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12 Things to Do to Get Ready to Meet Your Soul Mate

12 Things to Do to Get Ready to Meet Your Soul Mate

The general notion for most of us about meeting our soul mate goes something like this: Cinderella fairy tales; a picture-perfect love story; silent talking; shy smiles; falling in love; starting loving everything in life; being understanding partners; getting married; living happily ever after.

But the reality is much different. Practically, nothing becomes picture perfect automatically. We need to invest our time and energy to make a relationship perfect.

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    A soul mate is considered our “better half”: someone with whom we are connected on a spiritual level, where the relationship exists eternally. It’s like our best friend, our true love and our life partner are not three different people, but one single person, with whom each day is a bliss. Each morning is a blessing, each night passes in gratitude.

    However, in order to be prepared to have a relationship like this, there are certain things that you must do to be ready to meet your soul mate:

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    1. Love yourself

    Everyone is different. Nature has crafted each person with particular qualities. You too are blessed with certain things that distinguish you from others. Love yourself. Just look in the mirror and realize how you are different. Love everything about yourself, because if you can’t fall in love with yourself, how can you expect someone else to love you?

    2. Enjoy your own company

    Take time out for yourself. Walk in the woods or just people watch in a park one early morning. Develop a passion, polish your skills and enjoy solitude. Create your own saga of life. Write a diary, compose a song or just paint the colors you see. The idea is to enjoy in your own company. You can dance in the rain, sing in a bathroom, shout with the neighborhood kids—do anything to make yourself happy. Make yourself so interesting that you are never bored of yourself. Others love to be in the company of such people, so your jovial attitude increases the chances of you meeting your soul mate sooner.

    3. Take responsibility

    Admit the fact that, knowingly or unknowingly, you are the creator of your future. Your every thought, every word or every action is a creation. You are constantly creating your life. Whatever you are today is the result of the past. Accept the mistakes. Embrace your failures. Uphold the responsibility for your life, your career, your choices, your decisions.

    4. Be confident

    Can you imagine how difficult it is to constantly boost up a pessimist? It is fine to let your partner boost you up when you are really dismal, but the majority of the time you need to be confident. A confident smile can really do wonders. Wear the robe of confidence always: it’s the best makeup for a woman and the best suit for a man!

    5. Be mature

    Act with maturity. See the world from different perspectives, listen to people, understand their different perceptions and then speak up. Have a reason for your every act. Sharing your life with someone is a mature act. You must be adept enough to see through a person and analyze his or her actions. Many times words and intentions are not the same. A judicious, mature attitude will help you enjoy each other even more.

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    6. Be financially and emotionally stable

    Certainly money can’t buy happiness, but many things are bought with money. Financial problems are a major cause of bitterness in many marriages. Hence, financial stability is a must. If one partner can pay for the household expenses, the other can save their money and plan for a vacation or a vocational course, something that you’ll both enjoy.

    You also need to be emotionally stable. It’s very important to overcome the grudges and baggage of your past relationships and not bring them into your new one. You have to leave behind all kinds of negative thoughts in order to allow a positive relationship to begin.

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      7. Have clarity of thought

      You must know your priorities in life. Your own dreams and desires must be clear to you. Your expectations and aspirations, from both the relationship and life in general, must be clear to your partner. This will allow your better half to prepare themself for your life ahead.

      8. Feel special

      Your choices, your preferences, your perceptions: they all make you special. You are the best version of yourself and no one else can play your role. Feel what’s special about being yourself. Gift yourself a chocolate or a brownie every weekend. Look in the mirror and compliment your own style. Just feel the bliss of your existence.

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      9. Find your own soul

      Know your inner self. Discover yourself. Define yourself, in your own words. Know your strengths and weaknesses. Find your own soul. Because it’s only when you have found your own soul that you can find a soul mate.

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        10. Take care of yourself

        No one ever likes a person who is mumbling and grumbling all the time. Make yourself so interesting that you yourself are never bored of your own company. No one likes to be around gloomy people. Everyone wants to be with happy people. Before you meet your soul mate, make sure that you are taking care of yourself: physically, emotionally, psychologically, spiritually and financially.

        11. Be happy and make others happy

        Just focus on keeping yourself and the people around you happy. Your soul mate wants a happy person, too. He or she also wants to be happy in your company. You never know when the two of you might meet; but you will be ready to meet your soul mate at any time if you keep yourself happy.

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          12. Believe and be ready

          Believe that your soul mate exists.The thought that he or she is out there, to complete and complement you in every way, should make you smile. Most importantly, be ready to meet him or her: dress well, talk to people showing your true self, smile, be happy, be confident. Any moment could bring him or her into your life!

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            Remember: No two people have a perfect married relationship. No couple are called soul mates initially. It is the ever-increasing love, care and concern that makes them enjoy each other’s company and makes people start calling them “soul mates.”

            May the divine guide you towards the unison with your soul mate!

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            Last Updated on October 22, 2019

            How to Get “I Can’t Do It” Out of Your Vocabulary

            How to Get “I Can’t Do It” Out of Your Vocabulary

            When someone says, “I can’t do it” . . . I say to myself, “What do you mean you can’t do it?” Maybe you don’t want to do it, but saying you “can’t” do it is a completely different story.

