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15 Signs You’re Living in an Exotic Family

15 Signs You’re Living in an Exotic Family

In this age of technology, it is difficult to find families who simply break the rules of the conventional. Growing up, it sort of apparent how whimsical and nontraditional our families can be. There was strength in every unit of the family and this was something to cling on to.

1. You have various interests.

Nobody is sticking to the good old traditional role of becoming doctors, lawyers or engineers. Among your family members, everyone cherishes and wants to be someone different—maybe an athlete, maybe a photographer or a musician.

2. Each family member is an island to her or himself.

Although every member cherishes and spends a large amount of time together, there is distinction and respect among family members, especially when it comes to living apart and respecting each other’s space.

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3. You know family is important.

When there is a special moment or reason to be together, you do not make excuses to be away from the family. Each family member knows that all family events are important.

4. You appreciate knowledge.

Education is important to your family. Getting a college or a professional degree is important. This could mean going away from home or making more financial commitments, but you understand why it is important that you get one.

5. You can have a drink with your dad.

You dad is a combination of old school and modern approach to life. There is flexibility and room for one to make mistakes.

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6. There is always an interesting story to be told.

Whether it is from your parents or from your grandparents, there is this anecdotal story you have heard from them time and time again. And the more they tell it, the more it spins.

7. You have someone who covers for your mistakes.

You make mistakes and mistakes in an exotic family could bring forth a different kind of ridicule. But someone is always there to shield you—your brother or your sister—from the consequences of your wrongful action.

8. Your uncles and your aunts are like your second parents.

You have uncles and aunts who offer you advice, support and ridicule the same way your parents do. You may want to get away from their watchful eye, but it seems that they are very much interested in your progress in life.

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9. You can look forward to family outings.

Family events and outings are something you yearn for. Not only do you catch up on lost time, but there is also always something intriguing and new to discover.

10. There is always an expert within the family.

It could be your grandma, who claims to have a drug for all ailments, or your grandfather, who has firsthand knowledge on how to make any woman or guy fall in love with you.

11. There is a celebration for almost anything.

Whether you passed your SATs and are going off to college, or getting a new job, or buying a new car, there is always something that ignites a celebration.

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12. You will always cherish your family photos.

Wherever you go and whenever you come back, family is a part of you. And this is shown in the variety, amusement and love that is present in your family photos.

13. Your cousins and relatives are also your best friends.

There is no major divide between members of your immediate and extended family. When you hang out with your cousins or relatives, you always have something unforgettable to cherish.

14. There is always one person who partners with you in your mischief.

You love to create fun for yourself and others; thus you become mischievous and cook up schemes. And you have a brother or a sister who is always your partner in crime.

15. You have a confidante in your mom.

While everything may look unconventional and different, your mom is the one you can always have that heart-to-heart talk with.

Featured photo credit: SLO County Bicycle Coalition via Flickr via flickr.com

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Last Updated on July 16, 2019

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

Negativity affects ourselves and everyone around us. It limits our potential to become something great and live a fulfilling, purposeful life. Negativity has a tangible effect on our health, too. Research has shown that people who cultivate negative energy experience more stress, more sickness, and less opportunity over the course of their lives than those who choose to live positively.

When we make a decision to become positive, and follow that decision up with action, we will begin to encounter situations and people that are also positive. The negative energy gets edged out by all positive experiences. It’s a snowball effect.

Although negative and positive thoughts will always exist, the key to becoming positive is to limit the amount of negativity that we experience by filling ourselves up with more positivity.

Here are some ways to get rid of negativity and become more positive.

1. Become Grateful for Everything

When life is all about us, it’s easy to believe that we deserve what we have. An attitude of entitlement puts us at the center of the universe and sets up the unrealistic expectation that others should cater to us, our needs, and our wants. This vain state of existence is a surefire way to set yourself up for an unfulfilled life of negativity.

People living in this sort of entitlement are “energy suckers”–they are always searching for what they can get out of a situation. People that don’t appreciate the nuances of their lives live in a constant state of lacking. And it’s really difficult to live a positive life this way.

