Sometimes kids do need us their parents or older ones to stand up and defend them. It adds to their character and their self-esteem. In the process of doing this you are also able to correct common misconceptions and set matters straight.
1. They aren’t dumb, they simply need more time
Kids can be slow learners. Some of the greatest minds of all time started late. People like Albert Einstein and Steve Jobs were not A students while in school, but everyone can attest to their tremendous success later in life. It is harsh and wrong for anyone to be conclusive of your child, regardless of his/her present status and parents should do well to defend this.
2. They are not stubborn, they are independent
It is wrong to say someone is stubborn; it seems the speaker of such statement means your child is great at not listening to others and acting stupid. But such connotations writes off the child’s ability to creatively think on his/her own and make the decision that is appealing to them. They can’t be stubborn, but they can be independent.
3. They are not fat, they are big
Being fat is an abusive term. The speaker of such statement could want to mean that your child is a glutton and he/she is not adjusted to a specific size. But we all are made differently and being big or mature could have been taken or inherited from someone in the family. And such decision may not be a choice presented to your child.
4. They are not shy, they like to be alone
Being alone means your child appreciates solitude and wants to enjoy a relationship with their own self. Some children deserve to have their space to think and understand what is going on around them. Being alone or spending time with themselves doesn’t mean they can’t speak out if they have to.
5. They are not lazy; they only like to do what is right
Many people think that you have to be a jack of all trades and always work to be the ideal person. But success doesn’t mean hard work but also smart work. One has to prioritize what he/she spends their energy on. And it is great if your kids are defended to understand this concept that even if they have to work they have to also be choosy on what they invest their energy in.
6. They don’t cry a lot, they are expressive
It may be that your child is bullied or has cause to be emotional about every provocation. People could remark that they are too emotional or cry a lot, which could be perceived as a weakness. However it is great to stand up for them and let the world know that they are not tearful but rather expressive.
7. They are not arrogant, they like to be special
There is nothing wrong in wanting to be treated like a king rather than being abused as a beggar. If your children demand respect and to be treated right; no one should mistake this for arrogance and insult them for having some self-worth. On occasion like this you can stand up and defend them appropriately.
8. They are not slow, they are cautious
Some people are great at taking their time to act. If this is termed as being slow, you have to correct this perception and defend your child by letting others know that they are only acting cautiously.
9. They are not dirty, they are learning
Being neat and being averse to taking risk or doing something new or fun doesn’t make your child awful or out of place. It is always better to correct this notion by standing up for them to make the world understand that they are learning and during this process they can get some things messed up.
10. They are not too forward, they are smart
Sometimes acting clever means you have to act quick and fast. They are not trying to look down on others and make others feel bad, they just want to be counted first and show they can respond faster.
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