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10 Things People Who Truly Love Their Lives Do Differently

10 Things People Who Truly Love Their Lives Do Differently

To live is to be alive, to be free and honest. People who live their lives differently, accept the opportunities life gives. Life lovers take the best of each moment – give the best to the world and be in love with themselves and life. What does it mean to love life? It is not hiding from the reality, it is not pretending or being in never-ending rush. To love life is to live it, minute by minute, to live it knowingly.

Some people are happier than others. Some people smile all day, live with passion and share it with others. They take each breath as a blessing and don’t look back. It doesn’t mean they don’t have problems or obstacles, but they change their attitude and choose to be happy because they know – joy creates more joy, success creates more success in future.

1. They don’t try to impress other people.

They know who they are and what they want to be. They don’t wait for other peoples’ approval. They don’t pretend, but they choose to be honest.

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2. They do what they want and believe in.

They know what they want to do and they do it. Not because they think they have to do it, but they simply want to do it. They believe in it. Without any doubts or questions. They start each day with positive energy and finish their day with lot of experience.

3. They love their friends but don’t rely on them.

They appreciate each person they have in their lives. They have a lot of inspirational time together, but they don’t wait or ask friends to do something for them. They take responsibility and to it themselves. They can accept help or support but don’t demand it. They take responsibility and live life by their own.

4. They take the best in the moment and create their future.

They live in the moment. With no regrets about past or worries about future. They take each mistake as a lesson and grow within. They create their future, they dream big and take real action to achieve the goals.

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5. They don’t want to change others.

They accept other people as they are, they don’t spend time or energy to change other people but take each person as a mirror of their own inner world.

6. They speak about positive things and events.

They can always choose how to spend energy and time. What to remember and how to fill the given day. They choose to see the positive things and speak about them. If there is nothing to say, they smile and be thankful.

7. They discover something new each day.

No matter what they have achieved, they know that there are no borders or limits in Universe, in themselves and their lives. They stop their daily life and duties to notice something new, to reveal the beauty within and share their light. They travel, they try new food or meet people. They collect beautiful moments and uplift their Soul.

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8. They enjoy nature and are creative.

They know harmony is something we all are looking for. They spend time in nature to renew inner balance and get some inspiration. They are creators and discover their potential and use it. They listen to birds’ songs, they feel the touch of wind and sun. They let nature nourish their souls and reborn in freedom and harmony.

9. They take risks and aren’t afraid to be different.

They are not afraid from failures. They can laugh about themselves and be cheerful and light in every situation.

There is no time to waist or opportunities to miss, just take it, live it and learn from it. They choose to be themselves even if somebody can’t understand them. They are brave enough to be unique and stop hiding and wear masks.

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10. They are thankful for being alive.

They take time to say Thank you and feel gratitude. They appreciate the gift given them. To live is to open the gift of your true being and let it shine and change this moment, next moment and whole world. They are thankful for what they have or don’t have. They are rich within.

Happiness is a choice, it is an attitude to daily things and situations. Your life is how you react on it. You create your own reality. May it be happy, light and full with love to share with.

Featured photo credit: Sunset Poppy/BK via flickr.com

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Last Updated on May 21, 2019

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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