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10 Secrets To Have An Amicable And Happy Family

10 Secrets To Have An Amicable And Happy Family

Trying to create a happy family atmosphere can sometimes feel like a challenge in today’s world. Everyone’s busy, technology seems to take over a lot of spare time, and many adults and children feel stressed. However, there are some steps you can take to keep your family happy in the modern world.

1. Eat Dinner Together Daily

Take time out from your activities to eat dinner together as a family. Talk about your day, reconnect with one another, and discuss your future plans. It’s a great way for parents and kids to stay involved in one another’s lives.

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2. Contribute to the Community as a Family

Families who contribute to their community in some way are likely to use teamwork, which can reinforce family solidarity. Whether you volunteer at a soup kitchen, attend a community clean-up event, or participate in the community Christmas parade together, doing things as a family is important.

3. Empower Your Children to Have a Voice

Telling kids, “It’s my way or the highway,” isn’t likely to yield happy results. Obviously, parents need to be in charge and need to discipline kids accordingly, but kids should have some say in the family. Listen to your child’s concerns, allow your child to offer input, and be willing to admit when you’re wrong.

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4. Let Grandma Move In

Although living with your mother-in-law may not sound like a dream come true, it can actually be really good for kids. When kids live with a grandmother in their home, they’re more likely to show concern for other people. Having an extra set of eyes and hands in the home can also take a lot of stress off parents.

5. Expect Everyone to Pitch In

Happy families don’t keep score about who should be doing what. Instead, they’re all willing to pitch in to take care of household chores and responsibilities. Make it clear that everyone needs to do their share, because that’s part of being a family.

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6. Support One Another’s Activities

Whether you’re watching a soccer game or cheering on the band, happy families support one another’s endeavors. Even if you can’t attend all of your partner or children’s activities, show excitement for their efforts. Help one another succeed by being supportive of each family member’s attempts to reach personal goals.

7. Establish Clear Rules

Happy families need clear rules about expectations and behaviors that will not be tolerated. It can be helpful to write out a list of rules and keep them displayed in the house. Create rules that emphasize the importance of treating one another with respect. Encourage every family member to participate in establishing the household rules.

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8. Spend Quality Time Together

A happy family needs to spend quality time together. That means stepping away from laptops, computers, and video games to really connect as a family. Go for walks, participate in sports, or play board games together as a family.

9. Develop Family Traditions

Family traditions can help a family feel united. Traditions don’t need to be reserved for holidays. Instead, you can create weekly or even daily family traditions.

For example, make Sunday nights family game night and take turns picking out board games. Or make a tradition at bedtime where each family members talks about the highlight of their day. Creating such traditions will help your family stay connected.

10. Hold Regular Family Meetings

Schedule family meetings at least once per month. Discuss what is going well and work on addressing problems together as a family. Use it as a time to manage the family calendar or address needs that aren’t being met. It’s a great way to teach your children problem-solving skills while you resolve problems together.

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Last Updated on October 15, 2018

Why Helping Others Actually Helps Yourself

Why Helping Others Actually Helps Yourself

Helping others: it’s a fundamental part of humanity, bonding together and helping a fellow man or woman. In times of tragedy, the stories of those who help others are inspiring, such as helping the nation recover from national disasters and terrorist attacks. Some men and women even devote their lives to helping others, from the police force that protects our cities, to the fire departments who run into burning buildings, to the service men and women who risk their lives for the common good.

“No one has ever become poor by giving.” ― Anne Frank, diary of Anne Frank

But helping others isn’t limited to these grand gestures or times of tribulation. Helping others can be done each and every day. And contrary to what you may have heard, helping others doesn’t always have to be a selfless act. It’s important to understand that helping others can actually help yourself. No matter what the motivation, getting out and helping others is the key. So in that spirit of motivation, here are 5 reasons why helping others actually helps yourself.

1. Quid Pro Quo

When you help someone, they will be more likely to help you. This is the basic, unspoken agreement that fuels nearly every move. I’ll spend my entire day lugging boxes, but you owe me. It’s much easier to find help when someone knows you’d do the same for them. They may not always live up to their end of the bargin, and you may not either. But if you help enough people and do many good deeds, it will be given back when needed.

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2. Karma goes both ways.

All too often, the idea of Karma is described in a negative way. If you do bad, bad will come find you. But it works the other way too. When you are a good person and help people, good things seem to happen. And while you may not believe in an inter-connected universe that rewards good deeds, there is something to be said about how helping others changes your perspective. When you’re helping others, you will often feel better about yourself, increasing the likelihood that your next experience will be a positive one, rather than a negative one.

3. Doing good feels good.

It’s maybe the most cited benefit of doing good: you’ll feel great. Helping others is a great way to feel better about yourself. Seeing a smile or even tears of joy makes it all worth it. It’s as simple as that.

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4. Good publicity is the best publicity.

People notice when you’re doing good. It may not be the reason you help out, but someone is always watching. Even the simplest gesture can make an awesome impression.

When I was in college, I had a class that helped out at a school for a full day. I worked with a small group of high school students who were incredibly interested in writing, and I had a great time. I asked the teacher if I could come back on my own time and work with these students to finish this project we were working on, to which she agreed.

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I went two more times that week, thinking nothing more about it. Fast forward a few weeks: I received a letter in the mail stating I had been chosen as a Presidential Grant Recipient for the summer and received a $2,000 stipend to work with a group of students and professors on a research project over the summer. I was floored, as I hadn’t even applied. I was nominated by that teacher who appreciated the work I did with her students. It wasn’t expected, but helping others ended up opening a door I never would have known was even available.

5. Helping others looks good on a resume or application.

Is your resume looking a little thin? Does your college application need a bit of pizzaz? Volunteering your time and energy to help others makes your resume and applications look as good as it makes you feel. Hiring managers look favorably on volunteer work and many acceptance committees use it to separate similar candidates. So read to some first graders, volunteer at the homeless shelter, and volunteer at your local Boys and Girl Club. Your resume will thank you.

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Featured photo credit: xavi talleda via flickr.com

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