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11 Ways You Can Find the Purpose of Life

11 Ways You Can Find the Purpose of Life

To find the purpose of life you must first find out what you love to do most and then make a difference in the world by doing it.  Your purpose is not what you do but what makes you feel good when your doing it, what lights you up and makes you happy. Read on to to begin your journey, one of these ideas might just be the key to unlock your purpose.

1. Write it Down

Start a journal to unlock hidden thoughts of your subconscious and explore a part of you that has been dormant for a long time.  Write your daily thoughts about what made you feel good that day or even what didn’t make you feel good. Write a daily gratitude list for all the things that you were thankful for that day. The point I’m trying to make is that writing will allow you to look at your life with deeper meaning and unravel the parts of you that remain hidden.  It’s a great (and easy!) way to find the purpose of life relevant to you.

2. Find Your Passion

Passion is an energy of excitement when you’re doing what you love. What are the things that make you feel great? What action or activity gives you genuine excitement? Identifying your passions allows you to begin living your purpose because your purpose comes from the way you feel when you love what you do.  Are you excited to tell people what you do? If not, what would be something you could be doing right now that would awaken your excitement and passion?

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3. Identify Your Strengths

Identifying your strengths and the qualities that make you stand out allows you to pinpoint what you need to do to bring purpose and meaning to your life. Your strengths are an important part of the equation to find your purpose so you can use them to make a difference in the world and achieve life fulfillment.

4. Think About What You Want Your Life to Be

Seriously. What do you want your life to look like 1 year, 2 years or 5 years from now? Are you taking the necessary steps so it can look the way you want it to be? Take a look at your life right now, what changes can you make to achieve the future you’re envisioning? The key is to start making those changes today.

5. Think About What You Don’t Want Your Life to Be

I remember driving down the high street one day when it was pouring with rain, freezing cold and appeared dark and gloomy. It was around 8.50 a.m. and as I drove past a post office, I noticed a queue of people who (I assume) had retired from their jobs, waiting for the post office to open so they could collect their pension money. Even though there is nothing wrong with this, in that moment I told myself I personally did not want to be the one standing at that post office in the future. Knowing what you want AND what you don’t want helps you plot out your life path accordingly.

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What don’t you want? And what do you need to do to avoid going down the wrong path?

6. Have a Vision

Vision without action is merely a dream. Action without vision just passes the time. Vision with action can change the world. ~ Joel A. Barker

Vision gives you something to focus on instead of walking through life aimlessly. You are here for a reason, so create your vision. Make the vision bold and worthy enough to give you meaning and purpose for its achievement.

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7. Ask Yourself an Important Question

If you had all the money in the world, what would you be doing? Think about that!

What exactly would you be doing if money wasn’t a factor in making your decision? Perhaps teaching, or travelling, maybe even singing? Answering this question is an easy way to finding your purpose!

8. What Are Your Values?

Are you living your values? Do you even know what they are? You should be, because values are the driving force behind everything you do, including your daily decisions. Knowing your values helps you to understand yourself better and will allow you to live your life with authenticity, integrity and of course, purpose.

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9. Start Reading Books That Matter

Read books that inspire you, teach you how to improve your life and live to your full potential. These kind of books have helped me grow and expand my knowledge and creativity.  It helps open your mind, broaden your perspectives and spark ideas so you can make a change to your own life and and other people’s lives.

10. Try Meditation

You don’t need to sit and meditate for an hour.  Spending as little to 5 to 10 minutes a day to reflect on your life and goals may just be enough to give you the clarity and insight you need to reach your life goals.

11. Take the Time to Travel Often

Traveling, and the new experiences that comes along with it, will open your mind  and give you new opportunities, ideas and inspiration that you might not have had otherwise if you stayed within your comfort zone.  Trying new things, meeting new people and seeing how others live differently in different place might just give you a new passion for your life, as well as being grateful for what you’ve already accomplished.

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Last Updated on September 18, 2020

13 Helping Points When Things Don’t Go Your Way

13 Helping Points When Things Don’t Go Your Way

For the original article by Celestine: 13 Helping Points When Things Don’t Go Your Way

“We all have problems. The way we solve them is what makes us different.” ~Unknown

“It’s not stress that kills us, it is our reaction to it.” – Hans Selye

Have you ever experienced moments when things just don’t go your way? For example, losing your keys, accidentally spilling your drink, waking up late, missing your buses/trains, forgetting to bring your things, and so on?

You’re not alone. All of us, myself included, experience times when things don’t go as we expect.

Here is my guide on how to deal with daily setbacks.

1. Take a step back and evaluate

When something bad happens, take a step back and evaluate the situation. Some questions to ask yourself:

  1. What is the problem?
  2. Are you the only person facing this problem in the world today?
  3. How does this problem look like at an individual level? A national level? On a global scale?
  4. What’s the worst possible thing that can happen to you as a result of this?
  5. How is it going to impact your life in the next 1 year? 5 years? 10 years?

Doing this exercise is not to undermine the problem or disclaiming responsibility, but to consider different perspectives, so you can adopt the best approach for it. Most problems we encounter daily may seem like huge issues when they crop up, but most, if not all, don’t have much impact in our life beyond that day.

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2. Vent if you have to, but don’t linger on the problem

If you feel very frustrated and need to let off some steam, go ahead and do that. Talk to a friend, complain, crib about it, or scream at the top of your lungs if it makes you happy.

At the same time, don’t get caught up with venting. While venting may temporarily relieve yourself, it’s not going to solve the problem ultimately. You don’t want to be an energy vampire.

