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40 Ways To Let Go And Feel Relieved

40 Ways To Let Go And Feel Relieved

Whether you’re angry with something a co-worker said yesterday or you’re harboring deep resentment from your childhood, learning how to let go of those things can be important to your physical and mental well-being. Practice these strategies to help you let go and experience relief.

1. Write an Angry Letter and Burn It

Sometimes watching your problems go up in flames can make the problem seem to disappear.

2. Journal About Your Feelings

Writing things down can offer you perspective.

3. Set Aside Time to Meditate

Meditation can resolve many unresolved feelings.

4. Learn and Practice Mindfulness Skills

Focus on the here-and-now and allow your problems to slip away.

5. Recognize Physical Symptoms of Stress

Identify when stress is taking a toll on your health so you can make changes accordingly.

6. Identify and Replace Destructive Thoughts

Destructive thoughts can make you feel worse. Replace overly negative thoughts with more realistic ones.

7. Engage in Regular Exercise

Exercise can reduce stress and keep your mind and body healthy.

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8. Get Plenty of Rest

Sometimes a good night’s sleep offers a fresh perspective that may allow you to let go of whatever’s bothering you.

9. Talk to a Friend About the Problem

Talking to a friend can offer you a different point of view about how to let go.

10. Talk to a Friend About Something Other than the Problem

Talking about something other than the problem can also help you get your mind off things.

11. Participate in Problem-Solving

Develop a list of what would need to happen to help you let go of the problem.

12. Practice Deep Breathing

Deep breathing relieves stress and clears the mind. It can calm your emotions so you can take a logical approach about how to let go of the issue.

13. Establish Goals

Rather than focus on the past, establish goals for the future.

14. Use Guided Imagery

Guided imagery offers a break from ruminating on the current problem.

15. Reflect Without Judgment

Reflect on the events that transpired without placing blame on yourself or anyone else. Stick the facts, and it may help you find out how to let go of the issue.

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16. Draft a No-Mail Letter

If you’re mad at someone else, or even an inanimate object, creating a letter that expressing your feelings can be very helpful. Throw away the letter when you’re done and move on.

17. Ask Yourself How Important this Issue will be in 5 Years

Often the things we can’t let go of seem like a big deal. However, many of those things won’t matter at all in the future. Ask yourself how important this problem will be to the rest of your life.

18. Accept What You Can’t Control

Practice accepting that you can’t control everything.

19. Practice Loving Others

Focusing on your love for others can help other problems melt away.

20. Imagine the Problem Floating Away in a Balloon

Visualizing the problem floating away can help you let it go.

21. Perform Random Acts of Kindness

Contributing to another person’s happiness will change your focus.

22. Remember that Pain is Normal

Pain in life is inevitable and it can help you build character.

23. Distract Yourself

Don’t ruminate on the issue. Instead, engage in an activity to take your mind off it.

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24. Look at the Big Picture

Remind yourself of the big picture in life and it can be easier to let go of something from your past.

25. Empathize with the Other Person

If you can’t let go of something another person did, try to develop some empathy for how that person might have felt.

26. Ask Yourself What Advice You Would Offer to a Friend Who Had this Problem

Often it’s easy to be more logical when you give advice to a friend. Ask yourself what recommendation you would give a friend about how to let go of something and then take your own advice.

27. Accept Your Responsibility

Accept any responsibility you had in the situation, even if it were a small piece.

28. Repeat Positive Affirmations

Develop some positive statements to repeat over and over such as, “I will be okay.”

29. Seek Spiritual Comfort

No matter what type of spiritual beliefs you have, look for comfort in your spirituality.

30. Be Grateful for What You Have

Remind yourself of all the things you have to be grateful for.

31. Visualize the Problem Shrinking

Imagine the problem slowly shrinking until it finally disappears.

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32. Learn From Your Mistakes

Chalk the situation up to a life lesson that you can learn from and take something away from it.

33. Plan for the Future

Look toward the future and it can help you let go of the past.

34. Practice Loving Yourself

Be kind and take care of yourself so that you can set yourself up for success.

35. Develop a Plan

Determine what steps you can take to deal with the situation instead of avoiding it.

36. Identify the Consequences of Not Letting Go

Make a list of the potential consequences of not letting go to help encourage yourself to actually let go.

37. Adjust Your Expectations

Remember that no one is perfect and life isn’t fair. When you adjust your expectations it can help remind you that problems are a part of life that happen to everyone.

38. Listen to Music

The psychology of music shows it is a great way to elicit hidden emotions and promote healing.

39. Behave Assertively

If your feelings are hurt, speak up in a tactful manner.

40. Seek Professional Help

If you can’t let go of something and it’s impacting your life, seek professional help. A counselor can assist you in letting go.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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