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10 Signs That Your Life Is On Track

10 Signs That Your Life Is On Track
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What’s your purpose in this world? Robert Louis Stevenson says, “To be what we are, and to become what we are capable of becoming, is the only end of life. Whether you are a senior partner in a large firm, a college dropout aspiring to be the next Steve Jobs, or a humble parent who has stepped off the career track to raise her children, it’s important to step back and take stock of your own life to see if it is headed in the right direction.

Think about the level of satisfaction you are currently experiencing in your personal and professional life. Are you truly happy? If you are, then that’s a good sign that you are doing something right. However, being happy right now doesn’t mean you are on track to becoming what you are capable of becoming. Look for these tell-tale signs that you are actually leading a meaningful life and that your life is on track.

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    1. You have great friends who care about you.

    If you have at least one true friend who has your very best interests at heart and who you trust and feel comfortable enough with to raid their refrigerator, then that’s a good sign you are on the right track. People who trust are usually trustworthy themselves. Besides, we all need true friends who will stick with us even when things get really tough.

    2. You have a tight, loving and supporting family.

    Family is like the roots of a tree. A family with deep-rooted love for one another is a strong anchor in this troubled world. If you have a tight, loving and supporting family, it means you nurture your family relationships well. Healthy family relationships are a good sign you are on the right track. The only people you can be certain will be there for you in the end are family.

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    3. You have a great job you look forward to every morning.

    When you do something you love, you do it wholeheartedly and you do it well. Unfortunately, doing what you love is only a dream for many. Arizona-based firm Ignite reports that more than 95% of workers in the U.S. are in the wrong roles. If you are passionate about your work such that the paycheck is an afterthought, then that’s a great sign your life is on track.

    4. You have a reputation that precedes you.

    If people know who you are and what you stand for even before they meet you, then that is a sign you are making an impact. You’ve got clout (as far as your reputation goes) when you are good at connecting the dots, pulling together partnerships, making acquaintances, and retaining connections. These are valuable traits that point to a good reputation and a meaningful life. A good reputation is a secret ingredient for lasting success.

    5. You have plenty of self-confidence.

    A little self-confidence can take you a long way. Steve Jobs was a college dropout, yet he built Apple Inc., one of the most valuable tech companies in the world. Jobs lacked formal technical training and real business experience, but he had plenty of self-confidence. He is quoted as saying that tinkering around in his dad’s workshop as a kid gave him “a tremendous level of self-confidence” that later encouraged him to take on more complex technological projects. If you believe and put in the effort to achieve your goals, you are on track to something good. Keep your spirits high!

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    6. You have a positive attitude toward life.

    If you look on the positive side of things and are not afraid to dream big, then that’s a good sign your life is on track. Successful people are ordinary people who dream big and make big dreams a reality. Ditch negative thoughts and emotions that bring you down like self-doubt. Instead of using negative self-talk like, “I could never do that” or “What if I fail?” encourage yourself with words like “I can do this!” Maintain a sunny disposition throughout and leave no stone unturned to make your dreams a reality.

    7. You ask questions and pay attention to the answers.

    If you love to learn and weigh different points of views objectively to better understand other perspectives, then that is a good sign you are on the right track. The most successful people in this world are really interested in what others have to say. They surround themselves with the right people and ask for opinions on things. This helps broaden their perspectives, clarify their vision, and inform their decisions. Ask intelligent questions and pay attention to the answers. This will help foster your creativity and spur progress in thought, knowledge, and drive.

    8. You don’t micro-manage everything.

    If you trust the people around you and their judgment enough to allow them to assume responsibilities, then that is a good sign you are onto something good. Everyone needs a support team to succeed—even the most competent people. Unsuccessful and unhappy people think they can do everything themselves. They don’t see how anyone else can get the job done better than they can. The truth, however, is that no one is good at everything. “Get the barriers out of the way and let people do the things they do well,” says Robert Noyce, founder of Intel.

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    9. You are a strong, independent, free spirit.

    Society likes to serve us up a very narrow interpretation of what it thinks is best for us, while often totally disregarding our truest passions and callings. If you have the courage not only to pursue your passions, but also to defend your truest dreams, then you have the stuff of success. Cultivate a strong, independent, free spirit that is not averse to risk by not being apologetic for who you are. Every one has equal rights to pursue their dreams.

    10. You quit bad habits and now have a healthy, productive lifestyle.

    Whether it is smoking, cursing or browsing the internet too much, if you finally broke away from your bad habits and now strictly have a measured, healthy and productive lifestyle, your life is certainly on track. As the saying goes, “Your health is your life.” Choose to live healthfully.

