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10 Things Only Stay-At-Home Dads Would Understand

10 Things Only Stay-At-Home Dads Would Understand

Whether it is a choice or a necessity, many men are leaving the regular workplace to become stay-at-home-dads. According to studies men are beginning to embrace parenting and shouldering more of domestic responsibilities than previous generations. It is becoming apparent that men want to be more actively involved in the lives of their kids. And what better way to do that than to be a stay-at-home dad.

1. You are a committed partner

You want the best for your household. You can make a sacrifice to ensure that work doesn’t come in the way of giving your family the time and attention it needs. You can be committed to the emotional and physical improvement of your household rather than exchanging this time for more money.

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2. You can enjoy special moments with your kids

You do not have to be worrying about not being there for your kids birthdays or special moments in their growth. Yes, you can be there for your kids during their life-changing and defining moments. Being a part of their growing up is something you will always cherish and find to be profound.

3. You have to fix everything

Being a stay at home dad makes you more detailed, more careful, more domestic and appreciative of the simple things. You can cook, clean, do yard work, shop for groceries, maintain the car, change diapers, counsel your children and put the house in order. Being a stay at home dad sort of gives you a sense of homeliness and appreciating your home for what it is. And you accept such responsibility with enthusiasm.

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4. You are unconventional

Being a stay-at-home dad means going against the norm or traditions of going to an office every day. You have the right to choose the way you live your life and determine how you can fulfill your obligations. You are willing to defy the conventional way to become the man you want to be within.

5. You are an expert at multitasking

Something dreadful and challenging, but being able to be the dad, the cook, the shopper, the repairer, the maintenance man, all in one can be pretty multitasking and fun. You become aware of those potentials within you that were previously untapped.

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6. You can connect with other stay-at-home dads

You can get connected with other stay-at-home dads through blogs, societies, support groups and conventions to help you share interesting and motivating experiences and get through the challenges of being a stay-at-home dad.

7. You have to teach your kids all the way

You are there to teach and tutor your children to growth. You can offer them the best in relationships, care and concern that will make them appreciate learning and education. You do not miss a bit of it whether you are homeschooling them or driving them to and from school.

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8. You will have to build trust and communication with your kids

You can create an environment where nothing is kept in secret but spoken out, because you are there to listen to them and benefit from their sense of sharing their emotions and thoughts with you.

9. You are in charge expenditure

Money that would be spent on getting a nanny or a baby sitter is saved. You are also responsible for managing expenditure and doing well to ensure that your children and the house gets the best from the resources available.

10. You have those photos to remember

Whether it is in a memory or in an actual photo you will be able to capture moments that may have been lost. As a stay-at-home dad you are somehow reconnected to your childhood and periods of your own growth. You can thus find direction, personal growth, rediscovery in being a stay-at-home dad and being there for your kids during their growth.

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Last Updated on August 6, 2020

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

We’ve all done it. That moment when a series of words slithers from your mouth and the instant regret manifests through blushing and profuse apologies. If you could just think before you speak! It doesn’t have to be like this, and with a bit of practice, it’s actually quite easy to prevent.

“Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.” – Napolean Hill

Are we speaking the same language?

My mum recently left me a note thanking me for looking after her dog. She’d signed it with “LOL.” In my world, this means “laugh out loud,” and in her world it means “lots of love.” My kids tell me things are “sick” when they’re good, and ”manck” when they’re bad (when I say “bad,” I don’t mean good!). It’s amazing that we manage to communicate at all.

When speaking, we tend to color our language with words and phrases that have become personal to us, things we’ve picked up from our friends, families and even memes from the internet. These colloquialisms become normal, and we expect the listener (or reader) to understand “what we mean.” If you really want the listener to understand your meaning, try to use words and phrases that they might use.

Am I being lazy?

When you’ve been in a relationship for a while, a strange metamorphosis takes place. People tend to become lazier in the way that they communicate with each other, with less thought for the feelings of their partner. There’s no malice intended; we just reach a “comfort zone” and know that our partners “know what we mean.”

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Here’s an exchange from Psychology Today to demonstrate what I mean:

Early in the relationship:

“Honey, I don’t want you to take this wrong, but I’m noticing that your hair is getting a little thin on top. I know guys are sensitive about losing their hair, but I don’t want someone else to embarrass you without your expecting it.”

When the relationship is established:

“Did you know that you’re losing a lot of hair on the back of your head? You’re combing it funny and it doesn’t help. Wear a baseball cap or something if you feel weird about it. Lots of guys get thin on top. It’s no big deal.”

It’s pretty clear which of these statements is more empathetic and more likely to be received well. Recognizing when we do this can be tricky, but with a little practice it becomes easy.

Have I actually got anything to say?

When I was a kid, my gran used to say to me that if I didn’t have anything good to say, I shouldn’t say anything at all. My gran couldn’t stand gossip, so this makes total sense, but you can take this statement a little further and modify it: “If you don’t have anything to say, then don’t say anything at all.”

A lot of the time, people speak to fill “uncomfortable silences,” or because they believe that saying something, anything, is better than staying quiet. It can even be a cause of anxiety for some people.

When somebody else is speaking, listen. Don’t wait to speak. Listen. Actually hear what that person is saying, think about it, and respond if necessary.

Am I painting an accurate picture?

One of the most common forms of miscommunication is the lack of a “referential index,” a type of generalization that fails to refer to specific nouns. As an example, look at these two simple phrases: “Can you pass me that?” and “Pass me that thing over there!”. How often have you said something similar?

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How is the listener supposed to know what you mean? The person that you’re talking to will start to fill in the gaps with something that may very well be completely different to what you mean. You’re thinking “pass me the salt,” but you get passed the pepper. This can be infuriating for the listener, and more importantly, can create a lack of understanding and ultimately produce conflict.

Before you speak, try to label people, places and objects in a way that it is easy for any listeners to understand.

What words am I using?

It’s well known that our use of nouns and verbs (or lack of them) gives an insight into where we grew up, our education, our thoughts and our feelings.

Less well known is that the use of pronouns offers a critical insight into how we emotionally code our sentences. James Pennebaker’s research in the 1990’s concluded that function words are important keys to someone’s psychological state and reveal much more than content words do.

Starting a sentence with “I think…” demonstrates self-focus rather than empathy with the speaker, whereas asking the speaker to elaborate or quantify what they’re saying clearly shows that you’re listening and have respect even if you disagree.

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Is the map really the territory?

Before speaking, we sometimes construct a scenario that makes us act in a way that isn’t necessarily reflective of the actual situation.

A while ago, John promised to help me out in a big way with a project that I was working on. After an initial meeting and some big promises, we put together a plan and set off on its execution. A week or so went by, and I tried to get a hold of John to see how things were going. After voice mails and emails with no reply and general silence, I tried again a week later and still got no response.

I was frustrated and started to get more than a bit vexed. The project obviously meant more to me than it did to him, and I started to construct all manner of crazy scenarios. I finally got through to John and immediately started a mild rant about making promises you can’t keep. He stopped me in my tracks with the news that his brother had died. If I’d have just thought before I spoke…

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