“If you can’t figure out your purpose, figure out your passion. For your passion will lead you right into your purpose.” ~Bishop T.D. Jakes
Most of us are living our lives without any aim or reason. Because of this, we tend to become disoriented and lose our way somewhere in the middle. The happiest of people are the ones who are focused and passionate about something in their lives.
The majority of successful people in the world are goal-oriented and have made their creativity, talent, or hobby into their biggest strength. No one can deny the fact that you can excel in your life only if you are pursuing a goal or dream that you are passionate about. Without having fun along the way, you will only get depressed and lose interest in your life.
The list below elaborates 13 ways to find passion in your life.
1. Don’t Rush Into Things
Life isn’t about a constant rush of jumping into things. In fact, if you want to find passion in your life; then it’s time to slow down and gain a better perspective of who you really are as an individual.Advertising
You can find answers to the troubling questions by slowing down and finding what you really want out of yourself. Take up some activity such as yoga, walking or meditation to help you explore your inner self and find deeper meaning behind your life.
2. You Are the Writer of Your Own Story
Not many people realize that their life entirely depends upon their own hands. Often, we tend to blame our failures on others, but realizing that we have the capacity to evolve and become a better person is only something very few are capable of. It makes all the more reason to change your life the exact moment you figure out that it’s time to change. Always remember: you have control and you can change your life to make the necessary difference.
3. Find Your Strengths
No one is born without a talent, strength, or skill. In fact all of us are unique in our own way. Try exploring what you are good at. There has to be something that comes naturally to you. By allowing yourself to nurture your natural talent, you will be able to excel in your field. And most of all, you will be a happy person doing what you love to do.
4. You Can and You Will
This is the statement you need to repeat to yourself every now and then. By cultivating confidence in your personality, you are indirectly planting a positive idea in your mind. The go-getter attitude is most important in helping you achieve your aims. The only way you can be passionate about fulfilling your goal is by constantly re-assuring yourself that you can and you will be able to conquer all your fears, and you will one day realize your goal.
5. Identify the Recurring Patterns
Notice the recurring themes in your life that call out for you to make a necessary change. A recurring pattern is some kind of a situation or feeling that you constantly stumble across. This is a sign for you to identify it and try to break out of that loop once and for all.Advertising
6. Vent Out Your Feelings
The best way to be clear about your passion is to clear out your mind. This can be achieved by venting out your feelings. Some people write their thoughts down, while others prefer to talk about how they feel. In either case, it is better for you to let your feelings and ideas out.
Many psychologists suggest keeping a journal that helps in organizing your thoughts and allowing you to point out your passion in life. In order for you to figure out what you are truly passionate about, take a few minutes out every day to jot down your feelings. After a few weeks, you will be surprised at discovering what you really want to do.
7. Don’t Forget to Have Fun
What many of us tend to forget is that being too focused on our goals; we somehow forget to have fun along the way. When we stop enjoying what we are doing, that’s when the problem starts.
A lot of people are clear about what their passions are; yet they seem to be unhappy in their pursuits. Why does this happen? Usually, it’s because they have forgotten that it is important for them to enjoy what they are doing instead of being too goal-oriented and going through a set of tasks as a mechanical robot.
8. Let Go of Your Inhibitions
What are you afraid of? Is it failure, abandonment by friends and family, or death? By pinpointing your biggest fear, you are allowing yourself to gain control and confront your fear.Advertising
Don’t worry about the outcome, instead live your life by principles and enjoy each day as it comes. By over-emphasizing on past failures, you will only be discouraged to pursue your dreams. Remember: it’s all about moving forward and not looking back.
9. Just Be Yourself
Many of us try to become someone else because we see those people as successful and happy in their lives. But does that really work for us? Answer: a big No! Never try to be someone or something you’re not.
Being true to yourself is the key in finding your passion in life. As cliché it may sound, leopards can’t change their spots and you can’t really change your DNA. So why not try something that comes naturally to you instead of following someone else’s success act and failing along the way?
10. Take Risks
Simple, we only live once. A lot of us don’t really explore our capabilities because of certain deep-rooted fears. For example, I know of this person who really wanted to try extreme sports but the fear of a severe injury or possible death prevented them from actually trying it out. Now they are too old to pursue their passion and regret not taking the chance when they had the time.
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11. When Something Clicks, Just Go With It
Often when we are exploring what truly moves us, we stumble across an idea or opportunity that seems extremely appealing. It may be your dream job, or a chance to explore a long-awaited hobby. When that happens, don’t over-think it‒just go with it.
Time is your biggest enemy. It hampers your growth and productivity. By procrastinating on the offer at hand, you will probably reason against it and then end up regretting not taking it up when you had the chance.