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    How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

    How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)
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    You’re standing behind the curtain, just about to make your way on stage to face the many faces half-shrouded in darkness in front of you. As you move towards the spotlight, your body starts to feel heavier with each step. A familiar thump echoes throughout your body – your heartbeat has gone off the charts.

    Don’t worry, you’re not the only one with glossophobia(also known as speech anxiety or the fear of speaking to large crowds). Sometimes, the anxiety happens long before you even stand on stage.

    Your body’s defence mechanism responds by causing a part of your brain to release adrenaline into your blood – the same chemical that gets released as if you were being chased by a lion.

    Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you overcome your fear of public speaking:

    1. Prepare yourself mentally and physically

    According to experts, we’re built to display anxiety and to recognize it in others. If your body and mind are anxious, your audience will notice. Hence, it’s important to prepare yourself before the big show so that you arrive on stage confident, collected and ready.

    “Your outside world is a reflection of your inside world. What goes on in the inside, shows on the outside.” – Bob Proctor

    Exercising lightly before a presentation helps get your blood circulating and sends oxygen to the brain. Mental exercises, on the other hand, can help calm the mind and nerves. Here are some useful ways to calm your racing heart when you start to feel the butterflies in your stomach:

    Warming up

    If you’re nervous, chances are your body will feel the same way. Your body gets tense, your muscles feel tight or you’re breaking in cold sweat. The audience will notice you are nervous.

    If you observe that this is exactly what is happening to you minutes before a speech, do a couple of stretches to loosen and relax your body. It’s better to warm up before every speech as it helps to increase the functional potential of the body as a whole. Not only that, it increases muscle efficiency, improves reaction time and your movements.

    Here are some exercises to loosen up your body before show time:

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    1. Neck and shoulder rolls – This helps relieve upper body muscle tension and pressure as the rolls focus on rotating the head and shoulders, loosening the muscle. Stress and anxiety can make us rigid within this area which can make you feel agitated, especially when standing.
    2. Arm stretches – We often use this part of our muscles during a speech or presentation through our hand gestures and movements. Stretching these muscles can reduce arm fatigue, loosen you up and improve your body language range.
    3. Waist twists – Place your hands on your hips and rotate your waist in a circular motion. This exercise focuses on loosening the abdominal and lower back regions which is essential as it can cause discomfort and pain, further amplifying any anxieties you may experience.

    Stay hydrated

    Ever felt parched seconds before speaking? And then coming up on stage sounding raspy and scratchy in front of the audience? This happens because the adrenaline from stage fright causes your mouth to feel dried out.

    To prevent all that, it’s essential we stay adequately hydrated before a speech. A sip of water will do the trick. However, do drink in moderation so that you won’t need to go to the bathroom constantly.

    Try to avoid sugary beverages and caffeine, since it’s a diuretic – meaning you’ll feel thirstier. It will also amplify your anxiety which prevents you from speaking smoothly.

    Meditate

    Meditation is well-known as a powerful tool to calm the mind. ABC’s Dan Harris, co-anchor of Nightline and Good Morning America weekend and author of the book titled10% Happier , recommends that meditation can help individuals to feel significantly calmer, faster.

    Meditation is like a workout for your mind. It gives you the strength and focus to filter out the negativity and distractions with words of encouragement, confidence and strength.

    Mindfulness meditation, in particular, is a popular method to calm yourself before going up on the big stage. The practice involves sitting comfortably, focusing on your breathing and then bringing your mind’s attention to the present without drifting into concerns about the past or future – which likely includes floundering on stage.

    Here’s a nice example of guided meditation before public speaking:

    2. Focus on your goal

    One thing people with a fear of public speaking have in common is focusing too much on themselves and the possibility of failure.

    Do I look funny? What if I can’t remember what to say? Do I look stupid? Will people listen to me? Does anyone care about what I’m talking about?’

    Instead of thinking this way, shift your attention to your one true purpose – contributing something of value to your audience.

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    Decide on the progress you’d like your audience to make after your presentation. Notice their movements and expressions to adapt your speech to ensure that they are having a good time to leave the room as better people.

    If your own focus isn’t beneficial and what it should be when you’re speaking, then shift it to what does. This is also key to establishing trust during your presentation as the audience can clearly see that you have their interests at heart.[1]

    3. Convert negativity to positivity

    There are two sides constantly battling inside of us – one is filled with strength and courage while the other is doubt and insecurities. Which one will you feed?

    ‘What if I mess up this speech? What if I’m not funny enough? What if I forget what to say?’

