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20 Amazing Things Only People Who Have A Little Sister Would Understand

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20 Amazing Things Only People Who Have A Little Sister Would Understand

Siblings are a blessing, no matter how late in life that becomes evident. It can be agreed, however, that nothing quite surpasses the bond between sisters.

As an older sister, the joys and pains of having a little sister are experienced universally. Time passes and you can look back at all the times you were glad that you had that little bundle of sunshine to keep you on your toes for all the best years.

Whether you were the responsible older sibling shaking your head at your younger sibling, or they were the responsible younger sibling rolling their eyes at their irresponsible elder, you both have a pile of unforgettable memories as sisters.

Older sisters around the world can definitely agree that for better or for worse, the following are just some of the most amazing things about having a little sister.

1. They make you feel motherly.

As younger children, your little sister probably provided you with your first motherly experiences. Like making sure she gets out of bed on time and prepares for school without stealing the shower for too long.

When you go out, it usually happens that you get dumped with the responsibility of looking after her. No matter how much of a burden this happens to be sometimes, you realize eventually that you wish you’d actually enjoyed this sisterly bonding time.

2. Late night comfort.

Especially as younger children, it is not uncommon for sisters to share a bed or a room at least once in their lives. One you get over the complaints about lack of privacy and space, sharing the personal space with someone else has never been so natural.

Not everyone is brave enough to sleep alone, and even though the big sister is supposed to be the tough one, it is comforting to see your adorable little sister sleeping soundly nearby.

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And let’s not forget the occurrences of late night banter. When just before going to sleep you whisper stupid things to each other across the room, conversations that stay between you two forever. Could it get any more nostalgic?

3. Sharing things.

As well as the sharing of personal space, you realize eventually that you and your little sister have barely gone a day without sharing something: sharing a bathroom, shampoo, hairbrushes, cosmetics and clothes. While you were little, it wasn’t unusual for your little sister to steal some clothes from you that she could barely even fit into. Never fear – once that little devil grows up, start stealing her belongings too. Call it an even match.

4. She makes you realize that you’ve grown up.

She is having a tantrum, calling everything unfair and is suffering from major little girl problems. She makes you wonder, “Oh my goodness, was I her once?” Of course siblings tend to be quite unique from each other, however it might occur to you that you were once much more alike than you could ever have imagined, and it is a quiet indication that you have now grown up.

And let’s not forget the late nights when your sister got sent to bed and you didn’t. Nothing spells growing up quite like an extended curfew.

5. She’s the first to hear your new-found wisdom.

With age comes wisdom and when your little sister is walking into a dangerous situation that you once walked into yourself, big-sister mode is automatically triggered. She might resent you for it now, but she’ll thank you for it later. Chances are, your little sister is the first person you’d be willing to protect in that way. Looking out for her isn’t easy, but it is something that you feel is extremely important.

6. Your friends love her.

She is your little sister, so your friends automatically love her too. While sometimes it is tempting to exclude her from your group of friends, you have to admit that having her around makes everything a lot more fun.

7. No one ever picks on my little sister…except me.

If someone decides to pick on your little sister on the playground, they have Hell to pay. However, if you decide to make a snide quip at her today, it can be pardoned, simply because you’re the big sister.

You love her, you protect her, and at the end of the day, you’re sure she knows that you were just playing around. However this doesn’t change the fact that you are picking on her, you mean thing.

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8. Inside jokes.

Spending all that time with your younger sister has to result in something, and more often than not, it’s inside jokes. Because of the age difference, no matter how big or small it is, you are going to find something to laugh about.

It may even be an innuendo that she doesn’t understand and you have to end up explaining to her. Funny things happen when you’re left alone with your younger sister, and you will remember them forever.

9. She always surprises you.

When you’re having a bad day and just want to shut out the world, you are often surprised by your little sister’s capability to lift your spirits. You never doubt her, since you have no idea what she is capable of. Maybe you never realized she could sing that well, or cook that well.

If you treat her badly, she will still smile and hug you at the end of the day, which is just incredibly adorable. In the end, this little bundle of sunshine never fails to surprise you.

10. It is impossible to stay angry with her.

She could be bratty, difficult, spoiled and impossible. All siblings argue at some stage, but the best thing about getting into an argument with your little sister is that there is no way of staying angry with her for long. No matter what she’s done, her characteristically annoying disposition is enough to make you love her again.

