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10 Incredible Revelations From Animated Movies That Can Change Your Life

10 Incredible Revelations From Animated Movies That Can Change Your Life

“Stories affirm who we are. We all want affirmations that our lives have meaning. And nothing does a greater affirmation than when we connect through stories.” – Andrew Stanton.

Below I would like to explore the 10 revelations I’ve experienced from the stories of 10 animated movies that inspired, provoked and touched me.

1. Arthur Christmas

Takeaway: You will get what you work for, not what you wish for.

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    In “Arthur Christmas,” unlike his brother, Steve, Arthur never aspires to be a Santa but is compassionately concerned with delivering a missing gift to little Gwen Hines, which is the core requisite to be a Santa. At the end of the film he becomes Santa. So the film’s affirmation is to work for what you believe in not just wish for it. Success will arrive when you are the least concerned about it — because you might have deserved it by then.

    Defining Moment:

    When Gwen Hines eagerly gets down to grab the gift under the Christmas tree from Santa.

    After a quarrel amongst the Clauses as to who is going to give Gwen her gift, the family realize that Arthur is the only one who truly cares about Gwen’s feelings and he is allowed to deliver the gift.

    Gwen Hines: Santa brought me the bike I wanted!

    [Then as Arthur is watching little Gwen unwrapping the present in awe …]

    Grand Santa: Steve, you deserve to be Santa, but Steve, I wonder if Gwen is right.

    [Then Steve accepts his brother as the new Santa.]

    2. Rio

    Takeaway: Someone special will always make you special.

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      Many of us worry about choosing our partner, but make sure you opt for someone who inspires you, supports you and makes you feel special, not someone who drains energy out of you. Someone special will always make you special. In “Rio,” Blu is a pet and can’t fly initially, but having met Jewel he does things he couldn’t do earlier. Jewel literally transforms Blu in all ways and makes him special.

      Defining Moment:

      When Jewel falls out of a plane and can’t fly due to injury, Blu literally jumps out to protect her, being aware of the fact that he can’t fly.

      Jewel: Blu, you are crazy. What are you doing?

      Blu: I’m not gonna let you go. We are chained-to-each-other birds, remember?

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      [Then magic happens, Blu starts flying…]

      Jewel: Blu, you are flying … you are flying!

      Blu: Yeah, I’m flying, ohoooooo … I’m really flying! You are right: I’m not an ostrich, I’m not an ostrich!

      3. Finding Nemo

      Takeaway: Go on a quest by faith, not by sight. You will be rewarded nevertheless.

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        Marianne Williamson famously said, “As we are liberated from our own fears, our presence automatically liberates others.” So if you believe in something, sometimes you have to just go by faith, not by sight. Had Marlin never gone on his quest, he wouldn’t have found Nemo. Had Nemo not tried to escape from the aquarium, he wouldn’t have reached his father. Both trusted their gut instincts and defied the odds to come through, finally reaping love.

        Defining Moment: 

        After rescuing the fish from a trap, Nemo lies still on the ocean bed while his dad, Marlin, rushes eagerly to his little son.

        Somehow this subtext moment brings me tears, particularly the mere mention of Sandy Plankton. It’s not actually about Sandy Plankton, it’s all about the daring quest of Marlin against the vast and deep ocean.

        Nemo: Daddy, I won’t hate you anymore.

        Marlin: Oh, no, no, no. I’m so sorry, Nemo.

        Marlin: Hey. Guess what?

        Nemo: What?

        Marlin: Sea turtles? I met one, and he was a hundred and fifty years old.

        Nemo: Hundred and fifty?

        Marlin: Yup.

        Nemo: Oh. ‘Cause Sandy Plankton said that they only live to be a hundred.

        Marlin: Sandy Plankton? You think I would travel the whole ocean and not know as much as Sandy Plankton? He was a hundred and fifty, not a hundred.

        4. Kung Fu Panda

        Takeaway: To be someone special, you just have to believe that you are special.

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          There is no secret to anything, it just takes belief. Once you believe that, you can make anything happen. This is how Po realizes the true meaning of his own reflection in the Dragon Scroll in “Kung Fu Panda.” Belief is everything. And once that belief becomes a deep conviction, things begin to happen at your will and nothing can stop you.

