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10 Signs You Are Dating A Great Guy Who You Should Never Let Go

10 Signs You Are Dating A Great Guy Who You Should Never Let Go

Women all around the world agree that being in a relationship can bring a lot of delight and excitement into your life. There are many fish in the sea and the options are endless. For those ladies already in a relationship, you may wonder every once in a while whether you made the right choice by being with your significant other. What if there were some things you’ve neglected to consider? Is it time to rethink your options?

To put your mind at ease, here are a few signs that you are in fact dating a great guy who you should never let go.

1. He loves you for your dorky, awkward self

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    Not all girls can have as much confidence and grace as Marilyn Monroe. You may have an awkward laugh, or a weird way of walking. Maybe you stutter, tell bad jokes and drool in your sleep. Maybe you aren’t very comfortable around his friends and family, but at the end of every day he still finds you adorable. It’s the best feeling knowing that you don’t have to pretend you’re someone you’re not.

    2. He doesn’t run for the hills during your period

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      Some situations can’t be fixed by anyone, not even by your number one man. Let’s use your time of the month as an example. He doesn’t know what it’s like, and a large percentage of women suffer mood swings and hormonal fluctuations that can be terrifying and confusing. He can’t be expected to know exactly what to say, however he will sit you down, wrap a blanket around you and give you a massage. What more could you ask for?

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      3. He’s more real than men from the movies

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        If he has ever tried surprising you with a song or other romantic gesture, more often than not it has ended up more embarrassing than romantic. However the gestures are flattering and prove to be topics of conversation for the rest of your relationship. Let’s face it, perfect guys don’t exist, so the fact that this imperfect guy can make you happy is an indicator that you’re probably with the right guy.

        4. He never lets you go to bed angry or upset

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          All couples fight – it’s a given. Every relationship has its low points and its high points. In whatever case, it is great to have a man who makes sure you two don’t dwell on unnecessary arguments. There is nothing worse than waking up in the morning knowing that you had that fight last night and are supposed to be avoiding each other and exchanging glares the next morning. If he takes the extra effort to make sure you don’t fall asleep without making up, then you know he’s a keeper.

          5. He isn’t too scared of your dad’s shotgun

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            Many men cringe at the thought of meeting your parents, especially if they’re the scary type. When your significant other is actually enthusiastic about meeting your folks and incorporating himself into your family, then this is a sign that you’ve picked a good one. A good boyfriend will never try to isolate you from your family, so be sure you look out for this.

            6. He is the only person you need to have a good time

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              Whether you’re watching a movie, eating dinner, playing video games or just spending the whole day in bed talking about everything, he is the only person you need to have a memorable moment. Spending time with other people is great, but sometimes there’s nothing you love more than being able to spend some quality time alone with him. Your lives together will never be dull.

              7. He doesn’t burn toast

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                Enough said. Maybe all he knows how to do is flip a pancake or not burn an omelet – on the other hand he might be a better cook than you. Either way, there is nothing more attractive than a guy who knows his way around the kitchen. While you still need to spend a few hours laboring in the kitchen, it’s good to know that he’s willing to put in as much effort as you.

                8. He doesn’t doubt you, and doesn’t give you any reason to doubt him

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                  Trust is the most important part of a functional relationship, and it is vital that both of you are putting in an equal amount of effort. If you can go out late on a Friday night without him hounding you with questions the morning after about where you were, what you did and who you were with, then you know you’ve established a good trust relationship. At the same time, he doesn’t give you any reason to question who he texts and why he hasn’t called when he said he would. Whatever excuse or apology he gives you is legitimate. This is a man you should keep around for as long as possible.

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                  9. He has creative ways to let you know he loves you

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                    It’s extremely easy to say those three little words – and after a long relationship it becomes something you say almost automatically, even if you don’t mean it. At this stage, if your boyfriend is finding more creative ways to let you know he cares, then this is the sign of a keeper. Maybe he’s started leaving cute notes for you to find when you wake up in the morning. Maybe he’s started singing to you. Maybe he’s taking you on picnics. Whatever he does, it should mean the world to you.

                    10. He doesn’t have multiple personalities

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                      He doesn’t have to act ‘cool’ in front of his friends or your friends. He doesn’t pretend to be anything to impress your parents. He doesn’t have to act any differently around you to make you like him better. He’s the same person all the time—honest and consistent. You never have to worry whether he’ll act weird around particular people, and you know that the man your fell in love with such a long time ago will still be the same man in fifty years. This is a sign that you should never ever let him go.

