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15 Things I Never Say Face-To-Face To My Parents

15 Things I Never Say Face-To-Face To My Parents

There are lot of things we wish we could tell our parents. I wish I could tell my parents how much I loved them, but sometimes it is so uncomfortable spitting such things out. True, we cannot deny that our mothers birthed us and (in most cases) our fathers supported us. Indeed, my parents must have gone through hell changing my diapers, listening to me cry, and feeding me, because I am a tough nut. But here are some things I hope my parents know even if I don’t say them face-to-face.

1.That you are my biggest hero

This goes beyond the sci-fi or fantasy characters we are used to. My parents rock, and they have provided enough pleasant memories for me to always regard them as my heroes. My parents have not only given me life, but have stuck with me through its ups and downs.

2.That I think about you everyday

Even when my schedule is busy and crazy, I still think about you. I am a product of your flesh and I will always connect with your soul.

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3.That I am privileged to be your child

Although I didn’t ask for or earn it, you raised me under your roof. You nurtured me and offered me everything necessary to become an adult.

4.That I appreciate you for everything you have done for me

There are countless small things that must have gone unnoticed and that I never said thank you for. But this gratitude is indelible in my heart, because I do not know how I would have dealt with the world without you.

5.That I understand

I know that you are not perfect and that you are humans. But I understand that we all go through struggles, and even you are not immune to this. Yet, through these challenges, you brought me to life and gave me the support I needed to face my own struggles.

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6.That I miss you deeply

I am far away trying to build my career and start my own family. But even far away, I still feel homesick. Maybe I should be closer to you, but I know you always wanted me to chase my dreams. So although I miss you, I will do well to make the most of it.

7.That I am a better person because of you

I didn’t end up a disappointment to myself or to society; rather, I turned out to be passionate and strong-willed. In me you instilled the fire of compassion and the warmth of kindness.

 8.That I love you more than words can vocalize

Love is more of an active word, and it is better shown than spoken. However, I have so much love for you inside of me that it would take forever to finish expressing it.

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9.That your sacrifices will always ring a bell in my heart

Putting us your children ahead of yourself must have been a difficult sacrifice. But you committed yourself to the process all the same. Your decisions weren’t driven out of selfishness, but were based on what was best for us.

10.That the horror of losing you haunts me every now and then

Death is inevitable, and I must face the fact that you will not always be around. One day, I will live a parentless life, and this gives me nightmares. When the two of you are gone, I know I will have to go on and continue the journey that I was born to undertake.

11.That I am sorry

I have made mistakes, and through those mistakes I was able to learn. I apologize for the errors I have made or whatever negative impact I have had on you. I was often selfish and a spoiled brat.

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12.That you will always be my best friends

It is impossible to replace you or our relationship with anyone else. You will always be the people I can turn to and spend special moments with.

13.That I can forgive you for anything you have done to me

It would be difficult for me to hold anything against you. Our relationship ranks more highly than any discomfort we have caused each other. For any mistakes you have made or any pain you have caused me, I can forgive you gracefully.

14. That my kids will be an important part of your life

My kids won’t be far away from you. They will be happy to spend wonderful moments with you.

15. That I will never say goodbye

I will always hold on to you. The pleasant memories and the little pieces that belong to you I will always hold dear. Because even when you are gone, you will always be with me.

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Last Updated on July 16, 2019

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

Negativity affects ourselves and everyone around us. It limits our potential to become something great and live a fulfilling, purposeful life. Negativity has a tangible effect on our health, too. Research has shown that people who cultivate negative energy experience more stress, more sickness, and less opportunity over the course of their lives than those who choose to live positively.

When we make a decision to become positive, and follow that decision up with action, we will begin to encounter situations and people that are also positive. The negative energy gets edged out by all positive experiences. It’s a snowball effect.

Although negative and positive thoughts will always exist, the key to becoming positive is to limit the amount of negativity that we experience by filling ourselves up with more positivity.

Here are some ways to get rid of negativity and become more positive.

1. Become Grateful for Everything

When life is all about us, it’s easy to believe that we deserve what we have. An attitude of entitlement puts us at the center of the universe and sets up the unrealistic expectation that others should cater to us, our needs, and our wants. This vain state of existence is a surefire way to set yourself up for an unfulfilled life of negativity.

