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12 Things to Do to Get Ready to Meet Your Soul Mate

12 Things to Do to Get Ready to Meet Your Soul Mate

The general notion for most of us about meeting our soul mate goes something like this: Cinderella fairy tales; a picture-perfect love story; silent talking; shy smiles; falling in love; starting loving everything in life; being understanding partners; getting married; living happily ever after.

But the reality is much different. Practically, nothing becomes picture perfect automatically. We need to invest our time and energy to make a relationship perfect.

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    A soul mate is considered our “better half”: someone with whom we are connected on a spiritual level, where the relationship exists eternally. It’s like our best friend, our true love and our life partner are not three different people, but one single person, with whom each day is a bliss. Each morning is a blessing, each night passes in gratitude.

    However, in order to be prepared to have a relationship like this, there are certain things that you must do to be ready to meet your soul mate:

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    1. Love yourself

    Everyone is different. Nature has crafted each person with particular qualities. You too are blessed with certain things that distinguish you from others. Love yourself. Just look in the mirror and realize how you are different. Love everything about yourself, because if you can’t fall in love with yourself, how can you expect someone else to love you?

    2. Enjoy your own company

    Take time out for yourself. Walk in the woods or just people watch in a park one early morning. Develop a passion, polish your skills and enjoy solitude. Create your own saga of life. Write a diary, compose a song or just paint the colors you see. The idea is to enjoy in your own company. You can dance in the rain, sing in a bathroom, shout with the neighborhood kids—do anything to make yourself happy. Make yourself so interesting that you are never bored of yourself. Others love to be in the company of such people, so your jovial attitude increases the chances of you meeting your soul mate sooner.

    3. Take responsibility

    Admit the fact that, knowingly or unknowingly, you are the creator of your future. Your every thought, every word or every action is a creation. You are constantly creating your life. Whatever you are today is the result of the past. Accept the mistakes. Embrace your failures. Uphold the responsibility for your life, your career, your choices, your decisions.

    4. Be confident

    Can you imagine how difficult it is to constantly boost up a pessimist? It is fine to let your partner boost you up when you are really dismal, but the majority of the time you need to be confident. A confident smile can really do wonders. Wear the robe of confidence always: it’s the best makeup for a woman and the best suit for a man!

    5. Be mature

    Act with maturity. See the world from different perspectives, listen to people, understand their different perceptions and then speak up. Have a reason for your every act. Sharing your life with someone is a mature act. You must be adept enough to see through a person and analyze his or her actions. Many times words and intentions are not the same. A judicious, mature attitude will help you enjoy each other even more.

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    6. Be financially and emotionally stable

    Certainly money can’t buy happiness, but many things are bought with money. Financial problems are a major cause of bitterness in many marriages. Hence, financial stability is a must. If one partner can pay for the household expenses, the other can save their money and plan for a vacation or a vocational course, something that you’ll both enjoy.

    You also need to be emotionally stable. It’s very important to overcome the grudges and baggage of your past relationships and not bring them into your new one. You have to leave behind all kinds of negative thoughts in order to allow a positive relationship to begin.

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      7. Have clarity of thought

      You must know your priorities in life. Your own dreams and desires must be clear to you. Your expectations and aspirations, from both the relationship and life in general, must be clear to your partner. This will allow your better half to prepare themself for your life ahead.

      8. Feel special

      Your choices, your preferences, your perceptions: they all make you special. You are the best version of yourself and no one else can play your role. Feel what’s special about being yourself. Gift yourself a chocolate or a brownie every weekend. Look in the mirror and compliment your own style. Just feel the bliss of your existence.

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      9. Find your own soul

      Know your inner self. Discover yourself. Define yourself, in your own words. Know your strengths and weaknesses. Find your own soul. Because it’s only when you have found your own soul that you can find a soul mate.

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        10. Take care of yourself

        No one ever likes a person who is mumbling and grumbling all the time. Make yourself so interesting that you yourself are never bored of your own company. No one likes to be around gloomy people. Everyone wants to be with happy people. Before you meet your soul mate, make sure that you are taking care of yourself: physically, emotionally, psychologically, spiritually and financially.

        11. Be happy and make others happy

        Just focus on keeping yourself and the people around you happy. Your soul mate wants a happy person, too. He or she also wants to be happy in your company. You never know when the two of you might meet; but you will be ready to meet your soul mate at any time if you keep yourself happy.

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          12. Believe and be ready

          Believe that your soul mate exists.The thought that he or she is out there, to complete and complement you in every way, should make you smile. Most importantly, be ready to meet him or her: dress well, talk to people showing your true self, smile, be happy, be confident. Any moment could bring him or her into your life!

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            Remember: No two people have a perfect married relationship. No couple are called soul mates initially. It is the ever-increasing love, care and concern that makes them enjoy each other’s company and makes people start calling them “soul mates.”

            May the divine guide you towards the unison with your soul mate!

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            The Gentle Art of Saying No

            The Gentle Art of Saying No

            No!

            It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

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            But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

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            What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

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            But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here are the Top 10 tips for learning the Gentle Art of Saying No:

            1. Value your time. Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”
            2. Know your priorities. Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time? For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.
            3. Practice saying no. Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.
            4. Don’t apologize. A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.
            5. Stop being nice. Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets. Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.
            6. Say no to your boss. Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning. But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.
            7. Pre-empting. It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting, “Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”
            8. Get back to you. Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them: “After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.” At least you gave it some consideration.
            9. Maybe later. If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say, “This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].” Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.
            10. It’s not you, it’s me. This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time. Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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