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Last Updated on August 24, 2018

How to Be More Attractive: 7 Ways to Be Confident and Charming

How to Be More Attractive: 7 Ways to Be Confident and Charming

You want to be attractive, incredibly attractive.

You know, Pierce Bronson or Liv Tyler kind.

But then you look into the mirror and…let’s just say, any similarity is well hidden which understandably dampens your enthusiasm.

Can I tell you something?  Being attractive has little to do with looks and everything to do with “aura”.

An incredibly attractive person lives inside of you, dying to come out.

Come on, let’s bring that magnetism to the surface. That is, if you dare!

1.  Stop thinking you’re not attractive and just “be” attractive

Make yourself attractive by taking on the right attitude. If you are burying your attractiveness, there’s a reason. Do yourself a favor. Go on a mission and find that reason.

Born within you, there is an attractive and playful side so decide to own it!

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Change doesn’t happen over time, it happens in the moment you make that decision. Read on.

2.  Deal with your past love stories so they don’t fight with your current story

Bringing the pain and heartbreak of past relationships into the present will kill your sexiness with fear.

Those voices lie below the surface and convince you that history is repeating itself. The only way to live in today is to first look the memories in the face and heal those hurts.

Someone who has learned from where they’ve been and determined to make the present far better is emotionally available. And that, my friend, is extremely charming.

3.  Find your James Bond confidence

That sense of knowing who you are and what makes you worth kissing will exude attractiveness to everyone around you even if that’s not your intention.  I learned this from my second time around husband who says I was like a magnet to him.

Inner confidence attracts (this is not arrogance we are talking about here).

You laugh more easily.

It gives you a kind of mystery that tells someone that you would not bring a lot of “drama” into a relationship. Rather, you would make life interesting.

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4.  Dress yourself up and take yourself out

The clothes do not make the person but they sure can enhance the person’s best features. Even if you don’t like to shop, make it an interesting project to find out what colors and fit look great on you.

Feeling sharp translates into confidence so be prepared with a couple of outfits that bring out that “Bond” quality in you, man or woman.

Then take yourself on a date somewhere you would love to go just because you are worth it. Be truly ok with being alone and soon you will be giving off incredibly charming vibes.

5.  Stand tall, shoulders back, look others in the eye and smile

Most men agree that the most attractive thing about a woman is her smile. Why? Because when a woman is happy, they don’t have to wonder how to get her there.

In the same way, the last thing a woman wants to take on is being a man’s mom. She wants a man, not a boy.

Your posture and the way you present yourself tells the world about you.

So practice standing tall and being direct and don’t worry if you aren’t feeling confident in the moment. Doing this automatically communicates confidence to your brain and soon your feelings will follow.

6. Become a romance master

We know the moments.

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He guides her into a dark room and suddenly its filled with incredible light with music and a table set for two. As a woman, I’ve been told men fear romance because they run out of ideas and they know their lady’s heart responds to being wooed.

Romance can be as simple as honestly looking into the eyes of your lover in order to see what’s really going on inside of them.

Romance can be the words you use in a text during the day or when you say goodnight.

Taking the time to go into your heart and find out what speaks to the heart of your lover creates romance.

Be careful here because being open to growing the romantic side of you will make you incredibly attractive!

7.  Fall in love with your life

You have so much to offer. “Incredibly attractive” is simply knowing that and not tolerating play-acting in your life.

It’s about what’s going on inside of you – inside your deepest heart.

Imagine being so interested in your own life that you can’t wait to get up in the morning.

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Imagine having a sense of passionate purpose at the base of your life continually exciting you about how you are made and what you are meant to do to make a difference.

Imagine taking control of your life so that you spend your time the ways you choose to and with whom you choose to.

Imagine listening to someone because you want to know them, not because you want to impress them.

Imagine looking directly into someone’s eyes and saying what you feel and asking for what you want without fear.

How would this feel? Empowering, right?

Begin moving toward becoming this person. That’s the secret to making yourself incredibly attractive.

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Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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