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26 Romantic Ways to Show Your Love for Someone

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26 Romantic Ways to Show Your Love for Someone

So you found someone you love and who loves you back. Well played! Hopefully you like them enough to want to keep them around for a long time. Unfortunately, it can sometimes be a little too easy to fall into a rut, and to even mistake it for routine. Luckily, there are plenty of things you can do to show your love, keep the romance alive and make your beloved feel special.

1. Don’t be a cliché

    Don’t do things you’re ‘supposed’ to because people say they are romantic. I realize that statement is a tad ironic considering that I’m writing an article on romance, but hear me out. If roses, chocolates and expensive dinners aren’t your thing, don’t do it! News flash, not every girl likes that stuff. I know I don’t. We’re not actually all the same. Take the time and effort to be romantic in a way the other person will appreciate. For the record, a game from my Steam wish list and some enchiladas will do nicely.

    2. Do some chores

      This may not sound particularly romantic, but saving your significant other from doing some of the domestic jobs they hate is damned sexy.

      3. Cook their favourite meal

        Food holds more power than people may think. Sure, we have to eat it to live, but it also has the ability to bring people together. Why else would most major holidays and festivities have a large food-related element? Nothing is better than coming home after a long day and finding someone has not only already taken care of dinner, but that the meal is one of your favorites.

        4. Order in

          No good at cooking? No problem, order in some delicious food from your partner’s favorite restaurant. I firmly believe that this is far more romantic than going out to eat. You’re in the comfort of your own home and can therefore relax. Plus, you don’t have to deal with any of the mouth breathers out there.

          5. Go out for dinner

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            Maybe you two like going for dinner and would prefer that to eating in. Just make sure you take them somewhere they will love. Again, this doesn’t mean it has to be a cliché. If they prefer the Lebanese restaurant down the street to the French bistro, take them there. If this means they’ll be having garlic breath for the next three days, well then you’ve just proven your sacrificial love even more.

            6. Spontaneous date!

              Surprise your partner with a spontaneous, mostly unplanned date. Head somewhere and go with the flow, or perhaps take a random drive. Sometimes it’s nice just to break the routine of everyday life, just so long as you don’t end up in a House of Wax situation.

              7. Talk to them

                It can be easy to stop talking properly, especially in a long-term relationship. Maybe you’ve gotten too comfortable, or don’t feel like there’s much to say. Just try! You may find out something you never knew, which hopefully will be a positive thing, as opposed to finding out your first cousins or something.

                8. Listen to them

                  It can be even easier to not listen properly when you have been with someone for a certain amount of time. You may not know it, but not listening properly can be really hurtful. Whether you think the topic isn’t that interesting or you feel like you’ve heard it all already, make the effort to listen. This is the person who is supposed to mean the most to you, why wouldn’t you care what they have to say?

                  9. Appreciate their advice

                    This can be anything from big life issues to smaller things, such a TV show recommendation. Trust me, it’s infuriating to recommend something to a partner, only to have them ignore or forget it and then come to you six months later with an “awesome show their friends recommended.” Don’t be that person. Appreciate the fact that they know you.

                    10. Engage in activities they like

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                      Make the effort to at least try and appreciate some of the things they love, even if you’re not the biggest fan. It will show that you’re taking an interest, and sometimes you may even be pleasantly surprised. For example, I watch a whole lot more NBA than I ever expected to, but I’ve found myself actually liking it now. I’m not advocating that you should change who you are for someone, but trying new things isn’t bad.

                      11. Celebrate

                        Unless you partner is adverse to this, properly celebrate things like your anniversary. Again, maybe the urge to do this will diminish over time, but try igniting that flame again. If this person is the love of your life, shouldn’t you want to celebrate and make a big deal out of your relationship milestones? You can do this in any way that suits you both, the important thing is to show that other person how much having them in your life means to you.

                        12. Make their birthday special

                          Again, this is only recommended if they actually like birthdays. Make your partner feel like the most important person in the world on their birthday. Running down to the mall the day beforehand and picking up any old crud you can find and handing it to them in a plastic bag will not make them feel good about themselves. In fact, they may even question how much they truly mean to you. I’m not saying you need to spend a lot of (or even any) money, presents don’t have to be tangible. Just make sure that you show them that time, thought and love went into whatever you do.

