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10 Things You Should Defend For Your Kids No Matter What Others Say

10 Things You Should Defend For Your Kids No Matter What Others Say

Sometimes kids do need us their parents or older ones to stand up and defend them. It adds to their character and their self-esteem. In the process of doing this you are also able to correct common misconceptions and set matters straight.

1. They aren’t dumb, they simply need more time

Kids can be slow learners. Some of the greatest minds of all time started late. People like Albert Einstein and Steve Jobs were not A students while in school, but everyone can attest to their tremendous success later in life. It is harsh and wrong for anyone to be conclusive of your child, regardless of his/her present status and parents should do well to defend this.

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2. They are not stubborn, they are independent

It is wrong to say someone is stubborn; it seems the speaker of such statement means your child is great at not listening to others and acting stupid. But such connotations writes off the child’s ability to creatively think on his/her own and make the decision that is appealing to them. They can’t be stubborn, but they can be independent.

3. They are not fat, they are big

Being fat is an abusive term. The speaker of such statement could want to mean that your child is a glutton and he/she is not adjusted to a specific size. But we all are made differently and being big or mature could have been taken or inherited from someone in the family. And such decision may not be a choice presented to your child.

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4. They are not shy, they like to be alone

Being alone means your child appreciates solitude and wants to enjoy a relationship with their own self. Some children deserve to have their space to think and understand what is going on around them. Being alone or spending time with themselves doesn’t mean they can’t speak out if they have to.

5. They are not lazy; they only like to do what is right

Many people think that you have to be a jack of all trades and always work to be the ideal person. But success doesn’t mean hard work but also smart work. One has to prioritize what he/she spends their energy on. And it is great if your kids are defended to understand this concept that even if they have to work they have to also be choosy on what they invest their energy in.

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6. They don’t cry a lot, they are expressive

It may be that your child is bullied or has cause to be emotional about every provocation. People could remark that they are too emotional or cry a lot, which could be perceived as a weakness. However it is great to stand up for them and let the world know that they are not tearful but rather expressive.

7. They are not arrogant, they like to be special

There is nothing wrong in wanting to be treated like a king rather than being abused as a beggar. If your children demand respect and to be treated right; no one should mistake this for arrogance and insult them for having some self-worth. On occasion like this you can stand up and defend them appropriately.

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8. They are not slow, they are cautious

Some people are great at taking their time to act. If this is termed as being slow, you have to correct this perception and defend your child by letting others know that they are only acting cautiously.

9. They are not dirty, they are learning

Being neat and being averse to taking risk or doing something new or fun doesn’t make your child awful or out of place. It is always better to correct this notion by standing up for them to make the world understand that they are learning and during this process they can get some things messed up.

10. They are not too forward, they are smart

Sometimes acting clever means you have to act quick and fast. They are not trying to look down on others and make others feel bad, they just want to be counted first and show they can respond faster.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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