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If You Don’t Stop Doing These, You’ll Waste the Rest of Your Life

If You Don’t Stop Doing These, You’ll Waste the Rest of Your Life

The modern world is fast paced and time often seems to slip by with us barely noticing. It’s for that reason that it’s important that we don’t spend time or attention on things that are frivolous, negative or just plan stupid. Check out our comprehensive guide to things you shouldn’t be wasting your time on, and see if there’s anything on this guide that you can cut out of your life.

1. Putting Makeup on for the gym and sports

    It looks weird and it’s only going to melt off, which negates the purpose of putting it on in the first place.

    2. Hitting ‘snooze’

      Get your lazy butt out of bed. You set your alarm for a legitimate reason.

      3. Constantly refreshing Facebook

        Try living life rather than waiting for an acquaintance to update you on how their lunch is going.

        4. Doing things you hate

          Life is far too short to waste your time on doing something you hate. By that, I mean doing unnecessary things. You should probably still wash up and whatnot.

          5. Checking your phone constantly

            Did you hear your message tone? Did it ring? If you answered ‘no’ to either of those questions, put the phone down and back away slowly. No, you don’t need it when you go to the bathroom.

            6. Dwelling on problems

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              In the immortal words of Vanilla Ice, “If there was a problem. Yo, I’ll solve it.” Instead of wasting time by dwelling on a problem, work out what you can do to fix it.

              7. Worrying

                It’s similar to above. Stop worrying and start working towards a solution.

                8. Caring what others think

                  Unless you’re getting good advice from people you love, disregard it. It doesn’t matter what other people think of you, you need to stay true to yourself. Don’t waste your time, thoughts, and energy on what others think. Be proud to be yourself.

                  9. Staying online late into the night

                    It’s not only a waste of time now, but will probably result in you sleeping half the day away tomorrow, or being unproductive at work or school. There’s nothing so important that you need to stay online for it until 3 am. No, not even Tumblr.

                    10. Celebrity culture

                      Stop giving a flying spaghetti monster about the Krapdashians, or how you look compared to the entirety of Hollywood. They’re all Photoshopped. Thighs are supposed to touch.

                      11. Procrastinating

                        Just do it.

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                        12. Playing romantic games

                          You can waste years not telling someone how you feel out of fear. Grow a pair of ovaries and tell them. If they’re not digging it, at least you’ll have the chance to move on. If they feel the same the only regret you’ll have is the days, weeks, and months you could have already had together.

                          13. Feeding the Trolls

                            It’s what they want. Stop before you go into a rage blackout.

                            14. Photographing everything

                              Instead of trying to document your life, live it. The internet will actually survive without the bathroom selfie of you and a ham sandwich, or whatever it is that you’re into.

                              15. Holding Grudges

                                Life’s too short! Forgive and be positive.

                                16. Complaining

                                  Complaining really won’t get you anywhere, and the only person who it’s hurting is you. Start thinking positively. Figure out how to make your life more complaint-free.

                                  17. Eating Out of Boredom

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                                    This kind of eating is a bad idea all-around. If you’re bored, it means you’re wasting time. Find something productive to do. Put some work in towards a goal or a dream. These would be much better uses of your time than visiting the fridge for the seventh time this hour.

                                    18. Waiting for something to happen

                                      The world isn’t going to wait for you. Go after what you want.

                                      19. Constantly updating your status

                                        This is not living. No one cares that your left flip flop broke on the way to the bin.

                                        20. Indecision

                                          Indecision often stems from fear. Deep down, you’re likely to know what decision you want to make.

                                          21. Hanging around negative people

                                            The people in your life shouldn’t be a constant stream of negativity. Give them the figurative (or even literal) bird, and find some positive people to spend time with. You’ll feel a whole lot happier and enjoy life more.

                                            22. Watching TV

                                              A little TV is okay, but it shouldn’t be the center of your universe. Instead of watching other people have adventures, have some of your own.

                                              23. Watching Reality TV

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                                                If you’re watching TV, make it something halfway decent. Don’t waste your time with frivolous half-scripted crap that networks pump out so they don’t have to pay real writers. Avoid the bottom shelf stuff. There’s too many great shows out there.

                                                24. Pinning things

                                                  Stop day-dreaming of amazing things on Pinterest, and start doing them.

                                                  25. Brands

                                                    All that expensive crap you covet really isn’t that special, despite the heinous price tag. They’re likely to be exploiting just as many third-world children as the cheap labels. Get over brand name obsession and spend your time and money on something worthier.

                                                    26. Gossip

                                                      I know it can be juicy and kind of fun, but it really gets you nowhere.

                                                      27. Unrequited love

                                                        This can be one of the hardest things to let go of, but you simply must. Unrequited means that you probably know that they’re not interested. Why waste your time on that when you can be working on being happy? When you find the right person for you, you’ll lament all the wasted time spent on someone who didn’t care.

                                                        28. Popping pimples

                                                          Do you really want to end up like the crater-faced guy from Grease? I didn’t think so.

                                                          29. Being glued to your phone

                                                            Not only does this make you miss the world going on around you, it’s also just plain rude in a social situation.

                                                            30. Reading This

                                                              Just kidding, I write amazing things worthy of your time.

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                                                              Last Updated on October 17, 2019

                                                              How to Spend More Quality Time with Your Partner

                                                              How to Spend More Quality Time with Your Partner

                                                              You see your partner every single day. They are the first person you talk to in the morning and the last person you kiss goodnight.

