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15 Things I Never Say Face-To-Face To My Parents

15 Things I Never Say Face-To-Face To My Parents

There are lot of things we wish we could tell our parents. I wish I could tell my parents how much I loved them, but sometimes it is so uncomfortable spitting such things out. True, we cannot deny that our mothers birthed us and (in most cases) our fathers supported us. Indeed, my parents must have gone through hell changing my diapers, listening to me cry, and feeding me, because I am a tough nut. But here are some things I hope my parents know even if I don’t say them face-to-face.

1.That you are my biggest hero

This goes beyond the sci-fi or fantasy characters we are used to. My parents rock, and they have provided enough pleasant memories for me to always regard them as my heroes. My parents have not only given me life, but have stuck with me through its ups and downs.

2.That I think about you everyday

Even when my schedule is busy and crazy, I still think about you. I am a product of your flesh and I will always connect with your soul.

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3.That I am privileged to be your child

Although I didn’t ask for or earn it, you raised me under your roof. You nurtured me and offered me everything necessary to become an adult.

4.That I appreciate you for everything you have done for me

There are countless small things that must have gone unnoticed and that I never said thank you for. But this gratitude is indelible in my heart, because I do not know how I would have dealt with the world without you.

5.That I understand

I know that you are not perfect and that you are humans. But I understand that we all go through struggles, and even you are not immune to this. Yet, through these challenges, you brought me to life and gave me the support I needed to face my own struggles.

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6.That I miss you deeply

I am far away trying to build my career and start my own family. But even far away, I still feel homesick. Maybe I should be closer to you, but I know you always wanted me to chase my dreams. So although I miss you, I will do well to make the most of it.

7.That I am a better person because of you

I didn’t end up a disappointment to myself or to society; rather, I turned out to be passionate and strong-willed. In me you instilled the fire of compassion and the warmth of kindness.

 8.That I love you more than words can vocalize

Love is more of an active word, and it is better shown than spoken. However, I have so much love for you inside of me that it would take forever to finish expressing it.

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9.That your sacrifices will always ring a bell in my heart

Putting us your children ahead of yourself must have been a difficult sacrifice. But you committed yourself to the process all the same. Your decisions weren’t driven out of selfishness, but were based on what was best for us.

10.That the horror of losing you haunts me every now and then

Death is inevitable, and I must face the fact that you will not always be around. One day, I will live a parentless life, and this gives me nightmares. When the two of you are gone, I know I will have to go on and continue the journey that I was born to undertake.

11.That I am sorry

I have made mistakes, and through those mistakes I was able to learn. I apologize for the errors I have made or whatever negative impact I have had on you. I was often selfish and a spoiled brat.

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12.That you will always be my best friends

It is impossible to replace you or our relationship with anyone else. You will always be the people I can turn to and spend special moments with.

13.That I can forgive you for anything you have done to me

It would be difficult for me to hold anything against you. Our relationship ranks more highly than any discomfort we have caused each other. For any mistakes you have made or any pain you have caused me, I can forgive you gracefully.

14. That my kids will be an important part of your life

My kids won’t be far away from you. They will be happy to spend wonderful moments with you.

15. That I will never say goodbye

I will always hold on to you. The pleasant memories and the little pieces that belong to you I will always hold dear. Because even when you are gone, you will always be with me.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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