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12 Things to Do to Get Ready to Meet Your Soul Mate

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12 Things to Do to Get Ready to Meet Your Soul Mate

The general notion for most of us about meeting our soul mate goes something like this: Cinderella fairy tales; a picture-perfect love story; silent talking; shy smiles; falling in love; starting loving everything in life; being understanding partners; getting married; living happily ever after.

But the reality is much different. Practically, nothing becomes picture perfect automatically. We need to invest our time and energy to make a relationship perfect.

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    A soul mate is considered our “better half”: someone with whom we are connected on a spiritual level, where the relationship exists eternally. It’s like our best friend, our true love and our life partner are not three different people, but one single person, with whom each day is a bliss. Each morning is a blessing, each night passes in gratitude.

    However, in order to be prepared to have a relationship like this, there are certain things that you must do to be ready to meet your soul mate:

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    1. Love yourself

    Everyone is different. Nature has crafted each person with particular qualities. You too are blessed with certain things that distinguish you from others. Love yourself. Just look in the mirror and realize how you are different. Love everything about yourself, because if you can’t fall in love with yourself, how can you expect someone else to love you?

    2. Enjoy your own company

    Take time out for yourself. Walk in the woods or just people watch in a park one early morning. Develop a passion, polish your skills and enjoy solitude. Create your own saga of life. Write a diary, compose a song or just paint the colors you see. The idea is to enjoy in your own company. You can dance in the rain, sing in a bathroom, shout with the neighborhood kids—do anything to make yourself happy. Make yourself so interesting that you are never bored of yourself. Others love to be in the company of such people, so your jovial attitude increases the chances of you meeting your soul mate sooner.

    3. Take responsibility

    Admit the fact that, knowingly or unknowingly, you are the creator of your future. Your every thought, every word or every action is a creation. You are constantly creating your life. Whatever you are today is the result of the past. Accept the mistakes. Embrace your failures. Uphold the responsibility for your life, your career, your choices, your decisions.

    4. Be confident

    Can you imagine how difficult it is to constantly boost up a pessimist? It is fine to let your partner boost you up when you are really dismal, but the majority of the time you need to be confident. A confident smile can really do wonders. Wear the robe of confidence always: it’s the best makeup for a woman and the best suit for a man!

    5. Be mature

    Act with maturity. See the world from different perspectives, listen to people, understand their different perceptions and then speak up. Have a reason for your every act. Sharing your life with someone is a mature act. You must be adept enough to see through a person and analyze his or her actions. Many times words and intentions are not the same. A judicious, mature attitude will help you enjoy each other even more.

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    6. Be financially and emotionally stable

    Certainly money can’t buy happiness, but many things are bought with money. Financial problems are a major cause of bitterness in many marriages. Hence, financial stability is a must. If one partner can pay for the household expenses, the other can save their money and plan for a vacation or a vocational course, something that you’ll both enjoy.

    You also need to be emotionally stable. It’s very important to overcome the grudges and baggage of your past relationships and not bring them into your new one. You have to leave behind all kinds of negative thoughts in order to allow a positive relationship to begin.

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      7. Have clarity of thought

      You must know your priorities in life. Your own dreams and desires must be clear to you. Your expectations and aspirations, from both the relationship and life in general, must be clear to your partner. This will allow your better half to prepare themself for your life ahead.

      8. Feel special

      Your choices, your preferences, your perceptions: they all make you special. You are the best version of yourself and no one else can play your role. Feel what’s special about being yourself. Gift yourself a chocolate or a brownie every weekend. Look in the mirror and compliment your own style. Just feel the bliss of your existence.

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      9. Find your own soul

      Know your inner self. Discover yourself. Define yourself, in your own words. Know your strengths and weaknesses. Find your own soul. Because it’s only when you have found your own soul that you can find a soul mate.

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        10. Take care of yourself

        No one ever likes a person who is mumbling and grumbling all the time. Make yourself so interesting that you yourself are never bored of your own company. No one likes to be around gloomy people. Everyone wants to be with happy people. Before you meet your soul mate, make sure that you are taking care of yourself: physically, emotionally, psychologically, spiritually and financially.

        11. Be happy and make others happy

        Just focus on keeping yourself and the people around you happy. Your soul mate wants a happy person, too. He or she also wants to be happy in your company. You never know when the two of you might meet; but you will be ready to meet your soul mate at any time if you keep yourself happy.

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          12. Believe and be ready

          Believe that your soul mate exists.The thought that he or she is out there, to complete and complement you in every way, should make you smile. Most importantly, be ready to meet him or her: dress well, talk to people showing your true self, smile, be happy, be confident. Any moment could bring him or her into your life!

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            Remember: No two people have a perfect married relationship. No couple are called soul mates initially. It is the ever-increasing love, care and concern that makes them enjoy each other’s company and makes people start calling them “soul mates.”

            May the divine guide you towards the unison with your soul mate!

