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How to Be More Attractive: 7 Ways to Be Confident and Charming

How to Be More Attractive: 7 Ways to Be Confident and Charming

You want to be attractive, incredibly attractive.

You know, Pierce Bronson or Liv Tyler kind.

But then you look into the mirror and…let’s just say, any similarity is well hidden which understandably dampens your enthusiasm.

Can I tell you something?  Being attractive has little to do with looks and everything to do with “aura”.

An incredibly attractive person lives inside of you, dying to come out.

Come on, let’s bring that magnetism to the surface. That is, if you dare!

1.  Stop thinking you’re not attractive and just “be” attractive

Make yourself attractive by taking on the right attitude. If you are burying your attractiveness, there’s a reason. Do yourself a favor. Go on a mission and find that reason.

Born within you, there is an attractive and playful side so decide to own it!

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Change doesn’t happen over time, it happens in the moment you make that decision. Read on.

2.  Deal with your past love stories so they don’t fight with your current story

Bringing the pain and heartbreak of past relationships into the present will kill your sexiness with fear.

Those voices lie below the surface and convince you that history is repeating itself. The only way to live in today is to first look the memories in the face and heal those hurts.

Someone who has learned from where they’ve been and determined to make the present far better is emotionally available. And that, my friend, is extremely charming.

3.  Find your James Bond confidence

That sense of knowing who you are and what makes you worth kissing will exude attractiveness to everyone around you even if that’s not your intention.  I learned this from my second time around husband who says I was like a magnet to him.

Inner confidence attracts (this is not arrogance we are talking about here).

You laugh more easily.

It gives you a kind of mystery that tells someone that you would not bring a lot of “drama” into a relationship. Rather, you would make life interesting.

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4.  Dress yourself up and take yourself out

The clothes do not make the person but they sure can enhance the person’s best features. Even if you don’t like to shop, make it an interesting project to find out what colors and fit look great on you.

Feeling sharp translates into confidence so be prepared with a couple of outfits that bring out that “Bond” quality in you, man or woman.

Then take yourself on a date somewhere you would love to go just because you are worth it. Be truly ok with being alone and soon you will be giving off incredibly charming vibes.

5.  Stand tall, shoulders back, look others in the eye and smile

Most men agree that the most attractive thing about a woman is her smile. Why? Because when a woman is happy, they don’t have to wonder how to get her there.

In the same way, the last thing a woman wants to take on is being a man’s mom. She wants a man, not a boy.

Your posture and the way you present yourself tells the world about you.

So practice standing tall and being direct and don’t worry if you aren’t feeling confident in the moment. Doing this automatically communicates confidence to your brain and soon your feelings will follow.

6. Become a romance master

We know the moments.

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He guides her into a dark room and suddenly its filled with incredible light with music and a table set for two. As a woman, I’ve been told men fear romance because they run out of ideas and they know their lady’s heart responds to being wooed.

Romance can be as simple as honestly looking into the eyes of your lover in order to see what’s really going on inside of them.

Romance can be the words you use in a text during the day or when you say goodnight.

Taking the time to go into your heart and find out what speaks to the heart of your lover creates romance.

Be careful here because being open to growing the romantic side of you will make you incredibly attractive!

7.  Fall in love with your life

You have so much to offer. “Incredibly attractive” is simply knowing that and not tolerating play-acting in your life.

It’s about what’s going on inside of you – inside your deepest heart.

Imagine being so interested in your own life that you can’t wait to get up in the morning.

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Imagine having a sense of passionate purpose at the base of your life continually exciting you about how you are made and what you are meant to do to make a difference.

Imagine taking control of your life so that you spend your time the ways you choose to and with whom you choose to.

Imagine listening to someone because you want to know them, not because you want to impress them.

Imagine looking directly into someone’s eyes and saying what you feel and asking for what you want without fear.

How would this feel? Empowering, right?

Begin moving toward becoming this person. That’s the secret to making yourself incredibly attractive.

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Last Updated on September 17, 2019

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

Positive thinking can lead to a lot of positive change in your life. Developing an optimistic outlook can be good for both your physical and mental health.

But sometimes, certain situations arise in life that makes it hard to keep a positive outlook. Take steps to make positive thinking become more like your second nature and you’ll reap the biggest benefits.

Here are 10 ways to make thinking positive thoughts easy:

1. Spend Time with Positive People

If you surround yourself with constant complainers, their negativity is likely to rub off on you.

Spend time with positive friends and family members to increase the likelihood that their positive thinking habits will become yours too. It’s hard to be negative when everyone around you is so positive.

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2. Take Responsibility for Your Behavior

When you encounter problems and difficulties in life, don’t play the role of the victim. Acknowledge your role in the situation and take responsibility for your behavior.

Accepting responsibility can help you learn from mistakes and prevent you from blaming others unfairly.

3. Contribute to the Community

One of the best ways to feel good about what you have, is to focus on what you have to give.

Volunteer in some manner and give back to the community. Helping others can give you a new outlook on the world and can assist you with positive thinking.

4. Read Positive and Inspirational Materials

Spend time each day reading something that encourages positive thinking. Read the Bible, spiritual material, or inspirational quotes to help you focus on what’s important to you in life. It can be a great way to start and end your day.

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5. Recognize and Replace Negative Thoughts

You won’t be successful at positive thinking if you’re still plagued by frequent negative thoughts. Learn to recognize and replace thoughts that are overly negative. Often, thoughts that include words like “always” and “never” signal that they aren’t true.

If you find yourself thinking something such as, “I always mess everything up,” replace it with something more realistic such as, “Sometimes I make mistakes but I learn from them.”

There’s no need to make your thoughts unrealistically positive, but instead, make them more realistic.

6. Establish and Work Toward Goals

It’s easier to be positive about problems and setbacks when you have goals that you’re working toward. Goals will give you motivation to overcome those obstacles when you encounter problems along the way. Without clear goals, it’s harder to make decisions and gauge your progress.

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Learn to set SMART goals to help you achieve more.

7. Consider the Consequences of Negativity

Spend some time thinking about the consequences of negative thinking. Often, it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

For example, a person who thinks, “I probably won’t get this job interview,” may put less effort into the interview. As a result, he may decrease his chances of getting the job.

Create a list of all the ways negative thinking impacts your life. It likely influences your behavior, your relationships, and your feelings. Then, create a list of the ways in which positive thinking could be beneficial.

8. Offer Compliments to Others

Look for reasons to compliment others. Be genuine in your praise and compliments, but offer it frequently. This will help you look for the good in other people.

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9. Create a Daily Gratitude List

If you start keeping a daily gratitude list, you’ll start noticing exactly how much you have to be thankful for. This can help you focus on the positive in your life instead of thinking about all the bad things that have happened in the day.

Getting in the habit of showing an attitude of gratitude makes positive thinking more of a habit. Here’re 40 Simple Ways To Practice Gratitude.

10. Practice Self-Care

Take good care of yourself and you’ll be more equipped to think positively.

Get plenty of rest and exercise and practice managing your stress well. Taking care of your physical and mental health will provide you with more energy to focus on positive thinking.

Learn about these 30 Self-Care Habits for a Strong and Healthy Mind, Body and Spirit.

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