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15 Life Changing Quotes from T. Harv Eker: “The Secrets of the Millionaire Mind”

15 Life Changing Quotes from T. Harv Eker: “The Secrets of the Millionaire Mind”

When I was given a copy of Secrets of the Millionaire Mind several years ago, I didn’t realize I was getting a book that was about so much more than just wealth. I was given a book about changing my mindset – and it has has changed my life.

You too can apply these quotes to any area of your life that requires changing. Change is only one thought away!

“The number one reason most people don’t get what they want is that they don’t know what they want.”

When asked most people don’t know what they want. Get very clear about what you want and then go for it.

“If you want to change the fruits, you will first have to change the roots. If you want to change the visible, you must first change the invisible.”

The invisible are things others cannot see, your thoughts and beliefs. Most of us run on auto-pilot and pay little attention to our thoughts and beliefs. Only when you do pay attention to these can you make changes.

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“Keep your eye on the goal, keep moving toward your target.”

Many people begin things but with the slightest amount of distraction get side tracked from the goal, be it a business, an exercise routine or a dietary change. If you really want something you have to keep your goal in sight.

“Money will only make you more of what you already are.”


If you are unhappy, afraid, feel unworthy, or insecure, money is not going to change these.  In fact, money may even make things worse.  For example, if you feel insecure about money then having more money may add to this as you ponder what do with it, how to grow it, and keep it safe.

“What you focus on expands.”


When you are focused on lack – of money, opportunities, education, luck, breaks – this is going to be what you get. Change your focus to prosperity, infinite possibilities, doors opening and miracles. This shift has the power to change your life.

“Nothing has meaning except for the meaning you give it.”

When you look at someone’s face you see a face, eyes, nose, mouth, chin, hair. All of these are neutral. Then you add blue eyes, big nose, tiny mouth, pointed chin, beautiful or ugly you give it qualities based on personal perceptions. Without the judgements there is no meaning – the thing just is.

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“The purpose of our lives is to add value to the people of this generation and those that follow.”

The Seventh Generation philosophy states that we consider the effects of our actions and decisions for seven generations into the future. Everything we do has consequences for something and someone else and ultimately, we are all connected.

“If your motivation for acquiring money or success comes from a non-supportive root such as fear, anger, or the need to ‘prove’ yourself, your money will never bring you happiness.”

When thinking about making changes one of the first questions to always ask yourself is, why do you want this?  Will getting this really change things? No amount of money can make you happy, safe, or good enough. If you are not aware of the root of these feelings you will keep creating them.

“The first element of change is awareness. You can’t change something unless you know it exists.”

This is the key to all change! When you are aware that: thoughts lead to feelings, feelings lead to actions, and actions lead to results, you can begin to make changes.

“The second element of change is understanding. By understanding where your “way of thinking” originates, you can recognize that it has to come from outside you.”

Many of our thoughts and beliefs are formed outside of ourselves at home, in school, on the radio/TV, or from books. We are bombarded by the opinions of others, many of which we have taken on. Being aware of this helps you to question some of what you do and believe.

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“For every giver there must be a receiver, and for every receiver there must be a giver.”

To give you must receive and vise versa.

“Resenting the rich is one of the surest ways to stay broke”

T. Harv Eker practises a Huna teaching that says: bless that which you want. Admire, bless and love the rich, if you wan to be rich. This goes for anything that you want in your life.

“You can choose to think in ways that will support you in your happiness and success instead of ways that don’t.”

Once you are aware that your thoughts lead to feelings and then to actions, you have the choice to change how you think.

“If you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep getting what you’ve always got.”

This is a saying T. Harv Eker uses from author and speaker Jim Rohn.

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“Your life is not just about you. It’s also about contributing to others.

It’s about living true to your mission and reason for being here on this earth at this time. It’s about adding your piece of the puzzle to the world. Most people are so stuck in their egos that everything revolves around me, me, and more me. But if you want to be rich in the truest sense of the word, it can’t only be about you. It has to include adding value to other people’s lives.”

If you want to go deeper find out more at: Life Makeover System

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Published on May 4, 2021

How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

They say we are the average of the five persons we spend the most time with. For a minute, consider the people around you. Are they truly who your “tribe” should be or who you aspire to become in the future? Are they really genuine people who want to see you succeed? Or are they fake people who don’t really want to see you happy?

In this article, I’ll review why it is important to surround yourself with genuine individuals—the ones who care, bring something to our table, and first and foremost, who leave all fakeness behind.

How to Spot Fake People?

When you’ve been working in the helping professions for a while, spotting fake people gets a bit easier. There are some very clear signs that the person you are looking at is hiding something, acting somehow, or simply wanting to get somewhere. Most often, there is a secondary gain—perhaps attention, sympathy, or even a promotion.

Whatever it is, you’re better off working their true agenda and staying the hell away. Here are some things you should look out for to help spot fake people.

1. Full of Themselves

Fake people like to show off. They love looking at themselves in the mirror. They collect photos and videos of every single achievement they had and every part of their body and claim to be the “best at what they do.”

Most of these people are actually not that good in real life. But they act like they are and ensure that they appear better than the next person. The issue for you is that you may find yourself always feeling “beneath” them and irritated at their constant need to be in the spotlight.

2. Murky in Expressing Their Emotions

Have you ever tried having a deep and meaningful conversation with a fake person? It’s almost impossible. It’s because they have limited emotional intelligence and don’t know how they truly feel deep down—and partly because they don’t want to have their true emotions exposed, no matter how normal these might be.

