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20 Promises You Can Make To Your Dearest Sister

20 Promises You Can Make To Your Dearest Sister

I am the eldest of three girls. My mom is the eldest of six girls. In my family, you learned early on that your sisters are the rock, glue, and sunshine of your life. (And sometimes, the pain in your bum!)

Being the big sister, you feel a certain pressure to be a good example, show your support, and look out for the others’ best interests. But as you inevitably don’t live up to these expectations (at least, not all the time) you realize that you don’t have to be all these things to them – that these things are what you are to each other. Like good sisters, you take turns.

As sisters, you make promises – solemn pinky swears – that you will be there for each other in every way. Here are 20 promises to keep your sisterhood thriving, loving, and full of mischief!

20 Promises for Sisters

1. I promise to be your wing-girl for life. If you need a date to that awkward dinner party or to go watch the movie that no one else wants to see – I’m your gal!

2. I promise not to embarrass you too much. (BTW, you’re not allowed to disown me. Mom said!)

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3. I promise to not disown you. This relationship goes both ways.

4. I promise to pick you up whenever you need a ride. Call me your personal airport shuttle service.

5. I promise to cover for you. No amount of parental pressure will get me to throw you under the bus. (Circle of trust!)

6. I promise to keep all your secrets. Especially the ones that involve both of us.

7. I promise I will be your alibi. (Just keep me in the loop!)

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8. I promise to have your back in any scuffle unless it’s with another sister, then like fractions, I’m canceled out!

9. I promise you can call me any time – day or night. You may have to do the ring–text–ring thing so I know you really want me to answer your call, but confidently know you’re on that short call list of favorites.

10. I promise, if it’s an emergency, I will drop everything to be there for you. You name it, anywhere and anytime! (#RideorDie)

11. I promise to give you a kidney if you need one. Mom would want me to.

12. I promise to babysit your children free of charge while you have date night.

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13. I promise to keep your kids safe.

14. I promise, and God forbid if anything ever happens to you, your children will be loved, supported, and know every wonderful thing you ever did in your spectacular life.

15. I promise to be kind to my brother-in-laws because I know their pain – just kidding!

16. I promise to tell you when your outfit will set off the fashion police, as well as tell you when you look fabulous by saying, “Beyoncé would approve!” (Don’t hate on a sister!)

17. I promise to be your biggest cheerleader. All your accomplishments, big and small are worth celebrating with cake in my book!

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18. I promise, you never have to pretend to be someone you’re not when you are around me. Sister to sister – your uniqueness inspires me.

19. I promise to accept you as you are. Your cray-cray is my kind of cray-cray. I love how we get each other. No one else can read my mind!

20. I promise to love you unconditionally – forever.

Comment below and add to this quirky list of sisterly promises! By the way, these promises are also extended to best friends – sisterhood love has no bounds.

A healthy relationship between sisters is when the love shared is unconditional, the support given is compassionate, and the happiness of everyone involved is considered.

Now go hug your sister!

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The Gentle Art of Saying No

The Gentle Art of Saying No

No!

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

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But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

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What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

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But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here are the Top 10 tips for learning the Gentle Art of Saying No:

  1. Value your time. Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”
  2. Know your priorities. Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time? For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.
  3. Practice saying no. Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.
  4. Don’t apologize. A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.
  5. Stop being nice. Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets. Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.
  6. Say no to your boss. Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning. But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.
  7. Pre-empting. It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting, “Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”
  8. Get back to you. Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them: “After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.” At least you gave it some consideration.
  9. Maybe later. If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say, “This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].” Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.
  10. It’s not you, it’s me. This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time. Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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