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20 Amazing Things Only People Who Have A Little Sister Would Understand

20 Amazing Things Only People Who Have A Little Sister Would Understand

Siblings are a blessing, no matter how late in life that becomes evident. It can be agreed, however, that nothing quite surpasses the bond between sisters.

As an older sister, the joys and pains of having a little sister are experienced universally. Time passes and you can look back at all the times you were glad that you had that little bundle of sunshine to keep you on your toes for all the best years.

Whether you were the responsible older sibling shaking your head at your younger sibling, or they were the responsible younger sibling rolling their eyes at their irresponsible elder, you both have a pile of unforgettable memories as sisters.

Older sisters around the world can definitely agree that for better or for worse, the following are just some of the most amazing things about having a little sister.

1. They make you feel motherly.

As younger children, your little sister probably provided you with your first motherly experiences. Like making sure she gets out of bed on time and prepares for school without stealing the shower for too long.

When you go out, it usually happens that you get dumped with the responsibility of looking after her. No matter how much of a burden this happens to be sometimes, you realize eventually that you wish you’d actually enjoyed this sisterly bonding time.

2. Late night comfort.

Especially as younger children, it is not uncommon for sisters to share a bed or a room at least once in their lives. One you get over the complaints about lack of privacy and space, sharing the personal space with someone else has never been so natural.

Not everyone is brave enough to sleep alone, and even though the big sister is supposed to be the tough one, it is comforting to see your adorable little sister sleeping soundly nearby.

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And let’s not forget the occurrences of late night banter. When just before going to sleep you whisper stupid things to each other across the room, conversations that stay between you two forever. Could it get any more nostalgic?

3. Sharing things.

As well as the sharing of personal space, you realize eventually that you and your little sister have barely gone a day without sharing something: sharing a bathroom, shampoo, hairbrushes, cosmetics and clothes. While you were little, it wasn’t unusual for your little sister to steal some clothes from you that she could barely even fit into. Never fear – once that little devil grows up, start stealing her belongings too. Call it an even match.

4. She makes you realize that you’ve grown up.

She is having a tantrum, calling everything unfair and is suffering from major little girl problems. She makes you wonder, “Oh my goodness, was I her once?” Of course siblings tend to be quite unique from each other, however it might occur to you that you were once much more alike than you could ever have imagined, and it is a quiet indication that you have now grown up.

And let’s not forget the late nights when your sister got sent to bed and you didn’t. Nothing spells growing up quite like an extended curfew.

5. She’s the first to hear your new-found wisdom.

With age comes wisdom and when your little sister is walking into a dangerous situation that you once walked into yourself, big-sister mode is automatically triggered. She might resent you for it now, but she’ll thank you for it later. Chances are, your little sister is the first person you’d be willing to protect in that way. Looking out for her isn’t easy, but it is something that you feel is extremely important.

6. Your friends love her.

She is your little sister, so your friends automatically love her too. While sometimes it is tempting to exclude her from your group of friends, you have to admit that having her around makes everything a lot more fun.

7. No one ever picks on my little sister…except me.

If someone decides to pick on your little sister on the playground, they have Hell to pay. However, if you decide to make a snide quip at her today, it can be pardoned, simply because you’re the big sister.

You love her, you protect her, and at the end of the day, you’re sure she knows that you were just playing around. However this doesn’t change the fact that you are picking on her, you mean thing.

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8. Inside jokes.

Spending all that time with your younger sister has to result in something, and more often than not, it’s inside jokes. Because of the age difference, no matter how big or small it is, you are going to find something to laugh about.

It may even be an innuendo that she doesn’t understand and you have to end up explaining to her. Funny things happen when you’re left alone with your younger sister, and you will remember them forever.

9. She always surprises you.

When you’re having a bad day and just want to shut out the world, you are often surprised by your little sister’s capability to lift your spirits. You never doubt her, since you have no idea what she is capable of. Maybe you never realized she could sing that well, or cook that well.

If you treat her badly, she will still smile and hug you at the end of the day, which is just incredibly adorable. In the end, this little bundle of sunshine never fails to surprise you.