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When we begin to be grateful and appreciate everything in our lives–from the small struggles that make us better, to the car that gets us from A to B every day–we shift our attitude from one of selfishness, to one of appreciation. This appreciation gets noticed by others, and a positive harmony begins to form in our relationships.

We begin to receive more of that which we are grateful for, because we’ve opened ourselves up to the idea of receiving, instead of taking. This will make your life more fulfilling, and more positive.

2. Laugh More, Especially at Yourself

Life gets busy, our schedules fill up, we get into relationships, and work can feel task oriented and routine-driven at times. Being human can feel more like being a robot. But having this work-driven, serious attitude often results in negative and performance oriented thinking.

Becoming positive means taking life less seriously and letting yourself off the hook. This is the only life that you get to live, why not lighten up your mood?

Laughter helps us become positive by lightening our mood and reminding us not to take life so seriously. Are you sensitive to light sarcasm? Do you have trouble laughing at jokes? Usually, people who are stressed out and overly serious get most offended by sarcasm because their life is all work and no play.

If we can learn to laugh at ourselves and our mistakes, life will become more of an experiment in finding out what makes us happy. And finding happiness means finding positivity.

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3. Help Others

Negativity goes hand in hand with selfishness. People that live only for themselves have no higher purpose in their lives. If the whole point of this world is only to take care of yourself and no one else, the road to a long-term fulfillment and purpose is going to be a long one.

Positivity accompanies purpose. The most basic way to create purpose and positivity in your life is to begin doing things for others. Start small; open the door for the person in front of you at Starbucks or ask someone how their day was before telling them about yours.

Helping others will give you an intangible sense of value that will translate into positivity. And people might just appreciate you in the process.

4. Change Your Thinking

We can either be our best coach or our best enemy. Change starts from within. If you want to become more positive, change the wording of your thoughts. We are the hardest on ourselves, and a stream of negative self talk is corrosive to a positive life.

The next time you have a negative thought, write it down and rephrase it with a positive spin. For example, change a thought like, “I can’t believe I did so horribly on the test–I suck.” to “I didn’t do as well as I hoped to on this test. But I know I’m capable and I’ll do better next time.”

Changing our self-talk is powerful.

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5. Surround Yourself with Positive People

We become most like the people that we surround ourselves with. If our friend group is full of negative energy-suckers and drama queens, we will emulate that behavior and become like them. It is very difficult to become more positive when the people around us don’t support or demonstrate positive behavior.

As you become more positive, you’ll find that your existing friends will either appreciate the new you or they will become resistant to your positive changes. This is a natural response.

Change is scary; but cutting out the negative people in your life is a huge step to becoming more positive. Positive people reflect and bounce their perspectives onto one another. Positivity is a step-by-step process when you do it solo, but a positive group of friends can be an escalator.

6. Get into Action

Negative thoughts can be overwhelming and challenging to navigate. Negativity is usually accompanied by a “freak-out” response, especially when tied to relationships, people and to worrying about the future. This is debilitating to becoming positive and usually snowballs into more worry, more stress and more freak-outs.

Turn the negative stress into positive action. The next time you’re in one of these situations, walk away and take a break. With your eyes closed, take a few deep breaths. Once you’re calm, approach the situation or problem with a pen and pad of paper. Write out four or five actions or solutions to begin solving the problem.

Taking yourself out of the emotionally charged negative by moving into the action-oriented positive will help you solve more problems rationally and live in positivity

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7. Take Full Responsibility, Stop Being the Victim

You are responsible for your thoughts.

People that consistently believe that things happen to them handicap themselves to a victim mentality. This is a subtle and deceptive negative thought pattern. Phrases like “I have to work” or “I can’t believe he did that to me” are indicators of a victim mentality. Blaming circumstances and blaming others only handicaps our decision to change something negative into something positive.

Taking full responsibility for your life, your thoughts and your actions is one of the biggest steps in creating a more positive life. We have unlimited potential within to create our own reality, change our life, and change our thoughts. When we begin to really internalize this, we discover that no one can make us feel or do anything. We choose our emotional and behavioral response to people and circumstances.

Make positive choices in favor of yourself.

“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny” ― Lao Tzu

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