          Defining Moment:

          Having lost hope from an empty Dragon Scroll, Po tries to vacate the village along with his father, Mr. Ping, while he reveals the secret ingredient of the secret soup.

          Mr. Ping: The secret ingredient is … nothing!

          Po: Huh?

          Mr. Ping: You heard me. Nothing! There is no secret ingredient.

          Po: Wait; wait … it’s just plain old noodle soup? You don’t add some kind of special sauce or something?

          Mr. Ping: Don’t have to. To make something special you just have to believe it’s special.

          [Po looks at the scroll again, and sees his reflection in it.]

          Po: There is no secret ingredient! [Goes to fight with Tylon.]

          5. Ratatouille  

          Takeaway: Not everyone can become a great artist, but a great artist can come from anywhere.

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            There is an artist in everyone but many of us are afraid to take the leap, doubting our abilities. Nobody is entitled to become a great artist based on personal advantages and vested interests, but everyone can become an artist provided they are decisive and passionate about it. It’s all about choice, not about opportunities. If a rat could become a fine chef in “Ratatouille,” why can’t we become anything we aspire to be? You may argue that it’s just a fiction, but every fiction is a figment of someone’s imagination, inspired by truth.

            Defining Moment:

            When Anton Ego writes a critique about the new Chef Ratatouille defying his own conventions.

            Anton Ego: The world is often unkind to new talent, new creations. The new needs friends. Last night, I experienced something new: an extraordinary meal from a singularly unexpected source. To say that both the meal and its maker have challenged my preconceptions about fine cooking is a gross understatement. They have rocked me to my core. In the past, I have made no secret of my disdain for Chef Gusteau’s famous motto, “Anyone can cook.” But I realize, only now do I truly understand what he meant. Not everyone can become a great artist; but a great artist can come from anywhere.

            6. Cars

            Takeaway: The worst part in your life could turn out to be the best part later.

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              Lightning McQueen, the super race car in the film, accidentally ends up in a small town called Radiator Springs. He is desperate to win the Piston Cup Race, which is going to be held in Los Angeles in a week, but he is forced to stay in the small town until he mends the road he destroyed. However, after initial hesitation, he begins to develop a beautiful bonding with the people there and he finds something beyond Piston Cup: love and family. “Cars” had a very simple lesson to tell: sometimes the worst possible things that happen in your life could turn out to be the best ones later. You may not understand why initially, but later you realize those moments actually define you.

              Defining Moment:

              Mater: I knew it! I knew I made a good choice!

              Lightning McQueen: In what?

              Mater: My best friend. [Referring to Lightning McQueen.]

              7. Despicable me

              Takeaway: It’s all about family.

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                Family is not an important thing: it’s everything. Life is all about human bonding. Stop searching fanatically for other possessions and just find your “family.” In “Despicable Me,” Gru desperately wants to steal the moon, but in due course, after adopting three little kids for selfish gains, he paradoxically finds a love that changes his perceptions forever. He is not the same person anymore.

                Defining Moment: 

                When Gru reads a made up story of his own to the three little kids in in a moment of retrospection.

                Gru: [reading the book he wrote] One big unicorn, strong and free, thought he was happy as he could be. Then three little kittens came around and turned his whole life upside down. They made him laugh, they made him cry. He never should have said goodbye. And now he knows he can never part from those three little kittens that changed his heart.

                8. Epic

                Takeaway: We are many leaves from one tree, nobody is alone.

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                  A lot of us worry about circumstances that demand our resilience, and we feel self-pity, telling ourselves, “I’m alone.” But for your kind information, you’re not alone. And the world out there is not as bad as you think. Whenever you are feeling alone, depressed and hopeless, don’t worry. Keep on trying and seek help from people in all the ways you can. You’ll be never left alone; actually, we all are connected.

                  Defining Moment:

                  When Nod comes to rescue Ronin while he is trying to protect the pod from dying.

                  Mandrake: What’s that little saying you people have? “Lots of leaves, something, something …” Very inspiring. But in the end, every leaf falls and dies alone.

                  [Lifts his sword to kill Ronin, but right before it hits, a leaf man sword blocks its way in the nick of time. It proves to be Nod.]