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                        7 Questions to Ask in a Job Interview That Will Impress the Interviewer

                        7 Questions to Ask in a Job Interview That Will Impress the Interviewer

                        Recruiters might hold thousands of interviews in their careers and a lot of them are reporting the same thing—that most candidates play it safe with the questions they ask, or have no questions to ask in a job interview at all.

                        For job applicants, this approach is crazy! This is a job that you’re going to dedicate a lot of hours to and that might have a huge impact on your future career. Don’t throw away the chance to figure out if the position is perfect for you.

                        Here are 7 killer questions to ask in a job interview that will both impress your counterpart and give you some really useful insights into whether this job will be a dream … or a nightmare.

                        1. What are some challenges I might come up against this role?

                        A lesser candidate might ask, “what does a typical day look like in this role?” While this is a perfectly reasonable question to ask in an interview, focusing on potential challenges takes you much further because it indicates that you already are visualizing yourself in the role.

                        It’s impressive because it shows that you are not afraid of challenges, and you are prepared to strategize a game plan upfront to make sure you succeed if you get the job.

                        It can also open up a conversation about how you’ve solved problems in the past which can be a reassuring exercise for both you and the hiring manager.

                        How it helps you:

                        If you ask the interviewer to describe a typical day, you may get a vibrant picture of all the lovely things you’ll get to do in this job and all the lovely people you’ll get to do them with.

                        Asking about potential roadblocks means you hear the other side of the story—dysfunctional teams, internal politics, difficult clients, bootstrap budgets and so on. This can help you decide if you’re up for the challenge or whether, for the sake of your sanity, you should respectfully decline the job offer.

                        2. What are the qualities of really successful people in this role?

                        Employers don’t want to hire someone who goes through the motions; they want to hire someone who will excel.

                        Asking this question shows that you care about success, too. How could they not hire you with a dragon-slayer attitude like that?

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                        How it helps you:

                        Interviewers hire people who are great people to work with, but the definition of “great people” differs from person to person.

                        Does this company hire and promote people with a specific attitude, approach, worth ethic or communication style? Are the most successful people in this role strong extroverts who love to talk and socialize when you are studious and reserved? Does the company reward those who work insane hours when you’re happiest in a more relaxed environment?

                        If so, then this may not be the right match for you.

                        Whatever the answer is, you can decide whether you have what it takes for the manager to be happy with your performance in this role. And if the interviewer has no idea what success looks like for this position, this is a sign to proceed with extreme caution.

                        3. From the research I did on your company, I noticed the culture really supports XYZ. Can you tell me more about that element of the culture and how it impacts this job role?

                        Of course, you could just ask “what is the culture like here? ” but then you would miss a great opportunity to show that you’ve done your research!

                        Interviewers give BIG bonus point to those who read up and pay attention, and you’ve just pointed out that (a) you’re diligent in your research (b) you care about the company culture and (c) you’re committed to finding a great cultural fit.

                        How it helps you:

                        This question is so useful because it lets you pick an element of the culture that you really care about and that will have the most impact on whether you are happy with the organization.

                        For example, if training and development is important to you, then you need to know what’s on offer so you don’t end up in a dead-end job with no learning opportunities.

                        Companies often talk a good talk, and their press releases may be full of shiny CSR initiatives and all the headline-grabbing diversity programs they’re putting in place. This is your opportunity to look under the hood and see if the company lives its values on the ground.

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                        A company that says it is committed to doing the right thing by customers should not judge success by the number of up-sells an employee makes, for instance. Look for consistency, so you aren’t in for a culture shock after you start.

                        4. What is the promotion path for this role, and how would my performance on that path be measured?

                        To be clear, you are not asking when you will get promoted. Don’t go there—it’s presumptuous, and it indicates that you think you are better than the role you have applied for.

                        A career-minded candidate, on the other hand, usually has a plan that she’s working towards. This question shows you have a great drive toward growth and advancement and an intention to stick with the company beyond your current state.

                        How it helps you:

                        One word: hierarchy.

                        All organizations have levels of work and authority—executives, upper managers, line managers, the workforce, and so on. Understanding the hierarchical structure gives you power, because you can decide if you can work within it and are capable of climbing through its ranks, or whether it will be endlessly frustrating to you.

