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15 Life Changing Quotes from T. Harv Eker: “The Secrets of the Millionaire Mind”

15 Life Changing Quotes from T. Harv Eker: “The Secrets of the Millionaire Mind”

When I was given a copy of Secrets of the Millionaire Mind several years ago, I didn’t realize I was getting a book that was about so much more than just wealth. I was given a book about changing my mindset – and it has has changed my life.

You too can apply these quotes to any area of your life that requires changing. Change is only one thought away!

“The number one reason most people don’t get what they want is that they don’t know what they want.”

When asked most people don’t know what they want. Get very clear about what you want and then go for it.

“If you want to change the fruits, you will first have to change the roots. If you want to change the visible, you must first change the invisible.”

The invisible are things others cannot see, your thoughts and beliefs. Most of us run on auto-pilot and pay little attention to our thoughts and beliefs. Only when you do pay attention to these can you make changes.

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“Keep your eye on the goal, keep moving toward your target.”

Many people begin things but with the slightest amount of distraction get side tracked from the goal, be it a business, an exercise routine or a dietary change. If you really want something you have to keep your goal in sight.

“Money will only make you more of what you already are.”


If you are unhappy, afraid, feel unworthy, or insecure, money is not going to change these.  In fact, money may even make things worse.  For example, if you feel insecure about money then having more money may add to this as you ponder what do with it, how to grow it, and keep it safe.

“What you focus on expands.”


When you are focused on lack – of money, opportunities, education, luck, breaks – this is going to be what you get. Change your focus to prosperity, infinite possibilities, doors opening and miracles. This shift has the power to change your life.

“Nothing has meaning except for the meaning you give it.”

When you look at someone’s face you see a face, eyes, nose, mouth, chin, hair. All of these are neutral. Then you add blue eyes, big nose, tiny mouth, pointed chin, beautiful or ugly you give it qualities based on personal perceptions. Without the judgements there is no meaning – the thing just is.

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“The purpose of our lives is to add value to the people of this generation and those that follow.”

The Seventh Generation philosophy states that we consider the effects of our actions and decisions for seven generations into the future. Everything we do has consequences for something and someone else and ultimately, we are all connected.

“If your motivation for acquiring money or success comes from a non-supportive root such as fear, anger, or the need to ‘prove’ yourself, your money will never bring you happiness.”

When thinking about making changes one of the first questions to always ask yourself is, why do you want this?  Will getting this really change things? No amount of money can make you happy, safe, or good enough. If you are not aware of the root of these feelings you will keep creating them.

“The first element of change is awareness. You can’t change something unless you know it exists.”

This is the key to all change! When you are aware that: thoughts lead to feelings, feelings lead to actions, and actions lead to results, you can begin to make changes.

“The second element of change is understanding. By understanding where your “way of thinking” originates, you can recognize that it has to come from outside you.”

Many of our thoughts and beliefs are formed outside of ourselves at home, in school, on the radio/TV, or from books. We are bombarded by the opinions of others, many of which we have taken on. Being aware of this helps you to question some of what you do and believe.

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“For every giver there must be a receiver, and for every receiver there must be a giver.”

To give you must receive and vise versa.

“Resenting the rich is one of the surest ways to stay broke”

T. Harv Eker practises a Huna teaching that says: bless that which you want. Admire, bless and love the rich, if you wan to be rich. This goes for anything that you want in your life.

“You can choose to think in ways that will support you in your happiness and success instead of ways that don’t.”

Once you are aware that your thoughts lead to feelings and then to actions, you have the choice to change how you think.

“If you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep getting what you’ve always got.”

This is a saying T. Harv Eker uses from author and speaker Jim Rohn.

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“Your life is not just about you. It’s also about contributing to others.

It’s about living true to your mission and reason for being here on this earth at this time. It’s about adding your piece of the puzzle to the world. Most people are so stuck in their egos that everything revolves around me, me, and more me. But if you want to be rich in the truest sense of the word, it can’t only be about you. It has to include adding value to other people’s lives.”

If you want to go deeper find out more at: Life Makeover System

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Published on October 7, 2019

4 Types of Toxic People and How to Deal with Them

4 Types of Toxic People and How to Deal with Them

Can a person really be toxic? Well, a toxic person does not refer to those who are affected by the virus or toxic. To be precise, toxic people are those who are very unsupportive, abusive and unhealthy in nature. Their behavior is filled with venom and you will not feel any sort of gentle breeze in their words.

In this article, you will learn how to spot out a toxic person, and what you can do to deal with them.

Signs of Toxic People

To make it more obvious, I have added some signs of toxic people below.

Manipulative Behavior And Fabricated Mind

Toxic people are unable to deal with the bitter truth firmly. If you are going to blurt out their fabrications with proof, they will try to change the whole matter with their manipulative behavior. They will titillate you with sensitive words or they will try to frighten you to get rid of the problems.

Inhuman And Merciless in Nature

We know that sharing our thoughts with friends will keep us in good mental state. But, if you are not getting fruitful outcomes, you have to understand that you are spending time with toxic friends.

Toxic people do not know how to put themselves in other’s shoes. They just put on a mask of simplicity. But, in reality, they don’t have feelings for you. Therefore, you should stop sharing your valuable time with them as you will get nothing except annoyance and silence.

Hypocrisy at Its Best in Their Nature

Toxic people have a great hunger for respect, adoration, and fidelity. After dignifying them with these valuable elements, you will get nothing; you will be cheated, manipulated and criticized by them. And, if you are not willing to listen to them, you will be controlled by guilt-tripping.