                  Nod: No one is alone. Not even him. 

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                  9. How to Train Your Dragon

                  Takeaway: Never judge others cynically.

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                    Judging is easy but understanding is difficult, that is the reason most of us are quick to judge. Before leaping to judgment, try to understand others’ perspective. You never know what they might have been going through. In “How to Train Your Dragon,” Stoick has fixed notions based on his prejudices, but Hiccup tries to understand dragons from their perspective. Once he does that, the whole island is saved and dragons become residents. A considered understanding without judging is all we need for the betterment of our lives. 

                    Defining Moment:

                    When Stoick finds out that Hiccup is actually trying to defend Toothless, his dragon.

                    Hiccup: I screwed up. I should have told you before now; just … take this out on me, be mad at me, but please, just don’t hurt Toothless!

                    Stoick: [shocked] The dragon? That’s what you’re worried about? Not the people you almost killed?

                    Hiccup: H-he was just protecting me! He’s not dangerous!

                    Stoick: They’ve killed hundreds of us!

                    Hiccup: And we’ve killed thousands of them! They defend themselves, that’s all! They raid us because they have to! If they don’t bring enough food back, they’ll be eaten themselves! There’s, something else on their island, Dad, it … It’s a dragon like …

                    10. Kung Fu Panda 2

                    Takeaway: Know yourself first.

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                      It’s all about you. Carl Jung famously said, “Knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing with the darknesses of other people.” Once you discover yourself, nothing seems to bother you, like Po in “Kung Fu Panda 2.” From the beginning of the film, Po is always searching for inner peace. Once he finds it, he can face anything in the world, even the deadly weapon he couldn’t face before. It’s a beautiful metaphor to explain that one has to fight with one’s inner demons first. Once you do that, demons from outside don’t actually matter.

                      Defining Moment:

                      The final confrontation when Po ruins everything that Shen dreamed of.

                      Shen: How did you find peace? I took away your parents, everything. I scarred you for life.

                      Po: See that’s the thing, Shen, scars heal.

                      Shen: No, they don’t. Wounds heal.

                      Po: Oh, yeah? What do scars do? They fade, I guess …

                      Shen: I don’t care what scars do!

                      Po: You should, Shen. You got to let go of the stuff from the past because it just doesn’t matter! The only thing that matters is what you choose to be now.

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                      Can a Dysfunctional Family Become Functional?

                      Can a Dysfunctional Family Become Functional?

                      A dysfunctional family is more than disagreement or constant arguments. Anything from plain neglect, to abuse and even verbal and physical violence is the everyday experience of those who are part of a dysfunctional family.

                      You know how this looks:

                      • Parents constantly comparing children.
                      • Siblings in conflict because of tolerated bullying.
                      • Domestic violence.
                      • Adultery…
                      • And many others.

                      For all the members, this will mean emotional pain and even trauma; which, in case it doesn’t get resolved, will have a detrimental effect on the individual’s personality and development.

                      Needless to say, the younger members are the most vulnerable, but that doesn’t mean the parents are out of danger, as most commonly the parents play the roles of abuser-codependent, and in some cases, both parts inflicting pain on one another.

                      Most like to think these problems stem from deep-seated issues, and that therefore it’s pretty much impossible to deal with them.

                      This is only true for families not willing to do what it takes, for if only a single member is determined and knows how to do it, the whole family can do a lot of progress.

                      In this article, I’ll break down for you the basic steps of fixing a dysfunctional family. Although it may seem hopeless, it is possible to turn things around.

                      If you have ever felt in this position, or if you know somebody who is, this article is for you.

                      How to fix a dysfunctional family

                      In a few words the solution for a dysfunctional family lies in dropping the ego, focusing on the solution, switching blame for responsibility and doing the work as a unity, for the good of the whole family.

                      And this will accomplish things you once only saw as a dream.

                      Dropping the ego? Switching blame for responsibility? Doing the work? What does all this mean?

                      It’s simple. In a nutshell, it’s that which will allow you to turn a dysfunctional family into a functional one.

                      Let’s take a look at how exactly this can be done. And near the end we will also talk about what you can do in a dysfunctional family with cynical traits.

