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12 Things Only People Living Alone Would Understand

12 Things Only People Living Alone Would Understand

1. You Can Be As Clean (Or As Messy) As You Want

Most people have experienced living with someone who is either extremely tidy or untidy, often resulting in silent battles and feelings of resentment. Living alone means you can keep your home as clean or as messy as you like, without ever feeling guilty. If you want to leave a bowl of food out for a week, you can. If you want to wash your curtains every other day, you can. This is your home, and you get to decide how clean it is!

2. How Much Fun You Have Alone

Even though spending time with your friends is a lot of fun, sometimes spending time alone can be just as awesome.  You can choose everything, from the television show, to the snacks and the drinks. Or you could read. Or you could bake – either way, the choice is yours!

3. Sometimes You Don’t Wake Up On Time, Because There Isn’t Anyone To Make You Get Up

When you live alone you have to rely on yourself completely, which is extra hard when it comes to getting out of bed. When you live with other people, they can often help to (forcefully) motivate you to get out of bed. Now you live alone? You could sleep for 30 hours without anyone worrying – except your boss.

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4. Clothing Isn’t Essential

Once you are through the door, clothing becomes optional. Nudity is always more comfortable, and you can barely remember risky naked runs to the bathroom from back when you lived with other people. Avoid the windows and enjoy your freedom!

5. The Tired Feeling You Get When You Think About Cleaning

Most people understand the concept of tidying up, but you became a cleaning expert when you started living alone. Everything repeatedly needs cleaning, from the taps, to the oven, to your clothes – and you have to do it all yourself. However, you never have to clean up anyone else’s mess, for which you are eternally grateful.

6. All Of The Food In The Fridge Belongs To You

One of the main problems with sharing your home is having to also share your fridge and cupboard space. But if you live alone, all of the delicious food in the fridge belongs to you – and you no longer live with the fear that your housemates will eat some of it while you’re not looking. That bag of mozzarella? Safe from prying hands.

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7. Being Ill Is Somehow Much Worse

Living alone has lots of benefits when you’re not sick, but it can be a lot harder when you’re ill. You have to make your own hot drinks and soup, and there isn’t anyone who you can vent to. Although it feels very lonely at the time, when you’re better you feel proud that you can look after yourself. If you’re feeling particularly sorry for yourself, try making yourself this quick and easy chicken soup.

8. If You Forget To Pay For The Internet, You Won’t Get The Internet

One of the best parts of living alone is not having to rely on anyone – until it comes to bills. Living alone means if you forget to pay the bills, things start getting cut off. Thankfully, the fear of not being able to shower means you actually become great at keeping track of payment deadlines.

9. Talking To Yourself Is Totally Normal

Before you lived alone you rarely spoke to yourself, but now it is a daily routine. You’re happy to talk to yourself, or a spider, or your washing machine – anyone who will listen. There is never any fighting, and you agree with everything you say. Ideal!

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10. Sometimes, You Miss Your Housemates Or Families

Even though you love your independence and freedom, you often find yourself missing snuggling up on the sofa with your family. One part of you loves having control of the remote (and the interior design), and one part of you misses the good-natured playing with your family. Oh, the conflict!

11. You Can Do (Nearly) Anything    

During the time people live alone they often learn lots of new household skills. During your time living alone you may have learned how to repair broken appliances, or how to decorate a room. Toilet won’t flush? You know how to deal with that. Lightbulb needs changing? You could do it in your sleep! Living alone often teaches you useful life skills, while making you more self-reliant.

12. If You Don’t Make Dinner, You Go Hungry

One of the more challenging parts of living alone is having to cook every meal for yourself. While this often starts with burnt food in the bin and a chocolate bar in your hand, it eventually progresses to you learning how to cook some tasty dishes. Now you can cook whatever you want for tea, and the feeling of independence is nearly as good as the food.

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Can you think of anything else that you experienced while living alone? Comment with your ideas below!

