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40 Ways To Let Go And Feel Relieved

40 Ways To Let Go And Feel Relieved

Whether you’re angry with something a co-worker said yesterday or you’re harboring deep resentment from your childhood, learning how to let go of those things can be important to your physical and mental well-being. Practice these strategies to help you let go and experience relief.

1. Write an Angry Letter and Burn It

Sometimes watching your problems go up in flames can make the problem seem to disappear.

2. Journal About Your Feelings

Writing things down can offer you perspective.

3. Set Aside Time to Meditate

Meditation can resolve many unresolved feelings.

4. Learn and Practice Mindfulness Skills

Focus on the here-and-now and allow your problems to slip away.

5. Recognize Physical Symptoms of Stress

Identify when stress is taking a toll on your health so you can make changes accordingly.

6. Identify and Replace Destructive Thoughts

Destructive thoughts can make you feel worse. Replace overly negative thoughts with more realistic ones.

7. Engage in Regular Exercise

Exercise can reduce stress and keep your mind and body healthy.

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8. Get Plenty of Rest

Sometimes a good night’s sleep offers a fresh perspective that may allow you to let go of whatever’s bothering you.

9. Talk to a Friend About the Problem

Talking to a friend can offer you a different point of view about how to let go.

10. Talk to a Friend About Something Other than the Problem

Talking about something other than the problem can also help you get your mind off things.

11. Participate in Problem-Solving

Develop a list of what would need to happen to help you let go of the problem.

12. Practice Deep Breathing

Deep breathing relieves stress and clears the mind. It can calm your emotions so you can take a logical approach about how to let go of the issue.

13. Establish Goals

Rather than focus on the past, establish goals for the future.

14. Use Guided Imagery

Guided imagery offers a break from ruminating on the current problem.

15. Reflect Without Judgment

Reflect on the events that transpired without placing blame on yourself or anyone else. Stick the facts, and it may help you find out how to let go of the issue.

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16. Draft a No-Mail Letter

If you’re mad at someone else, or even an inanimate object, creating a letter that expressing your feelings can be very helpful. Throw away the letter when you’re done and move on.

17. Ask Yourself How Important this Issue will be in 5 Years

Often the things we can’t let go of seem like a big deal. However, many of those things won’t matter at all in the future. Ask yourself how important this problem will be to the rest of your life.

18. Accept What You Can’t Control

Practice accepting that you can’t control everything.

19. Practice Loving Others

Focusing on your love for others can help other problems melt away.

20. Imagine the Problem Floating Away in a Balloon

Visualizing the problem floating away can help you let it go.

21. Perform Random Acts of Kindness

Contributing to another person’s happiness will change your focus.

22. Remember that Pain is Normal

Pain in life is inevitable and it can help you build character.

23. Distract Yourself

Don’t ruminate on the issue. Instead, engage in an activity to take your mind off it.

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24. Look at the Big Picture

Remind yourself of the big picture in life and it can be easier to let go of something from your past.

25. Empathize with the Other Person

If you can’t let go of something another person did, try to develop some empathy for how that person might have felt.

26. Ask Yourself What Advice You Would Offer to a Friend Who Had this Problem

Often it’s easy to be more logical when you give advice to a friend. Ask yourself what recommendation you would give a friend about how to let go of something and then take your own advice.

27. Accept Your Responsibility

Accept any responsibility you had in the situation, even if it were a small piece.

28. Repeat Positive Affirmations

Develop some positive statements to repeat over and over such as, “I will be okay.”

29. Seek Spiritual Comfort

No matter what type of spiritual beliefs you have, look for comfort in your spirituality.

30. Be Grateful for What You Have

Remind yourself of all the things you have to be grateful for.

31. Visualize the Problem Shrinking

Imagine the problem slowly shrinking until it finally disappears.

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32. Learn From Your Mistakes

Chalk the situation up to a life lesson that you can learn from and take something away from it.

33. Plan for the Future

Look toward the future and it can help you let go of the past.

34. Practice Loving Yourself

Be kind and take care of yourself so that you can set yourself up for success.

35. Develop a Plan

Determine what steps you can take to deal with the situation instead of avoiding it.

36. Identify the Consequences of Not Letting Go

Make a list of the potential consequences of not letting go to help encourage yourself to actually let go.

37. Adjust Your Expectations

Remember that no one is perfect and life isn’t fair. When you adjust your expectations it can help remind you that problems are a part of life that happen to everyone.

38. Listen to Music

The psychology of music shows it is a great way to elicit hidden emotions and promote healing.

39. Behave Assertively

If your feelings are hurt, speak up in a tactful manner.

40. Seek Professional Help

If you can’t let go of something and it’s impacting your life, seek professional help. A counselor can assist you in letting go.

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Last Updated on September 17, 2018

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.

Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.

When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).

Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:

1. You’re depressed about your home life.

No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.

However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.

If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

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When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.

You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.

2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.

If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.

If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.

3. You can’t stop snooping.

Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.

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I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.

Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.

So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.

It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.

If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.

4. You’re afraid of commitment.

If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.

Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.

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No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.

If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.

Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.

5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.

If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.

Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.

Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.

Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.

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If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?

6. You resent, rather than love your partner.

When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.

When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.

If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.

7. You chase past feelings.

It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.

You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.

When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.

Final thoughts

If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.

Featured photo credit: josh peterson via unsplash.com

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