People living in this sort of entitlement are “energy suckers”–they are always searching for what they can get out of a situation. People that don’t appreciate the nuances of their lives live in a constant state of lacking. And it’s really difficult to live a positive life this way.

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When we begin to be grateful and appreciate everything in our lives–from the small struggles that make us better, to the car that gets us from A to B every day–we shift our attitude from one of selfishness, to one of appreciation. This appreciation gets noticed by others, and a positive harmony begins to form in our relationships.

We begin to receive more of that which we are grateful for, because we’ve opened ourselves up to the idea of receiving, instead of taking. This will make your life more fulfilling, and more positive.

2. Laugh More, Especially at Yourself

Life gets busy, our schedules fill up, we get into relationships, and work can feel task oriented and routine-driven at times. Being human can feel more like being a robot. But having this work-driven, serious attitude often results in negative and performance oriented thinking.

Becoming positive means taking life less seriously and letting yourself off the hook. This is the only life that you get to live, why not lighten up your mood?

Laughter helps us become positive by lightening our mood and reminding us not to take life so seriously. Are you sensitive to light sarcasm? Do you have trouble laughing at jokes? Usually, people who are stressed out and overly serious get most offended by sarcasm because their life is all work and no play.

If we can learn to laugh at ourselves and our mistakes, life will become more of an experiment in finding out what makes us happy. And finding happiness means finding positivity.

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3. Help Others

Negativity goes hand in hand with selfishness. People that live only for themselves have no higher purpose in their lives. If the whole point of this world is only to take care of yourself and no one else, the road to a long-term fulfillment and purpose is going to be a long one.

Positivity accompanies purpose. The most basic way to create purpose and positivity in your life is to begin doing things for others. Start small; open the door for the person in front of you at Starbucks or ask someone how their day was before telling them about yours.

Helping others will give you an intangible sense of value that will translate into positivity. And people might just appreciate you in the process.

4. Change Your Thinking

We can either be our best coach or our best enemy. Change starts from within. If you want to become more positive, change the wording of your thoughts. We are the hardest on ourselves, and a stream of negative self talk is corrosive to a positive life.

The next time you have a negative thought, write it down and rephrase it with a positive spin. For example, change a thought like, “I can’t believe I did so horribly on the test–I suck.” to “I didn’t do as well as I hoped to on this test. But I know I’m capable and I’ll do better next time.”

Changing our self-talk is powerful.

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5. Surround Yourself with Positive People

We become most like the people that we surround ourselves with. If our friend group is full of negative energy-suckers and drama queens, we will emulate that behavior and become like them. It is very difficult to become more positive when the people around us don’t support or demonstrate positive behavior.

As you become more positive, you’ll find that your existing friends will either appreciate the new you or they will become resistant to your positive changes. This is a natural response.

Change is scary; but cutting out the negative people in your life is a huge step to becoming more positive. Positive people reflect and bounce their perspectives onto one another. Positivity is a step-by-step process when you do it solo, but a positive group of friends can be an escalator.

6. Get into Action

Negative thoughts can be overwhelming and challenging to navigate. Negativity is usually accompanied by a “freak-out” response, especially when tied to relationships, people and to worrying about the future. This is debilitating to becoming positive and usually snowballs into more worry, more stress and more freak-outs.

Turn the negative stress into positive action. The next time you’re in one of these situations, walk away and take a break. With your eyes closed, take a few deep breaths. Once you’re calm, approach the situation or problem with a pen and pad of paper. Write out four or five actions or solutions to begin solving the problem.

Taking yourself out of the emotionally charged negative by moving into the action-oriented positive will help you solve more problems rationally and live in positivity

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7. Take Full Responsibility, Stop Being the Victim

You are responsible for your thoughts.

People that consistently believe that things happen to them handicap themselves to a victim mentality. This is a subtle and deceptive negative thought pattern. Phrases like “I have to work” or “I can’t believe he did that to me” are indicators of a victim mentality. Blaming circumstances and blaming others only handicaps our decision to change something negative into something positive.

Taking full responsibility for your life, your thoughts and your actions is one of the biggest steps in creating a more positive life. We have unlimited potential within to create our own reality, change our life, and change our thoughts. When we begin to really internalize this, we discover that no one can make us feel or do anything. We choose our emotional and behavioral response to people and circumstances.

Make positive choices in favor of yourself.

“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny” ― Lao Tzu

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