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10 Things Only Healthy Couples Understand

10 Things Only Healthy Couples Understand

It is no secret that thriving relationships take work and are only successful if both sides put in the effort to maintain them. But what are some of the keys to nourishing a healthy relationship? Read on to find out.

1. They accept their partner as he or she is

There is no pressure to change one another, because both of you know that no one is perfect and that everyone has their flaws. Instead of dwelling on the shortcomings you embrace their strengths and are grateful for finding such a great partner. And if they want to improve themselves in anyway you are 100 percent behind them, cheering them on all the way.

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2. They ask how each others’ day was

The moment that they walk through the door, they take a moment and ask how each others’ day went. It may be a quick check-in or a longer discussion, but that moment of contact is crucial for couples to reconnect after a busy day and be clued in to what happened to their significant other while they were apart.

3. They never bring up past sore points in current arguments

Couples that have healthy relationships know not to bring up sensitive topics from past arguments, because they know that it will only escalate the current disagreement. They have learned that fighting should be fair and that dwelling on past low points will only open wounds and be counterproductive to figuring out a solution for the issue at hand.

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4. They trust one another with the other gender

There is a great amount of trust in one another that they honor their relationship and not stray. They trust that if their partner has a friend of the opposite sex, that they are just a friend and nothing more. They have built this trust by demonstrating honesty with one another and expecting the same in return.

5. They fully support each others’ passions

Couple who are in a thriving relationship, support each others’ hobbies and passions without hesitation. They know that if their partner is doing something that truly makes them happy, then their relationship will directly benefit from it as a result.

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6. They know the importance of compromise

They understand that relationships take work and are willing to work things out so both parties are happy with all the decisions that are made together. Their is a mutral understanding that sometimes there is a little give and take, but that ultimately each member has only the best interests in mind for everyone involved.

7. They show appreciation for the small everyday things

Grand sweeping gestures are always exciting for couples to give to each other, but it is the small every day things that are met with deeper gratitude. Sparkling jewelry might blow her mind in the moment, but helping out with the dishes on a consistent basis will stay in her mind longer and will be met with a true appreciation that you are putting in effort to maintain the relationship.

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8. They compliment each other frequently

Couples who have flourishing relationships, know that it is important to compliment each other frequently to boost each others’ confidence. They know firsthand that nothing compares to getting praise from their significant other and they are bound to return the favor often.

9. They don’t take themselves too seriously

Couples that are able to maintain a healthy relationship make sure to add laughter to the mix, whether it is through inside jokes or having silly pet names that they can call each other at home.

10. They are straightforward with each other

An important contributing factor to healthy relationships is that the lines of communication are clear and that each party says what is on their mind, instead of beating around the bush. They know that their partner is not a mind-reader and that they have to be direct if they want their partner to know what is on their mind.

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Last Updated on June 19, 2019

6 Ways to Be a Successful Risk Taker and Take More Chances

6 Ways to Be a Successful Risk Taker and Take More Chances

I’ve stood on the edge of my own personal cliffs many times. Each time I jumped, something different happened. There were risks that started off great, but eventually faded. There were risks that left me falling until I hit the ground. There were risks that started slow, but built into massive successes.

Every risk is different, but every risk is the same. You need to have some fundamentals ready before you jump, but not too many.

It wouldn’t be a risk if you knew everything that was about to happen, would it? Here’re 6 ways to be a successful risk taker.

1. Understand That Failure Is Going to Happen a Lot

It’s part of life. Everything we do has failure attached to it. All successful people have stories of massive failure attached to them. Thinking that your risk is going to be pain free and run as smooth as silk is insane.

Expect some pain and failure. Actually, expect a lot of it. Expect the sleepless nights with crazy thoughts of insecurity that leave you trembling under the covers. It’s going to happen, no matter how positive you are about the risk you are about to take.

When failure hits, the only options are to keep going or quit. If you expect falling into a meadow of flowers and frolicking unicorns, then you’re going to immediately quit once you realize that getting to that meadow requires you to go through a rock filled cave filled with hungry bats.

