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13 Quotes About Love That Reveal the Meaning of True Friendship

13 Quotes About Love That Reveal the Meaning of True Friendship

No one cares how many Facebook friends you have. The quantity of your friendships will never make you happy. What’s the point of being connected to a bunch of people you don’t trust? These 13 quotes about love will help you understand the meaning of true friendship.

1. “A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you.” ― Elbert Hubbard

A true friendship cannot blossom in the presence of judgement. If you are afraid to tell a person you love anything about your past, then you should consider whether they belong in your life.

2. “It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.” ― André Gide

A true friendship cannot be built on a foundation of lies. Concealing the truth to convince people to like you reflects a lack of self-confidence in who you are. Why should you care about pleasing people who will never accept you?

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3. “There are all types of love in this world, but never the same love twice.” ― F. Scott Fitzgerald

A true friendship cannot be special if it is a mirror image of another. Expecting a new person to replace an old friend is a foolish endeavor that will only result in disappointment.

4. “Love is someone showing you the beauty in things you’ve never noticed before…things in yourself mostly.” ― Mama Zara

A true friendship cannot survive an atmosphere of negativity. While a true friend shouldn’t be afraid to be brutally honest, they should also be a positive influence that inspires you to be better.

5. “Love takes off masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within.” ― James Baldwin

A true friendship cannot thrive without total transparency. If you can’t reveal secrets without fear of being scolded, then why should you bother spending time with that person?

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6. “I like not only to be loved, but also to be told I am loved.” ― George Eliot

A true friendship cannot flourish without words of encouragement. People who don’t appreciate you don’t deserve you. When there is an imbalance in kindness between two halves of a relationship, it is time to have a difficult conversation.

7. “I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.” ― Marilyn Monroe

A true friendship cannot be sustained if you are unable to forgive the faults of another. A person who hurts you continuously without regret shouldn’t be trusted, but we are all human and make mistakes, so forgiveness should be granted (without any guilt attached!) as long as an apology is presented.

8. “I’m a mirror. If you’re cool with me, I’m cool with you, and the exchange starts. What you see is what you reflect. If you don’t like what you see, then you’ve done something. If I’m standoffish, that’s because you are.” ― Jay-Z

A true friendship cannot exist without an ability to confront your shortcomings. Before you assume a person is being cold for no reason, perform an honest assessment of how you are behaving. Most people don’t shut down emotionally unless they have a good reason.

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9. “Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” ― Lao Tzu

A true friendship cannot strengthen you without a readiness to return the emotional investment. Love is a gift that must be given equally between both parties in a relationship.

10. “Let us always meet each other with a smile, for the smile is the beginning of love.” ― Mother Teresa

A true friendship cannot be found if you expect all people to mistreat you. A frown is a visual cue that you aren’t interested in meeting others, while a smile is an open invitation for people to approach you.

11. “Immature love says: ‘I love you because I need you.’ Mature love says ‘I need you because I love you.’” ― Erich Fromm

A true friendship cannot be all about you. Viewing a friend as if they are a part of your existence, without considering that they have a life beyond you, reflects a self-centered worldview. Just because a person doesn’t want to hang out with you doesn’t mean they don’t like you; maybe they worked all day and need some time alone to relax and recharge.

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12. “The best thing to hold on to in life is each other.” ― Audrey Hepburn

A true friendship cannot serve you if you don’t seek support when you need it. Being vulnerable will help you relieve the burden you carry, and a single hug is often more soothing than a thousand words.

13. “Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.” ― William Shakespeare

A true friendship cannot be gifted to everybody you meet. While it is good to love people without question, it is silly to believe all people will care about your feelings. Don’t be afraid to open up, but protect yourself from betrayal by only revealing your deepest and darkest secrets to true friends worth having.

Featured photo credit: with love always/Beverley Goodwin via flickr.com

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11 Things Overachievers Do Differently

11 Things Overachievers Do Differently

We all know some overachievers: supermoms who manage to get online degrees between cleaning, cooking, and taking kids to practice; students who write 10-page papers when the directions call for 4; managers whose resumes look more like pages from the Guinness book of Records.

How do they do it all? How is it possible that one person can graduate at the top of their class, found an orphanage in India, run 30k marathons, write a best-selling book, travel all over the world and learn to speak Mandarin Chinese while having a full-time job?

What’s the secret of an overachiever? Here’re 11 things overachievers do differently that you can learn from.

1. They Know How to Manage Their Time

It’s pretty simple actually – you can never become an overachiever if you don’t know how to organize your time efficiently.