                          13. Movie night

                          Have your very own movie marathon with some of your partner’s favorite flicks and snacks.

                          14. Just hang out

                            Does your partner have a boring day of errands to run? Go with them and rock it. You love each other, so surely you’ll be able to make it more enjoyable just by being together. Plus, saving them from a day of boring chores by themselves is pretty damn romantic in my book.

                            15. Put the devices down

                              This is particularly important if you’re out having dinner or doing a specific activity together. Not being able to get through a single evening without being glued to your iPhone not only kills the romance, it’s also quite insulting.

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                              16. Make them breakfast

                                This is similar to the dinner idea, but coffee is involved, and caffeine makes everything better. If you can get away with it, surprise them with breakfast in bed. Sure, this is may be a cliché, but I prefer to think of it as a tried and true classic.

                                17. Discuss your fantasies

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                                  Show your partner you trust them by sharing your romantic and sexual fantasies with them, and let them do the same. Unless you’re a furry, they’re probably not going to get freaked out. It’s important to keep your sex life active and not let it get stale.

                                  18. Act on the fantasies

                                    I really hope this doesn’t need an explanation.

                                    19. Kiss them

                                      Just because you’ve been in a relationship for a long time doesn’t mean that kissing should go out the window. The sad fact is that fun make out sessions can diminish to quick, ‘see you later’ pecks. Make the effort to engage kisses with your partner, even on a daily basis. This will leave them feeling just as special and attractive as when you had your first kiss.

                                      20. Have a bath together

                                        This may not be doable for everyone, but if you have access to a bath, I highly recommend it. If you want to go for a more cuddly and romantic vibe than a sexy one, set up a laptop and watch a movie together in there. If you happen to have bathroom TV I only have this to say: What time can I come over?

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                                        21. Tell them that you love them

                                          And I don’t mean in that mechanical, not thinking about it way.

                                          22. Engage in inappropriate texting

                                            Just because you’ve been together for awhile doesn’t mean you can’t have some fun and get excited by them. Make them look especially forward to coming home by sending some ‘not safe for work’ texts. It’s exciting and will make them feel attractive and desired. Hopefully the boss doesn’t see.

                                            23. Look after each other during illness

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                                              If you’re partner is sick, do everything you can to make them comfortable. This shows how much you love and care about them, even when they look like death warmed up.

                                              24. Buy a spontaneous gift

                                              This can be anything from a video game to their favorite candy bar. The monetary value isn’t important, it’s the fact that you got them something “just because.”

                                              25. Compliment them

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                                                Because it’s nice to be appreciated.

                                                26. Don’t let the romance die

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                                                  Getting comfortable with one another is fine, just don’t let the romance die off completely. You may not always be able to maintain the same butterflies you experienced on your first date, but you can sure as hell try to make your partner feel loved and special every day.

                                                  Featured photo credit: Scott Broome via unsplash.com

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                                                  How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

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                                                  How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

                                                  You’re standing behind the curtain, just about to make your way on stage to face the many faces half-shrouded in darkness in front of you. As you move towards the spotlight, your body starts to feel heavier with each step. A familiar thump echoes throughout your body – your heartbeat has gone off the charts.

                                                  Don’t worry, you’re not the only one with glossophobia(also known as speech anxiety or the fear of speaking to large crowds). Sometimes, the anxiety happens long before you even stand on stage.

                                                  Your body’s defence mechanism responds by causing a part of your brain to release adrenaline into your blood – the same chemical that gets released as if you were being chased by a lion.

                                                  Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you overcome your fear of public speaking:

                                                  1. Prepare yourself mentally and physically

                                                  According to experts, we’re built to display anxiety and to recognize it in others. If your body and mind are anxious, your audience will notice. Hence, it’s important to prepare yourself before the big show so that you arrive on stage confident, collected and ready.

                                                  “Your outside world is a reflection of your inside world. What goes on in the inside, shows on the outside.” – Bob Proctor

                                                  Exercising lightly before a presentation helps get your blood circulating and sends oxygen to the brain. Mental exercises, on the other hand, can help calm the mind and nerves. Here are some useful ways to calm your racing heart when you start to feel the butterflies in your stomach:

                                                  Warming up

                                                  If you’re nervous, chances are your body will feel the same way. Your body gets tense, your muscles feel tight or you’re breaking in cold sweat. The audience will notice you are nervous.

