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12 Things to Do to Get Ready to Meet Your Soul Mate

12 Things to Do to Get Ready to Meet Your Soul Mate

The general notion for most of us about meeting our soul mate goes something like this: Cinderella fairy tales; a picture-perfect love story; silent talking; shy smiles; falling in love; starting loving everything in life; being understanding partners; getting married; living happily ever after.

But the reality is much different. Practically, nothing becomes picture perfect automatically. We need to invest our time and energy to make a relationship perfect.

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    A soul mate is considered our “better half”: someone with whom we are connected on a spiritual level, where the relationship exists eternally. It’s like our best friend, our true love and our life partner are not three different people, but one single person, with whom each day is a bliss. Each morning is a blessing, each night passes in gratitude.

    However, in order to be prepared to have a relationship like this, there are certain things that you must do to be ready to meet your soul mate:

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    1. Love yourself

    Everyone is different. Nature has crafted each person with particular qualities. You too are blessed with certain things that distinguish you from others. Love yourself. Just look in the mirror and realize how you are different. Love everything about yourself, because if you can’t fall in love with yourself, how can you expect someone else to love you?

    2. Enjoy your own company

    Take time out for yourself. Walk in the woods or just people watch in a park one early morning. Develop a passion, polish your skills and enjoy solitude. Create your own saga of life. Write a diary, compose a song or just paint the colors you see. The idea is to enjoy in your own company. You can dance in the rain, sing in a bathroom, shout with the neighborhood kids—do anything to make yourself happy. Make yourself so interesting that you are never bored of yourself. Others love to be in the company of such people, so your jovial attitude increases the chances of you meeting your soul mate sooner.

    3. Take responsibility

    Admit the fact that, knowingly or unknowingly, you are the creator of your future. Your every thought, every word or every action is a creation. You are constantly creating your life. Whatever you are today is the result of the past. Accept the mistakes. Embrace your failures. Uphold the responsibility for your life, your career, your choices, your decisions.

    4. Be confident

    Can you imagine how difficult it is to constantly boost up a pessimist? It is fine to let your partner boost you up when you are really dismal, but the majority of the time you need to be confident. A confident smile can really do wonders. Wear the robe of confidence always: it’s the best makeup for a woman and the best suit for a man!

    5. Be mature

    Act with maturity. See the world from different perspectives, listen to people, understand their different perceptions and then speak up. Have a reason for your every act. Sharing your life with someone is a mature act. You must be adept enough to see through a person and analyze his or her actions. Many times words and intentions are not the same. A judicious, mature attitude will help you enjoy each other even more.

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    6. Be financially and emotionally stable

    Certainly money can’t buy happiness, but many things are bought with money. Financial problems are a major cause of bitterness in many marriages. Hence, financial stability is a must. If one partner can pay for the household expenses, the other can save their money and plan for a vacation or a vocational course, something that you’ll both enjoy.

    You also need to be emotionally stable. It’s very important to overcome the grudges and baggage of your past relationships and not bring them into your new one. You have to leave behind all kinds of negative thoughts in order to allow a positive relationship to begin.

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      7. Have clarity of thought

      You must know your priorities in life. Your own dreams and desires must be clear to you. Your expectations and aspirations, from both the relationship and life in general, must be clear to your partner. This will allow your better half to prepare themself for your life ahead.

      8. Feel special

      Your choices, your preferences, your perceptions: they all make you special. You are the best version of yourself and no one else can play your role. Feel what’s special about being yourself. Gift yourself a chocolate or a brownie every weekend. Look in the mirror and compliment your own style. Just feel the bliss of your existence.

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      9. Find your own soul

      Know your inner self. Discover yourself. Define yourself, in your own words. Know your strengths and weaknesses. Find your own soul. Because it’s only when you have found your own soul that you can find a soul mate.

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        10. Take care of yourself

        No one ever likes a person who is mumbling and grumbling all the time. Make yourself so interesting that you yourself are never bored of your own company. No one likes to be around gloomy people. Everyone wants to be with happy people. Before you meet your soul mate, make sure that you are taking care of yourself: physically, emotionally, psychologically, spiritually and financially.

        11. Be happy and make others happy

        Just focus on keeping yourself and the people around you happy. Your soul mate wants a happy person, too. He or she also wants to be happy in your company. You never know when the two of you might meet; but you will be ready to meet your soul mate at any time if you keep yourself happy.

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          12. Believe and be ready

          Believe that your soul mate exists.The thought that he or she is out there, to complete and complement you in every way, should make you smile. Most importantly, be ready to meet him or her: dress well, talk to people showing your true self, smile, be happy, be confident. Any moment could bring him or her into your life!

