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25 Things To Let Go Of Before Your Next Birthday

25 Things To Let Go Of Before Your Next Birthday

Imagine what we’d all look like if we wore our worries on the outside. If there were some physical manifestation of our emotional baggage and hang-ups, we’d all be unrecognizable. If you find yourself thinking sometimes that you’re not who you should be, it’s time to explore ways to kick that feeling to the curb and look at how to change things in a healthy way. Here are 25 things to let go of that we could all stand to ditch by our next birthdays.

1. Let go of anything that doesn’t make you a better or happier person

We were built to pursue greatness and to perform to the best of our abilities. Anything that doesn’t serve our search for self-improvement needs to be swept aside – though not at the expense of our happiness.

2. Let go of other peoples’ burdens

We’re all our brother’s keepers in one way or another, but letting the burdens of others consume and rule over your own life isn’t healthy. Help others within reason, but also know when to let them help themselves.

3. Let go of what other people think about you

Most of us tend to think that other people judge us much more harshly than they actually do.

4. Let go of your pursuit of an unrealistic body image

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    It’s almost a cliché by now to point out how badly our body images have been warped by the media. We constantly see barely clothed models in advertisements, telling us on an unconscious level that we’ll never measure up. The only person your body needs to please is yourself.

    5. Let go of avoiding your problems

    You might think that your attempt to sweep your problems under the rug could be healthy, but nothing could be further from the truth. Nothing will improve if we don’t actively pursue practical solutions to our problems.

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    6. Let go of regret

    Regret is like a poison; left untreated, it can kill you. There are things in each of our lives that could have gone differently, but losing sleep over them isn’t healthy.

    7. Let go of lazy attitudes and unproductive days

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      There’s something to be said for slowing down and enjoying a lazy day here and there, but when these days become the rule rather than the exception, you’ll fall into a pattern that’s tough to escape.

      8. Let go of your insecurities

      All you need to remember is this: we’re our own harshest critics.

      9. Let go of crying about life’s inherent unfairness

      Some of us learn as children that there will always be somebody better off than we are. If you’ve lost sight of that fact, it’s time to relearn it.

      10. Let go of setting your sights too high

      It’s good to have dreams and ambitions, but it’s important to keep them grounded as well. Expecting too much of ourselves is never healthy.

      11. Let go of the belief that everything arrives in its own time

      Maybe you believe in fate, destiny, or providence. That’s well and good, but it’s no substitute for taking charge of your life and making a positive change. If there’s something you want, it’s up to you to seek it out. Don’t wait for it to come to you.

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      12. Let go of your penchant for procrastination

      We all have responsibilities. Trying to shirk them or put them off until another day will do nothing for you except to pile the stress ever higher.

      13. Let go of dwelling on your mistakes

      Maybe you took a wrong turn somewhere. Maybe you chose not to pursue that career in the military, turning your back on the military scholarships that could have saved you tons of money. Instead of dwelling on your mistakes, resolve instead to make things right.

      14. Let go of stress

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        We all give in to stress from time to time, and the truth is that it can be a great motivator. The problem is this: there’s nothing worse than hanging on to the same sources of stress for months or years at a time.

        15. Let go of trying to change the people around you

        Maybe people can change, and maybe they can’t. If they can, they’re the only ones who can make that change happen. You can be a source of inspiration for the people you care about, but don’t try to become a direct instrument of change; they’ll only learn to resent you.

        16. Let go of your worries about money

        Most of us have worried about money at one time or another. Keeping our eyes open for new opportunities or better careers is one thing, but if you’ve got a roof over your head and food to eat, don’t let money rule over you.

        17. Let go of trying to become a different type of person

        To be clear: we all have room in our lives for improvement. We can become better people, but seeking to conform to somebody’s prescribed notion of who you ought to be isn’t a healthy pursuit.

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        18. Let go of obsessing over your schedule

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          Planning is great, but flexibility is even better. Don’t worry so much about adhering to a strict schedule. As long as you’re being productive, your to-do list will take care of itself.

