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20 Promises You Can Make To Your Dearest Sister

20 Promises You Can Make To Your Dearest Sister

I am the eldest of three girls. My mom is the eldest of six girls. In my family, you learned early on that your sisters are the rock, glue, and sunshine of your life. (And sometimes, the pain in your bum!)

Being the big sister, you feel a certain pressure to be a good example, show your support, and look out for the others’ best interests. But as you inevitably don’t live up to these expectations (at least, not all the time) you realize that you don’t have to be all these things to them – that these things are what you are to each other. Like good sisters, you take turns.

As sisters, you make promises – solemn pinky swears – that you will be there for each other in every way. Here are 20 promises to keep your sisterhood thriving, loving, and full of mischief!

20 Promises for Sisters

1. I promise to be your wing-girl for life. If you need a date to that awkward dinner party or to go watch the movie that no one else wants to see – I’m your gal!

2. I promise not to embarrass you too much. (BTW, you’re not allowed to disown me. Mom said!)

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3. I promise to not disown you. This relationship goes both ways.

4. I promise to pick you up whenever you need a ride. Call me your personal airport shuttle service.

5. I promise to cover for you. No amount of parental pressure will get me to throw you under the bus. (Circle of trust!)

6. I promise to keep all your secrets. Especially the ones that involve both of us.

7. I promise I will be your alibi. (Just keep me in the loop!)

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8. I promise to have your back in any scuffle unless it’s with another sister, then like fractions, I’m canceled out!

9. I promise you can call me any time – day or night. You may have to do the ring–text–ring thing so I know you really want me to answer your call, but confidently know you’re on that short call list of favorites.

10. I promise, if it’s an emergency, I will drop everything to be there for you. You name it, anywhere and anytime! (#RideorDie)

11. I promise to give you a kidney if you need one. Mom would want me to.

12. I promise to babysit your children free of charge while you have date night.

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13. I promise to keep your kids safe.

14. I promise, and God forbid if anything ever happens to you, your children will be loved, supported, and know every wonderful thing you ever did in your spectacular life.

15. I promise to be kind to my brother-in-laws because I know their pain – just kidding!

16. I promise to tell you when your outfit will set off the fashion police, as well as tell you when you look fabulous by saying, “Beyoncé would approve!” (Don’t hate on a sister!)

17. I promise to be your biggest cheerleader. All your accomplishments, big and small are worth celebrating with cake in my book!

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18. I promise, you never have to pretend to be someone you’re not when you are around me. Sister to sister – your uniqueness inspires me.

19. I promise to accept you as you are. Your cray-cray is my kind of cray-cray. I love how we get each other. No one else can read my mind!

20. I promise to love you unconditionally – forever.

Comment below and add to this quirky list of sisterly promises! By the way, these promises are also extended to best friends – sisterhood love has no bounds.

A healthy relationship between sisters is when the love shared is unconditional, the support given is compassionate, and the happiness of everyone involved is considered.

Now go hug your sister!

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Last Updated on August 6, 2020

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

We’ve all done it. That moment when a series of words slithers from your mouth and the instant regret manifests through blushing and profuse apologies. If you could just think before you speak! It doesn’t have to be like this, and with a bit of practice, it’s actually quite easy to prevent.

“Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.” – Napolean Hill

Are we speaking the same language?

My mum recently left me a note thanking me for looking after her dog. She’d signed it with “LOL.” In my world, this means “laugh out loud,” and in her world it means “lots of love.” My kids tell me things are “sick” when they’re good, and ”manck” when they’re bad (when I say “bad,” I don’t mean good!). It’s amazing that we manage to communicate at all.

When speaking, we tend to color our language with words and phrases that have become personal to us, things we’ve picked up from our friends, families and even memes from the internet. These colloquialisms become normal, and we expect the listener (or reader) to understand “what we mean.” If you really want the listener to understand your meaning, try to use words and phrases that they might use.

Am I being lazy?

When you’ve been in a relationship for a while, a strange metamorphosis takes place. People tend to become lazier in the way that they communicate with each other, with less thought for the feelings of their partner. There’s no malice intended; we just reach a “comfort zone” and know that our partners “know what we mean.”

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Here’s an exchange from Psychology Today to demonstrate what I mean:

Early in the relationship:

“Honey, I don’t want you to take this wrong, but I’m noticing that your hair is getting a little thin on top. I know guys are sensitive about losing their hair, but I don’t want someone else to embarrass you without your expecting it.”

When the relationship is established:

“Did you know that you’re losing a lot of hair on the back of your head? You’re combing it funny and it doesn’t help. Wear a baseball cap or something if you feel weird about it. Lots of guys get thin on top. It’s no big deal.”

It’s pretty clear which of these statements is more empathetic and more likely to be received well. Recognizing when we do this can be tricky, but with a little practice it becomes easy.

Have I actually got anything to say?

When I was a kid, my gran used to say to me that if I didn’t have anything good to say, I shouldn’t say anything at all. My gran couldn’t stand gossip, so this makes total sense, but you can take this statement a little further and modify it: “If you don’t have anything to say, then don’t say anything at all.”

A lot of the time, people speak to fill “uncomfortable silences,” or because they believe that saying something, anything, is better than staying quiet. It can even be a cause of anxiety for some people.

When somebody else is speaking, listen. Don’t wait to speak. Listen. Actually hear what that person is saying, think about it, and respond if necessary.

Am I painting an accurate picture?

One of the most common forms of miscommunication is the lack of a “referential index,” a type of generalization that fails to refer to specific nouns. As an example, look at these two simple phrases: “Can you pass me that?” and “Pass me that thing over there!”. How often have you said something similar?

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How is the listener supposed to know what you mean? The person that you’re talking to will start to fill in the gaps with something that may very well be completely different to what you mean. You’re thinking “pass me the salt,” but you get passed the pepper. This can be infuriating for the listener, and more importantly, can create a lack of understanding and ultimately produce conflict.

Before you speak, try to label people, places and objects in a way that it is easy for any listeners to understand.

What words am I using?

It’s well known that our use of nouns and verbs (or lack of them) gives an insight into where we grew up, our education, our thoughts and our feelings.

Less well known is that the use of pronouns offers a critical insight into how we emotionally code our sentences. James Pennebaker’s research in the 1990’s concluded that function words are important keys to someone’s psychological state and reveal much more than content words do.

Starting a sentence with “I think…” demonstrates self-focus rather than empathy with the speaker, whereas asking the speaker to elaborate or quantify what they’re saying clearly shows that you’re listening and have respect even if you disagree.

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Is the map really the territory?

Before speaking, we sometimes construct a scenario that makes us act in a way that isn’t necessarily reflective of the actual situation.

A while ago, John promised to help me out in a big way with a project that I was working on. After an initial meeting and some big promises, we put together a plan and set off on its execution. A week or so went by, and I tried to get a hold of John to see how things were going. After voice mails and emails with no reply and general silence, I tried again a week later and still got no response.

I was frustrated and started to get more than a bit vexed. The project obviously meant more to me than it did to him, and I started to construct all manner of crazy scenarios. I finally got through to John and immediately started a mild rant about making promises you can’t keep. He stopped me in my tracks with the news that his brother had died. If I’d have just thought before I spoke…

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