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            Last Updated on January 24, 2022

            21 Best Tips On Making A Long Distance Relationship Work

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            21 Best Tips On Making A Long Distance Relationship Work

            Having texting and video conferencing at our fingertips, it appears that maintaining a long-distance relationship is easier than ever. Long-distance calls are no longer a luxury; the days when they needed to be rationed are long gone.

            Long-distance couples do not have to depend on 3 p.m. postal delivery, waiting for news that is at best four days old.

            Now we’re no longer even in the days of waiting for our loved ones to check their e-mail when they get home from work. Instant messaging keeps us hooked to each other even when we are out shopping, working, playing, watching a movie and doing much more.

            Technology, however, cannot compensate for everything in a long-distance relationship, as anyone with a long-distance relationship will tell you.

            Many long-distance relationships still seem emotionally difficult despite the lack of regular physical proximity.

            People often think long-distance relationships will never work. It may be discouraged by your family, and some of your best friends may tell you not to take it too seriously in case you end up heartbroken.

            Many things are not possible due to the extra distance – no one can promise it will be easy. Things could get complicated, and you might feel lonely and sad at times.

            Still, many of us try them.

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            However, the extra distance also makes the simplest things the sweetest. Being able to hold the other person’s hand, eating together at the same table, feeling each other’s touch, taking a walk together, smelling each other’s hair… these small wishes could suddenly mean so much more in a long-distance relationship.

            Long-distance relationships may be tough, but they have their own surprises too.

            Here’re 21 tips on how to make a long distance relationship work:

            1. Avoid excessive communication.

            It is unwise to be overly “sticky” and possessive. You two don’t really have to communicate 12 hours a day to keep the relationship going. Many couples think that they need to compensate for the distance by doing more. This is not true. And it might only make things worse. Soon you would get tired of “loving.”

            Remember: Less is more. It is not about spamming — you are only going to exhaust yourselves. It’s really about teasing at the right moments and tugging at the right spots.

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            2. See it as an opportunity.

            “If you want to live together, you first need to learn how to live apart.” – Anonymous

            View it as a learning journey for both of you. This is an opportunity for you to prove your love for one another. According to a Chinese proverb, “Real gold is not afraid of the test of fire.” Instead of thinking that this long-distance relationship is pulling you two apart, you should believe that through this experience, the both of you will be bound together even stronger.

            As Emma says it to Will in season four of Glee,

            “I would rather be here, far from you, but feeling really close, rather than close to you but feeling really far away.” – Emma, Glee Season 4

            3. Set some ground rules to manage your expectations.

            Both of you need to be clear with what you expect of each other during this long-distance relationship. Set some ground rules so that none of you will do things that will take the other party by surprise.

            For instance, are you two exclusive? Is it all right for the other person to go on dates? What is your commitment level? It’s better to be open with each other about all these things.

            4. Try to communicate regularly, and creatively.

            Greet each other “good morning” and “good night” every day — this is a must. On top of that, try to update your partner on your life and its happenings, however mundane some of the things may seem.

            To up the game, send each other pictures, audio clips, and short videos from time to time. By putting in this kind of effort, you make the other person feel loved and attended to.

            5. Talk dirty with each other.

            Sexual tension is undoubtedly one of the most important things between couples. In a way, sexual desire is like the glue that keeps both parties from drifting apart. Sexual need is not only biological but also emotional.

            Keep the flames burning by sending each other teasing texts filled with sexual innuendos and provocative descriptions. Sexy puns work pretty well too.

            6. Avoid “dangerous” situations.

            If you already know that going to the club or going drinking with your group of friends late at night will displease your partner, then you should either 1. Not do it or 2. Tell your partner beforehand to reassure them.

            You should not let this sort of thing slip by because it will only make your partner extra worried or suspicious – and of course, very upset because they will feel powerless or lack control over the situation.

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            You can fall victim to your traps by going out with eye candy from work after work or dating someone from your past who has been flirting with you without realizing it. Before entering a dangerous situation, you need to recognize the dangers.

            Listen to your heart, but don’t just rely on it. Make sure you also listen to your mind.

            7. Do things together.

            Play a game online together. Watch a documentary at the same time on YouTube or Vimeo. Share a song on Skype while another plays the guitar. Video-call each other and go for a walk together. Together, go online shopping – and buy each other gifts (see #13).

            You really have to be creative and spontaneous about it.

            8. Do similar things.

            Recommend books, TV shows, movies, music, news and etc., to each other. When you read, watch and listen to the same things, you get to have more topics in common to talk about.

            Even if you live apart, it’s nice to have some shared experiences.

            9. Make visits to each other.

            Every long-distance relationship is enriched by visits.

            After all the waiting and yearning and abstinence, you finally get to meet each other to fulfil all the little things like kissing, holding hands, etc. These are typical for couples in long-distance relationships but more special and intimate for long-distance couples.