No matter how old she gets, she is still your little sister, and she will always be cute.

 11. She knows you better than anyone else.

She’s heard the words you mumble at night in your sleep, she knows how loud you snore, and let’s not forget – she’s probably seen you naked throughout her entire life. She gets you the best birthday presents, simply because she knows you so well.

Little sisters also have the creepy ability to sense your feelings, so if you’re in a dangerous mood, you don’t have to tell her to stay away.

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12. You are daringly goofy together.

The weirdest and most embarrassing moments can appear normal and funny when your little sister is involved. You belch louder, fart louder and laugh harder than you ever would around anyone else. You get to talk about strange and unspeakable things with the comfort of knowing that these moments stay between the two of you.

And besides, if either of you tell anyone, there are undoubtedly some embarrassing photos that can be used as blackmail and revenge.

13. You miss her when she’s gone.

Your little sister has gone on her first school camping trip, and you are excited about having the room to yourself for the first time. However when night comes, you look over to see an empty bed and immediately feel odd and lonely. Without a doubt, the larger-than-life presence of your little sister is extremely significant in your life.

After moving away from home for the first time, one of the first things you’ll probably miss is your sister’s presence bursting into your new-found freedom. You can’t help looking forward to seeing her again.

14. She becomes the excuse for your escapades.

Yes you can go out with your friends whenever you want…if you bring your younger sister along. With protective parents, it is often difficult to get your own way, especially when it comes to leaving the house.

This holds a lot of benefits. It is fun to hang out with your sister to begin with, but it is easy to underestimate the fun of going window shopping with your sister free of parental permission. In the end, you might not even need your friends around during these adventures. She’s really all you need.

15. She’s a style icon.

Assuming she didn’t grow up a tomboy (or maybe even then!), you can get a lot of style inspiration from your little sister. While she can see and imitate your wardrobe, she makes little tweaks to make it trendier.

You’re the older sister, and may not be as in touch with the times as she is, so take her advice! She was your Barbie doll when she was smaller, but the older she gets, the more you realize that you better start allowing her to make you her personal mannequin.

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16. She never forgets about you.

No matter how many friends either of you makes in the future, she never forgets who her original best friend was and that’s you. Little sisters are undoubtedly loyal and they stick by your side for life and through all the good times and bad times. Best friends never come as good as this.

17. She stopped you from doing a lot of stupid things.

Little sisters are responsible for keeping you from doing a lot of regrettable things, simply by looking up to you. The responsibility of being a good role model constantly hangs over your head. You’re not even too concerned about the wrath you’re going to get from your parents. The most important thing is that you don’t want your little sister doing stupid things just because you were the one that made it ‘OK’.

Chances are, your little sister is the main factor in developing yourself into a responsible adult.

18. She listens to you.

In those difficult adolescent stages, if your parents aren’t getting through to her, chances are, you can. You are closer to her age and she knows that she can talk to you about absolutely anything.

You are her source of comfort and guidance, no matter how much she hates to admit it, and while she may not always want to listen to what you have to say, your words mean more to her than you think.

19. She makes you sentimental.

You’re not her mother, but you’ve kept all of the hand-made birthday cards she gave you, and every silly little plastic present she’s given you is safe in your possession after all these years. You keep all her baby photos in an album and for some reason, you use the phrase “when she was little…” way too much in conversation.

You are proud of all of her achievements and went crazy when she hit puberty. She is not your daughter, but she is still your baby, no matter how old she gets.

20. Watching her grow up is emotional.

Her first day of school was a big deal, and so was her transition into high school. During her graduation day, you wondered where all the time went. You were harsh on her first boyfriend because you wanted to make sure he was worthy, and when she got married, you couldn’t stop crying.

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Even as grown women going out for coffee or dinner, you see your baby sister, not an adult. Watching her grow up is a bittersweet and wonderful experience that you are proud to have been a part of.

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How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

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How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

You’re standing behind the curtain, just about to make your way on stage to face the many faces half-shrouded in darkness in front of you. As you move towards the spotlight, your body starts to feel heavier with each step. A familiar thump echoes throughout your body – your heartbeat has gone off the charts.

