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10 Secrets To Have An Amicable And Happy Family

10 Secrets To Have An Amicable And Happy Family

Trying to create a happy family atmosphere can sometimes feel like a challenge in today’s world. Everyone’s busy, technology seems to take over a lot of spare time, and many adults and children feel stressed. However, there are some steps you can take to keep your family happy in the modern world.

1. Eat Dinner Together Daily

Take time out from your activities to eat dinner together as a family. Talk about your day, reconnect with one another, and discuss your future plans. It’s a great way for parents and kids to stay involved in one another’s lives.

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2. Contribute to the Community as a Family

Families who contribute to their community in some way are likely to use teamwork, which can reinforce family solidarity. Whether you volunteer at a soup kitchen, attend a community clean-up event, or participate in the community Christmas parade together, doing things as a family is important.

3. Empower Your Children to Have a Voice

Telling kids, “It’s my way or the highway,” isn’t likely to yield happy results. Obviously, parents need to be in charge and need to discipline kids accordingly, but kids should have some say in the family. Listen to your child’s concerns, allow your child to offer input, and be willing to admit when you’re wrong.

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4. Let Grandma Move In

Although living with your mother-in-law may not sound like a dream come true, it can actually be really good for kids. When kids live with a grandmother in their home, they’re more likely to show concern for other people. Having an extra set of eyes and hands in the home can also take a lot of stress off parents.

5. Expect Everyone to Pitch In

Happy families don’t keep score about who should be doing what. Instead, they’re all willing to pitch in to take care of household chores and responsibilities. Make it clear that everyone needs to do their share, because that’s part of being a family.

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6. Support One Another’s Activities

Whether you’re watching a soccer game or cheering on the band, happy families support one another’s endeavors. Even if you can’t attend all of your partner or children’s activities, show excitement for their efforts. Help one another succeed by being supportive of each family member’s attempts to reach personal goals.

7. Establish Clear Rules

Happy families need clear rules about expectations and behaviors that will not be tolerated. It can be helpful to write out a list of rules and keep them displayed in the house. Create rules that emphasize the importance of treating one another with respect. Encourage every family member to participate in establishing the household rules.

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8. Spend Quality Time Together

A happy family needs to spend quality time together. That means stepping away from laptops, computers, and video games to really connect as a family. Go for walks, participate in sports, or play board games together as a family.

9. Develop Family Traditions

Family traditions can help a family feel united. Traditions don’t need to be reserved for holidays. Instead, you can create weekly or even daily family traditions.

For example, make Sunday nights family game night and take turns picking out board games. Or make a tradition at bedtime where each family members talks about the highlight of their day. Creating such traditions will help your family stay connected.

10. Hold Regular Family Meetings

Schedule family meetings at least once per month. Discuss what is going well and work on addressing problems together as a family. Use it as a time to manage the family calendar or address needs that aren’t being met. It’s a great way to teach your children problem-solving skills while you resolve problems together.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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