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Last Updated on January 16, 2020

12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

The way you feel about yourself greatly influences how you live and interact with others. If you are confident about yourself, you tend to see yourself positively and actually enjoy spending time with and around people. You don’t feel self-conscious or awkward around others, and that allows you to live your fullest and happiest life.

However, if you’re drowning in a sea of self-doubt, hesitancy and shyness, you often withdraw and isolate yourself from others and avoid interacting and connecting with people. That anxiety you feel in the pit of your stomach when you are around people is holding you back greatly and it is not good for your emotional health and overall well-being. You need to do something about it if you are low in self-confidence or have friends or family members who are not confident.

“Confidence isn’t walking into a room thinking you’re better than everyone, it’s walking in not having to compare yourself to anyone” – Anonymous

Here are simple, practical tips to boost your confidence right now and make you feel and act your best.

1. Stop labeling yourself as awkward, timid or shy.

When you label yourself as awkward, timid or shy, you sub-consciously tell your mind to act accordingly and psychologically feel inclined to live up to those expectations. Instead of labeling and entertaining negative self-talk, visualize and affirm yourself as confident and strong. Close your eyes for a minute and visualize yourself in different situation as you would like to be.

Be your own cheerleader. Experts believe that positive affirmation and good mental practices like picturing yourself winning or achieving a goal can lead to greater feelings of self-assurance and prepare your brain for success.[1] As the saying goes, “seeing is believing.” Picture yourself as confident and soon enough you will begin to manifest behavior that gives evidence to this new ‘fact.’

2. Recognize that the world is not focused on you (unless, of course, you are Kanye West).

That means you don’t have to be excessively sensitive about who you are or what you are doing (or not doing). You are not on the center stage; there is no need for preoccupation with self and perfectionism. As rap music star Rocko sings, “You just do you and I will do me, aight?”

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Forget about trying to please everyone or being perfect. Trying to be perfect and being a people-pleaser puts too much pressure on you and creates unnecessary anxiety. Besides, people are too preoccupied with their own issues to pay much attention to your every move unless, of course, you are a mega famous, super celebrity like Beyonce or Kanye West.

3. Focus on other people as opposed to yourself.

If you are low on confidence, self-conscious, nervous and shy in social situations, focus your attention on other people and what they are saying or doing instead of focusing on your own awkwardness.

For example, think about what it is that is interesting about the person who’s the centre of the party or the guy or girl you are talking with. Prompt them to talk more about themselves and be genuinely curious and interested in what they say. You will instantly come across as confident and warmhearted.

People generally want to talk about themselves, be heard and understood. They will love it when you’re eager and willing to listen to them and really hear what they have to say.

This habit of focusing more on what you love in others as opposed to what you dislike in yourself will not only help you become more assertive and comfortable in virtually all social situations, but also instantly make you feel great about yourself.

4. Know (and accept) yourself for who you are.

Chinese military general, strategist and philosopher Sun Tzu, author of the internationally acclaimed book The Art of War, said, “Know yourself and you will win all battles.” Even in the battle with lack of confidence, you will need to know yourself to win.

Knowing yourself starts with understanding that people are not all the same, neither are all social situation suitable for everyone. You might not be confident in large gatherings, but you could be bold and confident in one-on-one and small group interactions. We all have our own unique gifts and unique ways of expressing ourselves. Embrace yours!

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Introverts, for example, have a quiet confidence that is, unfortunately, often confused for shyness. They are naturally low key and prefer to spend time alone. However, this natural disposition affords them certain unique gifts, such as an ability to listen better than most people and notice things that others don’t.

Your uniqueness is where your strength and advantage lies. You won’t be comfortable and confident in all situations all the time. Albert Einstein said,

“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”

5. Crack a smile.

If there is one sure way to instantly boost your confidence, it’s cracking a smile. Christine Clapp, a public speaking expert at The George Washington University, says that flashing those pretty, pearly white teeth will immediately make you appear both confident and composed. But, the effect of smiling is not just external. Studies show that smiling can also help nix feelings of stress and pave the way for a happier and more relaxed you.[2]

Not a bad return for something seemingly so trite, wouldn’t you agree?