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It’s much harder to say “I’m the best at what I do” while simultaneously sharing “average” emotions with “equal” people.

3. Zero Self-Reflection

To grow, we must accept feedback from others. We must be open to our strengths and to our weaknesses. We must accept that we all come in different shapes and can always improve.

Self-reflection requires us to think, forgive, admit fault, and learn from our mistakes. But to do that, we have to be able to adopt a level of genuineness and depth that fake people don’t routinely have. A fake person generally never apologizes, but when they do, it is often followed with a “but” in the next breath.

4. Unrealistic Perceptions

Fake people most often have an unrealistic perception of the world—things that they want to portray to others (pseudo achievements, materialistic gains, or a made-up sense of happiness) or simply how they genuinely regard life outside themselves.

A lot of fake people hide pain, shame, and other underlying reasons in their behavior. This could explain why they can’t be authentic and/or have difficulties seeing their environment for the way it objectively is (both good and bad).

5. Love Attention

As I mentioned earlier, the biggest sign that something isn’t quite right with someone’s behavior can be established by how much they love attention. Are you being interrupted every time you speak by someone who wants to make sure that the spotlight gets reverted back to them? Is the focus always on them, no matter the topic? If yes, you’re probably dealing with a fake person.

6. People Pleaser

Appreciation feels nice but having everyone like you is even better. While it is completely unrealistic for most people to please everyone all the time, fake people seem to always say yes in pursuit of constant approval.

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Now, this is a problem for two reasons. Firstly, these people are simply saying yes to things for their own satisfaction. Secondly, they often end up changing their minds or retracting their offer for one reason or another (“I would have loved to, but my grandmother suddenly fell ill.”), leaving you in the lurch for the 100th time this year.

7. Sarcasm and Cynicism

Behind the chronic pasted smile, fake people are well known for brewing resentment, jealousy, or anger. This is because, behind the postcard life, they are often unhappy. Sarcasm and cynicism are well known to act as a defense mechanism, sometimes even a diversion—anything so they can remain feeling on top of the world, whether it is through boosting themselves or bringing people down.

8. Crappy friend

Fake people are bad friends. They don’t listen to you, your feelings, and whatever news you might have to share. In fact, you might find yourself migrating away from them when you have exciting or bad news to share, knowing that it will always end up one way—their way. In addition, you might find that they’re not available when you truly need them or worse, cancel plans at the last minute.

It’s not unusual to hear that a fake person talks constantly behind people’s backs. Let’s be honest, if they do it to others, they’re doing it to you too. If your “friend” makes you feel bad constantly, trust me, they’re not achieving their purpose, and they’re simply not a good person to have around.

The sooner you learn to spot these fake people, the sooner you can meet meaningful individuals again.

How to Cope With Fake People Moving Forward?

It is important to remind yourself that you deserve more than what you’re getting. You are worthy, valuable, precious, and just as important as the next person.

There are many ways to manage fake people. Here are some tips on how to deal with them.

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1. Boundaries

Keep your boundaries very clear. As explained in the book Unlock Your Resilience, boundaries are what keep you sane when the world tries to suffocate you. When fake people become emotional vampires, make sure to keep your distances, limit contact, and simply replace them with more valuable interactions.

2. Don’t Take Their Behavior Personally

Sadly, they most likely have behaved this way before they knew you and will continue much longer after you have moved on. It isn’t about you. It is about their inner need to meet a void that you are not responsible for. And in all honesty, unless you are a trained professional, you are unlikely to improve it anyway.

3. Be Upfront and Honest About How You Feel

If your “friend” has been hurtful or engaged in behaviors you struggle with, let them know—nicely, firmly, however you want, but let them know that they are affecting you. If it works, great. If it doesn’t, you’ll feel better and when you’re ready to move on, you’ll know you tried to reach out. Your conscience is clear.

4. Ask for Advice

If you’re unsure about what you’re seeing or feeling, ask for advice. Perhaps a relative, a good friend, or a colleague might have some input as to whether you are overreacting or seeing some genuine concerns.

Now, don’t confuse asking for advice with gossiping behind the fake person’s back because, in the end, you don’t want to stoop down to their level. However, a little reminder as to how to stay on your own wellness track can never hurt.

5. Dig Deeper

Now, this one, I offer with caution. If you are emotionally strong, up to it, guaranteed you won’t get sucked into it, and have the skills to manage, perhaps you could dig into the reasons a fake person is acting the way they do.

Have they suffered recent trauma? Have they been rejected all their lives? Is their self-esteem so low that they must resort to making themselves feel good in any way they can? Sometimes, having an understanding of a person’s behavior can help in processing it.

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6. Practice Self-Care!

Clearly, putting some distance between the fake person and yourself is probably the way to go. However, sometimes, it takes time to get there. In the meantime, make sure to practice self-care, be gentle with yourself, and compensate with lots of positives!

Self-care can be as simple as taking a hot shower after talking to them or declining an invitation when you’re not feeling up to the challenge.

Spotting fake people isn’t too hard. They generally glow with wanna-be vibes. However, most often, there are reasons as to why they are like this. Calling their behavior might be the first step. Providing them with support might be the second. But if these don’t work, it’s time to stay away and surround yourself with the positivity that you deserve.

Final Thoughts

Remember that life is a rollercoaster. It has good moments, tough moments, and moments you wouldn’t change for the world. So, look around and make sure that you take the time to choose the right people to share it all with.

We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with, so take a good look around and choose wisely!

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