“If you can’t figure out your purpose, figure out your passion. For your passion will lead you right into your purpose.” ~Bishop T.D. Jakes
Most of us are living our lives without any aim or reason. Because of this, we tend to become disoriented and lose our way somewhere in the middle. The happiest of people are the ones who are focused and passionate about something in their lives.
The majority of successful people in the world are goal-oriented and have made their creativity, talent, or hobby into their biggest strength. No one can deny the fact that you can excel in your life only if you are pursuing a goal or dream that you are passionate about. Without having fun along the way, you will only get depressed and lose interest in your life.
The list below elaborates 13 ways to find passion in your life.
1. Don’t Rush Into Things
Life isn’t about a constant rush of jumping into things. In fact, if you want to find passion in your life; then it’s time to slow down and gain a better perspective of who you really are as an individual.Advertising
You can find answers to the troubling questions by slowing down and finding what you really want out of yourself. Take up some activity such as yoga, walking or meditation to help you explore your inner self and find deeper meaning behind your life.
2. You Are the Writer of Your Own Story
Not many people realize that their life entirely depends upon their own hands. Often, we tend to blame our failures on others, but realizing that we have the capacity to evolve and become a better person is only something very few are capable of. It makes all the more reason to change your life the exact moment you figure out that it’s time to change. Always remember: you have control and you can change your life to make the necessary difference.
3. Find Your Strengths
No one is born without a talent, strength, or skill. In fact all of us are unique in our own way. Try exploring what you are good at. There has to be something that comes naturally to you. By allowing yourself to nurture your natural talent, you will be able to excel in your field. And most of all, you will be a happy person doing what you love to do.
4. You Can and You Will
This is the statement you need to repeat to yourself every now and then. By cultivating confidence in your personality, you are indirectly planting a positive idea in your mind. The go-getter attitude is most important in helping you achieve your aims. The only way you can be passionate about fulfilling your goal is by constantly re-assuring yourself that you can and you will be able to conquer all your fears, and you will one day realize your goal.
5. Identify the Recurring Patterns
Notice the recurring themes in your life that call out for you to make a necessary change. A recurring pattern is some kind of a situation or feeling that you constantly stumble across. This is a sign for you to identify it and try to break out of that loop once and for all.Advertising
6. Vent Out Your Feelings
The best way to be clear about your passion is to clear out your mind. This can be achieved by venting out your feelings. Some people write their thoughts down, while others prefer to talk about how they feel. In either case, it is better for you to let your feelings and ideas out.
Many psychologists suggest keeping a journal that helps in organizing your thoughts and allowing you to point out your passion in life. In order for you to figure out what you are truly passionate about, take a few minutes out every day to jot down your feelings. After a few weeks, you will be surprised at discovering what you really want to do.
7. Don’t Forget to Have Fun
What many of us tend to forget is that being too focused on our goals; we somehow forget to have fun along the way. When we stop enjoying what we are doing, that’s when the problem starts.
A lot of people are clear about what their passions are; yet they seem to be unhappy in their pursuits. Why does this happen? Usually, it’s because they have forgotten that it is important for them to enjoy what they are doing instead of being too goal-oriented and going through a set of tasks as a mechanical robot.
8. Let Go of Your Inhibitions
What are you afraid of? Is it failure, abandonment by friends and family, or death? By pinpointing your biggest fear, you are allowing yourself to gain control and confront your fear.Advertising
Don’t worry about the outcome, instead live your life by principles and enjoy each day as it comes. By over-emphasizing on past failures, you will only be discouraged to pursue your dreams. Remember: it’s all about moving forward and not looking back.
9. Just Be Yourself
Many of us try to become someone else because we see those people as successful and happy in their lives. But does that really work for us? Answer: a big No! Never try to be someone or something you’re not.
Being true to yourself is the key in finding your passion in life. As cliché it may sound, leopards can’t change their spots and you can’t really change your DNA. So why not try something that comes naturally to you instead of following someone else’s success act and failing along the way?
10. Take Risks
Simple, we only live once. A lot of us don’t really explore our capabilities because of certain deep-rooted fears. For example, I know of this person who really wanted to try extreme sports but the fear of a severe injury or possible death prevented them from actually trying it out. Now they are too old to pursue their passion and regret not taking the chance when they had the time.
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11. When Something Clicks, Just Go With It
Often when we are exploring what truly moves us, we stumble across an idea or opportunity that seems extremely appealing. It may be your dream job, or a chance to explore a long-awaited hobby. When that happens, don’t over-think it‒just go with it.
Time is your biggest enemy. It hampers your growth and productivity. By procrastinating on the offer at hand, you will probably reason against it and then end up regretting not taking it up when you had the chance.
12. Admit Your Limitations
It’s not always the case that your dream can be pursued. For example, someone may want to be a famous singer but their voice is not just good enough. Sometimes, admitting your limitations can actually liberate you to follow your dreams in a practical way. That person may not end up being a famous singer but if they are a talented musician, they may end up being someone really famous after all.
13. What Drives You?
For many people, unfortunately, money is the primary driving factor in their lives. Because of this, they become slave to a routine that they hate. It is understandable that finances matter as they help you in sustaining a lifestyle. However, passion and money may not be complimentary to each other.
If you want to follow your passion, then don’t worry too much about the money. If you have a little savings to fall back on, you can even work for less compensation for a while to pursue what you truly love. Remember: if you are really passionate about something that you are doing, then money will automatically come your way.
So this wraps up the 13 ways to find passion in your life. By following these simple rules, you can explore your inner self and find out what you are truly passionate about. The most successful people in the world follow their hearts. Try to hear what your heart’s telling you and you may be surprised at where it leads you.
Share your success story and tell how you found something you are passionate about. Feel free to comment.
Last Updated on September 17, 2018
7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck
Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.
Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.
When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).
Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:
1. You’re depressed about your home life.
No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.
However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.
If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.
When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.
You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.
2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.
Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.
If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.
You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.
If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.
3. You can’t stop snooping.
Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.
I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.
Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.
So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.
It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.
If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.
4. You’re afraid of commitment.
If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.
Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.
No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.
If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.
Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.
5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.
If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.
Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.
Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.
Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.
If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?
6. You resent, rather than love your partner.
When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.
When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.
If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.
7. You chase past feelings.
It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.
You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.
When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.
If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.
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