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15 Amazing Strengths Of The Middle Child

15 Amazing Strengths Of The Middle Child

Are you a middle child? Having both a younger and an older sibling will shape you as a person, making you emotionally strong in ways you never expected. There are some amazing benefits to being the middle child, but you learn these over time.

Check out 15 strengths of middle children.

1. They Are Responsible

The oldest child made mistakes, the middle child watched the mistakes being made, and the youngest child was somewhere else, probably playing with toys. This taught the middle child to be responsible and not make the same mistakes – well, most of them, anyway.

2. They Are Good At Negotiation

The middle child learnt to negotiate with their parents and siblings, while the oldest demanded and the youngest whined. They grow into master negotiators, often able to get their own way.

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3. They Are Great Empathisers

After feeling overshadowed as a child, the middle child can always relate to an underdog. They will often go out of their way to cheer up someone who is feeling low.

4. They Make Good Leaders

Middle children spend a good chunk of their childhood in the middle of a screaming fight between their siblings, so they quickly figure out how to fix the problem and appease everyone, meaning they often make great leaders later in life.

5. They Are Focused On Fairness

Due to the injustices they have experienced – getting unfashionable hand-me downs and having to share all of their favorite toys, middle children really care about being fair and equal.

6. They Don’t Have Huge Egos

The order of birth means the middle child can have slightly lower self-esteem, but this isn’t necessarily a bad thing – it is rare for a middle child to have a huge ego.

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7. They Are Often Easy Going

Middle children learn to go with the flow at a very young age, as they spent their childhood in the middle of their siblings’ battles. The battles seem kind of pointless now; they were mostly about which game to play or whether they would play inside or outside, but they helped shape the middle child as a person.

Middle children may seem indecisive, but they are normally just more relaxed and flexible than the average person.

8. They Are Willing To Rebel

Being the middle child often means you get less attention, so at some point most children in the middle will rebel, even if that rebellion is just dying a purple streak in their hair.

It is normally a harmless rebellion for some much-needed attention, but it teaches them to not fear being controversial, and to take chances later in life.

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9. They Are Independent

The middle child spends their whole childhood surrounded by siblings, and while they adore their siblings, they really appreciate any alone time they get. They don’t need people around them all of the time, and they understand the importance of solitude.

10. They Are Great With Children

The middle sibling helped to raise their younger sibling, even when they are just telling them to not actually eat the mud pie they just made. Because of this, middle children are often great around children – whether they like it or not.

11. They Avoid Conflict

After years of being in the middle of their sibling’s fights, middle children learn to avoid conflict. This means they are likely to be kind and generous, but don’t try to take advantage of them – they won a few fights with their siblings, too.

12. They Make Great Decisions

Middle siblings were old enough to be curious, as well as young enough to not know better. They have witnessed their older sibling’s errors, but enjoyed their younger sibling’s curious naivety at the same time.

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As they factor both mind-sets into their decision, they normally make pretty awesome decisions.

13. They Are Loved By Their Siblings

Being in the middle meant they had a lot in common with both of their siblings; they could play make believe with their youngest sibling, and they could watch TV shows with their oldest sibling. So the middle child is everyone’s favorite – secretly, of course.

14. They Are Patient

After spending years patiently waiting for their turn to play on the PlayStation/go on the swing/any other activity they had to do with their siblings, middle children have seriously mastered the art of patience.

15. They Are Creative

It took a lot of creativity and planning for the middle child to actually get a significant amount of attention from their parents. From taking a weird, interesting class to creating your own secret language, middle children were creative from the very beginning.

Can you think of anymore strengths a middle child has? Comment your ideas below!

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

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