10. It is impossible to stay angry with her.

She could be bratty, difficult, spoiled and impossible. All siblings argue at some stage, but the best thing about getting into an argument with your little sister is that there is no way of staying angry with her for long. No matter what she’s done, her characteristically annoying disposition is enough to make you love her again.

No matter how old she gets, she is still your little sister, and she will always be cute.

 11. She knows you better than anyone else.

She’s heard the words you mumble at night in your sleep, she knows how loud you snore, and let’s not forget – she’s probably seen you naked throughout her entire life. She gets you the best birthday presents, simply because she knows you so well.

Little sisters also have the creepy ability to sense your feelings, so if you’re in a dangerous mood, you don’t have to tell her to stay away.

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12. You are daringly goofy together.

The weirdest and most embarrassing moments can appear normal and funny when your little sister is involved. You belch louder, fart louder and laugh harder than you ever would around anyone else. You get to talk about strange and unspeakable things with the comfort of knowing that these moments stay between the two of you.

And besides, if either of you tell anyone, there are undoubtedly some embarrassing photos that can be used as blackmail and revenge.

13. You miss her when she’s gone.

Your little sister has gone on her first school camping trip, and you are excited about having the room to yourself for the first time. However when night comes, you look over to see an empty bed and immediately feel odd and lonely. Without a doubt, the larger-than-life presence of your little sister is extremely significant in your life.

After moving away from home for the first time, one of the first things you’ll probably miss is your sister’s presence bursting into your new-found freedom. You can’t help looking forward to seeing her again.

14. She becomes the excuse for your escapades.

Yes you can go out with your friends whenever you want…if you bring your younger sister along. With protective parents, it is often difficult to get your own way, especially when it comes to leaving the house.

This holds a lot of benefits. It is fun to hang out with your sister to begin with, but it is easy to underestimate the fun of going window shopping with your sister free of parental permission. In the end, you might not even need your friends around during these adventures. She’s really all you need.

15. She’s a style icon.

Assuming she didn’t grow up a tomboy (or maybe even then!), you can get a lot of style inspiration from your little sister. While she can see and imitate your wardrobe, she makes little tweaks to make it trendier.

You’re the older sister, and may not be as in touch with the times as she is, so take her advice! She was your Barbie doll when she was smaller, but the older she gets, the more you realize that you better start allowing her to make you her personal mannequin.

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16. She never forgets about you.

No matter how many friends either of you makes in the future, she never forgets who her original best friend was and that’s you. Little sisters are undoubtedly loyal and they stick by your side for life and through all the good times and bad times. Best friends never come as good as this.

17. She stopped you from doing a lot of stupid things.

Little sisters are responsible for keeping you from doing a lot of regrettable things, simply by looking up to you. The responsibility of being a good role model constantly hangs over your head. You’re not even too concerned about the wrath you’re going to get from your parents. The most important thing is that you don’t want your little sister doing stupid things just because you were the one that made it ‘OK’.

Chances are, your little sister is the main factor in developing yourself into a responsible adult.

18. She listens to you.

In those difficult adolescent stages, if your parents aren’t getting through to her, chances are, you can. You are closer to her age and she knows that she can talk to you about absolutely anything.

You are her source of comfort and guidance, no matter how much she hates to admit it, and while she may not always want to listen to what you have to say, your words mean more to her than you think.

19. She makes you sentimental.

You’re not her mother, but you’ve kept all of the hand-made birthday cards she gave you, and every silly little plastic present she’s given you is safe in your possession after all these years. You keep all her baby photos in an album and for some reason, you use the phrase “when she was little…” way too much in conversation.

You are proud of all of her achievements and went crazy when she hit puberty. She is not your daughter, but she is still your baby, no matter how old she gets.

20. Watching her grow up is emotional.

Her first day of school was a big deal, and so was her transition into high school. During her graduation day, you wondered where all the time went. You were harsh on her first boyfriend because you wanted to make sure he was worthy, and when she got married, you couldn’t stop crying.

Even as grown women going out for coffee or dinner, you see your baby sister, not an adult. Watching her grow up is a bittersweet and wonderful experience that you are proud to have been a part of.

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Last Updated on August 19, 2019

How to Be True to Yourself and Live the Life You Want

How to Be True to Yourself and Live the Life You Want

We live in a world that constantly tells us what to do, how to act, what to be. Knowing how to be true to yourself and live the life you want can be a challenge.

