“If you can’t figure out your purpose, figure out your passion. For your passion will lead you right into your purpose.” ~Bishop T.D. Jakes
Most of us are living our lives without any aim or reason. Because of this, we tend to become disoriented and lose our way somewhere in the middle. The happiest of people are the ones who are focused and passionate about something in their lives.
The majority of successful people in the world are goal-oriented and have made their creativity, talent, or hobby into their biggest strength. No one can deny the fact that you can excel in your life only if you are pursuing a goal or dream that you are passionate about. Without having fun along the way, you will only get depressed and lose interest in your life.
The list below elaborates 13 ways to find passion in your life.
1. Don’t Rush Into Things
Life isn’t about a constant rush of jumping into things. In fact, if you want to find passion in your life; then it’s time to slow down and gain a better perspective of who you really are as an individual.Advertising
You can find answers to the troubling questions by slowing down and finding what you really want out of yourself. Take up some activity such as yoga, walking or meditation to help you explore your inner self and find deeper meaning behind your life.
2. You Are the Writer of Your Own Story
Not many people realize that their life entirely depends upon their own hands. Often, we tend to blame our failures on others, but realizing that we have the capacity to evolve and become a better person is only something very few are capable of. It makes all the more reason to change your life the exact moment you figure out that it’s time to change. Always remember: you have control and you can change your life to make the necessary difference.
3. Find Your Strengths
No one is born without a talent, strength, or skill. In fact all of us are unique in our own way. Try exploring what you are good at. There has to be something that comes naturally to you. By allowing yourself to nurture your natural talent, you will be able to excel in your field. And most of all, you will be a happy person doing what you love to do.
4. You Can and You Will
This is the statement you need to repeat to yourself every now and then. By cultivating confidence in your personality, you are indirectly planting a positive idea in your mind. The go-getter attitude is most important in helping you achieve your aims. The only way you can be passionate about fulfilling your goal is by constantly re-assuring yourself that you can and you will be able to conquer all your fears, and you will one day realize your goal.
5. Identify the Recurring Patterns
Notice the recurring themes in your life that call out for you to make a necessary change. A recurring pattern is some kind of a situation or feeling that you constantly stumble across. This is a sign for you to identify it and try to break out of that loop once and for all.Advertising
6. Vent Out Your Feelings
The best way to be clear about your passion is to clear out your mind. This can be achieved by venting out your feelings. Some people write their thoughts down, while others prefer to talk about how they feel. In either case, it is better for you to let your feelings and ideas out.
Many psychologists suggest keeping a journal that helps in organizing your thoughts and allowing you to point out your passion in life. In order for you to figure out what you are truly passionate about, take a few minutes out every day to jot down your feelings. After a few weeks, you will be surprised at discovering what you really want to do.
7. Don’t Forget to Have Fun
What many of us tend to forget is that being too focused on our goals; we somehow forget to have fun along the way. When we stop enjoying what we are doing, that’s when the problem starts.
A lot of people are clear about what their passions are; yet they seem to be unhappy in their pursuits. Why does this happen? Usually, it’s because they have forgotten that it is important for them to enjoy what they are doing instead of being too goal-oriented and going through a set of tasks as a mechanical robot.
8. Let Go of Your Inhibitions
What are you afraid of? Is it failure, abandonment by friends and family, or death? By pinpointing your biggest fear, you are allowing yourself to gain control and confront your fear.Advertising
Don’t worry about the outcome, instead live your life by principles and enjoy each day as it comes. By over-emphasizing on past failures, you will only be discouraged to pursue your dreams. Remember: it’s all about moving forward and not looking back.
9. Just Be Yourself
Many of us try to become someone else because we see those people as successful and happy in their lives. But does that really work for us? Answer: a big No! Never try to be someone or something you’re not.
Being true to yourself is the key in finding your passion in life. As cliché it may sound, leopards can’t change their spots and you can’t really change your DNA. So why not try something that comes naturally to you instead of following someone else’s success act and failing along the way?
10. Take Risks
Simple, we only live once. A lot of us don’t really explore our capabilities because of certain deep-rooted fears. For example, I know of this person who really wanted to try extreme sports but the fear of a severe injury or possible death prevented them from actually trying it out. Now they are too old to pursue their passion and regret not taking the chance when they had the time.
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11. When Something Clicks, Just Go With It
Often when we are exploring what truly moves us, we stumble across an idea or opportunity that seems extremely appealing. It may be your dream job, or a chance to explore a long-awaited hobby. When that happens, don’t over-think it‒just go with it.
Time is your biggest enemy. It hampers your growth and productivity. By procrastinating on the offer at hand, you will probably reason against it and then end up regretting not taking it up when you had the chance.
12. Admit Your Limitations
It’s not always the case that your dream can be pursued. For example, someone may want to be a famous singer but their voice is not just good enough. Sometimes, admitting your limitations can actually liberate you to follow your dreams in a practical way. That person may not end up being a famous singer but if they are a talented musician, they may end up being someone really famous after all.
13. What Drives You?
For many people, unfortunately, money is the primary driving factor in their lives. Because of this, they become slave to a routine that they hate. It is understandable that finances matter as they help you in sustaining a lifestyle. However, passion and money may not be complimentary to each other.
If you want to follow your passion, then don’t worry too much about the money. If you have a little savings to fall back on, you can even work for less compensation for a while to pursue what you truly love. Remember: if you are really passionate about something that you are doing, then money will automatically come your way.
So this wraps up the 13 ways to find passion in your life. By following these simple rules, you can explore your inner self and find out what you are truly passionate about. The most successful people in the world follow their hearts. Try to hear what your heart’s telling you and you may be surprised at where it leads you.
Share your success story and tell how you found something you are passionate about. Feel free to comment.
Last Updated on May 21, 2019
How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship
For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.
If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:
You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.
You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.
In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.
You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.
People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.
You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.
You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.
The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.
You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.
Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.
If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.
Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:
- Understand your own communication style
- Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
- Communicate with precision and care
- Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger
1. Understand Your Communication Style
To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.
In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.
Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.
2. Learn Others Communication Styles
Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.
If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:
“How do you prefer to receive information?”
This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.
To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.
3. Exercise Precision and Care
A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.
On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.
Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.
I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.
I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.
In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.
The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.
Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.
4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger
Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.
In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,
“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”
Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.
Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.
It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.
It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.
It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.
Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.
Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.
The Bottom Line
When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.
I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.
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