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            Remember: No two people have a perfect married relationship. No couple are called soul mates initially. It is the ever-increasing love, care and concern that makes them enjoy each other’s company and makes people start calling them “soul mates.”

            May the divine guide you towards the unison with your soul mate!

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            How to Be True to Yourself and Live the Life You Want

            How to Be True to Yourself and Live the Life You Want

            We live in a world that constantly tells us what to do, how to act, what to be. Knowing how to be true to yourself and live the life you want can be a challenge.

            When someone asks how we are, we assume that the person does not mean the question sincerely, for it would lead to an in depth conversation. So telling them that you are good or fine, even if you’re not, is the usual answer.

            In an ideal world, we would stop and truly listen. We wouldn’t be afraid to be ourselves. Instead, when we answer about how we are doing, our mask, the persona we show the world, tightens. Sometimes even more so than it might have been before. Eventually, it becomes hard to take off, even when you’re alone.

            Imagine a world where we asked how someone was doing and they really told us. Imagine a world where there were no masks, only transparency when we talked to one another.

            If you want to live in a world that celebrates who you are, mistakes and all, take off the mask. It doesn’t mean you have to be positive or fine all the time.

            According to a Danish psychologist, Svend Brinkman, we expect each other to be happy and fine every second, and we expect it of ourselves. And that “has a dark side.”[1] Positive psychology can have its perks but not at the expense at hiding how you truly feel in order to remain seemingly positive to others.

            No one can feel positive all the time and yet, that is what our culture teaches us to embrace. We have to unlearn this. That said, telling others you are ‘“fine”’ all the time is actually detrimental to your wellbeing, because it stops you from being assertive, from being authentic or your truest self.

            When you acknowledge a feeling, it leads you to the problem that’s causing that feeling; and once you identify the problem, you can find a solution to it. When you hide that feeling, you stuff it way down so no one can help you.You can’t even help yourself.

            Feelings are there for one reason: to be felt. That doesn’t mean you have to act on that feeling. It just means that you start the process of problem solving so you can live the life you want.

            1. Embrace Your Vulnerability

            When you are your true self, you can better self-advocate or stand up for what you need. Your self-expression matters, and you should value your voice. It’s okay to need things, it’s okay to speak up, and it’s okay not to be okay.

            Telling someone you are simply “fine” when you are not, does your story and your journey a great disservice. Being true to yourself entails embracing all aspects of your existence.

            When you bring your whole self to the table, there is nothing that you can’t beat. Here’re 7 benefits of being vulnerable you should learn.

            Can you take off the mask? This is the toughest thing anyone can do. We have learned to wait until we are safe before we start to be authentic.

            In relationships especially, this can be hard. Some people avoid vulnerability at any cost. And in our relationship with ourselves, we can look in the mirror and immediately put on the mask.

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            It all starts with your story. You have been on your own unique journey. That journey has led you here, to the person you are today. You have to be unafraid, and embrace all aspects of that journey.

            You should seek to thrive, not just survive. That means you do not have to compete or compare yourself with anyone.

            Authenticity means you are enough. It’s enough to be who you are to get what you want.

            What if for the first time ever, you were real? What if you said what you wanted to say, did what you wanted to do, and didn’t apologize for it?

            You were assertive, forthcoming in your opinions or actions to stand for what is right for you, (rather than being passive or aggressive) in doing so. You didn’t let things get to you. You knew you had something special to offer.

            That’s where we all should be.

            So, answer me this:

            How are you, really?

            And know that no matter the answer, you should still be accepted.

            Bravery is in the understanding that you still may not be accepted for your truth.

            Bravery is knowing you matter even when others say that you do not.

            Bravery is believing in yourself when all evidence counters doing so (i.e. past failures or losses)

            Bravery is in being vulnerable while knowing vulnerability is a sign of strength.

            It’s taking control.

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            2. Choose Your Attitude in Adversity

            You can take control of your destiny and live the life you want by being true to yourself. You can start anytime. You can start today.

            You can start with one day at a time, just facing what happens that day. Most of us get overwhelmed when faced with the prospect of a big change. Even if the only thing we change is our attitude.

            In one instant, you can become a different person with a change of attitude. When you take control of your attitude, you become able to better understand what is around you. This allows you to move forward.

            Originally, you may have had a life plan. It could have started when you were little; you were hoping to become a mermaid, doctor, astronaut or all three when you grew up. You were hoping to be someone. You were hoping to be remembered.