When someone asks how we are, we assume that the person does not mean the question sincerely, for it would lead to an in depth conversation. So telling them that you are good or fine, even if you’re not, is the usual answer.

In an ideal world, we would stop and truly listen. We wouldn’t be afraid to be ourselves. Instead, when we answer about how we are doing, our mask, the persona we show the world, tightens. Sometimes even more so than it might have been before. Eventually, it becomes hard to take off, even when you’re alone.

Imagine a world where we asked how someone was doing and they really told us. Imagine a world where there were no masks, only transparency when we talked to one another.

If you want to live in a world that celebrates who you are, mistakes and all, take off the mask. It doesn’t mean you have to be positive or fine all the time.

According to a Danish psychologist, Svend Brinkman, we expect each other to be happy and fine every second, and we expect it of ourselves. And that “has a dark side.”[1] Positive psychology can have its perks but not at the expense at hiding how you truly feel in order to remain seemingly positive to others.

No one can feel positive all the time and yet, that is what our culture teaches us to embrace. We have to unlearn this. That said, telling others you are ‘“fine”’ all the time is actually detrimental to your wellbeing, because it stops you from being assertive, from being authentic or your truest self.

When you acknowledge a feeling, it leads you to the problem that’s causing that feeling; and once you identify the problem, you can find a solution to it. When you hide that feeling, you stuff it way down so no one can help you.You can’t even help yourself.

Feelings are there for one reason: to be felt. That doesn’t mean you have to act on that feeling. It just means that you start the process of problem solving so you can live the life you want.

1. Embrace Your Vulnerability

When you are your true self, you can better self-advocate or stand up for what you need. Your self-expression matters, and you should value your voice. It’s okay to need things, it’s okay to speak up, and it’s okay not to be okay.

Telling someone you are simply “fine” when you are not, does your story and your journey a great disservice. Being true to yourself entails embracing all aspects of your existence.

When you bring your whole self to the table, there is nothing that you can’t beat. Here’re 7 benefits of being vulnerable you should learn.

Can you take off the mask? This is the toughest thing anyone can do. We have learned to wait until we are safe before we start to be authentic.

In relationships especially, this can be hard. Some people avoid vulnerability at any cost. And in our relationship with ourselves, we can look in the mirror and immediately put on the mask.

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It all starts with your story. You have been on your own unique journey. That journey has led you here, to the person you are today. You have to be unafraid, and embrace all aspects of that journey.

You should seek to thrive, not just survive. That means you do not have to compete or compare yourself with anyone.

Authenticity means you are enough. It’s enough to be who you are to get what you want.

What if for the first time ever, you were real? What if you said what you wanted to say, did what you wanted to do, and didn’t apologize for it?

You were assertive, forthcoming in your opinions or actions to stand for what is right for you, (rather than being passive or aggressive) in doing so. You didn’t let things get to you. You knew you had something special to offer.

That’s where we all should be.

So, answer me this:

How are you, really?

And know that no matter the answer, you should still be accepted.

Bravery is in the understanding that you still may not be accepted for your truth.

Bravery is knowing you matter even when others say that you do not.

Bravery is believing in yourself when all evidence counters doing so (i.e. past failures or losses)

Bravery is in being vulnerable while knowing vulnerability is a sign of strength.

It’s taking control.

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2. Choose Your Attitude in Adversity

You can take control of your destiny and live the life you want by being true to yourself. You can start anytime. You can start today.

You can start with one day at a time, just facing what happens that day. Most of us get overwhelmed when faced with the prospect of a big change. Even if the only thing we change is our attitude.

In one instant, you can become a different person with a change of attitude. When you take control of your attitude, you become able to better understand what is around you. This allows you to move forward.

Originally, you may have had a life plan. It could have started when you were little; you were hoping to become a mermaid, doctor, astronaut or all three when you grew up. You were hoping to be someone. You were hoping to be remembered.

You can still dream those dreams, but eventually reality sets in. Obstacles and struggles arise. You set on a different path when the last one didn’t work out. You think of all the “shoulds” in your life in living the life you want. You should be doing this…should be doing that…

Clayton Barbeau, psychologist, coined the term “shoulding yourself.’[2] When we are set on one path and find ourselves doing something different. It becomes all the things you should be doing rather than seeing the opportunities right in front of you.