                                                              But does seeing each other day in and day out equal a healthy relationship? Not necessarily.

                                                              Spending quality time with your partner is the best way to ensure your relationship stays healthy and strong. This means going above and beyond sitting together while you watch Netflix or going out for the occasional dinner. You deserve more from your relationship – and so does your spouse!

                                                              What does quality time mean? It means spending time with your spouse without interruption. It’s a chance for you to come together and talk. Communication will build emotional intimacy and trust.

                                                              Quality time is also about expressing love in a physical way. Not sex, necessarily (but that’s great, too!) but through hand-holding, cuddling, caressing, and tickling. Studies show that these displays of affection will boost partner satisfaction.[1]

                                                              So how do you spend quality time with your partner? Here are 13 relationship tips on making the most out of your time with your partner.

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                                                              1. Recognize the Signs

                                                              If you want a healthy relationship, you have to learn how to recognize the signs that you need to spend more quality time together.

                                                              Some telltale signs include:

                                                              • You’re always on your phones.
                                                              • You value friendships or hobbies over quality time with your spouse.
                                                              • You aren’t together during important events.
                                                              • You are arguing more often or lack connection.
                                                              • You don’t make plans or date nights.
                                                              • You’re not happy.

                                                              If you are experiencing any of these relationship symptoms, know that quality time together can reverse the negative effects of the signs above.

                                                              2. Try New Things Together

                                                              Have you ever wanted to learn how to play an instrument or speak another language? How about skydive or ballroom dance?

                                                              Instead of viewing these as solo hobbies and interests, why not involve your partner?

                                                              Trying new activities together builds healthy relationships because it encourages spouses to rely on one another for emotional and physical support.

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                                                              Shared hobbies also promote marital friendship, and the Journal of Happiness Studies found that marital satisfaction was twice as high for couples who viewed each other as best friends.[2]

                                                              3. Schedule in Tech-Free Time

                                                              Your phone is a great way to listen to music, watch videos, and keep up-to-date with friends and family. But is your phone good for your relationship?

                                                              Many couples phone snub, or ‘phub’, one another. Studies show that phubbing can lower relationship satisfaction and increase one’s chances of depression.[3]

                                                              Reduce those chances by removing distractions when spending quality time together and showing your partner they have your full attention.

                                                              4. Hit the Gym as a Couple

                                                              One way you can spend more time together as a couple is by becoming workout partners. Studies show that couples are more likely to stay with their exercise routine if they work out together.[4] Couples also work out harder than they would solo. One study found that 95 percent of couples who work out together maintained weight loss compares to the 66 percent of singles who did.[5]

                                                              Join a gym, do at-home couples’ workouts, try couples yoga, hit the hiking trails, or get your bikes out. No matter which way you choose to exercise, these healthy activities can promote a healthy relationship.

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                                                              5. Cook Meals Together

                                                              Pop open a bottle of wine or put some romantic music on while you get busy – in the kitchen, of course!

                                                              One of the best relationship tips for spending quality time together when you both have busy schedules is to cook meals together.[6]

                                                              Spice things up and try and prepare a four-course meal or a fancy French dish together. Not only is this a fun way to spend your time together, but it also promotes teamwork.

                                                              If all goes well, you’ll have a romantic date night meal at home that you prepared with your four hands. And if the food didn’t turn out the way you’d hoped, you are guaranteed to have a laugh and create new memories together.

                                                              6. Have a Regular Date Night

                                                              Couples experience a greater sense of happiness and less stress when they are spending quality time together.[7] One of the biggest relationship tips for a healthy partnership is to include a date night in your weekly routine.

                                                              The National Marriage Project found that having a weekly date night can make your relationship seem more exciting and helps prevent relationship boredom.[8] It also lowers the probability of divorce, improves your sex life, and increases healthy communication.

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                                                              Some great ideas for what to do on your date night include:

                                                              • Have a movie marathon – Gather up your favorite flicks and cuddle up on the couch.
                                                              • Play games together – Cards, board games, video games, and other creative outlets are a fun way to spend quality time together.
                                                              • Recreate your first date – Go back to that restaurant and order the same meal you did when you first got together. You can spice up your evening by pretending you’re strangers meeting for the first time and see how sexy the night gets.
                                                              • Plan a weekend getaway – There’s nothing better than traveling with the one you love.
                                                              • Dinner and a movie – A classic!
                                                              • Try a new restaurant – Make it your mission to rate and try all of the Mexican restaurants/Irish pubs/Italian trattorias in your area.
                                                              • Have a long sex session – Intimacy promotes the release of the oxytocin hormone which is responsible for a myriad of great feelings.[9]

                                                              Here’re even more date night ideas for your reference: 50 Unique and Really Fun Date Ideas for Couples

                                                              Final Thoughts

                                                              The benefits of spending quality time together are endless. Here are just some of the ways it can contribute to a healthy relationship:

                                                              • Improves emotional and physical intimacy
                                                              • Lowers divorce rates
                                                              • Improves communication
                                                              • Reduces marital boredom
                                                              • Bonds couples closer
                                                              • Improves friendship
                                                              • Boosts health
                                                              • Reduces stress

                                                              These are all excellent reasons to start making date night a regular part of your week.

                                                              It’s easy to have a healthy relationship when you set aside dedicated time to share with your spouse. Try new things together, make your spouse your workout buddy, and look for innovative ways to be close and connected.

                                                              These relationship tips will bring great benefits to your marriage.

                                                              Featured photo credit: Allen Taylor via unsplash.com

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