                                                  If you observe that this is exactly what is happening to you minutes before a speech, do a couple of stretches to loosen and relax your body. It’s better to warm up before every speech as it helps to increase the functional potential of the body as a whole. Not only that, it increases muscle efficiency, improves reaction time and your movements.

                                                  Here are some exercises to loosen up your body before show time:

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                                                  1. Neck and shoulder rolls – This helps relieve upper body muscle tension and pressure as the rolls focus on rotating the head and shoulders, loosening the muscle. Stress and anxiety can make us rigid within this area which can make you feel agitated, especially when standing.
                                                  2. Arm stretches – We often use this part of our muscles during a speech or presentation through our hand gestures and movements. Stretching these muscles can reduce arm fatigue, loosen you up and improve your body language range.
                                                  3. Waist twists – Place your hands on your hips and rotate your waist in a circular motion. This exercise focuses on loosening the abdominal and lower back regions which is essential as it can cause discomfort and pain, further amplifying any anxieties you may experience.

                                                  Stay hydrated

                                                  Ever felt parched seconds before speaking? And then coming up on stage sounding raspy and scratchy in front of the audience? This happens because the adrenaline from stage fright causes your mouth to feel dried out.

                                                  To prevent all that, it’s essential we stay adequately hydrated before a speech. A sip of water will do the trick. However, do drink in moderation so that you won’t need to go to the bathroom constantly.

                                                  Try to avoid sugary beverages and caffeine, since it’s a diuretic – meaning you’ll feel thirstier. It will also amplify your anxiety which prevents you from speaking smoothly.

                                                  Meditate

                                                  Meditation is well-known as a powerful tool to calm the mind. ABC’s Dan Harris, co-anchor of Nightline and Good Morning America weekend and author of the book titled10% Happier , recommends that meditation can help individuals to feel significantly calmer, faster.

                                                  Meditation is like a workout for your mind. It gives you the strength and focus to filter out the negativity and distractions with words of encouragement, confidence and strength.

                                                  Mindfulness meditation, in particular, is a popular method to calm yourself before going up on the big stage. The practice involves sitting comfortably, focusing on your breathing and then bringing your mind’s attention to the present without drifting into concerns about the past or future – which likely includes floundering on stage.

                                                  Here’s a nice example of guided meditation before public speaking:

                                                  2. Focus on your goal

                                                  One thing people with a fear of public speaking have in common is focusing too much on themselves and the possibility of failure.

                                                  Do I look funny? What if I can’t remember what to say? Do I look stupid? Will people listen to me? Does anyone care about what I’m talking about?’

                                                  Instead of thinking this way, shift your attention to your one true purpose – contributing something of value to your audience.

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                                                  Decide on the progress you’d like your audience to make after your presentation. Notice their movements and expressions to adapt your speech to ensure that they are having a good time to leave the room as better people.

                                                  If your own focus isn’t beneficial and what it should be when you’re speaking, then shift it to what does. This is also key to establishing trust during your presentation as the audience can clearly see that you have their interests at heart.[1]

                                                  3. Convert negativity to positivity

                                                  There are two sides constantly battling inside of us – one is filled with strength and courage while the other is doubt and insecurities. Which one will you feed?

                                                  ‘What if I mess up this speech? What if I’m not funny enough? What if I forget what to say?’

                                                  It’s no wonder why many of us are uncomfortable giving a presentation. All we do is bring ourselves down before we got a chance to prove ourselves. This is also known as a self-fulfilling prophecy – a belief that comes true because we are acting as if it already is. If you think you’re incompetent, then it will eventually become true.

                                                  Motivational coaches tout that positive mantras and affirmations tend to boost your confidents for the moments that matter most. Say to yourself: “I’ll ace this speech and I can do it!”

                                                  Take advantage of your adrenaline rush to encourage positive outcome rather than thinking of the negative ‘what ifs’.

