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10 Things Only Stay-At-Home Dads Would Understand

10 Things Only Stay-At-Home Dads Would Understand

Whether it is a choice or a necessity, many men are leaving the regular workplace to become stay-at-home-dads. According to studies men are beginning to embrace parenting and shouldering more of domestic responsibilities than previous generations. It is becoming apparent that men want to be more actively involved in the lives of their kids. And what better way to do that than to be a stay-at-home dad.

1. You are a committed partner

You want the best for your household. You can make a sacrifice to ensure that work doesn’t come in the way of giving your family the time and attention it needs. You can be committed to the emotional and physical improvement of your household rather than exchanging this time for more money.

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2. You can enjoy special moments with your kids

You do not have to be worrying about not being there for your kids birthdays or special moments in their growth. Yes, you can be there for your kids during their life-changing and defining moments. Being a part of their growing up is something you will always cherish and find to be profound.

3. You have to fix everything

Being a stay at home dad makes you more detailed, more careful, more domestic and appreciative of the simple things. You can cook, clean, do yard work, shop for groceries, maintain the car, change diapers, counsel your children and put the house in order. Being a stay at home dad sort of gives you a sense of homeliness and appreciating your home for what it is. And you accept such responsibility with enthusiasm.

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4. You are unconventional

Being a stay-at-home dad means going against the norm or traditions of going to an office every day. You have the right to choose the way you live your life and determine how you can fulfill your obligations. You are willing to defy the conventional way to become the man you want to be within.

5. You are an expert at multitasking

Something dreadful and challenging, but being able to be the dad, the cook, the shopper, the repairer, the maintenance man, all in one can be pretty multitasking and fun. You become aware of those potentials within you that were previously untapped.

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6. You can connect with other stay-at-home dads

You can get connected with other stay-at-home dads through blogs, societies, support groups and conventions to help you share interesting and motivating experiences and get through the challenges of being a stay-at-home dad.

7. You have to teach your kids all the way

You are there to teach and tutor your children to growth. You can offer them the best in relationships, care and concern that will make them appreciate learning and education. You do not miss a bit of it whether you are homeschooling them or driving them to and from school.

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8. You will have to build trust and communication with your kids

You can create an environment where nothing is kept in secret but spoken out, because you are there to listen to them and benefit from their sense of sharing their emotions and thoughts with you.

9. You are in charge expenditure

Money that would be spent on getting a nanny or a baby sitter is saved. You are also responsible for managing expenditure and doing well to ensure that your children and the house gets the best from the resources available.

10. You have those photos to remember

Whether it is in a memory or in an actual photo you will be able to capture moments that may have been lost. As a stay-at-home dad you are somehow reconnected to your childhood and periods of your own growth. You can thus find direction, personal growth, rediscovery in being a stay-at-home dad and being there for your kids during their growth.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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