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5 Relationships You Didn’t Realize Were So Important

5 Relationships You Didn’t Realize Were So Important

Relationships are the foundation of our interaction with society. We form them, we break them; some people avoid them, others can barely live without them. Of course, there are some important relationships we may overlook in our day to day lives, so let’s take a look at a few we should keep a closer eye on.

1. The relationship with your boss.

Your boss might be the nicest person you’ve ever met, or they might be a tyrant. Either way, they’re an important person in your life because your job often depends on how they feel about you. On top of ensuring you’re always performing your job to the best of your abilities, make sure to invest time in things that let your boss know you care about your job and that you respect them. This doesn’t require you suck up to them, but it’s always nice to remember their birthday, or even just offer to buy them lunch sometimes. Most importantly, never go behind their back about things, and always be respectful even if you’re being playful. They may be the last person you’d ever spend time with by choice, or they may even be a close friend, but when it comes to work-related things, a sense of professionalism is always important.

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2. The relationship with your co-workers.

Maybe you use the excuse, “I’m not at work to make friends,” to distance yourself from the people you associate with through your job. Maybe your co-workers just aren’t your cup of tea or have hurt you somehow. Still, you spend upwards of 8–12 hours a day with these people (maybe more), so having peace between you is important for your daily mental comfort.

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It’s easy to dismiss co-workers because they aren’t among those you’ve chosen to have in your life, but it’s possible you actually spend more time with them than you do your chosen friends. At worst you should always ensure your relationship with co-workers is civil, but at best, what’s wrong with developing work friendships? No one says you have to go out for dinner after clocking out, but isn’t it nice when someone has your back?

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3. The relationship with your pet.

Cats and dogs have unique manners in which they show affection, but both can offer infinitely rewarding relationships. A close relationship with your feline or canine companion can result in their unconditional love and adoration. This unique companionship defies understanding and can be one of the most meaningful in your life. A dog or cat will never tear you down or make you feel bad about yourself (though they may pester you if you forget to feed them), and most animals are more forgiving of your moments of anger and frustration in a way that humans never could be. So, make sure to treat your animal friend with the same compassion, understanding, and forgiveness that they offer you. That vase Spot knocked over can be replaced—your bond can not.

4. The relationship with your closest confidant.

Everyone has that one person they tell everything to. Maybe it’s a best friend, a pen pal, or even your significant other. Whichever way, ensuring you maintain open communication both ways is pivotal to the long-term success of the relationship. Make sure that if they’re lending you an open ear or a shoulder to cry on, you’re doing the same when they need it. All rewarding relationships come from the work of two people, not one.

5. The relationship with yourself.

In your day-to-day life it’s often easy to neglect your personal needs in favor of doing things for others, but there’s no more important relationship than the one you have with yourself. Take moments to yourself every day, eat something you enjoy, make time for your hobby, get enough sleep at night—wearing yourself too thin can result in you fumbling other relationships in your life. If your life is very busy and hectic it may seem impossible to make this happen, but it’s often vital that you make time, even if it means you might have to make up for it tomorrow.

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Last Updated on May 17, 2019

This Is What Happens When You Move Out Of the Comfort Zone

This Is What Happens When You Move Out Of the Comfort Zone

The pursuit of worthwhile goals is a part of what makes life enjoyable. Being able to set a goal, then see yourself progress towards achieving that goal is an amazing feeling.

But do you know the biggest obstacle for most people trying to achieve their goals, the silent dream killer that stops people before they ever even get started? That obstacle is the comfort zone, and getting stuck there is bound to derail any efforts you make towards achieving the goals you’ve set for yourself.

If you want to achieve those goals, you’ll have to break free from your comfort zone. Let’s take a look at how your life will change once you build up the courage to leave your comfort zone.

What Is the Comfort Zone?

The comfort zone is defined as “a behavioural state within which a person operates in an anxiety-neutral condition, using a limited set of behaviours to deliver a steady level of performance.”

What stands out to me the most about that definition is the last part: “using a limited set of behaviours to deliver a steady level of performance.” How many successful people do you know who deliver a steady level of performance?

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The goal in life is to continually challenge yourself, and continually improve yourself. And in order to do that, you have move out of your comfort zone. But once you do, your life will start to change in ways you could never have imagined. I know because it’s happening right now in my own life.

Here’s what I’ve learned.

1. You will be scared

Leaving your comfort zone isn’t easy. In fact, in can be downright terrifying at times, and that’s okay. It’s perfectly normal to feel a little trepidation when you’re embarking on a journey that forces you to try new things.

So don’t freak out or get overwhelmed when you feel yourself getting a little scared. It’s perfectly normal and all part of the process. What’s important is that you don’t let that fear hold you back. You must continue to take action in the face of fear.

That’s what separates winners from losers.

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2. You will fail

Stepping out of your comfort zone means you’re moving into uncharted territory. You’re trying things that you’ve never tried before, and learning things you’ve never learned before.

That steep learning curve means you’re not going to get everything right the first time, and you will eventually fail when you move out of your comfort zone. But as long as the failures aren’t catastrophic, it can actually be a good thing to fail because …

3. You will learn

Failure is the best teacher. I’ve learned more from each one of my failures than I have from each one of my successes. When you fail small, and fail often, you rapidly increase the rate at which you learn new insights and skills. And that new knowledge, if applied correctly, will eventually lead to your success.

4. You will see yourself in a different way

Once you move out of your comfort zone, you immediately prove to yourself that you’re capable of achieving more than you thought was possible. And that will change the way you see yourself.

Moving forward, you’ll have more confidence in yourself whenever you step out of your comfort zone, and that increased confidence will make it more likely that you continue to step outside your comfort zone. And each time you do, you’ll prove to yourself again and again what you’re really capable of.

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5. Your peers will see you in a different way

Whether we want to admit or not, people judge other people. And right now, people view you in a certain way, and they have a certain idea of what you’re capable of. That’s because they’ve become accustomed to seeing you operate in your comfort zone.

But once you move out of your comfort zone, you’ll prove to other people, as well, that you’re capable of much more than you’ve shown in the past.

The increased confidence other people place in you will bring about more opportunities than ever before.

6. Your comfort zone will expand

The good thing about the comfort zone is that it’s flexible and malleable. With each action you take outside of your comfort zone, it expands. And once you master that new skill or action, it eventually becomes part of your comfort zone.

This is great news for you because it means that you can constantly increase and improve upon the behaviors that you’re comfortable with. And the more tools and skills you have at your disposal, the easier it will be to achieve your goals.

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7. You will increase your concentration and focus

When you’re living inside of your comfort zone, the bulk of your actions are habitual: automatic, subconscious, and requiring limited focus.

But once you move out of your comfort zone, you no longer rely on those habitual responses. You’re forced to concentrate and focus on the new action in a way you never do in your comfort zone.

8. You will develop new skills

Moving out of your comfort zone requires that you develop new skills. One of the many benefits you’ll experience is that you’ll be stepping away from the “limited set of behaviors” and start to develop your ability and expertise in new areas.

Living inside of your comfort zone only requires a limited skill set, and those skills won’t contribute much to your success. Once you can confidently step outside of your comfort zone and learn a new skill, there’s no limit to how much you can achieve.

9. You will achieve more than before

With everything that happens once you move out of your comfort zone, you’re naturally going to achieve more than ever before.

Your increased concentration and focus will help you develop new skills. Those new skills will change the way you see yourself, encouraging you to step even further out of your comfort zone.

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