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Emotional Outburst And Pathological Excuses

Toxic people always want to see themselves in the positive end. Therefore, to get their job done, they always have an emotional outburst and emotional excuse to make an impulsive impression upon you.

We do mistakes and it is our duty to accept those mistakes. But, toxic people have their own rules, they have a tendency to present themselves rationally even after committing a mistake. If someone tries to expose themselves with facts, they show no embarrassment and use emotional excuses as a shield.

Play with Your Emotion And Gradually Erode It

Toxic people always try to condescend you with critical jokes and when you try to elicit your thoughts, they just burst out laughing. Teasing becomes an important element in your relationship with toxic person. They even give you backhanded compliments to belittle you.

Thus, using their toxic mindset, they just gradually diminish your abilities as well as intelligence. And you will have nothing left in your hand other than putting up with these things to maintain the silence.

Well, you probably might have not seen all these signs in one person as there are different types of toxic people roaming around you.

4 Types of Toxic People

To understand it better, I’m mentioning the different types of toxic people here.

1. Conversational Narcissist

There are some toxic people who do not know how to give importance to others. They will talk about themselves but never ask you about your condition; they will only recall you when they need you or they are facing some sort of problems.

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2. Emotional Vampires

These vampires do not suck your blood but dissipate your emotion. They always talk negatively about everyone and compel you to think in the same pattern that they follow. They mask themselves in such a way in front of you that you gradually start giving importance to them. But, ultimately, you will not get any positive outcome from them.

3. Monsters with Green eyes

As discussed earlier, toxic people will give you backhanded compliments. Basically, these are called monsters with green eyes. These monsters feel happy when you feel sad. Therefore, they will always try to belittle your achievements, intelligence, and strengths. Along with it, they give compliments with some negativity in it.

4. Black-Eyed Cats

These cats always do mew-mew and try to control everything around them. They love to be pampered but, they do not like if someone goes against them.

If you are in a relationship with such persons, you will be nagged until you are giving them complete satisfaction. In a nutshell, it must be said that you have to align yourself with them if you want to live with them. But, ultimately, you will lose your mental, conversational and emotional freedom.

How to Deal with Toxic People

Living with problems is more convenient than living with toxic people. But, toxic people are parasites and therefore, you will see these monsters rambling around you wherever you go.

However, if you know how to deal with them, it would be very helpful for you and your life would be much easier to live. We have added some tips to assist you, just check these out.

Get Rid of Intermittent Reinforcement

We are very optimistic in nature and over the time, this optimism has reached to such a level that we can happily put up with the ‘close losses’ instead of trying to catch the ‘near wins’.

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B.F Skinner once did an experiment with three rats. He put them in different cages attached with levers. The lever delivered food when it was pressed. In the 1st cage, the lever always delivered food when the rat pressed it. In case of the 2nd cage, food was never delivered by the lever even after pressing it, therefore, the rat understood the lesson and never tried to get food. But, in the third cage, the lever delivered food randomly and as a result, the rat was completely hooked and fixated. He constantly pushed it but didn’t get the food always.

Well, this is called intermittent relationship and the same thing happens in human relationships where toxic people give you intermittent reinforcement and your heart gets pumped up with optimism. As a result, you will be hooked and your life will be fixated at some point with toxic people.

You should learn to move on without them and live your life happily because random happiness cannot bring permanent relief.

Never Make Too Many Allowances And Pardons

Well, sympathetic attitude is very good and it is also a fact that sometimes toxic people suffer from genuine depression, physical as well as mental illness. But, you have to set a boundary and you cannot allow people to get away with anything so easily.

If you make too many allowances as well as pardons, it would not be good for you in the long-term. Yes, there are some people who are facing extreme hardships and they are not even toxic in nature. But, all you can do is show some genuine compassion keeping yourself within the boundaries.

Always Try to Ignore Their Toxic Traps

Demotivational words are the primary weapon that they frequently use in their implications to detract you. Along with this, they throw words in such a way that you start feeling guilty. Well, you must understand that these are just toxic traps and you should not step on it.

Always remember that you will have full access to freedom if you stop taking things personally. They not only do this with you but also with everyone. You just have to keep in mind that these toxic words are not based on truth but on their own mental reproduction. So, you just have to ignore this and focus on your work.

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Show Them Your Beautiful Smile Not the Curves on Your Forehead

Toxic people have an aptitude to attack mentally, mock disgracefully and diminish shamefully. But, you will not be affected if you don’t surrender yourself. Show them that you are not getting belittled or insulted.

We all have our problems and we also know that we are capable of solving these problems. Therefore, the matter entirely depends upon us and if we don’t allow these vampires to enter into our life or play with our emotions, they cannot suck our happiness. So, I’d suggest you show your beautiful smile when they buzz around you.

Don’t Suppress Yourself

Toxic people will intimidate, bully, pass guilt, and forcefully take money from you to get their job done. They know very well that they are doing wrong and at the same time, they are acquainted with the concept that we are incapable of doing anything against them.

Most of the time, we keep ourselves quiet until someone speaks up. And because of this suppressive mindset, we are gradually being dragged into their mind games.

Well, we have to change this concept as it infuses courage into them. We need to obstruct them with firm minds and make them realize the negative consequences of their behavior.[1] If they are upsetting you, just tell them directly. Your direct statement might open a new gate of opportunity that will allow you to help them if they are suffering from genuine problems.

So, why are you still tolerating these toxic people? Follow the tips mentioned above and deal with them in the right way.

Featured photo credit: Devin Avery via unsplash.com

Reference

[1] Tips for Grooming: Change Your Fixed Negative Belief

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