2. Trust the Muse

Writing a story isn’t a big risk. It’s really just a risk on my time. So when I start writing a story, I’m scared it will be time wasted. Of course, it never really is. Even if the story doesn’t turn out fabulous, I still practiced.

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When I’ve taken risks in my life, the successful ones always seemed to happen when I followed the muse. Steven Pressfield describes the muse,

“The Muse demands depth. Shallow does not work for her. If we’re seeking her help, we can’t stay in the kiddie end. When we work, we have to go hard and go deep.”

The muse is a goddess who wants our attention and wants us to work on our passion.

If you’re taking a risk in anything, it’s assumed that there is some passion built up behind that risk. That passion, deep inside you, is the muse. Trust it, focus on it, listen to it.

The most successful articles and stories I write are the ones I’ve focused all my attention on. There were no interruptions during their creative development. I didn’t check my phone or go watch my Twitter feed. I was fully engaged in my work.

Trust the muse, focus your attention on your risk, let the ideas and path develop themselves, and leave the distractions at the side of the road.

3. Remember to Be Authentic

Taking a risk and then turning into something you’re not, is only going to lead to disaster. Whether you are risking a new relationship or new opportunity, you must be yourself throughout the entire process.

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How many times have you acted like you loved something just because the men or woman you just started going out with loved it?

For example, I’m not an office worker. I have an incredibly hard time working in a confined timeline (ie. 9-5). That’s why I write. I can do it whenever the mood strikes, I don’t have somebody breathing down my neck, telling me that I’m five minutes late, or missed a comma somewhere. I don’t have to walk on eggshells wondering if what I’m writing will get me fired or make me lose a promotion. I can just be myself, period.

One girlfriend didn’t understand that. She believed solely in the 9-5 motto, specifically something in human resources because that was a very stable job. I was scared for my future, but I stuck with the relationship because of my own insecurities and acted like I would do it to make her happy.

Here’s a tip: NEVER take away from your happiness to make somebody else satisfied (note I didn’t say happy).

Making somebody else happy will make you happy. Doing something to satisfy somebody is murder on your soul.

4. Don’t Take Any Risks While You’re Not Clearheaded

I’d been considering the risk for a couple weeks. It all sounded good. I was 22 and I could be rich in a couple of years. That’s what they were selling me, anyways.

One night, while at a house party with some friends, I found myself at a computer. A couple of my friends were standing nearby and asked me what I was doing. I told them I was considering starting my own business and it was only going to cost me $1,500.

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Of course, when a bunch of drunk people are surrounded by more drunk people, things get enthusiastic. It sounded like the best business venture in the world to everybody, including me. So I signed up and gave them my credit card number.

A few painful months and close to $4,000 dollars lost later, I quit the business. I was young and fell into the pyramid scheme trap. It was an expensive drunk decision.

Drinking heavily and making decisions has a proven track record of failure. So when you have something important to decide, don’t let your emotions take over your brain.

5. Fully Understand What You’re Risking

It was the start of my baseball comeback. I got a tryout with a professional scout and killed it. After the tryout, he talked to my girlfriend and myself, making sure we understood I would be gone for up to 6 months at a time. That strain on the relationship could be tough.

We understood. I left to play ball, chose to stay in the city I played in, and a year later we broke up. Not because of baseball, see point 3 above. Taking big risks can have massive impacts on everything in your life from relationships to money. Know what you’re risking before you take the risk.

If you believe the risk will be worth it or you have the support you need from your family, then go ahead and make the leap.

You can get more guidance on how to take calculated risks from this article: How to Take Calculated Risk to Achieve More and Become Successful

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6. Remember This Is Your One Shot Only

As far as we know officially, this is our one shot at life, so why not take some risks?

The top thing people are saddened by on their deathbeds are these regrets. They wish they did more, asked that girl in the coffee shop out, spoke out when they should have, or did what they were passionate about.

Don’t regret. Learn and experience. Live. Take the risks you believe in. Be yourself and make the world a better place.

Now go ahead, take that risk and be successful at it!

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