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5 Relationships You Didn’t Realize Were So Important

5 Relationships You Didn’t Realize Were So Important

Relationships are the foundation of our interaction with society. We form them, we break them; some people avoid them, others can barely live without them. Of course, there are some important relationships we may overlook in our day to day lives, so let’s take a look at a few we should keep a closer eye on.

1. The relationship with your boss.

Your boss might be the nicest person you’ve ever met, or they might be a tyrant. Either way, they’re an important person in your life because your job often depends on how they feel about you. On top of ensuring you’re always performing your job to the best of your abilities, make sure to invest time in things that let your boss know you care about your job and that you respect them. This doesn’t require you suck up to them, but it’s always nice to remember their birthday, or even just offer to buy them lunch sometimes. Most importantly, never go behind their back about things, and always be respectful even if you’re being playful. They may be the last person you’d ever spend time with by choice, or they may even be a close friend, but when it comes to work-related things, a sense of professionalism is always important.

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2. The relationship with your co-workers.

Maybe you use the excuse, “I’m not at work to make friends,” to distance yourself from the people you associate with through your job. Maybe your co-workers just aren’t your cup of tea or have hurt you somehow. Still, you spend upwards of 8–12 hours a day with these people (maybe more), so having peace between you is important for your daily mental comfort.

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It’s easy to dismiss co-workers because they aren’t among those you’ve chosen to have in your life, but it’s possible you actually spend more time with them than you do your chosen friends. At worst you should always ensure your relationship with co-workers is civil, but at best, what’s wrong with developing work friendships? No one says you have to go out for dinner after clocking out, but isn’t it nice when someone has your back?

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3. The relationship with your pet.

Cats and dogs have unique manners in which they show affection, but both can offer infinitely rewarding relationships. A close relationship with your feline or canine companion can result in their unconditional love and adoration. This unique companionship defies understanding and can be one of the most meaningful in your life. A dog or cat will never tear you down or make you feel bad about yourself (though they may pester you if you forget to feed them), and most animals are more forgiving of your moments of anger and frustration in a way that humans never could be. So, make sure to treat your animal friend with the same compassion, understanding, and forgiveness that they offer you. That vase Spot knocked over can be replaced—your bond can not.

4. The relationship with your closest confidant.

Everyone has that one person they tell everything to. Maybe it’s a best friend, a pen pal, or even your significant other. Whichever way, ensuring you maintain open communication both ways is pivotal to the long-term success of the relationship. Make sure that if they’re lending you an open ear or a shoulder to cry on, you’re doing the same when they need it. All rewarding relationships come from the work of two people, not one.

5. The relationship with yourself.

In your day-to-day life it’s often easy to neglect your personal needs in favor of doing things for others, but there’s no more important relationship than the one you have with yourself. Take moments to yourself every day, eat something you enjoy, make time for your hobby, get enough sleep at night—wearing yourself too thin can result in you fumbling other relationships in your life. If your life is very busy and hectic it may seem impossible to make this happen, but it’s often vital that you make time, even if it means you might have to make up for it tomorrow.

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Last Updated on July 3, 2020

30 Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life

30 Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life

In today’s world, true peace must come from within us and our own actions. Here are 30 small things you can do on a regular basis to increase your overall sense of harmony, peace, and well-being:

1. Don’t go to every fight you’re invited to

Particularly when you’re around those who thrive on chaos, be willing to decline the invitation to join in on the drama.

2. Focus on your breath

Throughout the day, stop to take a few deep breaths. Keep stress at bay with techniques such as “square breathing.” Breathe in for four counts, hold for four counts, then out for four counts, and hold again for four counts. Repeat this cycle four times.

3. Get organized and purge old items

A cluttered space often creates a cluttered spirit. Take the time to get rid of anything you haven’t used in a year and invest in organizational systems that help you sustain a level of neatness.

4. Stop yourself from being judgmental

Whenever you are tempted to have an opinion about someone else’s life, check your intentions. Judging others creates and promotes negative energy.

5. Say ‘thank you’ early and often

Start and end each day with an attitude of gratitude. Look for opportunities in your daily routine and interactions to express appreciation.

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6. Smile more

Even if you have to “fake it until you make it,” there are many scientific benefits of smiling and laughing. Also, pay attention to your facial expression when you are doing neutral activities such as driving and walking. Turn that frown upside down!

7. Don’t worry about the future

As difficult as this sounds, there is a direct connection between staying in the present and living a more peaceful life. You cannot control the future. As the old proverb goes, “Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it won’t get you anywhere.” Practice gently bringing your thoughts back to the present.

8. Eat real food

The closer the food is to the state from which it came from the earth, the better you will feel in eating it. Choose foods that grew from a plant over food that was made in a plant.

9. Choose being happy over being right

Too often, we sacrifice inner peace in order to make a point. It’s rarely worth it.

10. Keep technology out of the bedroom

Many studies, such as one conducted by Brigham and Women’s Hospital, have connected blue light of electronic devices before bed to adverse sleep and overall health. To make matters worse, many people report that they cannot resist checking email and social media when their cell phone is in reach of their bed, regardless of the time.

11. Make use of filtering features on social media

You may not want to “unfriend” someone completely, however you can choose whether you want to follow their posts and/or the sources of information that they share.

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12. Get comfortable with silence

When you picture someone who is the ultimate state of peace, typically they aren’t talking.

13. Listen to understand, not to respond

So often in conversations, we use our ears to give us cues about when it is our turn to say what we want to say. Practice active listening, ask questions, process, then speak.

14. Put your troubles in a bubble

Whenever you start to feel anxious, visualize the situation being wrapped in a bubble and then picture that sphere floating away.

15. Speak more slowly

Often a lack of peace manifests itself in fast or clipped speech. Take a breath, slow down, and let your thoughtful consideration drive your words.

16. Don’t procrastinate

Nothing adds stress to our lives like waiting until the last minute.

17. Buy a coloring book

Mandala coloring books for adults are becoming more popular because of their connection to creating inner peace.

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18. Prioritize yourself

You are the only person who you are guaranteed to live with 24 hours a day for the rest of your life.

19. Forgive others

Holding a grudge is hurting you exponentially more than anyone else. Let it go.

20. Check your expectations

Presumption often leads to drama. Remember the old saying, “Expectations are premeditated resentments.”

21. Engage in active play

Let your inner child come out and have some fun. Jump, dance, play, and pretend!

22. Stop criticizing yourself

The world is a hard enough place with more than enough critics. Your life is not served well by being one of them.

23. Focus your energy and attention on what you want

Thoughts, words, and actions all create energy. Energy attracts like energy. Put out what you want to get back.

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24. Assign yourself “complaint free” days.

Make a conscious decision not to complain about anything for a whole day. It might be harder than you think and the awareness will stick with you.

25. Surround yourself with people you truly enjoy being in the company of

Personalities tend to be contagious, and not everyone’s is worth catching. Be judicious in your choices.

26. Manage your money

Financial concerns rank top on the list of what causes people stress. Take the time each month to do a budget, calculate what you actually spend and sanity check that against the money you have coming in.

27. Stop trying to control everything

Not only is your inner control freak sabotaging your sense of peace, it is also likely getting in the way of external relationships as well.

28. Practice affirmations

Repeat positive phrases that depict the life and qualities you want to attract. It may not come naturally to you, but it works.

29. Get up before sunrise

Personally witnessing the dawn brings a unique sense of awe and appreciation for life.

30. Be yourself

Nothing creates more inner discord than trying to be something other than who we really are. Authenticity breeds happiness.

Featured photo credit: man watching sunrise via stokpic.com

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