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10 Ways To Be Happy, Healthy And Wealthy

10 Ways To Be Happy, Healthy And Wealthy

At this time of year, most people are looking to make active changes in their lives. Whether you want to start making changes now or you are still thinking about your resolutions for 2014, there are many ways for you to be happy, healthy, and wealthy in the new year.

Here are 10 ways to do just that:

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1. Learn more about yourself

When was the last time that you sat down and really thought about who you are? Most people need to learn more about themselves because most people are often asked to behave a certain way. Learn more about who you truly are. Learn more about yourself by trying new things such as traveling the world alone, or just spending some time with yourself.

2. Focus on positive goals in your life

Focusing on positive goals is a good way to be happy. Instead of thinking about the negative, think positively. You will find areas in your life that you genuinely want to improve, not what only others want you to change. Change for you, and you only.

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3. Learn to manage your environment

Managing your environment is important if you want to be happy, healthy, and wealthy. You should learn to effectively change things around you and in your environment. You are in control of your environment. If you find that you are not in control in your environment, then you may have to change it. Think about moving. Alternatively, you can try to improve the environment.

4. Connect with other happy people

If you want to be happy, then you most likely will want to connect with other happy people. Surrounding yourself with other people who want to be happy, healthy, and wealthy is important. Together, you can encourage each other to make positive changes in your lives. The next time your fun and outgoing person calls, go hang out.

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5. Be active

If you want to make active changes to your life, then you need to figure out what to do in order to make those changes. If you want to be healthy, actively pursue it. Eat healthy foods and work out. If you want to be wealthy (in whichever way you define it), then you must actively change your poor situation.

6. Be kind to yourself and believe in yourself

Believing in yourself is important, if you want to be happy. Next time you doubt yourself, think about how you’ve made so many other positive changes.

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7. See the ones that you love more often

If you enjoy being around other people, then you should see them more often. I love to be around friends and family because they just make my day much better, no matter what. Make sure that you attend holiday parties, birthdays, and other get-togethers.

8. Learn to say no to things that you do not want to do

If you don’t enjoy doing something, then you must learn how to say no. Do things that better you, and not things that make you more miserable. Learn when to say no and when to say yes. If someone always tries to shove all their errands on you, respectfully say no.

9. Learn to have fun

There are many ways to be happy, and one of the main ways is to learn how to have fun. If you are not having fun in life, you are not living life correctly! Know what makes you happy, and aim to have fun more than not. Learn how to make boring things in your life more enjoyable as well. There are many ways to have fun: go to a party, take up a new sport, enroll in community college, learn about photography, and so on.

10. Appreciate everything in your life

Be grateful for everything that you have in your life. Gratefulness puts everything into perspective. Whether you have your own home, a great family, a good job, loving pets, a fun hobby, wonderful friends or something else, there’s always something in your life for which to be grateful.

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Last Updated on May 21, 2019

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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