                      Dysfunctional families where not only problems are well-known, but also nobody seems to want a fix or openly decide to perpetuate the harmful behaviors. Such as the case of abuse and physical violence.

                      There is also a solution for these, it’s just not what you are expecting…

                      Dysfunctional… Or just average?

                      Most families are dysfunctional, though at varying degrees of dysfunctionality.

                      The milder cases, are just marked by “typical” comically-shrouded bullying or lack of interest in other members’ development or wellbeing.

                      You can know a family is dysfunctional if their interactions are anything different than cooperation, solidarity, care and support. But let’s get more specific…

                      A dysfunctional family is one in which members directly or indirectly suffer emotional and/or physical harm inflicted by other members of their family. Most commonly, perpetrated by the parents.

                      Even harmful actions as “passive” as neglect, which is inflicted by inaction rather than action, signifies a dysfunction within the family.

                      Dysfunctional families have conflicts such as:

                      • Unrealistic expectations
                      • Lack of interest and time spent together
                      • Sexism
                      • Utilitarianism
                      • Lack of empathy
                      • Unequal or unfair treatment
                      • Disrespect towards boundaries
                      • Control Issues
                      • Jealousy
                      • Verbal and physical abuse
                      • Violence and even sexual misconduct or abuse

                      You may think a dysfunctional family has very little or nothing to do with personal productivity, but you would be wrong in thinking this way…

                      If a person is not emotionally well, she will not be able to perform as desired, as the emotional harm that has been inflicted will hinder everyday performance in the way of inability to concentrate, lack of mental clarity and low levels of inspiration, motivation and discipline.

                      Having a functional family does exactly the opposite: It creates productive members with no emotional baggage.

                      How to turn it around

                      When you’re part of a dysfunctional family you know it. You can quickly identify in other members the behaviors and conflicts that create the dysfunction.

                      But just in case you’re having trouble telling functional from dysfunctional I will tell you the following:

                      One of the easiest ways you can recognize if you are in a dysfunctional family is to survey your won feelings.

                      We often overlook this, but have you stopped to ask yourself how you feel?

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                      As cheesy as it may sound it really sheds a lot of light on the subject.

                      What behaviors, actions and attitudes in your family you wish were better?

                      Do you think certain behaviors and actions from your family marked you in the past?

                      Sadly, we cannot go back to the past to correct it. But we can do a lot in the present…

                      Correction is possible

                      In order to fix a dysfunctional family, you must start by putting an end to the behaviors and actions that are affecting you.

                      Verbalize it.

                      All members of the dysfunctional family have one issue in common: They don’t put a stop to the harm.

                      Whenever you feel your boundaries being overstepped there is just one single word you have to remember: STOP.

                      This is the door to a better, more functional family, because after this, comes the fix.

                      But first you have to identify and make others know where exactly lies the problem.

                      So go ahead and fearlessly start with “Stop”, followed by your expression of dissatisfaction.

                      Putting it to work in real life

                      In real life it would be something like this:

                      “OK, stop! Every time you belittle me I feel you don’t care. I need attention and respect, and it is your responsibility as my family to provide them to me”

                      Or:

                      “Stop. When you compare me with my cousin it hurts, I feel like I don’t matter and that’s not ok. I ask you to stop doing it.

                      Or:

                      “Please stop. When you start yelling all respect is lost and it turns into a battle of who can do it louder. Don’t raise your voice and let’s work this out the way humans do”.

                      As you can see, here you start by putting a stop to the toxic behavior when it arises. And afterwards you verbalize why it’s wrong and what needs of you need to be fulfilled.

                      This is what you have to remember:

                      1-Stop.

                      2-Why it’s wrong?

                      3-What you need.

                      And this will also work well in case you need to do it for another family member.

                      It’s a family thing

                      A dysfunctional family cannot be fixed by one member alone.

                      Yes, a single member can initiate progress and be the leader of the change. But in order to completely become functional all members must contribute to the solution.

                      In other words, you will need cooperation…

                      So don’t be afraid of asking for it!

                      Approach your family member and ask to be listened.

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                      We sometimes feel our needs are “not that important” or we simply believe they won’t listen. But thinking like this would be like being defeated at an unfought battle.