Don’t worry, you’re not the only one with glossophobia(also known as speech anxiety or the fear of speaking to large crowds). Sometimes, the anxiety happens long before you even stand on stage.

Your body’s defence mechanism responds by causing a part of your brain to release adrenaline into your blood – the same chemical that gets released as if you were being chased by a lion.

Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you overcome your fear of public speaking:

1. Prepare yourself mentally and physically

According to experts, we’re built to display anxiety and to recognize it in others. If your body and mind are anxious, your audience will notice. Hence, it’s important to prepare yourself before the big show so that you arrive on stage confident, collected and ready.

“Your outside world is a reflection of your inside world. What goes on in the inside, shows on the outside.” – Bob Proctor

Exercising lightly before a presentation helps get your blood circulating and sends oxygen to the brain. Mental exercises, on the other hand, can help calm the mind and nerves. Here are some useful ways to calm your racing heart when you start to feel the butterflies in your stomach:

Warming up

If you’re nervous, chances are your body will feel the same way. Your body gets tense, your muscles feel tight or you’re breaking in cold sweat. The audience will notice you are nervous.

If you observe that this is exactly what is happening to you minutes before a speech, do a couple of stretches to loosen and relax your body. It’s better to warm up before every speech as it helps to increase the functional potential of the body as a whole. Not only that, it increases muscle efficiency, improves reaction time and your movements.

Here are some exercises to loosen up your body before show time:

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  1. Neck and shoulder rolls – This helps relieve upper body muscle tension and pressure as the rolls focus on rotating the head and shoulders, loosening the muscle. Stress and anxiety can make us rigid within this area which can make you feel agitated, especially when standing.
  2. Arm stretches – We often use this part of our muscles during a speech or presentation through our hand gestures and movements. Stretching these muscles can reduce arm fatigue, loosen you up and improve your body language range.
  3. Waist twists – Place your hands on your hips and rotate your waist in a circular motion. This exercise focuses on loosening the abdominal and lower back regions which is essential as it can cause discomfort and pain, further amplifying any anxieties you may experience.

Stay hydrated

Ever felt parched seconds before speaking? And then coming up on stage sounding raspy and scratchy in front of the audience? This happens because the adrenaline from stage fright causes your mouth to feel dried out.

To prevent all that, it’s essential we stay adequately hydrated before a speech. A sip of water will do the trick. However, do drink in moderation so that you won’t need to go to the bathroom constantly.

Try to avoid sugary beverages and caffeine, since it’s a diuretic – meaning you’ll feel thirstier. It will also amplify your anxiety which prevents you from speaking smoothly.

Meditate

Meditation is well-known as a powerful tool to calm the mind. ABC’s Dan Harris, co-anchor of Nightline and Good Morning America weekend and author of the book titled10% Happier , recommends that meditation can help individuals to feel significantly calmer, faster.

Meditation is like a workout for your mind. It gives you the strength and focus to filter out the negativity and distractions with words of encouragement, confidence and strength.

Mindfulness meditation, in particular, is a popular method to calm yourself before going up on the big stage. The practice involves sitting comfortably, focusing on your breathing and then bringing your mind’s attention to the present without drifting into concerns about the past or future – which likely includes floundering on stage.

Here’s a nice example of guided meditation before public speaking:

2. Focus on your goal

One thing people with a fear of public speaking have in common is focusing too much on themselves and the possibility of failure.

Do I look funny? What if I can’t remember what to say? Do I look stupid? Will people listen to me? Does anyone care about what I’m talking about?’

Instead of thinking this way, shift your attention to your one true purpose – contributing something of value to your audience.

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Decide on the progress you’d like your audience to make after your presentation. Notice their movements and expressions to adapt your speech to ensure that they are having a good time to leave the room as better people.

If your own focus isn’t beneficial and what it should be when you’re speaking, then shift it to what does. This is also key to establishing trust during your presentation as the audience can clearly see that you have their interests at heart.[1]

3. Convert negativity to positivity

There are two sides constantly battling inside of us – one is filled with strength and courage while the other is doubt and insecurities. Which one will you feed?

‘What if I mess up this speech? What if I’m not funny enough? What if I forget what to say?’

It’s no wonder why many of us are uncomfortable giving a presentation. All we do is bring ourselves down before we got a chance to prove ourselves. This is also known as a self-fulfilling prophecy – a belief that comes true because we are acting as if it already is. If you think you’re incompetent, then it will eventually become true.