            The atmosphere will be filled with fireworks, glitter bombs, confetti, rainbows, and butterflies.

            10. Have a goal in mind.

            Are we going to be apart for a long time?” “what about the future?” These are the questions you should ask yourselves.

            In fact, a couple cannot stay in a long-distance relationship forever. Eventually, we all need to settle down.

            So make a plan with each other. Set up a timeline, mark down the estimated times apart and times together, and draw an end goal.

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            It is important that you two are on the same page and have the same goals. So that even if you are not living in the same space and the same timezone, both of you are still motivated to work together in the same direction towards a future that includes one another.

            That’s right, you need some motivation to make a relationship last too. Find out more about what motivates you here.

            11. Enjoy your alone time and your time with your friends and family.

            You are alone, but you are not lonely unless you choose to feel like it. You don’t have to let your world revolve around your partner — you still have you, your friends, and your family. Take this time apart to do more with your friends and family. Go to the gym more often. Get a new hobby. Binge-watch shows. There are plenty of things for you to do that don’t involve your partner.

            12. Stay honest with each other.

            Talk about your feelings of fear, insecurity, jealousy, apathy, whatsoever. If you try to hide anything from your partner, that secret will sooner or later swallow you up from the inside out. Don’t try to deal with things all by yourself. Be open and honest with each other. Let your partner help you and give you the support you need. It’s better to look at the problem during its initial stage than to only disclose it when it’s all too late.

            13. Know each other’s schedules.

            It’s helpful to know when the other person is busy and free. So that you can drop a text or make a call at the right time. You wouldn’t want to disturb your partner when they are in the middle of class or halfway through a business meeting. Make sure you are aware of everyone’s small and big events in their lives, i.e., college midterms and exams, important business trips and meetings, job interviews, etc. Particularly if you live in different time zones, this becomes more important.

            14. Keep track of each other’s social media activities.

            Facebook and Instagram photos of each other. Send each other tweets. Tag each other on Facebook. Post stuff on each other’s wall. Let them know you care. Be cool with stalking each other.

            15. Gift a personal object for the other person to hold on to.

            Memories have power. No matter what it is–a pendant, a ring, a keychain, a collection of songs and videos, or a perfume bottle. Everyday items and things have meanings to us, whether we realize it or not. We all try to store memories in material things so that when our minds fail, we will still be able to look at or hold onto something that will help us recall our memories. This is why something so simple can mean so much to a person when others may see little or no value in it.

            16. Get a good messaging app.

            This is extremely important because texting is the most frequent and common way of communication the two of you have. You need a good messaging app on your phones that allows interactions beyond words and emoticons.

            Personally, I use this messaging app called LINE. I find it highly effective because it has a huge reserve of playful and very funny “stickers” that are free for its users to use. You can also go to the app’s “Sticker Shop” to download (or gift!) extra stickers of different themes (e.g., Hello Kitty, Pokemon, Snoopy, MARVEL, etc.) at a low price. Occasionally, the app will give out free sticker sets for promotions. This messaging app is cute and easy to learn to use.

            17. Snail-mail your gift.

            Mail each other postcards and hand-written love letters. Send each other gifts across the globe from time to time. Flower deliveries on birthdays, anniversaries, and Valentine’s Day. Shop online and surprise each other with cool T-shirts, sexy underwear, and such.

            18. Stay positive.

            You need to constantly inject positive energy into the long-distance relationship to keep it alive. Yes, the waiting can be painful, and you can sometimes feel lonely, but you need to remind yourself that the fruits at the end will be sweet as heaven.

            One good trick to staying positive is to be grateful all the time. Be thankful that you have someone to love — someone who also loves you back. Be thankful for the little things, like the hand-made letter that arrived safely in your mailbox the other day. Be thankful for each other’s health and safety.

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            19. Keep each other updated on each other’s friends and family.

            This will help you two to know each other’s culture and values. Knowing small habits of each other helps in developing an understanding and building mutual trust.

            Talking about family and friends gives you more matters to talk about. The best thing to talk about is gossip and scandals.

            20. Video-call whenever possible.

            Because sometimes looking into each other’s eyes and hearing each other’s voices can make everything feel alright again.

            A video call is though nothing like being together, but it’s the best thing and the most to do for coziness in a long-distance relationship.

            21. Give each other pet names.

            Because it’s cute. It keeps the lovey-dovey going. Having special names for each other reserved only for one another are heart-warming. Hearing that one word with love lifts our spirits up, and we feel assured all over again.

            Chaos seems to fade away just by hearing that special word from someone special.

            With the best wishes…

            Love (or like) is a force that is beyond your control. Love just happens. The same goes for turning off those feelings, even when you get the perfect job halfway across the country.

            Neither one of us expects to be long-distance in a relationship. But if you’re in a relationship like this, you’ll just have to make the most out of a difficult situation. These advice for long distance relationships will hopefully help you stay strong and cheerful when living apart from one another.

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