                      You will be amazed by how much people listen when you voice your needs, especially if it implies showing yourself open, vulnerable and in need.

                      It’s not a free-for-all battle

                      In order to get your family to cooperate, first you must fix your individual relationships with every member of the family. Remember: Relationships are always between two people, and two people only.

                      No matter how complex, the quality of a multi-member relationship (like a family) will always depend on the quality of the individual relationships.

                      Once you have straightened the relationship with every member of the dysfunctional family you will be able to better communicate with other members and help in the betterment of their individual relationship.

                      And this is where we will talk about the fix itself. The one I mentioned in the introduction…

                      The method

                      1. Drop the ego

                      Wherever there is conflict there is ego.

                      You cannot fix a relationship where there is ego, because the ego will want to win. Always. Yours and the other person.

                      Ego craves control and satisfaction, and in many cases, to establish dominance.

                      What does this have to do with a dysfunctional family? Everything. Ego will interfere with every plan you have to fix it.

                      It will make people suborn and defensive. And it will also make them drop responsibility. This is why, the first step is to drop the ego.

                      After you make sure you are not going to allow your ego to interfere you must work to make the other person do the same. How? By speaking from the heart…

                      Tell the other person how important all this is to you.

                      Tell the other person that it’s not a matter of arguing, but just working things out together.

                      Point out how it is not possible for you to do it alone.

                      And ask for sincere attention without any desire of opposition, because what you are doing is by no means in the hopes of harming the other person, but just to better the relationship and stop the damage being dealt to you.

                      You will have to point out the mistakes you need corrected, that’s for sure. And that leads me to the next point…

                      2. Not blame, but responsibility

                      When talking about others’ mistakes we often use an accusatory tone. And that’s natural, it’s what things should be like if ego was not present.

                      But since we are all creatures of ego, this immediately brings the shields up. And then unsheathes the swords…

                      When we blame others they automatically enter a defensive state, and this only leads to a failed negotiation.

                      What you need to do is to shift from blame to responsibility. And even that will have to be done carefully!

                      Instead of telling them off or demanding change or complaining, calmly point what the problem with their behavior is.

                      As much as this feels contradictory, also make them feel understood. You know how difficult it is to accept a mistake, so just make them feel it’s no big fuzz… which does not mean it’s ok, but it takes tension off.

                      You will do something like this:

                      “Hello dad. Can I talk with you for a minute? I really need to tell you something.

                      I have been feeling pretty sad lately and I know this is something you do care about.

                      You see, whenever I talk about my accomplishments you mention something else that makes my achievement pale in comparison.

                      I know you don’t do this intentionally and I know you might have not realized this until now, but I want to let you know this really brings me down.

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                      It would mean a lot to me if you could stop doing it, and it would help better our relationship, because this has already forced me to distance myself from you. And I don’t want that, I want a good, healthy relationship with you”

                      What happened here?

                      We started off with making it something important, something that needs both time and attention. Then we openly show ourselves vulnerable, just as we are.

                      We also mention why he should listen, and shove our feelings there again, because they are important.

                      We describe the issue with no attachment and with no hostile intention. It’s just a description.

                      And then we take the blame off. Just before we assign responsibility without actually saying it.

                      You are not blaming him directly, but you are pointing out the inevitable fact that his actions are causing a dysfunctionality. He is now responsible for changing.

                      This is what “switching blame for responsibility” means. What comes next? Doing the work!

                      3. Doing the work

                      What would any of this mean if, in the end, nothing changes? Exactly, nothing!

                      This is why you must follow up with every change that needs to be done.

                      Do so in a manner that is not hostile. Bring it up in a casual manner, and emphasizing how you both reached an agreement and how that is important to the family.

                      If the person doesn’t follow up don’t hesitate to bring it up again, and tell them you feel disappointed that your honest try at it was not listened.

                      It may even be a subject in itself, and therefore the need for another conversation.

                      “When you go back to old habits it shows that you didn’t really care about what I said. But back in real life you just reinforce how much contempt you show towards me and my feelings.

                      I talk with you because I care. Because although it would be easier for me to just distance myself from you I rather do my part in nurturing this relationship.