          19. Let go of your obsession with “stuff”

          If you’ve ever stood outside in a line to get your hands on a new electronic gadget before everybody else, you probably need to reexamine your priorities. Don’t let the pursuit of “stuff” control your life.

          20. Let go of your fear of speaking your mind

          Life is too short for us to keep our feelings walled off from the world. Tell that person you have feelings for them, or talk to your significant other about what’s bothering you. You’ll feel so much better after you do.

          21. Let go of your anger

          The evolutionary purpose of anger, and its place in psychology, will probably always be under examination. In terms of our everyday lives, however, anger is a pointless distraction that’s not worth hanging on to for any length of time.

          22. Let go of excuses

          If you have trouble taking responsibility for your actions, it’s time to own up.

          23. Let go of your jealousy toward the people in your life

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            Is there anything more pointless than jealousy? Don’t hate your ex for finding love elsewhere, and don’t begrudge your neighbors their new yacht. Instead, make the most of what you do have.

            24. Let go of your worries about the future

            The future will get here. All we can do is make sure we’re prepared for when it does. Worrying about what’s to come will only serve to distract you from the present.

            25. Let go of the belief that it’s too late to start over

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              Whether you’re leaving an unhealthy relationship or setting out to explore new opportunities, never let the passage of time interfere with the pursuit of your dreams.

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              13 Ways Happy People Think and Feel Differently

              13 Ways Happy People Think and Feel Differently

              Let me begin by being 100% frank with you – everyone is capable of happiness.

              Happiness is first a choice but it also takes persistence to maintain. Happiness is our birth right and my mission is to help as many people as I can live their happiest life.

              My mission is to spread the message that everyone deserves happiness.

              To live a happy life; however, you must do the work, gain the necessary knowledge, and increase your awareness.

              You must fully embody this state and begin to think and feel happiness on every level of your being.

              Often times, excuses present themselves and our mind gives us the reasons why we can’t be happy:

              “I am too busy right now to focus on happiness”

              “I will be happy when I finish school, when I have the money, when I am in the right relationship, when I have kids, when my children are older….”

              “I would have had a happy life if this traumatic event had never happened”

              “I don’t deserve happiness”

              EVERYONE deserves happiness. The reason that you are here right now is because you have a purpose and you are on the earth to enjoy your journey.

              Think BIGGER than your excuses. Push FARTHER than your complaints.

              Don’t be pulled away from greatness. Get uncomfortable. At least these are what happy and successful people do on a daily basis.

              If you would like to begin embodying this life-changing state, then… Here are the 13 ways happy people think and feel differently:

              1. Happy People Put Happiness First

              Happy people have made the decision that their end goal is happiness.

              Every situation, event, bad day ultimately ends with happiness.

              To them, happiness is equivalent to sleep and water – it is a necessity to their life. To live an unhappy life is to have never lived at all.

              The happy person asks,

              “What would be the point of living if every day and moment were filled with negativity?”

              “Why would I deplete my energy on negativity when I expend less to be positive?”

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              They make happy-based decisions which means in EVERY MOMENT they choose happiness.

              If their circumstances can’t change then they instead change their perspective, they look for the silver lining in the negative.

              Happy people don’t let negativity steal their moments away – a positive mindset always prevails.

              If you ask a happy person how their day was, they will always answer your question with a highlight or a lesson learned.

              2. Happy People Embrace Pain

              I know what you are thinking –

              “No one is ALWAYS happy”

              or …

              “Even happy people get in bad moods”

              and …

              These statements are absolutely accurate.

              Happy people aren’t always happy and they DO get into bad moods. They get overwhelmed, they feel defeated, and their feelings get hurt.

              Happy people aren’t invincible and they feel pain just like everyone else. The only difference between happy people and people who let negativity run their lives is that…

              Happy people quickly acknowledge their pain and they make a decision to find a way to transform their pain into something greater. They also use these 13 simple ways to shake off the sadness.