Motivational coaches tout that positive mantras and affirmations tend to boost your confidents for the moments that matter most. Say to yourself: “I’ll ace this speech and I can do it!”

Take advantage of your adrenaline rush to encourage positive outcome rather than thinking of the negative ‘what ifs’.

Here’s a video of Psychologist Kelly McGonigal who encourages her audience to turn stress into something positive as well as provide methods on how to cope with it:

4. Understand your content

Knowing your content at your fingertips helps reduce your anxiety because there is one less thing to worry about. One way to get there is to practice numerous times before your actual speech.

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However, memorizing your script word-for-word is not encouraged. You can end up freezing should you forget something. You’ll also risk sounding unnatural and less approachable.

“No amount of reading or memorizing will make you successful in life. It is the understanding and the application of wise thought that counts.” – Bob Proctor

Many people unconsciously make the mistake of reading from their slides or memorizing their script word-for-word without understanding their content – a definite way to stress themselves out.

Understanding your speech flow and content makes it easier for you to convert ideas and concepts into your own words which you can then clearly explain to others in a conversational manner. Designing your slides to include text prompts is also an easy hack to ensure you get to quickly recall your flow when your mind goes blank.[2]

One way to understand is to memorize the over-arching concepts or ideas in your pitch. It helps you speak more naturally and let your personality shine through. It’s almost like taking your audience on a journey with a few key milestones.

5. Practice makes perfect

Like most people, many of us are not naturally attuned to public speaking. Rarely do individuals walk up to a large audience and present flawlessly without any research and preparation.

In fact, some of the top presenters make it look easy during showtime because they have spent countless hours behind-the-scenes in deep practice. Even great speakers like the late John F. Kennedy would spend months preparing his speech beforehand.

Public speaking, like any other skill, requires practice – whether it be practicing your speech countless of times in front of a mirror or making notes. As the saying goes, practice makes perfect!

6. Be authentic

There’s nothing wrong with feeling stressed before going up to speak in front of an audience.

Many people fear public speaking because they fear others will judge them for showing their true, vulnerable self. However, vulnerability can sometimes help you come across as more authentic and relatable as a speaker.

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Drop the pretence of trying to act or speak like someone else and you’ll find that it’s worth the risk. You become more genuine, flexible and spontaneous, which makes it easier to handle unpredictable situations – whether it’s getting tough questions from the crowd or experiencing an unexpected technical difficulty.

To find out your authentic style of speaking is easy. Just pick a topic or issue you are passionate about and discuss this like you normally would with a close family or friend. It is like having a conversation with someone in a personal one-to-one setting. A great way to do this on stage is to select a random audience member(with a hopefully calming face) and speak to a single person at a time during your speech. You’ll find that it’s easier trying to connect to one person at a time than a whole room.

With that said, being comfortable enough to be yourself in front of others may take a little time and some experience, depending how comfortable you are with being yourself in front of others. But once you embrace it, stage fright will not be as intimidating as you initially thought.

Presenters like Barack Obama are a prime example of a genuine and passionate speaker:

7. Post speech evaluation

Last but not the least, if you’ve done public speaking and have been scarred from a bad experience, try seeing it as a lesson learned to improve yourself as a speaker.

Don’t beat yourself up after a presentation

We are the hardest on ourselves and it’s good to be. But when you finish delivering your speech or presentation, give yourself some recognition and a pat on the back.

You managed to finish whatever you had to do and did not give up. You did not let your fears and insecurities get to you. Take a little more pride in your work and believe in yourself.

Improve your next speech

As mentioned before, practice does make perfect. If you want to improve your public speaking skills, try asking someone to film you during a speech or presentation. Afterwards, watch and observe what you can do to improve yourself next time.

Here are some questions you can ask yourself after every speech:

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  • How did I do?
  • Are there any areas for improvement?
  • Did I sound or look stressed?
  • Did I stumble on my words? Why?
  • Was I saying “um” too often?
  • How was the flow of the speech?

Write everything you observed down and keep practicing and improving. In time, you’ll be able to better manage your fears of public speaking and appear more confident when it counts.

If you want even more tips about public speaking or delivering a great presentation, check out these articles too:

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