                      But there is just so much I can do, if you refuse to do your part I can do nothing else.”

                      You need very clear and positive communication in order to make this work.

                      Love is all you need

                      You must remember that in order for a dysfunctional family to become functional, all the work needs to stem from love.

                      That is the single one requirement for all this to work: Love.

                      And what happens if it simply is not there?

                      What happens if, nobody is willing to do what it takes?

                      What happens if a member of the family refuses to change and is happy with the harm he or she is dealing?

                      There is only one thing you can do:

                      To break away.

                      Let’s be honest, people, especially adults, are very difficult to change.

                      There is a Jewish proverb that I love, which sums it up like this:

                      “We spend the rest of our lives trying to unlearn what we learned before we were 7”

                      If you find it very hard to change the very traits that make your family dysfunctional or if it’s simply impossible, you still have a card up your sleeve…

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                      Although nobody likes to beak away from family members, we must remember we have a responsibility with ourselves as individuals, before any relationship with anyone.

                      You have the responsibility of making yourself happy and free. Because you matter as an individual, regardless of any relationships you have, be it family, friendship or romantic.

                      Putting distance

                      So in case you are dealing with a family member who is simply unwilling to change take both physical and emotional distance.

                      What do I mean?

                      Learn, first, to take their damage in a detached manner.

                      Don’t let it hurt you further. Instead take a deep breath and distance yourself emotionally.

                      Don’t be attached to feelings such as “Why doesn’t she love me?” or “What did I do to deserve this?” or “If he wasn’t like that my life would be perfect”.

                      Simply refuse to keep participating in the emotional downward spiral and accept, even if it’s painful” that there is nothing you can do. Accept that even without that relationship you are whole, you are worthy of love and respect.

                      They are their responsibility and you are yours. So decide what is best for you.

                      Realize it only comes down to two possibilities:

                      I keep the relationship and therefore accept the abuse. Or…

                      I choose my peace of mind.

                      And don’t let your mind fool you. We often think that since we all are imperfect, we must take the good and the bad behaviors of people. And we are especially forgiving towards our family…

                      Well, guess what? We are also responsible adults who are aware and must own to their acts. Never excuse abuse or violence or transgression towards you or anybody else.

                      Choose your happiness and if possible, also distance yourself physically, as it will increase your peace of mind tenfold.

                      How to prevent it

                      There are two key concepts you must bear in mind in order to prevent the dysfunctionality of a family:

                      • To be completely aware of one’s own mistakes and not allow them to impact others and…
                      • To make sure our SO’s are also on the same channel before creating a family (i.e. having children)

                      Dysfunctional families are the product of irresponsible paternity, for the decades-long unresolved emotional conflict ends up surfacing in the family inevitably, and it will for sure harm those who least deserve it: Innocent children.

                      You may notice we went from talking about family, to talking about individual relationships, to talking about you. We went from “them” to “us” to “me”.

                      Why? Because in the end you have the power to fix a dysfunctional family. To correct the mistakes you have in yours and to prevent dysfunctionalities if you don’t have a family but plan to create one.

                      Priorities and clear thought

                      You may be part of a dysfunctional family, but that does not mean you are powerless or that you have to suffer the consequences.

                      You learned today how it’s all a matter of priorities and thinking clearly.

                      You learned that, if love exists, everything is possible. You learned that even when there is no love and no fix for your dysfunctional family, there are still things you can do. It’s a matter of choosing your peace, because you deserve it.

                      Everything will be better if you apply this knowledge. If you talk to that problematic family member. If you help them see the harm they are doing. If you make sure they do change and treat you the way you need to be treated…

                      If you choose yourself over that toxic family member. If you refuse to justify the harm that others can do to yourself. If you realize the most important relationship you have is with yourself.

                      And lastly, that you also have to be aware of your actions and be open to criticism. Because we might be unknowingly harming others. And that would be us creating a dysfunctionality. Don’t allow it to happen.

                      Dysfunctional families are not impossible to fix. It just takes love, cooperation and responsibility.

                      But if you tried and those elements are not present, just choose yourself instead.

                      Featured photo credit: Xavier Mouton Photographie via unsplash.com

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