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11 Ways You Can Find the Purpose of Life

11 Ways You Can Find the Purpose of Life

To find the purpose of life you must first find out what you love to do most and then make a difference in the world by doing it.  Your purpose is not what you do but what makes you feel good when your doing it, what lights you up and makes you happy. Read on to to begin your journey, one of these ideas might just be the key to unlock your purpose.

1. Write it Down

Start a journal to unlock hidden thoughts of your subconscious and explore a part of you that has been dormant for a long time.  Write your daily thoughts about what made you feel good that day or even what didn’t make you feel good. Write a daily gratitude list for all the things that you were thankful for that day. The point I’m trying to make is that writing will allow you to look at your life with deeper meaning and unravel the parts of you that remain hidden.  It’s a great (and easy!) way to find the purpose of life relevant to you.

2. Find Your Passion

Passion is an energy of excitement when you’re doing what you love. What are the things that make you feel great? What action or activity gives you genuine excitement? Identifying your passions allows you to begin living your purpose because your purpose comes from the way you feel when you love what you do.  Are you excited to tell people what you do? If not, what would be something you could be doing right now that would awaken your excitement and passion?

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3. Identify Your Strengths

Identifying your strengths and the qualities that make you stand out allows you to pinpoint what you need to do to bring purpose and meaning to your life. Your strengths are an important part of the equation to find your purpose so you can use them to make a difference in the world and achieve life fulfillment.

4. Think About What You Want Your Life to Be

Seriously. What do you want your life to look like 1 year, 2 years or 5 years from now? Are you taking the necessary steps so it can look the way you want it to be? Take a look at your life right now, what changes can you make to achieve the future you’re envisioning? The key is to start making those changes today.

5. Think About What You Don’t Want Your Life to Be

I remember driving down the high street one day when it was pouring with rain, freezing cold and appeared dark and gloomy. It was around 8.50 a.m. and as I drove past a post office, I noticed a queue of people who (I assume) had retired from their jobs, waiting for the post office to open so they could collect their pension money. Even though there is nothing wrong with this, in that moment I told myself I personally did not want to be the one standing at that post office in the future. Knowing what you want AND what you don’t want helps you plot out your life path accordingly.

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What don’t you want? And what do you need to do to avoid going down the wrong path?

6. Have a Vision

Vision without action is merely a dream. Action without vision just passes the time. Vision with action can change the world. ~ Joel A. Barker

Vision gives you something to focus on instead of walking through life aimlessly. You are here for a reason, so create your vision. Make the vision bold and worthy enough to give you meaning and purpose for its achievement.

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7. Ask Yourself an Important Question

If you had all the money in the world, what would you be doing? Think about that!

What exactly would you be doing if money wasn’t a factor in making your decision? Perhaps teaching, or travelling, maybe even singing? Answering this question is an easy way to finding your purpose!

8. What Are Your Values?

Are you living your values? Do you even know what they are? You should be, because values are the driving force behind everything you do, including your daily decisions. Knowing your values helps you to understand yourself better and will allow you to live your life with authenticity, integrity and of course, purpose.

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9. Start Reading Books That Matter

Read books that inspire you, teach you how to improve your life and live to your full potential. These kind of books have helped me grow and expand my knowledge and creativity.  It helps open your mind, broaden your perspectives and spark ideas so you can make a change to your own life and and other people’s lives.

10. Try Meditation

You don’t need to sit and meditate for an hour.  Spending as little to 5 to 10 minutes a day to reflect on your life and goals may just be enough to give you the clarity and insight you need to reach your life goals.

11. Take the Time to Travel Often

Traveling, and the new experiences that comes along with it, will open your mind  and give you new opportunities, ideas and inspiration that you might not have had otherwise if you stayed within your comfort zone.  Trying new things, meeting new people and seeing how others live differently in different place might just give you a new passion for your life, as well as being grateful for what you’ve already accomplished.

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Last Updated on May 21, 2019

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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