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4 Reasons Why It’s Awesome To Be A Nerd

4 Reasons Why It’s Awesome To Be A Nerd

Personally, looking back to 20 years ago, I wasn’t the usual ‘nerdy’ type at school. However, I certainly had a few nerdy obsessions, namely drawing, reading and gardening. None of which were ever going score me points in the popularity stakes, but looking back I can honestly say, hand on heart, I am glad that being a nerd wasn’t seen as a good thing back then. Why? Because I’d have fit in, making me just like everyone else, and that was never going to make me into the person I am today!

Sadly, however, these days being unique isn’t embraced as it should be. Actually, for some reason, caring what matters in the world hasn’t the same importance as things like, for example, competing with others for grade A status, having the latest iPhone or acquiring the latest fashion item. BUT, imagine this, if as children we grew up differently, and not loving what we have or what we can buy, but instead learning to love what we already have and cherishing it. Then the world might just be better place for us all to live in.

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Being a nerd isn’t something to be ashamed of. It’s something to be proud of and most definitely an awesome way to be!  With that in mind, I’ve come up with a few reasons why this is the case:

You know who you are

When you are a ‘nerd’ you know what you like, what you dislike and you’ll stand by it till the bitter end. You’ll be the kind of person who has an attitude that says ‘you either like it or lump it’ with no bending or shaping who you are to please others. Being a nerd means that you understand what goes on in the world and where your place is among it all. You’ll be true to yourself, even through difficult times and because of that you’ll encourage others to be the same.

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You know your loves and passions

This is what makes you most unique, because your loves and passions are what drive you in life. For many, these have mostly gone unchecked or hidden out of sight. Yet a nerd will embrace them wholeheartedly, shouting from the roof tops and willing to share with whomever will listen. Your dreams will come from such desires, and will no doubt push you towards them quicker than those who don’t have any. You’ll defend your loves and passions till the very end, travel far and wide to achieve them and — the best thing about being a nerd — you’ll never be afraid. You understand better than anyone that your loves and passions are what make you who you are, and make life so rewarding.

You’ll surround yourself with other nerds

It has been said that ‘you are the average of 5 people you surround yourself with,’ meaning that if you surround yourself with positive, uplifting, aspiring people you will be just like them or vice versa.

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When it comes to being a nerd, you are more likely to surround yourself with people that you feel are like you. Those kinds of people wouldn’t usually be the type to laugh at your funny ways, your intellect perhaps or who criticise your obsession with comic books. No, these people share your obsession, because they actually ‘get you’ and encourage you to be just as individual, as creative and as nerdy as they are! Being a nerd means that you’ll know yourself well enough to not put up with those who put you down, instead you’ll be happy in the knowledge that those you share yourself fully with are ‘kindred spirits’.

You aspire to be honest, compassionate and kind

For me, as a nerd, I felt real compassion for those who were bullied at school just because they were labelled ‘different’.  It seemed to me that those who were unique in some way, were always the good kids, the ones who worked hard and kept out of everyone’s way. Yet these kids were always made to be in the spotlight usually subjected to some kind of torment, when rather they’d have preferred to naturally shy away from it. They, including myself, weren’t the liars, the cheats, the bullies or the ones who clowned around in class. No, they were the ones who stood out because they stood for what they believed, always had time for their friends and were the kind of kids who’d even be kind to their enemies.

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Being a nerd means that you have an innate ability to see things differently, to be in-tune with what’s going on around you, rather than just going along for the ride like everyone else.  They are usually the deep, meaningful and compassionate people; they know how to be themselves with no pretence or trying to be one up on everyone else.

Personally I’d say that nerds are our future; if they aren’t then it’s safe to say we won’t have much of a future left if we carry on the way we are.

So ask yourself, are you a nerd deep down and are you willing to be as awesome as you were born to be?

Featured photo credit: theaftershock via flickr.com

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12 Things High Self-Esteem People Don’t Do

12 Things High Self-Esteem People Don’t Do

Having high self-esteem is important if you are aiming for personal or professional success. Interestingly, most people will high levels of self-esteem act in similar ways. That’s why it’s often easy to pick them out in a crowd. There’s something about the way they hold themselves and speak, isn’t there?

We all have different hopes, dreams, experiences, and paths, but confidence has its own universal language. This list will present some of the things you won’t find yourself doing if you have high self-esteem.

1. Compare Yourself to Others

People with low self-esteem are constantly comparing their situation to others. On the other hand, people with higher self-esteem show empathy and compassion while also protecting their own sanity. They know how much they can handle and when they can offer a helping hand.

In the age of social media, however, social comparisons are nearly ubiquitous. One study found that “participants who used Facebook most often had poorer trait self-esteem, and this was mediated by greater exposure to upward social comparisons on social media”[1]. Basically, you will feel worse about yourself if you are constantly getting glimpses into lives that you consider to be better than yours.