6. Break a sweat—with exercise.

Working out is another great way to make yourself feel amazing and confident. Science has shown that exercising increases your endorphins, helps reduce stress, tones your muscles and makes you feel happy and confident.[3]

And hey, all you have to do is take a walk a few times a week and you’ll see the benefits. What seems to matter—as far as your confidence goes—is whether you break a sweat, not how strenuous your session is, which is pretty cool. Start working out now.

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7. Groom yourself.

This might seem mundane, but it’s amazing how much of a difference a shower and shave can have on your confidence and self-image. And when you spritz on a scent, the boost on confidence and self-esteem is incredible. As it turns out, your favorite fragrance does more than make you smell oh-so-nice.

A study found that a fragrance can inspire confidence in men. Interestingly, the study also found that the more a man likes the fragrance, the more confident he might feel. Another study found that 90% of women feel more confident while wearing a scent than those who go fragrance-free.

8. Dress nicely.

Another one that might seem trite, but it works. If you dress nicely, you’ll instantly feel good about yourself and give your confidence a real boost. That is largely because you’ll feel attractive, presentable and sometimes even successful in nice clothes.

While dressing nicely means something different for everyone, it does not necessarily mean wearing $500 designer outfits. It means wearing clothes that are clean, that you are comfortable in and that are nice-looking and presentable, including casual clothes.

9. Do activities you enjoy.

Whether it is reading a book, playing a musical instrument, riding your bicycle or going fishing, do what you really enjoy and what makes you truly happy often. It will boost your self-esteem, soothe your ego and allow you to identify with your gifts and talents. That will in turn bolster your self-belief and grow your confidence exponentially.

You might not become popular for doing what you love, but you might not even want to be popular at all. Being popular doesn’t make you happy; doing what you love does.

10. Prepare for the possibility of rejection / setback.

Late World No. 1 professional tennis player Arthur Ashe said, “One important key to success is self-confidence. A key to self-confidence is preparation.” You need to prepare for the possibility of rejection and setback.

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Why?

Everybody suffers rejection and setback at one point or another. You are not exempted. The question on your mind, therefore, should not be if you will be rejected, but how you will handle rejection when it comes.

Prepare yourself adequately in every situation to minimize the risk and effect of rejection and so that your confidence is not broken. For example, learn public speaking and rehearse what you are going to say beforehand if you have landed a public speaking engagement. That way, you are sure of yourself and confident you have what it takes to hack it. If you are rejected, don’t take it personally.

Rejection and setbacks happen to the best of us. Take it as a learning experience. Learn from your mistakes and move on.

11. Face uncomfortable situations square in the face.

Don’t run away from uncomfortable situations. Running away from people or situations because you feel scared, shy or timid only confirms and reinforces your shyness. Instead, face the situation that makes you uneasy square in the face. For example, go ahead and talk to that person you are afraid to approach, or go straight to the front of your yoga class! What’s the worst that can happen?

Prepare and be ready for any eventuality. The more you face your fears, the more you realize you are stronger than you thought and the more confident you get. This simple, yet admittedly courageous, act makes you unstoppable. You get comfortable being uncomfortable and begin to feel like you can take on the world. And that is the hallmark of someone destined for great things.

12. Sit up straight and walk tall—you are awesome!

Yes, sit up straight and believe you are awesome. Don’t slump in your chair or slouch your shoulders. Experts say the right stance can not only keep your self-esteem and mood lifted, but also lead to more confidence in your own thoughts.[4]

The way to sit is to open up your chest and keep your head level so that you look and feel poised and assured. And when you get up, stand tall and walk like you’re on a mission. People who sit up straight and walk tall are more attractive and instantly feel more confident. Try it now: you’ll feel fierce and confident just by sitting up straight and walking tall.

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