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15 Things I Never Say Face-To-Face To My Parents

15 Things I Never Say Face-To-Face To My Parents

There are lot of things we wish we could tell our parents. I wish I could tell my parents how much I loved them, but sometimes it is so uncomfortable spitting such things out. True, we cannot deny that our mothers birthed us and (in most cases) our fathers supported us. Indeed, my parents must have gone through hell changing my diapers, listening to me cry, and feeding me, because I am a tough nut. But here are some things I hope my parents know even if I don’t say them face-to-face.

1.That you are my biggest hero

This goes beyond the sci-fi or fantasy characters we are used to. My parents rock, and they have provided enough pleasant memories for me to always regard them as my heroes. My parents have not only given me life, but have stuck with me through its ups and downs.

2.That I think about you everyday

Even when my schedule is busy and crazy, I still think about you. I am a product of your flesh and I will always connect with your soul.

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3.That I am privileged to be your child

Although I didn’t ask for or earn it, you raised me under your roof. You nurtured me and offered me everything necessary to become an adult.

4.That I appreciate you for everything you have done for me

There are countless small things that must have gone unnoticed and that I never said thank you for. But this gratitude is indelible in my heart, because I do not know how I would have dealt with the world without you.

5.That I understand

I know that you are not perfect and that you are humans. But I understand that we all go through struggles, and even you are not immune to this. Yet, through these challenges, you brought me to life and gave me the support I needed to face my own struggles.

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6.That I miss you deeply

I am far away trying to build my career and start my own family. But even far away, I still feel homesick. Maybe I should be closer to you, but I know you always wanted me to chase my dreams. So although I miss you, I will do well to make the most of it.

7.That I am a better person because of you

I didn’t end up a disappointment to myself or to society; rather, I turned out to be passionate and strong-willed. In me you instilled the fire of compassion and the warmth of kindness.

 8.That I love you more than words can vocalize

Love is more of an active word, and it is better shown than spoken. However, I have so much love for you inside of me that it would take forever to finish expressing it.

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9.That your sacrifices will always ring a bell in my heart

Putting us your children ahead of yourself must have been a difficult sacrifice. But you committed yourself to the process all the same. Your decisions weren’t driven out of selfishness, but were based on what was best for us.

10.That the horror of losing you haunts me every now and then

Death is inevitable, and I must face the fact that you will not always be around. One day, I will live a parentless life, and this gives me nightmares. When the two of you are gone, I know I will have to go on and continue the journey that I was born to undertake.

11.That I am sorry

I have made mistakes, and through those mistakes I was able to learn. I apologize for the errors I have made or whatever negative impact I have had on you. I was often selfish and a spoiled brat.

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12.That you will always be my best friends

It is impossible to replace you or our relationship with anyone else. You will always be the people I can turn to and spend special moments with.

13.That I can forgive you for anything you have done to me

It would be difficult for me to hold anything against you. Our relationship ranks more highly than any discomfort we have caused each other. For any mistakes you have made or any pain you have caused me, I can forgive you gracefully.

14. That my kids will be an important part of your life

My kids won’t be far away from you. They will be happy to spend wonderful moments with you.

15. That I will never say goodbye

I will always hold on to you. The pleasant memories and the little pieces that belong to you I will always hold dear. Because even when you are gone, you will always be with me.

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Last Updated on March 5, 2021

Science Says People Who Talk To Themselves Are Geniuses

Science Says People Who Talk To Themselves Are Geniuses

I talk a lot to myself. It helps me to keep my concentration on the activity on hand, makes me focus more on my studies, and gives me some pretty brilliant ideas while chattering to myself; more importantly, I produce better works. For example, right now, as I am typing, I am constantly mumbling to myself. Do you talk to yourself? Don’t get embarrassed admitting it because science has discovered that those who talk to themselves are actually geniuses… and not crazy!

Research Background

Psychologist-researcher Gary Lupyan conducted an experiment where 20 volunteers were shown objects, in a supermarket, and were asked to remember them. Half of them were told to repeat the objects, for example, banana, and the other half remained silent. In the end, the result shown that self-directed speech aided people to find the objects faster, by 50 to 100 milliseconds, compared to the silent ones.

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“I’ll often mutter to myself when searching for something in the refrigerator or the supermarket shelves,” said Gary Lupyan.

This personal experience actually made him conduct this experiment. Lupyan, together with another psychologist, Daniel Swigley, came up with the outcomes that those to talk to oneself are geniuses. Here are the reasons:

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It stimulates your memory

When you are talking to yourself, your sensory mechanism gets activated. It gets easier on your memory since you can visualize the word, and you can act accordingly.[1]

It helps stay focused

When you are saying it loud, you stay focused on your task,[2] and it helps you recognise that stuff immediately. Of course, this only helps if you know what the object you are searching looks like. For example, a banana is yellow in colour, and you know how a banana looks like. So when you are saying it loud, your brain immediately pictures the image on your mind. But if you don’t know what banana looks like, then there is no effect of saying it loud.

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It helps you clarify your thoughts

Every one of us tends to have various types of thoughts. Most make sense, while the others don’t. Suppose you are furious at someone and you feel like killing that person. Now for this issue you won’t run to a therapist, will you? No, what you do is lock yourself in a room and mutter to yourself. You are letting go off the anger by talking to yourself, the pros and cons of killing that person, and eventually you calm down. This is a silly thought that you have and are unable to share it with any other person. Psychologist Linda Sapadin said,[3]

“It helps you clarify your thoughts, tend to what’s important and firm up any decisions you are contemplating.”

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