Try to limit your time on social media. Also, when you do start scrolling, keep in mind that each profile is carefully crafted to create the appearance of a perfect life. Check yourself when you find yourself wishing for greener grass.

2. Be Mean-Spirited

People with low self-esteem bully others. They take pleasure in putting other people down. People with positive self-esteem see no need to down other people, choosing instead to encourage and celebrate successes.

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If you find that you feel the need to put others down, analyze where that’s coming from. If they’ve had success in life, help them feel good about that achievement. They may do the same for you one day.

3. Let Imperfection Ruin Your Day

Perfectionism isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but obsessing over making everything perfect is a sign that you have low self-esteem and can lead to never-ending negative thoughts. This can turn into an inability to solve problems creatively, which will only make self-esteem issues worse. 

Those with high self-esteem disconnect from the results and do their best without expecting perfection.

People with that kind of confidence understand that messing up is a part of life and that each time they aim and miss success, they’ll at least learn something along the way.

If you miss the mark, or if your plan doesn’t work out exactly as you would have liked, take a deep breath and see if you can pivot in order to do better next time.

4. Dwell on Failure

It’s common to hear people dwelling on all the ways things will go wrong. They are positive that their every failure signals an impossible task or an innate inability to do something. People with healthy self-esteem discover why they failed and try again.

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People with higher levels of confidence also tend to adopt a growth mindset[2]. This type of thinking supports the idea that most of your abilities can be improved and altered, as opposed to being fixed.

For example, instead of saying, “I’m just not good at math; that’s why I did bad on the test,” someone with a growth mindset would say, “Math is difficult for me, so I’ll have to put in some more practice to improve next time.”

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5. Devalue Your Self-Esteem

People with high self-esteem value their own perception of themselves – they understand that they come first and don’t feel guilty about taking care of themselves. They believe charity starts within, and if they don’t believe that, they’ll never have a healthy self-image.

Self-care is often top of the priority list for people with self-esteem. For some ways to practice self-care, check out this article.

6. Try to Please Others

They can’t please all the people all the time, so confident people first focus on doing what will make them feel fulfilled and happy. While they will politely listen to others’ thoughts and advice, they know that their goals and dreams have to be completed on their own terms.

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7. Close Yourself off

Confident people have the ability to be vulnerable. It’s those with poor self-esteem that hide all the best parts of themselves behind an emotional wall. Instead of keeping the real you a secret, be open and honest in all your dealings.

As Brené Brown, author of Daring Greatly, points out, “Vulnerability is about showing up and being seen”[3]. When you embrace each facet of who you are and allow others to see them as well, it will create deeper, more meaningful connections in your life. When that happens, you’ll realize that perfection doesn’t lead to people liking you more.

You can learn more about the power of vulnerability in this TED talk with Brené Brown:

8. Follow and Avoiding Leading

People with low self-esteem don’t believe they can lead, so they end up following others, sometimes into unhealthy situations. Rather than seeking a sense of belonging, people with high self-esteem walk their own paths and create social circles that build them up.

9. Fish for Compliments

If you’re constantly seeking compliments, you’re not confident. People with high self-esteem always do their best (and go out of their way to do good deeds) because it’s what they want to do, not because they’re seeking recognition. If you need to hear compliments, say them to yourself in the mirror.

You can even try some positive affirmations if you need a confidence boost. Check out these affirmations to get started.

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10. Be Lazy

People work harder when they have high self-esteem because they’re not bogged down by doubts and complaints. Those with low self-esteem end up procrastinating and wasting their energy thinking about all the work they have to do rather than rolling up their sleeves and just getting it done.

This may also bounce off perfectionism. Perfectionists often feel intimidated by certain projects if they fear that they won’t be able to complete them perfectly. Tap into your confidence and simply do your best without worrying about a perfect outcome.

11. Shy Away from Risks

When you trust yourself, you’ll be willing to participate more in life. People with low self-esteem are always on the sidelines, waiting for the perfect moment to jump in. Instead of letting life pass you by, have confidence in your success and take the risks necessary to succeed.

12. Gossip

People with low self-esteem are always in other peoples’ business – they’re more interested in what everyone else is doing than themselves. People with high self-esteem are more interested in their own life and stay out of others’ affairs.

Instead of participating in idle gossip, talk about some positive news you heard recently, or that fascinating book you just finished. There’s plenty to talk about beyond what this or that person did wrong in their life.

The Bottom Line

Self-esteem is to success in life. People who maintain a healthy level of self-esteem believe in themselves and push themselves to succeed, while those with low confidence feel a sense of entitlement.

If you need a boost in your self-image and mental health, avoid negative self-talk and the other mistakes of people with low self-esteem. You’ll be amazed at the difference it makes.

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Reference

[1] Psychology of Popular Media Culture: Social comparison, social media, and self-esteem
[2] Brain Pickings: Fixed vs. Growth: The Two Basic Mindsets That Shape Our Lives
[3] Forbes: Brene Brown: How Vulnerability Can Make Our Lives Better

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