            With the right mindset, positive attitude, and a clear vision of what you want to accomplish, the only thing that is holding you back is yourself.

            Can’t is a terrible word and it has to be taken out of your vocabulary.

            By saying you can’t do something, you’re already doubting yourself, submitting to defeat, and you’re making that barrier around your life tighter.

            So today, right now, we are going to remove this word for good.

            From now on there is nothing we can’t do.

            “Attitude is Tattoo”

            Your attitude is everything; it’s your reason, your why and how, your facial expression, emotions, body language, and potentially the end result. How you approach an opportunity, and the result of it, is solely based on you — not your boss or your co-worker or friend.

            If you enter a business meeting with a sour attitude, that negative energy can spread like wildfire. People can also feel it — maybe even taste it. This is not an impression you want to leave.

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            Now imagine you enter a business meeting with a positive attitude, that whatever happens in here is going to be your result, in your control, not someone else’s. Of course, we can’t always win, but even if the outcome is negative, your attitude and perception can turn it into a positive. The question is: can you do it?

            Of course you can, because there is nothing in this world you can’t do.

            It’s much better to be known for your positive attitude — your poise, your energy, the reason why things go so well because you are able to maintain such character. A negative attitude is easy. It’s easy to complain, it’s easy to be mad, and it’s even easier to do nothing to change it.

            When I say your “attitude is tattoo”, it sounds permanent. Tattoos can be removed, but that’s not the point. Your attitude is like a tattoo because you wear it. People can see it and sometimes, they will judge you on it. If you maintain a negative attitude, then it is permanent until you change it.

            Change your attitude and I guarantee the results change as well.

            Believe You Can Do It

            Do you know why most people say “can’t” and doubt themselves before trying anything?

            It’s our lack of self-confidence and fear on many different levels. The one thing we have to purge from ourselves is fear — fear of bad results, fear of change, fear of denial, fear of loss, the fear that makes us worry and lose sleep. Worrying is the same as going outside with an umbrella, waiting for rain to hit it. Stop worrying and move on.

            Confidence is fragile: It builds up slowly, but can shatter like glass. Project your confidence and energy into believing in yourself. This is a very important and groundbreaking step — one that is usually the hardest to take. Start telling yourself you can do something, anything, and you will do it the best to your ability. Remove doubt, remove fear, and stick with positive energy.

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            Embrace Failure

            Do not fear failure. Do not run away from it. Face it, learn from it, grow, and take action. Just remember: You will never know success if you have never failed.

            Your confidence will bolster after embracing these facts. You will be immune to demoralizing results, and instead you will find ways to fix it, improve upon it, and make it better than before. You will learn to never say “can’t,” and will realize how many more opportunities you can create by removing that one word.

            Don’t let one simple and ugly word plague your confidence. You’re better and stronger than that.

            Start Making the Change

            But to actually start the process of change is very challenging.

            Why is that?

            Fear? Time? Don’t know how — or where — to start?

            It’s hard because what we’re doing is unlearning what we know. We are used to doing things a certain way, and chances are we’ve been doing them for years.

            So here are some ways that I avoid using the word “can’t”, and actually take the steps to put forth the change that I wish to see. I hope you can incorporate these methods into your life.

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            Write down What You Want to Change

            Write it on post-its, notecards, whatever makes you comfortable — something you will always see. I usually write mine on post-its and put them all over the wall behind my monitor so I always see them.

            Tell a Friend and Talk About It

            Discussing your goals, what you want to change, is very effective when you say it out loud and tell another person other than yourself. It’s almost like saying, hey, I bet I can do it — watch me.

            When you fulfill that goal and tell your friend, it feels rewarding and will motivate you to do it again in a different aspect. Who knows? Maybe your friend adopts the same mindset as you.

            Stop Yourself from Saying the Forbidden Word

            Sometimes,I can’t control myself in public when I’m with friends, so I have to be careful with the words I use so I don’t embarrass or insult anyone.

            Treat the word “can’t” as the worst word you can possibly use. Stop yourself from saying it, mid-sentence if you must, and turn your whole perspective around — you can do it, you will do it, and nothing is impossible!

            Repetition, Repetition, Repetition

            You think this change will be overnight? No way. This is a practice. Something you’re going to be doing for the rest of your life from now until forever.

            As I said earlier, you are unlearning what you know. You know how easy it is to say you can’t do something, so by unlearning this easy practice, you’re self-disciplining yourself to live without boundaries.

            Practice this everyday, a little at a time, and before you know it, the word can’t will not be part of your language.

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            Do Anything That Can Relieve Your Uncertainty

            When I catch myself saying I can’t do something or I don’t know something, looking up information on that action or subject, doing research, educating yourself, relieves that uncertainty.

            Sometimes, we think we can’t do something because the whole idea of it seems too large. We skip the small steps in our head and only focus on the end.

            Before you say you can’t do something, rewind and slow down a little bit. Focus on what the first step is, then the next. Take it a step at a time, and before you know it you will have done something you previously thought you couldn’t do.

            Final Thoughts

            You know what you must do. The first step is right now. Once you begin this habit, and really start noticing some change, you’ll realize the door to opportunity is everywhere.

            The funny thing is: Those doors have always been there. The evil word that we no longer use put a veil over our eyes because that’s how powerful that word is.

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