But in all this disarray, did you lose sight of the real you?

It may be in our perceived failures and blunders that we lose sight of who we are, because we try to maintain position and status.

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It means that we do not see all possibilities of what might happen, but must trust ourselves to begin again, and continue to build the life we want. In the face of adversity, you must choose your attitude.

Can attitude overcome adversity? It certainly helps. While seeking to be true to yourself and live the life you want, you will have to face a fact:

Change will happen.

Whether that change is good or bad is unique to each person and their perspective.

You might have to start over, once, twice, a few times. It doesn’t mean that everything will be okay, but that you will be okay. What remains or should remain is the true you. When you’ve lost sight of that, you’ve lost sight of everything.

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And then, you rebuild. Moment after moment, day after day. We all have a choice, and in this moment, that matters.

You can choose to have a positive attitude, seeing the silver lining in each situation and, where there is none, the potential for one. Maybe that silver lining is you and what you will do with the situation. How will you use it for something good?

That’s how you can tap into yourself and your power. Sometimes it happens by accident, sometimes on purpose. It can happen when we aren’t even looking for it, or it can be your only focus. Everyone gets there differently.

You can rise, or you can remain. Your choice.

When the worst happens, you can rely on your authenticity to pull you through. That’s because Self Advocacy, speaking up to let others know what you need, is part of finding the real you.

There is nothing wrong with asking for help. Or sometimes, helping others can help us deal with the pain of a hurtful situation. You decide how you’re going to help others, and suddenly, you become your best self.

3. Do What Makes You Happy When No One’s Looking

Being the best version of you has nothing to do with your success or your status. It has everything to do with your Character, what you do when no one’s looking.

In order to create the life you want, you have to be the person you want to be. Faking it till you make it is just a way to white knuckle it through your journey. You have the fire inside of you to make things right, to put the pieces together, to live authentically. And Character is how you get there.

If you fall down and you help another up while you’re down there, it’s like you rise twice.

Along with attitude, your character is about the choices you make rather than what happens to you.

Yes, it’s about doing the right thing even when obstacles seem insurmountable.  It’s about using that mountain you’ve been given to show others it can be moved.  It’s about being unapologetically you, taking control, choosing your attitude in adversity and being the best version of you to create the life you want.

How do you know what you really want? Is it truly status or success?

Unfortunately, these things do not always bring happiness. And aspects of our image or “performance driven existence” may not achieve satisfaction. Materialism is part of our refusal to accept ourselves as enough. All the things we use to repress our true selves are about being enough.

“Enoughness” is what we truly seek, but ego gets in the way.

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Ego is the perception of self as outer worth. It’s not REAL self worth.

Ego represses our true self with a new self— the self of chasing ‘“Am I ever enough?”’ questions. And instead of filling our true selves with self-love and acceptance, when we “should ourselves” and chase “enoughness,” we feed the ego or our image.

It’s important to realize YOU ARE ENOUGH, without all the material trappings.

Stanford psychologist Meagan O’Reilly describes the damage of not thinking we are enough. One of her tactics for combating this is to complete the sentence,[3]

“If I believed I were already enough, I’d ____”

What would you do if you felt you were enough?

By believing you are enough, you can live the life you want.

So many fake it to try to get there, and they end up losing themselves when they lose more and more touch with their Authenticity.

Final Thoughts

By being yourself, you are being brave. By acknowledging all you can be, you tell the universe that you can until you believe it too. The steps are easy, and you are worth it. All of it is about the purpose you are leading and the passion that is your fuel.

Being true to yourself is all about mastering how to live life authentically rather than faking or forcing it. Having the life you want (and deserve) is about being trusting in yourself and the purpose you are living for. Both need passion behind it, fueling it each second, or you will experience burn out.

When you are authentic, you can call the road you walk your own. When you live your life for you and not just the results of all your actions (faking it till you make it), you can let go of what you don’t need. This clarifies and pushes purpose to you, living for something that is greater than you.

You will find that making decisions based on what will actually achieve your goals, will help you attain the life you want, and your success with each step, will allow you to enjoy the process. Good luck!

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