Vent if there’s a need to, but do it for 15 to 20 minutes. Then move on.

3. Realize there are others out there facing this too

Even though the situation may be frustrating, you’re not alone. Remember there are almost 7 billion people in the world today, and chances are that other people have faced the same thing before too. Knowing it’s not just you helps you to get out of a self-victimizing mindset.

4. Process your thoughts/emotions

Process your thoughts/emotions with any of the four methods:

  1. Journal. Write your unhappiness in a private diary or in your blog. It doesn’t have to be formal at all – it can be a brain dump on rough paper or new word document. Delete after you are done.
  2. Audio taping. Record yourself as you talk out what’s on your mind. Tools include tape recorder, your PC (Audacity is a freeware for recording/editing audio) and your mobile (most mobiles today have audio recording functions). You can even use your voice mail for this. Just talking helps you to gain awareness of your emotions. After recording, play back and listen to what you said. You might find it quite revealing.
  3. Meditation. At its simplest form, meditation is just sitting/lying still and observing your reality as it is – including your thoughts and emotions. Some think that it involves some complex mambo-jumbo, but it doesn’t.
  4. Talking to someone. Talking about it with someone helps you work through the issue. It also gets you an alternate viewpoint and consider it from a different angle.

5. Acknowledge your thoughts

Don’t resist your thoughts, but acknowledge them. This includes both positive and negative thoughts.

By acknowledging, I mean recognizing these thoughts exist. So if say, you have a thought that says, “Wow, I’m so stupid!”, acknowledge that. If you have a thought that says, “I can’t believe this is happening to me again”, acknowledge that as well.

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Know that acknowledging the thoughts doesn’t mean you agree with them. It’s simply recognizing the existence of said thoughts so that you can stop resisting yourself and focus on the situation on hand.

6. Give yourself a break

If you’re very stressed out by the situation, and the problem is not time sensitive, then give yourself a break. Take a walk, listen to some music, watch a movie, or get some sleep. When you’re done, you should feel a lot more revitalized to deal with the situation.

7. Uncover what you’re really upset about

A lot of times, the anger we feel isn’t about the world. You may start off feeling angry at someone or something, but at the depth of it, it’s anger toward yourself.

Uncover the root of your anger. I have written a five part anger management series on how to permanently overcome anger.

After that, ask yourself: How can you improve the situation? Go to Step #9, where you define your actionable steps. Our anger comes from not having control on the situation. Sitting there and feeling infuriated is not going to change the situation. The more action we take, the more we will regain control over the situation, the better we will feel.

8. See this as an obstacle to be overcome

As Helen Keller once said,

“Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experiences of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired and success achieved.”

Whatever you’re facing right now, see it as an obstacle to be overcome. In every worthy endeavor, there’ll always be countless obstacles that emerge along the way. These obstacles are what separate the people who make it, and those who don’t. If you’re able to push through and overcome them, you’ll emerge a stronger person than before. It’ll be harder for anything to get you down in the future.

9. Analyze the situation – Focus on actionable steps

In every setback, there are going to be things that can’t be reversed since they have already occurred. You want to focus on things that can still be changed (salvageable) vs. things that have already happened and can’t be changed. The only time the situation changes is when you take steps to improve it. Rather than cry over spilt milk, work through your situation:

  1. What’s the situation?
  2. What’s stressing you about this situation?
  3. What are the next steps that’ll help you resolve them?
  4. Take action on your next steps!

After you have identified your next steps, act on them. The key here is to focus on the actionable steps, not the inactionable steps. It’s about regaining control over the situation through direct action.

10. Identify how it occurred (so it won’t occur again next time)

A lot of times we react to our problems. The problem occurs, and we try to make the best out of what has happened within the context. While developing a healthy coping mechanism is important (which is what the other helping points are on), it’s also equally important, if not more, to understand how the problem arose. This way, you can work on preventing it from taking place next time, vs. dealing reactively with it.

Most of us probably think the problem is outside of our control, but reality is most of the times it’s fully preventable. It’s just a matter of how much responsibility you take over the problem.

For example, for someone who can’t get a cab for work in the morning, he/she may see the problem as a lack of cabs in the country, or bad luck. However, if you trace to the root of the problem, it’s probably more to do with (a) Having unrealistic expectations of the length of time to get a cab. He/she should budget more time for waiting for a cab next time. (b) Oversleeping, because he/she was too tired from working late the previous day. He/she should allocate enough time for rest next time. He/she should also pick up better time management skills, so as to finish work in lesser time.

11. Realize the situation can be a lot worse

No matter how bad the situation is, it can always be much worse. A plus point vs. negative point analysis will help you realize that.

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12. Do your best, but don’t kill yourself over it

No matter how bad your situation may seem, do your best, but don’t kill yourself over it. Life is too beautiful to worry so much over daily issues. Take a step back (#1), give yourself a break if you need to (#6), and do what you can within your means (#9). Everything else will unfold accordingly. Worrying too much about the outcome isn’t going to change things or make your life any better.

13. Pick out the learning points from the encounter

There’s something to learn from every encounter. What have you learned from this situation? What lessons have you taken away?

After you identify your learning points, think about how you’re going to apply them moving forward. With this, you’ve clearly gained something from this encounter. You’ve walked away a stronger, wiser, better person, with more life lessons to draw from in the future.

Get the manifesto version of this article: [Manifesto] What To Do When Things Don’t Go Your Way

Featured photo credit: Alice Donovan Rouse via unsplash.com

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