                                                  Here’s a video of Psychologist Kelly McGonigal who encourages her audience to turn stress into something positive as well as provide methods on how to cope with it:

                                                  4. Understand your content

                                                  Knowing your content at your fingertips helps reduce your anxiety because there is one less thing to worry about. One way to get there is to practice numerous times before your actual speech.

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                                                  However, memorizing your script word-for-word is not encouraged. You can end up freezing should you forget something. You’ll also risk sounding unnatural and less approachable.

                                                  “No amount of reading or memorizing will make you successful in life. It is the understanding and the application of wise thought that counts.” – Bob Proctor

                                                  Many people unconsciously make the mistake of reading from their slides or memorizing their script word-for-word without understanding their content – a definite way to stress themselves out.

                                                  Understanding your speech flow and content makes it easier for you to convert ideas and concepts into your own words which you can then clearly explain to others in a conversational manner. Designing your slides to include text prompts is also an easy hack to ensure you get to quickly recall your flow when your mind goes blank.[2]

                                                  One way to understand is to memorize the over-arching concepts or ideas in your pitch. It helps you speak more naturally and let your personality shine through. It’s almost like taking your audience on a journey with a few key milestones.

                                                  5. Practice makes perfect

                                                  Like most people, many of us are not naturally attuned to public speaking. Rarely do individuals walk up to a large audience and present flawlessly without any research and preparation.

                                                  In fact, some of the top presenters make it look easy during showtime because they have spent countless hours behind-the-scenes in deep practice. Even great speakers like the late John F. Kennedy would spend months preparing his speech beforehand.

                                                  Public speaking, like any other skill, requires practice – whether it be practicing your speech countless of times in front of a mirror or making notes. As the saying goes, practice makes perfect!

                                                  6. Be authentic

                                                  There’s nothing wrong with feeling stressed before going up to speak in front of an audience.

                                                  Many people fear public speaking because they fear others will judge them for showing their true, vulnerable self. However, vulnerability can sometimes help you come across as more authentic and relatable as a speaker.

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                                                  Drop the pretence of trying to act or speak like someone else and you’ll find that it’s worth the risk. You become more genuine, flexible and spontaneous, which makes it easier to handle unpredictable situations – whether it’s getting tough questions from the crowd or experiencing an unexpected technical difficulty.

                                                  To find out your authentic style of speaking is easy. Just pick a topic or issue you are passionate about and discuss this like you normally would with a close family or friend. It is like having a conversation with someone in a personal one-to-one setting. A great way to do this on stage is to select a random audience member(with a hopefully calming face) and speak to a single person at a time during your speech. You’ll find that it’s easier trying to connect to one person at a time than a whole room.

                                                  With that said, being comfortable enough to be yourself in front of others may take a little time and some experience, depending how comfortable you are with being yourself in front of others. But once you embrace it, stage fright will not be as intimidating as you initially thought.

                                                  Presenters like Barack Obama are a prime example of a genuine and passionate speaker:

                                                  7. Post speech evaluation

                                                  Last but not the least, if you’ve done public speaking and have been scarred from a bad experience, try seeing it as a lesson learned to improve yourself as a speaker.

                                                  Don’t beat yourself up after a presentation

                                                  We are the hardest on ourselves and it’s good to be. But when you finish delivering your speech or presentation, give yourself some recognition and a pat on the back.

                                                  You managed to finish whatever you had to do and did not give up. You did not let your fears and insecurities get to you. Take a little more pride in your work and believe in yourself.

                                                  Improve your next speech

                                                  As mentioned before, practice does make perfect. If you want to improve your public speaking skills, try asking someone to film you during a speech or presentation. Afterwards, watch and observe what you can do to improve yourself next time.

                                                  Here are some questions you can ask yourself after every speech:

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                                                  • How did I do?
                                                  • Are there any areas for improvement?
                                                  • Did I sound or look stressed?
                                                  • Did I stumble on my words? Why?
                                                  • Was I saying “um” too often?
                                                  • How was the flow of the speech?

                                                  Write everything you observed down and keep practicing and improving. In time, you’ll be able to better manage your fears of public speaking and appear more confident when it counts.

                                                  If you want even more tips about public speaking or delivering a great presentation, check out these articles too:

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