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5 Relationships You Didn’t Realize Were So Important

5 Relationships You Didn’t Realize Were So Important

Relationships are the foundation of our interaction with society. We form them, we break them; some people avoid them, others can barely live without them. Of course, there are some important relationships we may overlook in our day to day lives, so let’s take a look at a few we should keep a closer eye on.

1. The relationship with your boss.

Your boss might be the nicest person you’ve ever met, or they might be a tyrant. Either way, they’re an important person in your life because your job often depends on how they feel about you. On top of ensuring you’re always performing your job to the best of your abilities, make sure to invest time in things that let your boss know you care about your job and that you respect them. This doesn’t require you suck up to them, but it’s always nice to remember their birthday, or even just offer to buy them lunch sometimes. Most importantly, never go behind their back about things, and always be respectful even if you’re being playful. They may be the last person you’d ever spend time with by choice, or they may even be a close friend, but when it comes to work-related things, a sense of professionalism is always important.

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2. The relationship with your co-workers.

Maybe you use the excuse, “I’m not at work to make friends,” to distance yourself from the people you associate with through your job. Maybe your co-workers just aren’t your cup of tea or have hurt you somehow. Still, you spend upwards of 8–12 hours a day with these people (maybe more), so having peace between you is important for your daily mental comfort.

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It’s easy to dismiss co-workers because they aren’t among those you’ve chosen to have in your life, but it’s possible you actually spend more time with them than you do your chosen friends. At worst you should always ensure your relationship with co-workers is civil, but at best, what’s wrong with developing work friendships? No one says you have to go out for dinner after clocking out, but isn’t it nice when someone has your back?

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3. The relationship with your pet.

Cats and dogs have unique manners in which they show affection, but both can offer infinitely rewarding relationships. A close relationship with your feline or canine companion can result in their unconditional love and adoration. This unique companionship defies understanding and can be one of the most meaningful in your life. A dog or cat will never tear you down or make you feel bad about yourself (though they may pester you if you forget to feed them), and most animals are more forgiving of your moments of anger and frustration in a way that humans never could be. So, make sure to treat your animal friend with the same compassion, understanding, and forgiveness that they offer you. That vase Spot knocked over can be replaced—your bond can not.

4. The relationship with your closest confidant.

Everyone has that one person they tell everything to. Maybe it’s a best friend, a pen pal, or even your significant other. Whichever way, ensuring you maintain open communication both ways is pivotal to the long-term success of the relationship. Make sure that if they’re lending you an open ear or a shoulder to cry on, you’re doing the same when they need it. All rewarding relationships come from the work of two people, not one.

5. The relationship with yourself.

In your day-to-day life it’s often easy to neglect your personal needs in favor of doing things for others, but there’s no more important relationship than the one you have with yourself. Take moments to yourself every day, eat something you enjoy, make time for your hobby, get enough sleep at night—wearing yourself too thin can result in you fumbling other relationships in your life. If your life is very busy and hectic it may seem impossible to make this happen, but it’s often vital that you make time, even if it means you might have to make up for it tomorrow.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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