                        In a traditional pyramid hierarchy, for example, the people at the bottom tend to have very little autonomy to make decisions. This gets better as you rise up through the pyramid, but even middle managers have little power to create policy; they are more concerned with enforcing the rules the top leaders make.

                        If having a high degree of autonomy and accountability is important to you, you may do better in a flat hierarchy where work teams can design their own way of achieving the corporate goals.

                        5. What’s the most important thing the successful candidate could accomplish in their first 3 months/6 months/year?

                        Of all the questions to ask in a job interview, this one is impressive because it shows that you identify with and want to be a successful performer, and not just an average one.

                        Here, you’re drilling down into what the company needs, and needs quite urgently, proving that you’re all about adding value to the organization and not just about what’s in it for you.

                        How it helps you:

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                        Most job descriptions come with 8, 10 or 12 different job responsibilities and a lot of them with be boilerplate or responsibilities that someone in HR thinks are associated with this role. This question gives you a better sense of which responsibilities are the most important—and they may not be what initially attracted you to the role.

                        If you like the idea of training juniors, for example, but success is judged purely on your sales figures, then is this really the job you thought you were applying for?

                        This question will also give you an idea of what kind of learning curve you’re expected to have and whether you’ll get any ramp-up time before getting down to business. If you’re the type of person who likes to jump right in and get things done, for instance, you may not be thrilled to hear that you’re going to spend the first three months shadowing a peer.

                        6. What do you like about working here?

                        This simple question is all about building rapport with the interviewer. People like to talk about themselves, and the interviewer will be flattered that you’re interested in her opinions.

                        Hopefully, you’ll find some great connection points that the two of you share. What similar things drive you head into the office each day? How will you fit into the culture?

                        How it helps you:

                        You can learn a lot from this question. Someone who genuinely enjoys his job will be able to list several things they like, and their answers will sound passionate and sincere. If not….well, you might consider that a red flag.

                        Since you potentially can learn a lot about the company culture from this question, it’s a good idea to figure out upfront what’s important to you. Maybe you’re looking for a hands-off boss who values independent thought and creativity? Maybe you work better in environments that move at a rapid, exciting pace?

                        Whatever’s important to you, listen carefully and see if you can find any common ground.

                        7. Based on this interview, do you have any questions or concerns about my qualifications for the role?

                        What a great closing question to ask in a job interview! It shows that you’re not afraid of feedback—in fact, you are inviting it. Not being able to take criticism is a red flag for employers, who need to know that you’ll act on any “coaching moments” with a good heart.

                        As a bonus, asking this question shows that you are really interested in the position and wish to clear up anything that may be holding the company back from hiring you.

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                        How it helps you:

                        What a devious beast this question is! On the surface, it looks straightforward, but it’s actually giving you four key pieces of information.

                        First, is the manager capable of giving you feedback when put on the spot like this? Some managers are scared of giving feedback, or don’t think it’s important enough to bother outside of a formal performance appraisal. Do you want to work for a boss like that? How will you improve if no one is telling you what you did wrong?

                        Second, can the manager give feedback in a constructive way without being too pillowy or too confrontational? It’s unfair to expect the interviewer to have figured out your preferred way of receiving feedback in the space of an interview, but if she come back with a machine-gun fire of shortcomings or one of those corporate feedback “sandwiches” (the doozy slipped between two slices of compliment), then you need to ask yourself, can you work with someone who gives feedback like that?

                        Third, you get to learn the things the hiring manager is concerned about before you leave the interview. This gives you the chance to make a final, tailored sales pitch so you can convince the interviewer that she should not be worried about those things.

                        Fourth, you get to learn the things the hiring manager is concerned about period. If turnover is keeping him up at night, then your frequent job hopping might get a lot of additional scrutiny. If he’s facing some issues with conflict or communication, then he might raise concerns regarding your performance in this area.

                        Listen carefully: the concerns that are being raised about you might actually be a proxy for problems in the wider organization.

                        Making Your Interview Work for You

                        Interviews are a two-way street. While it is important to differentiate yourself from every other candidate, understand that convincing the interviewer you’re the right person for the role goes hand-in-hand with figuring out if the job is the right fit for you.

                        Would you feel happy in a work environment where the people, priorities, culture and management style were completely at odds with the way you work? Didn’t think so!

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