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15 Reasons Why Artistic People are Difficult to Understand

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15 Reasons Why Artistic People are Difficult to Understand

Did you ever get a feeling that someone is simply from out of this world? The fact is that we are all unique in our own way, but if we pay close attention to artistic people, we can all agree that they are a subspecies which can be studied and characterized in a certain way.

Artistic people have a special ability to express their impressions, feelings and memories through different kinds of art, and we truly appreciate what they do, but that doesn’t get us any closer to understanding them, right? Well, I had an interesting opportunity to pick their brains, and here’s what I was able to find out.

1. They have minds that work differently

The fact is, artistic people don’t have the same deduction system or system of values like most people, and that’s the reason why we can’t understand their actions or follow their train of thought. Their minds tick a bit differently than a regular person’s, because it’s moved by different details.

2. They consider the artwork they created to be their children

It’s very important to find a way to appreciate their work if you want to get close to an artistic person. If you have trouble understanding it, I’m sure you’ll get an explanation (and don’t argue with how reasonable it is) if you ask for one.

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3. They are irrational when they are in love

Artistic people usually look like they are gliding the earth, but when they are in love, they are practically flying. Be sure they’ll do anything to show their affection – in their own way, of course – and you better not be there if things don’t turn out the way they planned, because they can fall into deep despair really quickly.

4. They express their feelings through codes

Speaking of feelings, artistic people tend to express them through everything but direct verbalization. If they dedicate a piece of art to you, spend a lot of time around you or give you significant looks you don’t fully understand, you should know they are just trying to show that you’re meaningful to them.

5. They don’t expect to be understood – in fact, they prefer not to be

This is one of those annoying characteristics artistic people have. They live in a world of their own and you can be positive that they like it there, so don’t even try to move them and place them in the real world, because not one artistic person will like it there.

6. They have problems with adjustment

Which brings me to my next point – if you do move them from their surroundings, don’t expect them to fit in. If you’re lucky, you’ll run into a social butterfly (there’s a small group of them which act like that), but the chances are minimal.

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7. They have their own way of looking at the passage of time

This characteristic is noticeable in every aspect of an artistic person’s life. They can spend hours sitting in one place and act like they have been there for only a couple of minutes, but if you catch them while they’re in a bad mood, you won’t be able to make them sit still for a minute, because they’ll feel like hours are passing them by.

8. Their personality is conflicted

It’s difficult to figure artistic people out because they act like introverts and extroverts at the same time. It all really depends on which stage of productivity they are in – when uninspired, an artistic person will feel useless, which will make an introvert out of them. However, if they are satisfied with the place in life they are at, they will act like extreme extroverts.

9. They either over-criticize or over-appreciate their work

It’s completely irrelevant, what you see in their artwork – if they don’t like it, it will probably get torn apart or thrown in the garbage. However, they consider a piece of art to be good, you can expect for it to get glorified and cherished as if it were the most important thing in the world.

10. They don’t take rules too seriously

Just so you know, they don’t have real regards for any kind of rules, because most artistic people feel like they are binding. So, it’s not at all impossible to get in some kind of trouble when you’re in some kind of artsy company.

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11. They are usually great hedonists

Most artistic people don’t really have limits when it comes to food, drinks and bad habits. There are all kinds of reasons you’ll hear from them; some consider it to be freeing and inspiring, while others seek for some kind of solution, especially if they are prone to depression.

12. They are found to be very attractive

No matter what kind of arts they are into, there’s something particularly inviting about them. So, whether you’re wondering why you feel attracted to a mysterious photographer, a pensive musician or an eccentric painter, you should know it’s pretty hard to put your finger on it.

13. They have a fear of being forgotten or irrelevant

If you take a look through the eyes of an artist, each piece of art they create should leave its mark on the world. Most of them have that selfish characteristic in them, because they desire to stay immortal through their artwork. So, normally, their biggest fear would be the opposite of that.

14. Their appearance makes them stand out

Artistic people tend to draw a lot of attention. A part of that attention comes from their charisma, or aura, or whatever you like to call it, but some of that is on purpose. They like to stand out, and they often achieve that with the choice of clothing items.

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15. They need to feel loved

However confident and daring they pretend to be, artistic people have their insecurities. They need someone who will nurture them, make them feel loved and appreciated, push and inspire them to make great things. Artistic people contribute to making our world a better, more beautiful place, don’t they?

They can be difficult to handle or understand, but that’s nothing you can’t figure out with just a bit of patience. I hope you’ll find my pointers insightful, and I look forward to your feedback!

