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11 Signs You’re In A Mature Relationship

11 Signs You’re In A Mature Relationship

A beautiful smile crosses your face as you glance across the room at your partner. You’re so happy in that moment that you can’t help but grin. Finally, you’ve found someone to really make you happy. After so many years, you’re finally dating someone who truly brings out the best in you!

Life’s dating game has had its fair share of ups and downs, but you realize, at last, that you’re in the type of relationship you’ve always wanted!

If this sounds like you, great! Here are 11 signs that you’re in this type of mature relationship.

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1. You Have Little to No Arguments

You and your partner argue very little, if at all. This is so important in relationships. Couples who constantly argue and fight over every little thing are bound to fail. These couples don’t see eye-to-eye and there’s an obvious disconnect on some level. Not to say they can’t fix this, but it certainly requires a lot of work and attention. If you don’t have this issue, however, you don’t have to worry!

2. Your Arguments Are Productive

When you do get into arguments with your significant other, the end result is usually something productive. You don’t just have shouting matches or ugly quarrels with one another in an attempt to put each other down, but for a more noble purpose. Your arguments, are more like respectful disagreements, and you listen to one another with an open mind. Typically, at the conclusion of these disagreements, all parties are satisfied and ready to move on without resentment.

3. You Trust Each Other Completely

Whether it’s allowing your spouse to go out with their friends, not having the urge to look through their phone, not being jealous of their opposite-sex friends, or simply, having no doubt in your mind that your partner would ever do anything to compromise your relationship. If you can feel these things about your significant other, and they feel this way about you, you’re a very lucky person!

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4. You Feel Good About Where You’re Heading

When you’re in a mature relationship your future looks bright. You can smile when you think ahead and when you imagine your upcoming life together. You know deep down inside that you’re doing the right thing and that you’re with the right person.

5. You Have No Regrets About Being With That Person

You don’t have any desires to be with anyone else. All you care about is the person you are with. You never regret settling down with them and any other person before them seems completely insignificant. You only have eyes for them.

6. You Have Great Communication

You freely talk about anything without needing to drag things out of one another. You never hold things in that are bothering you. You love discussing different topics, issues, concerns, plans, and ideas. You’re both on the same page and you express this congruity frequently.

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7. You Think In Terms of “We” Instead of “I”

Before, it was just you. Now, it’s both of you together. Although you know you’re separate people with separate lives and separate souls, you love sharing life with that special someone. You think in terms of “we” instead of just “I”, meaning you always consider your partner when deciding important things. You think about the two of you when pondering weekend plans, monetary expenses, future goals, and everything in between.

8. You Completely Respect Your Partner

You respect your partner in every possible way. You respect their values. You respect their feelings. You respect their character. You respect their outlook on life. You respect their time. You respect their career. Your respect their goals. And most importantly, you respect their relationship with you. You respect everything about them.

9. You Can’t Wait To See Them When You’re Away

You’re often left wanting more of them in your life, or wanting to see them when they’re away. Although you enjoy your time alone, you can’t wait to see them again. You miss them when they’re away and you think about spending time with them always.

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10. You Truly Love Them

You don’t have to think about it, it just comes naturally. When you’re in a mature relationship with someone, you truly love them. They make you happy and your affection for them cannot be denied. They’re everything you’ve always wanted in a partner and you love them infinitely!

Being in the right relationship can take time. If you feel like the aforementioned signs don’t fit into the relationship you’re currently in, it may be time to move on. For the sake of both you and your partner, it may be better to look elsewhere. If, however, you’ve read some of the signs above and they resonate with you and the type of mature relationship you’re in, congratulations! You’ve successfully found someone to share life’s experiences with. There may be no greater gift to mankind than the ability to lovingly connect with and traverse through life with someone else!

Are there any other signs of being in a mature relationship that you can think of that are not listed above? If so, please comment and share your thoughts!

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Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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