              Happy people admit the negativity they feel and they do what it takes to get back into their natural state: happiness.

              When your end goal is happiness, then you will find a way to achieve it no matter how much strength you have to muster.

              3. Happy People Have a Happy Self-Image

              We all have an image in our minds that we subconsciously live up to.

              The reason that change is so hard is because our subconscious mind is programmed to live by how we define ourselves.

              How are you currently defining yourself?

              For happy people, they see themselves with a smile, positive outlook, and/or a bounce in their step. When an event or situation arises that brings in a negative emotion, they quickly change their state to resemble their natural self-image.

              When happy people are in a bad mood, it feels unusual to them because feeling negative isn’t aligned with how they see themselves. When they feel upset, they acknowledge the negativity and look for a solution to bring their emotions to the level of how they perceive themselves.

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              Look at how you define yourself today – your mind and body are always trying to live up to the definition it is taught to believe.

              Your body’s job is to keep you in a “normal” state because this is where it feels most comfortable.

              If your self-image is happy, then your mind and body will naturally be brought back to where it feels at home. Your actions will be a clue to how you define yourself.

              Take a look at this guide and learn to build positive self-image: How to Build Self Esteem (A Guide to Realize Your Hidden Power)

              4. Happy People Have a Strong Support System

              The happiest people know that it takes a village and they lean on others for support.

              Happy people feel comfortable reaching out for help when they feel that their resistances are overpowering them. They quickly sense their negativity and they tell somebody.

              Happy people ask for assistance when they can’t figure out a problem. Seeking help takes strength and it never gets in the way of their self-worth. Happy people appreciate the wisdom that their support system provides.

              They have strong connections with the people who are close to them. They never trudge through tough times alone because jeopardizing their happiness for too long would be detrimental to their well-being.

              5. Happy People Safeguard Their Minds from Negative Triggers

              Warding off negativity is almost impossible when we live in a society that lives by what went wrong and feeds off of what could go wrong. News travels instantaneously so it would be unrealistic to shut this out of your life completely.

              However, one strategy that happy people use to safeguard their minds is regulating their environment.

              We have a lot of control on how we allow our environments to affect us. We can control our social media feed, the television shows and movies we watch, the books that we read, the people that we spend our time with, and the places that we hang out.

              If happiness is your end goal, then take a good look at what is bringing you down. What triggers your unhappiness? See if there is anything in your environment that can be changed……

              What we listen to, read, and who we hang out with influence our mind, what we think about, what we worry about, our reactions, and behaviors.

              Happy people know what triggers a feeling of negativity and it feels out of alignment for them so they do what it takes to avoid it.

              They might regulate their social media news feed to reflect the information that brings them positive energy. They might regulate the people that they spend their time with. It is important to hang out with like-minded people.

              What are your triggers? How can you avoid the negativity in your environment?

              These are ways that happy people regulate their environment and safeguard their minds: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions

              6. Happy People Know When to Say “No”

              Happy people know when to sit one out and say “no.” They do this to protect their happiness and well-being.

              Life gets overwhelming – a lot of people need our attention and the to do list can seem never ending.

              Happy people give themselves permission to take the day off and they feel comfortable with saying “no” when their stress levels begin to climb. They understand that those around them aren’t benefiting from someone who is frazzled, overwhelmed, and tired.

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              A happy person identifies their negative emotion and then they quickly treat it to bring themselves back to their “normal” state, so that they can be at their best for not only themselves but for those around them, too.

              A simple “no” can ultimately mean many more “yes’s” in the future because happiness has a long battery life. You can take a look at Leo Babauta’s article The Gentle Art of Saying No and learn to say no.

              7. Happy People Are Good Evaluators

              Happy people can quickly sense when something is off with themselves or others. They are very intuitive to happiness levels. When someone isn’t quite right, they are the first ones to notice.

              Being able to evaluate happiness means that you can identify when negativity is lingering around for too long.