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Last Updated on July 20, 2021

How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

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How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

You’re standing behind the curtain, just about to make your way on stage to face the many faces half-shrouded in darkness in front of you. As you move towards the spotlight, your body starts to feel heavier with each step. A familiar thump echoes throughout your body – your heartbeat has gone off the charts.

Don’t worry, you’re not the only one with glossophobia(also known as speech anxiety or the fear of speaking to large crowds). Sometimes, the anxiety happens long before you even stand on stage.

Your body’s defence mechanism responds by causing a part of your brain to release adrenaline into your blood – the same chemical that gets released as if you were being chased by a lion.

Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you overcome your fear of public speaking:

1. Prepare yourself mentally and physically

According to experts, we’re built to display anxiety and to recognize it in others. If your body and mind are anxious, your audience will notice. Hence, it’s important to prepare yourself before the big show so that you arrive on stage confident, collected and ready.

“Your outside world is a reflection of your inside world. What goes on in the inside, shows on the outside.” – Bob Proctor

Exercising lightly before a presentation helps get your blood circulating and sends oxygen to the brain. Mental exercises, on the other hand, can help calm the mind and nerves. Here are some useful ways to calm your racing heart when you start to feel the butterflies in your stomach:

Warming up

If you’re nervous, chances are your body will feel the same way. Your body gets tense, your muscles feel tight or you’re breaking in cold sweat. The audience will notice you are nervous.

If you observe that this is exactly what is happening to you minutes before a speech, do a couple of stretches to loosen and relax your body. It’s better to warm up before every speech as it helps to increase the functional potential of the body as a whole. Not only that, it increases muscle efficiency, improves reaction time and your movements.

Here are some exercises to loosen up your body before show time:

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  1. Neck and shoulder rolls – This helps relieve upper body muscle tension and pressure as the rolls focus on rotating the head and shoulders, loosening the muscle. Stress and anxiety can make us rigid within this area which can make you feel agitated, especially when standing.
  2. Arm stretches – We often use this part of our muscles during a speech or presentation through our hand gestures and movements. Stretching these muscles can reduce arm fatigue, loosen you up and improve your body language range.
  3. Waist twists – Place your hands on your hips and rotate your waist in a circular motion. This exercise focuses on loosening the abdominal and lower back regions which is essential as it can cause discomfort and pain, further amplifying any anxieties you may experience.

Stay hydrated

Ever felt parched seconds before speaking? And then coming up on stage sounding raspy and scratchy in front of the audience? This happens because the adrenaline from stage fright causes your mouth to feel dried out.

To prevent all that, it’s essential we stay adequately hydrated before a speech. A sip of water will do the trick. However, do drink in moderation so that you won’t need to go to the bathroom constantly.

Try to avoid sugary beverages and caffeine, since it’s a diuretic – meaning you’ll feel thirstier. It will also amplify your anxiety which prevents you from speaking smoothly.

Meditate

Meditation is well-known as a powerful tool to calm the mind. ABC’s Dan Harris, co-anchor of Nightline and Good Morning America weekend and author of the book titled10% Happier , recommends that meditation can help individuals to feel significantly calmer, faster.

Meditation is like a workout for your mind. It gives you the strength and focus to filter out the negativity and distractions with words of encouragement, confidence and strength.

Mindfulness meditation, in particular, is a popular method to calm yourself before going up on the big stage. The practice involves sitting comfortably, focusing on your breathing and then bringing your mind’s attention to the present without drifting into concerns about the past or future – which likely includes floundering on stage.

Here’s a nice example of guided meditation before public speaking:

2. Focus on your goal

One thing people with a fear of public speaking have in common is focusing too much on themselves and the possibility of failure.

Do I look funny? What if I can’t remember what to say? Do I look stupid? Will people listen to me? Does anyone care about what I’m talking about?’

Instead of thinking this way, shift your attention to your one true purpose – contributing something of value to your audience.

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Decide on the progress you’d like your audience to make after your presentation. Notice their movements and expressions to adapt your speech to ensure that they are having a good time to leave the room as better people.

If your own focus isn’t beneficial and what it should be when you’re speaking, then shift it to what does. This is also key to establishing trust during your presentation as the audience can clearly see that you have their interests at heart.[1]

3. Convert negativity to positivity

There are two sides constantly battling inside of us – one is filled with strength and courage while the other is doubt and insecurities. Which one will you feed?