            You can still dream those dreams, but eventually reality sets in. Obstacles and struggles arise. You set on a different path when the last one didn’t work out. You think of all the “shoulds” in your life in living the life you want. You should be doing this…should be doing that…

            Clayton Barbeau, psychologist, coined the term “shoulding yourself.’[2] When we are set on one path and find ourselves doing something different. It becomes all the things you should be doing rather than seeing the opportunities right in front of you.

            But in all this disarray, did you lose sight of the real you?

            It may be in our perceived failures and blunders that we lose sight of who we are, because we try to maintain position and status.

            In being who we really are and achieving what we really want, we need to be resilient: How to Build Resilience to Face What Life Throws at You

            It means that we do not see all possibilities of what might happen, but must trust ourselves to begin again, and continue to build the life we want. In the face of adversity, you must choose your attitude.

            Can attitude overcome adversity? It certainly helps. While seeking to be true to yourself and live the life you want, you will have to face a fact:

            Change will happen.

            Whether that change is good or bad is unique to each person and their perspective.

            You might have to start over, once, twice, a few times. It doesn’t mean that everything will be okay, but that you will be okay. What remains or should remain is the true you. When you’ve lost sight of that, you’ve lost sight of everything.

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            And then, you rebuild. Moment after moment, day after day. We all have a choice, and in this moment, that matters.

            You can choose to have a positive attitude, seeing the silver lining in each situation and, where there is none, the potential for one. Maybe that silver lining is you and what you will do with the situation. How will you use it for something good?

            That’s how you can tap into yourself and your power. Sometimes it happens by accident, sometimes on purpose. It can happen when we aren’t even looking for it, or it can be your only focus. Everyone gets there differently.

            You can rise, or you can remain. Your choice.

            When the worst happens, you can rely on your authenticity to pull you through. That’s because Self Advocacy, speaking up to let others know what you need, is part of finding the real you.

            There is nothing wrong with asking for help. Or sometimes, helping others can help us deal with the pain of a hurtful situation. You decide how you’re going to help others, and suddenly, you become your best self.

            3. Do What Makes You Happy When No One’s Looking

            Being the best version of you has nothing to do with your success or your status. It has everything to do with your Character, what you do when no one’s looking.

            In order to create the life you want, you have to be the person you want to be. Faking it till you make it is just a way to white knuckle it through your journey. You have the fire inside of you to make things right, to put the pieces together, to live authentically. And Character is how you get there.

            If you fall down and you help another up while you’re down there, it’s like you rise twice.

            Along with attitude, your character is about the choices you make rather than what happens to you.

            Yes, it’s about doing the right thing even when obstacles seem insurmountable.  It’s about using that mountain you’ve been given to show others it can be moved.  It’s about being unapologetically you, taking control, choosing your attitude in adversity and being the best version of you to create the life you want.

            How do you know what you really want? Is it truly status or success?

            Unfortunately, these things do not always bring happiness. And aspects of our image or “performance driven existence” may not achieve satisfaction. Materialism is part of our refusal to accept ourselves as enough. All the things we use to repress our true selves are about being enough.

            “Enoughness” is what we truly seek, but ego gets in the way.

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            Ego is the perception of self as outer worth. It’s not REAL self worth.

            Ego represses our true self with a new self— the self of chasing ‘“Am I ever enough?”’ questions. And instead of filling our true selves with self-love and acceptance, when we “should ourselves” and chase “enoughness,” we feed the ego or our image.

            It’s important to realize YOU ARE ENOUGH, without all the material trappings.

            Stanford psychologist Meagan O’Reilly describes the damage of not thinking we are enough. One of her tactics for combating this is to complete the sentence,[3]

            “If I believed I were already enough, I’d ____”

            What would you do if you felt you were enough?

            By believing you are enough, you can live the life you want.

            So many fake it to try to get there, and they end up losing themselves when they lose more and more touch with their Authenticity.

            Final Thoughts

            By being yourself, you are being brave. By acknowledging all you can be, you tell the universe that you can until you believe it too. The steps are easy, and you are worth it. All of it is about the purpose you are leading and the passion that is your fuel.

            Being true to yourself is all about mastering how to live life authentically rather than faking or forcing it. Having the life you want (and deserve) is about being trusting in yourself and the purpose you are living for. Both need passion behind it, fueling it each second, or you will experience burn out.

            When you are authentic, you can call the road you walk your own. When you live your life for you and not just the results of all your actions (faking it till you make it), you can let go of what you don’t need. This clarifies and pushes purpose to you, living for something that is greater than you.

            You will find that making decisions based on what will actually achieve your goals, will help you attain the life you want, and your success with each step, will allow you to enjoy the process. Good luck!

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