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10 Reasons Why Simple Boyfriends Are the Best

10 Reasons Why Simple Boyfriends Are the Best

Somewhere in between the lines, we have this sort of crush or attraction to someone who is handsome, popular and sophisticated. We believe such a guy would meet our standards and expectations, and hopefully offer us an amazing relationship.

But the best things in life are not always the complicated things. Sometimes, simplicity is better. Adoration, charm, sensitivity—these are elements you will find in a simple boyfriend. Even if he is opposite to all that you expect in a man, he will always provide you with some of the simple and most amazing things you will ever need.

1. He may not be rich, but he’s also not expensive.

He is concerned with the simple things in life. He isn’t considered with sophistication and luxury, but rather, he gets lots of enjoyment from simpler activities. Meaningful moments are defined by days when the two of you play chess, board games or scrabble. He won’t buy you the most expensive gifts, but he does buy you sensitive, meaningful ones.

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2. He is super laid back, which means he can deal with his emotions.

He is not the sort of person who gets mad at every slight move you make. He knows you will make mistakes. And even when you scream at him to leave you alone for good, he won’t scream or find a way to pay you back tit-for-tat.

3. He does ridiculous things, but he knows how to make you laugh.

You both share laughs at the ridiculous things he does. Sometimes he surprises you and catches you off guard. He wants to see and make you laugh. And he would do anything to make this happen because he is concerned about your happiness.

4. He may not know lots of facts, but he understands what you need.

He knows that you need attention and love rather than being bullied. He cares about you, and a simple hug from him gets you through difficult moments.

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5. He isn’t very needy, which means he isn’t selfish.

He is not closely guarding you and he doesn’t want you to himself, alone. He knows you also have to be with your family and loved ones. Special moments can also be with others, not just him, and this he knows.

6. He doesn’t talk a lot, but he means what he says.

He keeps to his word. Remember that day you needed someone to help you babysit your siblings or to help you clean the house, and he said he would come to help? He followed through without question. He keeps to his word. He is a person of character rather than cheap talk.

7. He isn’t necessarily spontaneous, but he is someone you can count on.

He is dependable. If you are in trouble or you have a secret to keep, he is someone who knows how to handle it. He cares about you and because of this, he will do anything to make sure you are always safe.

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8. He like to live slowly, but this also means he is really patient.

He will listen to you. He gives you alone time if you need it. He is calm and knows that eventually, things will work out for the best. He doesn’t have to haul demands at you or put you under any undue pressure. He is patient.

9. His gestures are simple, but they show that he respects you.

He cares about how you feel. He treats you like a queen. And he loses respect for those who treat you poorly. He is a gentleman. His respect is apparent through simple things, like opening the door for you, picking up those things you drop, or standing up for you.

10. He says what he thinks, but this means he’s honest with you.

He is truthful. He doesn’t have to lie to you. It is not about getting things his way; he wants to be straight with you from the beginning. Having a simple boyfriend means absolute clarity from the beginning and he will never jeopardize or taint your relationship with lies.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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