‘What if I mess up this speech? What if I’m not funny enough? What if I forget what to say?’

It’s no wonder why many of us are uncomfortable giving a presentation. All we do is bring ourselves down before we got a chance to prove ourselves. This is also known as a self-fulfilling prophecy – a belief that comes true because we are acting as if it already is. If you think you’re incompetent, then it will eventually become true.

Motivational coaches tout that positive mantras and affirmations tend to boost your confidents for the moments that matter most. Say to yourself: “I’ll ace this speech and I can do it!”

Take advantage of your adrenaline rush to encourage positive outcome rather than thinking of the negative ‘what ifs’.

Here’s a video of Psychologist Kelly McGonigal who encourages her audience to turn stress into something positive as well as provide methods on how to cope with it:

4. Understand your content

Knowing your content at your fingertips helps reduce your anxiety because there is one less thing to worry about. One way to get there is to practice numerous times before your actual speech.

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However, memorizing your script word-for-word is not encouraged. You can end up freezing should you forget something. You’ll also risk sounding unnatural and less approachable.

“No amount of reading or memorizing will make you successful in life. It is the understanding and the application of wise thought that counts.” – Bob Proctor

Many people unconsciously make the mistake of reading from their slides or memorizing their script word-for-word without understanding their content – a definite way to stress themselves out.

Understanding your speech flow and content makes it easier for you to convert ideas and concepts into your own words which you can then clearly explain to others in a conversational manner. Designing your slides to include text prompts is also an easy hack to ensure you get to quickly recall your flow when your mind goes blank.[2]

One way to understand is to memorize the over-arching concepts or ideas in your pitch. It helps you speak more naturally and let your personality shine through. It’s almost like taking your audience on a journey with a few key milestones.

5. Practice makes perfect

Like most people, many of us are not naturally attuned to public speaking. Rarely do individuals walk up to a large audience and present flawlessly without any research and preparation.

In fact, some of the top presenters make it look easy during showtime because they have spent countless hours behind-the-scenes in deep practice. Even great speakers like the late John F. Kennedy would spend months preparing his speech beforehand.

Public speaking, like any other skill, requires practice – whether it be practicing your speech countless of times in front of a mirror or making notes. As the saying goes, practice makes perfect!

6. Be authentic

There’s nothing wrong with feeling stressed before going up to speak in front of an audience.

Many people fear public speaking because they fear others will judge them for showing their true, vulnerable self. However, vulnerability can sometimes help you come across as more authentic and relatable as a speaker.

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Drop the pretence of trying to act or speak like someone else and you’ll find that it’s worth the risk. You become more genuine, flexible and spontaneous, which makes it easier to handle unpredictable situations – whether it’s getting tough questions from the crowd or experiencing an unexpected technical difficulty.

To find out your authentic style of speaking is easy. Just pick a topic or issue you are passionate about and discuss this like you normally would with a close family or friend. It is like having a conversation with someone in a personal one-to-one setting. A great way to do this on stage is to select a random audience member(with a hopefully calming face) and speak to a single person at a time during your speech. You’ll find that it’s easier trying to connect to one person at a time than a whole room.

With that said, being comfortable enough to be yourself in front of others may take a little time and some experience, depending how comfortable you are with being yourself in front of others. But once you embrace it, stage fright will not be as intimidating as you initially thought.

Presenters like Barack Obama are a prime example of a genuine and passionate speaker:

7. Post speech evaluation

Last but not the least, if you’ve done public speaking and have been scarred from a bad experience, try seeing it as a lesson learned to improve yourself as a speaker.

Don’t beat yourself up after a presentation

We are the hardest on ourselves and it’s good to be. But when you finish delivering your speech or presentation, give yourself some recognition and a pat on the back.

You managed to finish whatever you had to do and did not give up. You did not let your fears and insecurities get to you. Take a little more pride in your work and believe in yourself.

Improve your next speech

As mentioned before, practice does make perfect. If you want to improve your public speaking skills, try asking someone to film you during a speech or presentation. Afterwards, watch and observe what you can do to improve yourself next time.

Here are some questions you can ask yourself after every speech:

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  • How did I do?
  • Are there any areas for improvement?
  • Did I sound or look stressed?
  • Did I stumble on my words? Why?
  • Was I saying “um” too often?
  • How was the flow of the speech?

Write everything you observed down and keep practicing and improving. In time, you’ll be able to better manage your fears of public speaking and appear more confident when it counts.

If you want even more tips about public speaking or delivering a great presentation, check out these articles too:

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