The great thing is that overachievers are ready to share their knowledge and time management talent with the rest of the world. Read The 4-Hour Workweek or The 4-Hour Body by Timothy Ferriss, and you’ll know what I’m talking about.

2. They Don’t Spend Hours Watching TV or Playing Computer Games

Mostly because they have better things to do, like exercising, reading, spending an evening with their family or volunteering to work in the local soup kitchen. Their philosophy is simple – the world is full of wonderful things to try, explore and experience. Watching TV is not one of them.

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3. They Are Obsessed With Perfection

Imagine Steve Jobs’ work approach and you’ll understand the level of perfection and painfully high standards that overachievers set for themselves and those around them. Often it pays off (especially if they focus on just one domain). But sometimes compulsive over-striving turns into a sure-fire road to disappointments and unfinished tasks.

Learn how to strike a balance: How Not to Let Perfectionism Secretly Screw You Up

4. They Know How To Inspire

Overachievers learn quickly that it is much easier to achieve goals through collaboration (and especially delegation). So they know how to inspire, encourage, persuade and motivate people around them. Even though they often drive their team crazy with their stubbornness and perfectionism, people quickly follow under the spell of their enthusiasm and greater vision.

Learn these 10 Powerful Ways to Influence People Positively.

5. They Set Clear Goals

The term “overachiever” itself implies that they know how to achieve goals. That is kind of hard to do if your goals are vague, unclear and lack specific deadline, which is why overachievers educate themselves, read goal-setting books, and think about the best way to approach a new task.

Although, it’s worth mentioning that overachievers usually use their time management and goal-setting skills towards competitive, “I want to kick butt” type of goals rather than self-improvement, mastery goals.

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Take a look at these tips to help you set clearer goals: What Are SMART Goals (And How to Use Them to Become Successful)

6. They Are Organized

It’s hard to imagine a disorganized overachiever, isn’t it? Their great organizational and planning skills usually serve three main purposes: keeping track of time, keeping track of progress and keeping track of achievements.

This hasn’t been confirmed by scientific research yet, but overachievers might actually get a “runner’s high” from crossing tasks off their to-do lists, and making new to-do lists.

Here’s How to Organize Your Life: 10 Habits of Really Organized People

7. They Try to Avoid Failure at All Costs

Some psychologists believe that overachievers place their self-worth on their competence, driven by an underlying fear of failure. Rather than setting and striving for goals based on a pure desire to achieve, their core motivation becomes avoiding failure. This may explain the fact that overachiever beat themselves up for even little setbacks and seemingly-insignificant mistakes.

But be aware that having a strong fear of failure can wrek havoc your productivity. So the best thing to do? Learn to conquer the fear: Why You Have the Fear of Failure (And How to Conquer It)

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8. They Love Awards

Who doesn’t love them, right? True enough, but unlike most people who like to feel acknowledged and appreciated for their efforts, overachievers are bent on collecting ‘awards’, be it university degrees, spelling bee prizes or unusual destinations.

While loving awares isn’t bad, it’s even better if you’re driven by internal motivation instead of external ones which could be quite uncontrolable or unstable: Why Is Internal Motivation So Powerful (And How to Find It).

9. They Don’t Understand the Concept of Work Hours

Don’t get surprised if you receive a work-related email anywhere between 8 p.m. and midnight. It’s something overachievers usually do and you weren’t the only one. At least 20 more emails have been sent during these hours to other people. The concepts of over-achieving and working overtime usually go hand in hand.

The downside of this is an imbalnced life, which may need to problems in other aspects of life including health and relationships. A better way is to Achieve a Realistic Work Life Balance.

10. They Rest

Overachievers might often be labeled as “workaholics”, because they often ignore bodily signs of hunger, fatigue and even a full bladder, hoping to finish just one last little part. This doesn’t mean that overachievers don’t know how to disconnect and relax.

True that they tend to work in the highest gear, but they also have enough sense to give themselves time to rest and recharge. Of course, they do it in their own overachieving way, preferring climbing Mount Kilimanjaro or hiking through the Amazon jungle to lazing on the beach.

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11. Overachievers Continuously Educate Themselves

A great quality that most overachievers have is the hunger for knowledge. They surround themselves with bright people. They know how to listen, and most importantly, they get tons of mentoring.

Despite the fact that overachievers want to excel at everything they set their minds on, they are humble enough to admit that to get on top of their game, they need help. And they are willing to pay someone to push, coach and guide them.

You too can learn How to Create a Habit of Continuous Learning for a Better You.

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