12. Admit Your Limitations
It’s not always the case that your dream can be pursued. For example, someone may want to be a famous singer but their voice is not just good enough. Sometimes, admitting your limitations can actually liberate you to follow your dreams in a practical way. That person may not end up being a famous singer but if they are a talented musician, they may end up being someone really famous after all.
13. What Drives You?
For many people, unfortunately, money is the primary driving factor in their lives. Because of this, they become slave to a routine that they hate. It is understandable that finances matter as they help you in sustaining a lifestyle. However, passion and money may not be complimentary to each other.
If you want to follow your passion, then don’t worry too much about the money. If you have a little savings to fall back on, you can even work for less compensation for a while to pursue what you truly love. Remember: if you are really passionate about something that you are doing, then money will automatically come your way.
So this wraps up the 13 ways to find passion in your life. By following these simple rules, you can explore your inner self and find out what you are truly passionate about. The most successful people in the world follow their hearts. Try to hear what your heart’s telling you and you may be surprised at where it leads you.
Share your success story and tell how you found something you are passionate about. Feel free to comment.
Published on September 23, 2020
6 Effective Negotiation Skills to Master
I don’t know about you, but many times when I hear the word negotiate I think of lawyers working out a business deal or having to do battle with a car salesman to try to get a lower price. Since I am in recruiting, the term “negotiation” comes up when someone is attempting to get a higher compensation package.
If we think about it, we tend to negotiate almost every day in a wide variety of things we do. Getting a handle on the important negotiation skills can be incredibly beneficial in many parts of our lives. Let’s take a look at 6 effective negotiation skills to master.
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What is Negotiation?
First, let’s take a look at what negotiation is. Put simply, negotiation is a method by which people settle their differences. It is a process in which compromise or agreement can be reached without argument or dispute.
Anytime two people or sides disagree on something, they are almost always looking for the best possible outcome for their side. This could be from an individual’s perspective or someone representing an organization.
In reality, it’s rare that one side gets everything they want and the other side gets nothing that they are seeking. Seeking to reach a common ground of sorts where both sides feel like they are getting most of what they want is the key to being successful and maintaining the relationship.
Places We Negotiate
I’ve mentioned that we negotiate in just about all phases of our life. For those of you who are shaking your head no, I invite you to think about the following:
This one is the most obvious and it’s what naturally comes to mind when we think of the word “negotiate”.
When you first started at your current job, you might have asked for a higher salary. It could be that you delivered a huge new client to your company and used this as leverage in your most recent evaluation for more compensation. If you work with vendors (and just about every company does), maybe you worked them to a lower price or better contract terms.
In recruiting, I negotiate with candidates and hiring managers all the time to land the best talent I can find. It’s very common to accept additional work with the (sometimes spoken, sometimes unspoken) agreement that it will benefit your career in the future.
Recently, I took over a project that was my boss was working on so that I would be able to attend a conference later in the year. And so it goes, we do this all day long at work.
I don’t know about you, but I negotiate with my spouse all the time. I’ll cook dinner with the understanding that she does the dishes. Who wants to mow the lawn and who wants to vacuum and dust the house?
I think we should save 10% for retirement, but she thinks 5% is plenty. Therefore, we save 8%. And don’t even get me started with my kids. My older daughter can borrow my car as soon as she finishes her chores. My younger daughter can go hang out with her friends when her homework is done.
Then, there are all those interactions in our personal lives outside our homes. The carpenter wants to charge me $12,000 to build a new deck. I think $10,000 is plenty so we agree on $11,000. I ask my neighbor if I can borrow his snowblower in the winter if I invite him over the next time I grill steak. And so on.
You didn’t expect this one, did you? We negotiate with ourselves all day long.
I’ll make sure I don’t skip my workout tomorrow since I’m going to have that extra piece of pizza. My spouse has been quiet the last few days, is it worth me asking her about, or should I leave it alone? I think the car place charged me for some repairs that weren’t needed, should I say something or just let it go? I know my friend has been having some personal challenges, should I check in with him? We’ve been friends for a long time, I’m sure he’d come to me if he needed help. I’ve got the #4 pick in this year’s Fantasy Football draft, should I choose a running back or a wide receiver?
Think about that non-stop voice inside your head. It always seems to be chattering away about something and many times, it’s us negotiating with ourselves. I’ll finish up that report that the boss needs before I turn on the football game.
Why Negotiation Skills Are So Important
Put simply, negotiation skills are important because we all interact with other people, and not only other people but other organizations and groups of people as well.
We all rarely want the same thing or outcome. Most of the time a vendor is looking at getting you to pay a higher price for something than you want to spend. Therefore, it’s important to negotiate to some middle ground that works well for both sides.
My wife and I disagree on how much to save for retirement. If we weren’t married it wouldn’t be an issue. We’d each contribute how much we wanted to on our retirement funds. We choose to be married, so we have to come to some agreement that we both feel comfortable with. We have to compromise. Therefore, we have to negotiate.
