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10 Secrets To Have An Amicable And Happy Family

10 Secrets To Have An Amicable And Happy Family

Trying to create a happy family atmosphere can sometimes feel like a challenge in today’s world. Everyone’s busy, technology seems to take over a lot of spare time, and many adults and children feel stressed. However, there are some steps you can take to keep your family happy in the modern world.

1. Eat Dinner Together Daily

Take time out from your activities to eat dinner together as a family. Talk about your day, reconnect with one another, and discuss your future plans. It’s a great way for parents and kids to stay involved in one another’s lives.

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2. Contribute to the Community as a Family

Families who contribute to their community in some way are likely to use teamwork, which can reinforce family solidarity. Whether you volunteer at a soup kitchen, attend a community clean-up event, or participate in the community Christmas parade together, doing things as a family is important.

3. Empower Your Children to Have a Voice

Telling kids, “It’s my way or the highway,” isn’t likely to yield happy results. Obviously, parents need to be in charge and need to discipline kids accordingly, but kids should have some say in the family. Listen to your child’s concerns, allow your child to offer input, and be willing to admit when you’re wrong.

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4. Let Grandma Move In

Although living with your mother-in-law may not sound like a dream come true, it can actually be really good for kids. When kids live with a grandmother in their home, they’re more likely to show concern for other people. Having an extra set of eyes and hands in the home can also take a lot of stress off parents.

5. Expect Everyone to Pitch In

Happy families don’t keep score about who should be doing what. Instead, they’re all willing to pitch in to take care of household chores and responsibilities. Make it clear that everyone needs to do their share, because that’s part of being a family.

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6. Support One Another’s Activities

Whether you’re watching a soccer game or cheering on the band, happy families support one another’s endeavors. Even if you can’t attend all of your partner or children’s activities, show excitement for their efforts. Help one another succeed by being supportive of each family member’s attempts to reach personal goals.

7. Establish Clear Rules

Happy families need clear rules about expectations and behaviors that will not be tolerated. It can be helpful to write out a list of rules and keep them displayed in the house. Create rules that emphasize the importance of treating one another with respect. Encourage every family member to participate in establishing the household rules.

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8. Spend Quality Time Together

A happy family needs to spend quality time together. That means stepping away from laptops, computers, and video games to really connect as a family. Go for walks, participate in sports, or play board games together as a family.

9. Develop Family Traditions

Family traditions can help a family feel united. Traditions don’t need to be reserved for holidays. Instead, you can create weekly or even daily family traditions.

For example, make Sunday nights family game night and take turns picking out board games. Or make a tradition at bedtime where each family members talks about the highlight of their day. Creating such traditions will help your family stay connected.

10. Hold Regular Family Meetings

Schedule family meetings at least once per month. Discuss what is going well and work on addressing problems together as a family. Use it as a time to manage the family calendar or address needs that aren’t being met. It’s a great way to teach your children problem-solving skills while you resolve problems together.

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Last Updated on February 13, 2019

10 Things Happy People Do Differently

10 Things Happy People Do Differently

Think being happy is something that happens as a result of luck, circumstance, having money, etc.? Think again.

Happiness is a mindset. And if you’re looking to improve your ability to find happiness, then check out these 10 things happy people do differently.

Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions. -Dalai Lama

1. Happy people find balance in their lives.

Folks who are happy have this in common: they’re content with what they have, and don’t waste a whole lot of time worrying and stressing over things they don’t. Unhappy people do the opposite: they spend too much time thinking about what they don’t have. Happy people lead balanced lives. This means they make time for all the things that are important to them, whether it’s family, friends, career, health, religion, etc.

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2. Happy people abide by the golden rule.

You know that saying you heard when you were a kid, “Do unto others as you would have them do to you.” Well, happy people truly embody this principle. They treat others with respect. They’re sensitive to the thoughts and feelings of other people. They’re compassionate. And they get treated this way (most of the time) in return.

3. Happy people don’t sweat the small stuff.

One of the biggest things happy people do differently compared to unhappy people is they let stuff go. Bad things happen to good people sometimes. Happy people realize this, are able to take things in stride, and move on. Unhappy people tend to dwell on minor inconveniences and issues, which can perpetuate feelings of sadness, guilt, resentment, greed, and anger.

4. Happy people take responsibility for their actions.

Happy people aren’t perfect, and they’re well aware of that. When they screw up, they admit it. They recognize their faults and work to improve on them. Unhappy people tend to blame others and always find an excuse why things aren’t going their way. Happy people, on the other hand, live by the mantra:

“There are two types of people in the world: those that do and those that make excuses why they don’t.”

5. Happy people surround themselves with other happy people.

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    One defining characteristic of happy people is they tend to hang out with other happy people. Misery loves company, and unhappy people gravitate toward others who share their negative sentiments. If you’re struggling with a bout of sadness, depression, worry, or anger, spend more time with your happiest friends or family members. Chances are, you’ll find that their positive attitude rubs off on you.

    6. Happy people are honest with themselves and others.

    People who are happy often exhibit the virtues of honesty and trustworthiness. They would rather give you candid feedback, even when the truth hurts, and they expect the same in return. Happy people respect people who give them an honest opinion.

    7. Happy people show signs of happiness.

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      This one may sound obvious but it’s a key differentiator between happy and unhappy people. Think about your happiest friends. Chances are, the mental image you form is of them smiling, laughing, and appearing genuinely happy. On the flip side, those who aren’t happy tend to look the part. Their posture may be slouched and you may perceive a lack of confidence.

      8. Happy people are passionate.

      Another thing happy people have in common is their ability to find their passions in life and pursue those passions to the fullest. Happy people have found what they’re looking for, and they spend their time doing what they love.

      9. Happy people see challenges as opportunities.

      Folks who are happy accept challenges and use them as opportunities to learn and grow. They turn negatives into positives and make the best out of seemingly bad situations. They don’t dwell on things that are out of their control; rather, they seek solutions and creative ways of overcoming obstacles.

      10. Happy people live in the present.

      While unhappy people tend to dwell on the past and worry about the future, happy people live in the moment. They are grateful for “the now” and focus their efforts on living life to the fullest in the present. Their philosophy is:

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      There’s a reason it’s called “the present.” Because life is a gift.

      So if you’d like to bring a little more happiness into your life, think about the 10 principles above and how you can use them to make yourself better.

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