to become lazier in the way that they communicate with each other, with less thought for the feelings of their partner. There’s no malice intended; we just reach a “comfort zone” and know that our partners “know what we mean.”

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Here’s an exchange from Psychology Today to demonstrate what I mean:

Early in the relationship:

“Honey, I don’t want you to take this wrong, but I’m noticing that your hair is getting a little thin on top. I know guys are sensitive about losing their hair, but I don’t want someone else to embarrass you without your expecting it.”

When the relationship is established:

“Did you know that you’re losing a lot of hair on the back of your head? You’re combing it funny and it doesn’t help. Wear a baseball cap or something if you feel weird about it. Lots of guys get thin on top. It’s no big deal.”

It’s pretty clear which of these statements is more empathetic and more likely to be received well. Recognizing when we do this can be tricky, but with a little practice it becomes easy.

Have I actually got anything to say?

When I was a kid, my gran used to say to me that if I didn’t have anything good to say, I shouldn’t say anything at all. My gran couldn’t stand gossip, so this makes total sense, but you can take this statement a little further and modify it: “If you don’t have anything to say, then don’t say anything at all.”

A lot of the time, people speak to fill “uncomfortable silences,” or because they believe that saying something, anything, is better than staying quiet. It can even be a cause of anxiety for some people.

When somebody else is speaking, listen. Don’t wait to speak. Listen. Actually hear what that person is saying, think about it, and respond if necessary.

Am I painting an accurate picture?

One of the most common forms of miscommunication is the lack of a “referential index,” a type of generalization that fails to refer to specific nouns. As an example, look at these two simple phrases: “Can you pass me that?” and “Pass me that thing over there!”. How often have you said something similar?

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How is the listener supposed to know what you mean? The person that you’re talking to will start to fill in the gaps with something that may very well be completely different to what you mean. You’re thinking “pass me the salt,” but you get passed the pepper. This can be infuriating for the listener, and more importantly, can create a lack of understanding and ultimately produce conflict.

Before you speak, try to label people, places and objects in a way that it is easy for any listeners to understand.

What words am I using?

It’s well known that our use of nouns and verbs (or lack of them) gives an insight into where we grew up, our education, our thoughts and our feelings.

Less well known is that the use of pronouns offers a critical insight into how we emotionally code our sentences. James Pennebaker’s research in the 1990’s concluded that function words are important keys to someone’s psychological state and reveal much more than content words do.

Starting a sentence with “I think…” demonstrates self-focus rather than empathy with the speaker, whereas asking the speaker to elaborate or quantify what they’re saying clearly shows that you’re listening and have respect even if you disagree.

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Is the map really the territory?

Before speaking, we sometimes construct a scenario that makes us act in a way that isn’t necessarily reflective of the actual situation.

A while ago, John promised to help me out in a big way with a project that I was working on. After an initial meeting and some big promises, we put together a plan and set off on its execution. A week or so went by, and I tried to get a hold of John to see how things were going. After voice mails and emails with no reply and general silence, I tried again a week later and still got no response.

I was frustrated and started to get more than a bit vexed. The project obviously meant more to me than it did to him, and I started to construct all manner of crazy scenarios. I finally got through to John and immediately started a mild rant about making promises you can’t keep. He stopped me in my tracks with the news that his brother had died. If I’d have just thought before I spoke…

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