    It’s no wonder why many of us are uncomfortable giving a presentation. All we do is bring ourselves down before we got a chance to prove ourselves. This is also known as a self-fulfilling prophecy – a belief that comes true because we are acting as if it already is. If you think you’re incompetent, then it will eventually become true.

    Motivational coaches tout that positive mantras and affirmations tend to boost your confidents for the moments that matter most. Say to yourself: “I’ll ace this speech and I can do it!”

    Take advantage of your adrenaline rush to encourage positive outcome rather than thinking of the negative ‘what ifs’.

    Here’s a video of Psychologist Kelly McGonigal who encourages her audience to turn stress into something positive as well as provide methods on how to cope with it:

    4. Understand your content

    Knowing your content at your fingertips helps reduce your anxiety because there is one less thing to worry about. One way to get there is to practice numerous times before your actual speech.

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    However, memorizing your script word-for-word is not encouraged. You can end up freezing should you forget something. You’ll also risk sounding unnatural and less approachable.

    “No amount of reading or memorizing will make you successful in life. It is the understanding and the application of wise thought that counts.” – Bob Proctor

    Many people unconsciously make the mistake of reading from their slides or memorizing their script word-for-word without understanding their content – a definite way to stress themselves out.

    Understanding your speech flow and content makes it easier for you to convert ideas and concepts into your own words which you can then clearly explain to others in a conversational manner. Designing your slides to include text prompts is also an easy hack to ensure you get to quickly recall your flow when your mind goes blank.[2]

    One way to understand is to memorize the over-arching concepts or ideas in your pitch. It helps you speak more naturally and let your personality shine through. It’s almost like taking your audience on a journey with a few key milestones.

    5. Practice makes perfect

    Like most people, many of us are not naturally attuned to public speaking. Rarely do individuals walk up to a large audience and present flawlessly without any research and preparation.

    In fact, some of the top presenters make it look easy during showtime because they have spent countless hours behind-the-scenes in deep practice. Even great speakers like the late John F. Kennedy would spend months preparing his speech beforehand.

    Public speaking, like any other skill, requires practice – whether it be practicing your speech countless of times in front of a mirror or making notes. As the saying goes, practice makes perfect!

    6. Be authentic

    There’s nothing wrong with feeling stressed before going up to speak in front of an audience.

    Many people fear public speaking because they fear others will judge them for showing their true, vulnerable self. However, vulnerability can sometimes help you come across as more authentic and relatable as a speaker.

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    Drop the pretence of trying to act or speak like someone else and you’ll find that it’s worth the risk. You become more genuine, flexible and spontaneous, which makes it easier to handle unpredictable situations – whether it’s getting tough questions from the crowd or experiencing an unexpected technical difficulty.

    To find out your authentic style of speaking is easy. Just pick a topic or issue you are passionate about and discuss this like you normally would with a close family or friend. It is like having a conversation with someone in a personal one-to-one setting. A great way to do this on stage is to select a random audience member(with a hopefully calming face) and speak to a single person at a time during your speech. You’ll find that it’s easier trying to connect to one person at a time than a whole room.

    With that said, being comfortable enough to be yourself in front of others may take a little time and some experience, depending how comfortable you are with being yourself in front of others. But once you embrace it, stage fright will not be as intimidating as you initially thought.

    Presenters like Barack Obama are a prime example of a genuine and passionate speaker:

    7. Post speech evaluation

    Last but not the least, if you’ve done public speaking and have been scarred from a bad experience, try seeing it as a lesson learned to improve yourself as a speaker.

    Don’t beat yourself up after a presentation

    We are the hardest on ourselves and it’s good to be. But when you finish delivering your speech or presentation, give yourself some recognition and a pat on the back.

    You managed to finish whatever you had to do and did not give up. You did not let your fears and insecurities get to you. Take a little more pride in your work and believe in yourself.

    Improve your next speech

    As mentioned before, practice does make perfect. If you want to improve your public speaking skills, try asking someone to film you during a speech or presentation. Afterwards, watch and observe what you can do to improve yourself next time.

    Here are some questions you can ask yourself after every speech:

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    • How did I do?
    • Are there any areas for improvement?
    • Did I sound or look stressed?
    • Did I stumble on my words? Why?
    • Was I saying “um” too often?
    • How was the flow of the speech?

    Write everything you observed down and keep practicing and improving. In time, you’ll be able to better manage your fears of public speaking and appear more confident when it counts.

    If you want even more tips about public speaking or delivering a great presentation, check out these articles too:

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