              We all have bad days; however, the happy person evaluates often and quickly intervenes.

              In other words, happy people frequently evaluate their state and immediately change when their pessimism is overshadowing their joy.

              8. Happy People Bring Other People Up

              What goes on inside of us is mirrored into our physical world.

              What we think about literally consumes our life and is displayed in our work, relationships, and attitude.

              Happy people naturally feel good inside and about themselves so they treat others the way that they treat themselves. It never feels forced to give a compliment or to help out a stranger.

              When we are truly happy with ourselves, everyone around us has a better experience. Happy people are kind to themselves and because of this, it feels natural to them to want to make others’ happy, too.

              9. Happy People Go After Their Dreams

              Happy people are always following the joyful path. They make happy-based decisions and because of this, they always end up where they want to be.

              It’s absolutely impossible to be happy by following an undesirable path, which is quite opposite for unhappy people.

              Most people journey through life on a path they think they are “supposed” to be own. Warning signs (negativity) are often ignored because they truly believe that these feelings are a normal part of life.

              Negativity is NOT normal.

              The happiest people investigate the negativity in their life and quickly analyze the results. This process allows them to get back on the joyful path which ends in a desirable outcome.

              Follow your happiness and your dreams will come true (If that isn’t motivation then I don’t know what is!)

              In addition to happiness, here are 14 amazing things that happen when you live your passion.

              10. Happy People Never Sweat the Small Stuff

              The only expectation that the happy person has is that they remain in a joyful state.

              They rarely have expectations for the events and people in their lives because they know that this is a sure way to get let down.

              The happiest people take life as it comes – you could say that they roll with the punches. When you don’t have expectations, then you can just sit back and watch how beautifully life unfolds.

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              Happy people understand that bad things are inevitable, they are a part of life – The car will break, the kids will make mistakes, people will be late, and dinner will burn.

              If it’s not anything seriously affecting their lives, then they don’t give their energy to it.

              11. Happy People Rarely Have to Prove That They Are Right

              Happy people remember that it’s more important to live up to what they believe. When you live your life aligned with your belief system, then there is no need to explain or prove yourself to others.

              Differences in opinions are inevitable, but the happiest of people know it’s wasted energy to defend their position.

              It is more effective to simply show people, through actions, how you think, feel, and what you believe.

              Energy is saved, arguments are diminished, and credibility/respect are gained when we live by what we believe.

              12. Happy People Smile (Even When They Don’t Want To)

              Smiling is one of the healthiest things we can do; and happy people use this simple trick quite often.

              It has been proven that smiling has the ability to boost your immune system, decrease stress levels, and can even make you look younger. The benefits of smiling have even been backed up by science.[1]

              Better yet, smiling is contagious. When you engage in a quick smile, you are likely to brighten someone else’s day along with your own. It is no wonder why happy people smile often!

              13. Happy People Live Life in the Present Moment

              When we are genuinely happy, we are living for the moment.

              Happy people let go of the past, enjoy the present, and look forward to the future. They take the moments for what they are worth – they only invest their energy in what feels right to them.

              These tips on How to Live in the Moment and Stop Worrying About the Past or Future maybe helpful for you.

              Everyone is capable of living a happy-centered life. You deserve a life that you desire – your dream life. All you have to start doing is make happy-based decisions TODAY.

              In every moment, decide on what makes you happy – decide on what gets you excited. Stop doing what you don’t love, don’t listen to the people that you dislike.

              If you are engaging in something that isn’t bringing you joy, then quit doing it. Listen to your heart, stop ignoring the warning signs (negativity) because they are there for a reason.

              Final Thoughts

              I have observed, studied, and interviewed some of the happiest and most successful people along with some of the most miserable and self-loathing.

              It starts with one decision – happiness.

              The happiest, most successful people choose happiness with EACH and EVERY decision. And you can start doing this today.

              Featured photo credit: Autumn Goodman via unsplash.com

              Reference

              [1] Harvard Business Review: The Science Behind the Smile

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