If we each lived on a planet by ourselves, we would be free to do just about anything we wanted to. We wouldn’t have to compromise with anyone because we wouldn’t interact with anyone. We would make every choice unilaterally the way we wanted to.
As we all know, this isn’t how things are. We are constantly interacting with other people and organizations, each one with their own agenda’s, viewpoints, and opinions. Therefore, we have to be able to work together.
6 Negotiation Skills to Master
Having strong negotiation skills helps us create win-win situations with others, allowing us to get most of what we want in conjunction with others around us.
Now, let’s look at 6 effective negotiation skills to master.
Preparation is a key place to start with when getting ready to negotiate. Being prepared means having a clear vision of what you want and how you’d go about achieving it. It means knowing what the end goal looks like and also what you are willing to give to get it.
It also means knowing who you are negotiating with and what areas they might be willing to compromise on. You should also know what your “bottom line” is. By “bottom line” I mean what is the most you are willing to give up to get what you want.
For instance, several years ago, I decided it was time to get a newer car. I say newer because I wanted a “new to me” car, not a brand new car. I did my research and figured out what type of car I wanted. I decided on what must-have items on the car I wanted, the highest amount of miles that would already be on it, the colors I was willing to get it in, and the highest amount of money I was willing to pay.
After visiting numerous car dealerships I was able to negotiate buying a car. I knew what I was willing to give up (amount of money) and what I was willing to accept, things like the color, amount of miles, etc. I came prepared. This is critical.
2. Clear Communication
The next key skill you need to be an effective negotiator is clear communication. You have to be able to clearly articulate what you want to the other party. This means both clear verbal and written communication.
If you can’t clearly tell the other person what you want, how do you expect to get it? Have you ever worked through something with a vendor or someone else only to learn of a surprise right at the end that wasn’t talked about before? This is not what you would call clear communication. It’s essential to be able to share a coherent and logical vision with the person you are working with.
3. Active Listening
Let’s do a quick review of active listening. This is when you are completely focused on the speaker, understand their message, comprehend the information, and respond appropriately. This is a necessary ingredient to be able to negotiate successfully. You must be able to fully focus on the other person’s wants to completely understand them.
If you aren’t giving them your full attention, you may miss some major points or details. This leads to frustration down the road on both sides. Ensure you are employing your active listening skills when in arbitration mode.
4. Teamwork and Collaboration
To be able to get to a place of common ground and a win-win scenario, you have to have a sense of teamwork and collaboration.
If you are only thinking about yourself and what you want without giving much care to what the other person is wanting, you are bound to wind up without a solution. The other person may get frustrated and give up if they see you are unwilling to meet them halfway or care little for what they want.
When you collaborate, you are working together to help each other get what is most important to you. The other upside to negotiating with a sense of teamwork and collaboration is that it helps create a sense of trust, which, in turn, helps provide positive energy for working to a successful conclusion.
5. Problem Solving
Problem-solving is another key negotiation skill. When you are working with the other person to get the deal done many times you’ll face new challenges along the way.
Maybe you want a new vendor to provide training on the software they are selling you but they say it’s going to cost an additional $20,000 to provide this service. If you don’t have the additional $20,000 in the budget to spend on the software but you feel the training is critical, how are you going to solve that problem?
From what I’ve seen, most vendors aren’t willing to provide additional services without getting paid for them. This is where problem-solving skills will help continue the discussions. You might suggest to the vendor that your company will also be looking to replace their financial software next year, and you’d be happy to ensure they get one of the first seats at the table when the time comes if they could perhaps lower the pricing on their training.
There’s a solution to most challenges, but it takes problem-solving skills to work through them effectively.
6. Decision-Making Ability
Finally, having strong decision-making ability will help you seal the deal when you get to a place where everyone feels like they are getting what works for them. Each step of the way you can cross off the list when you get what you are looking for and decide to move onto the next item. Then, once you have all of your must-have boxes checked and the other side feels good about things, it’s time to shake hands and sign on the dotted line. Powerful decision-making ability will help you get to the finish line together.
There you have it, 6 effective negotiation skills to master to lead a more fulfilling life. Once we realize that we negotiate in one form or another almost every day in every phase of our lives, we realize how critical a skill it is.
Possessing strong negotiation skills will help you in nearly every one of your relationships at both the workplace and in your personal life. If you feel your arbitration tools could use some sharpening, try some of the 6 effective negotiation skills to master that we’ve talked about.
More Tips to Improve Your Negotiation Skills
- How to Negotiate Skilfully to Get What You Want All the Time
- Perfect Negotiation: The 6 Stages That Help You Negotiate Successfully
- Negotiation: How to Negotiate for Whatever Result You Desire
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