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15 Amazing Strengths Of The Middle Child

15 Amazing Strengths Of The Middle Child

Are you a middle child? Having both a younger and an older sibling will shape you as a person, making you emotionally strong in ways you never expected. There are some amazing benefits to being the middle child, but you learn these over time.

Check out 15 strengths of middle children.

1. They Are Responsible

The oldest child made mistakes, the middle child watched the mistakes being made, and the youngest child was somewhere else, probably playing with toys. This taught the middle child to be responsible and not make the same mistakes – well, most of them, anyway.

2. They Are Good At Negotiation

The middle child learnt to negotiate with their parents and siblings, while the oldest demanded and the youngest whined. They grow into master negotiators, often able to get their own way.

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3. They Are Great Empathisers

After feeling overshadowed as a child, the middle child can always relate to an underdog. They will often go out of their way to cheer up someone who is feeling low.

4. They Make Good Leaders

Middle children spend a good chunk of their childhood in the middle of a screaming fight between their siblings, so they quickly figure out how to fix the problem and appease everyone, meaning they often make great leaders later in life.

5. They Are Focused On Fairness

Due to the injustices they have experienced – getting unfashionable hand-me downs and having to share all of their favorite toys, middle children really care about being fair and equal.

6. They Don’t Have Huge Egos

The order of birth means the middle child can have slightly lower self-esteem, but this isn’t necessarily a bad thing – it is rare for a middle child to have a huge ego.

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7. They Are Often Easy Going

Middle children learn to go with the flow at a very young age, as they spent their childhood in the middle of their siblings’ battles. The battles seem kind of pointless now; they were mostly about which game to play or whether they would play inside or outside, but they helped shape the middle child as a person.

Middle children may seem indecisive, but they are normally just more relaxed and flexible than the average person.

8. They Are Willing To Rebel

Being the middle child often means you get less attention, so at some point most children in the middle will rebel, even if that rebellion is just dying a purple streak in their hair.

It is normally a harmless rebellion for some much-needed attention, but it teaches them to not fear being controversial, and to take chances later in life.

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9. They Are Independent

The middle child spends their whole childhood surrounded by siblings, and while they adore their siblings, they really appreciate any alone time they get. They don’t need people around them all of the time, and they understand the importance of solitude.

10. They Are Great With Children

The middle sibling helped to raise their younger sibling, even when they are just telling them to not actually eat the mud pie they just made. Because of this, middle children are often great around children – whether they like it or not.

11. They Avoid Conflict

After years of being in the middle of their sibling’s fights, middle children learn to avoid conflict. This means they are likely to be kind and generous, but don’t try to take advantage of them – they won a few fights with their siblings, too.

12. They Make Great Decisions

Middle siblings were old enough to be curious, as well as young enough to not know better. They have witnessed their older sibling’s errors, but enjoyed their younger sibling’s curious naivety at the same time.

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As they factor both mind-sets into their decision, they normally make pretty awesome decisions.

13. They Are Loved By Their Siblings

Being in the middle meant they had a lot in common with both of their siblings; they could play make believe with their youngest sibling, and they could watch TV shows with their oldest sibling. So the middle child is everyone’s favorite – secretly, of course.

14. They Are Patient

After spending years patiently waiting for their turn to play on the PlayStation/go on the swing/any other activity they had to do with their siblings, middle children have seriously mastered the art of patience.

15. They Are Creative

It took a lot of creativity and planning for the middle child to actually get a significant amount of attention from their parents. From taking a weird, interesting class to creating your own secret language, middle children were creative from the very beginning.

Can you think of anymore strengths a middle child has? Comment your ideas below!

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Last Updated on September 17, 2018

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.

Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.

When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).

Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:

1. You’re depressed about your home life.

No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.

However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.

If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

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When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.

You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.

2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.

If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.

If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.

3. You can’t stop snooping.

Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.

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I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.

Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.

So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.

It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.

If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.

4. You’re afraid of commitment.

If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.

Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.

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No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.

If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.

Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.

5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.

If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.

Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.

Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.

Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.

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If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?

6. You resent, rather than love your partner.

When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.

When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.

If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.

7. You chase past feelings.

It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.

You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.

When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.

Final thoughts

If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.

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