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Last Updated on April 19, 2021

How to Effectively Find Your Life’s Purpose

How to Effectively Find Your Life’s Purpose
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We’re all stuck in a vicious cycle of living life without ever focusing on our life’s purpose. We’re always in search of ways to improve the quality of the few decades that we have to live in this world.

What if I told you that you’ve been looking in the wrong place this entire time?

There’s more to life than the daily grind. Yet, we’re so involved in the mainstream route of living that we forget to ever look past it.

It’s usually when people have lived their first 3 decades of life and fulfilled the usual “requirements” of their society that they begin to feel the emptiness. Well, you’ve had your education, built a career, got married, started a family, but now what? What’s the purpose of it all?

If the dilemma has hit you hard, you’ve come to the right place. Grab a glass of water, take a deep breath, and read through this article with attention.

Understanding Life’s Purpose

To understand YOUR life’s purpose, you need to first understand what life’s purpose is.

Be very clear on one thing:

Life’s purpose isn’t a clear cut given instruction manual that you’re going to find in a treasure hunt. It isn’t a universal truth that applies to everyone.

Everybody’s life has a different meaning. In fact, even one human’s life purpose evolves with time. Maybe when you’ve reached one stepping stone, it will lead you to another, and this way your goal setting and aim keeps changing with time.

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So, if you’re expecting to find a long explanation of what exactly you should be doing in life, you need to shift your mindset. You have to let your unconscious mind take the lead. Let it give you a push in the right direction so that you can then make conscious efforts to fulfill your purpose.

With that being said, you shouldn’t shy away from making all possible efforts to figure out why you were born into this world. It’s never too late to understand the meaning of life.

What’s even better is that you don’t have to go far to get your answers. You don’t need to read through a hundred inspirational books or listen to spiritual lectures (unless you want to).

The answer is within you.

All you have to do is answer some simple questions about yourself. Pay attention to what your mind, heart, and body are trying to communicate. This simple effort can help you find the purpose that you’re looking for.

What Makes You Look for a Life Purpose?

You didn’t just click on this post aimlessly. You were intrigued. Your interest has kept you reading this far. So you can’t say it was a coincidence or a meaningless read.

You could’ve been living your normal life reading or listening to something else. But what made you want to know more about your life’s purpose? What triggered your mind to pay attention to this issue?

On the surface, the click on this post was a random act. But that’s not actually how your mind works. Sit down and think about the trail that led you to this point.

Go through all the events, occasions, talks, thoughts, and occurrences that made you think about the meaning of life, even for a split second. You’ll have to think hard, of course, but once a trail starts developing in your head, you’ll find the connection yourself.

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Even if you think this was the first time you thought about this issue, maybe it is your mental state that encouraged you to find out more.

When you start pushing your brain to think in this direction, not only will you be able to find the required links, but you’ll also gradually start to make meaning out of these connections. This is going to serve as the biggest anchor point for you to find the final answer.

What Are You Most Passionate About?

Everybody is passionate about something in life. Find out what this thing is for you.

This isn’t hard to do at all. You just have to notice the things that you always look forward to. For example, if you’re always excited about the annual family trip, your passion can be traveling or your relationship with your family.

Pay attention to figure out why you’re passionate about these things.

What Do You Want to be Most Passionate About?

You may or may not have a passion in life already. Regardless, there is always something that you wish you could spend more time doing.

Think about what things you want to be more eager about. Your life’s purpose is hidden somewhere in these things[1].

What Drains You?

It’s time to focus on some negatives now. What you need to focus on here are the things that exhaust you physically or mentally. They don’t necessarily have to be chores or tasks that you dislike. You may enjoy them, but, as a result, you feel drained. Due to this final feeling of an extreme low, the small amount of happiness you felt doing the task is overridden.

These low-lows are not just any lows. Everyone goes through ups and downs. Either of these feelings fades with time. However, the low-lows seem to take away all your energy and motivation.

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This category can include work tasks, house chores, certain people, and pretty much anything else. Once you can put your finger on such draining parts of your life, it’s time to move far away from them. This sense of tiredness that you feel is a sign from your body, mind, and heart that this isn’t the right thing for you.

What Does Your Heart Agree to Do?

You’re not looking for the opposite of low-lows here. This question connects to your beliefs, values, and morals.

We’ve all been brought up with certain values that stick with us for life. Despite being deeply rooted in our lives, some of them just feel wrong.

First of all, keep in mind that it’s okay if you’ve been doing something “wrong” your entire life. What matters is that you fix it when you learn the mistake.

So, start keeping track of all the things that your heart disagrees with. Alongside that, take notice of the things that you feel are right. You can even create a list in the long run. Do some points seem to be shifting categories? Are their certain points that you feel very strongly about?

Once again, these are signs from your heart and mind that you’ll have to find the meaning of.

What Are the Things You Think About the Most?

Things that are always on your mind definitely have a purpose. Make it a habit to note down your concerns and thoughts every day so that you can look back on them to find a pattern.

If you can’t seem to put your finger on what exactly has been going through your mind, there’s a simple trick to help you here.

Open your Twitter or any other social media that you use the most. Look through what you’ve posted[2].

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Try to recall what was going through your head that made you post everything that you have. Where did you get the inspiration to write the caption that you chose? Look through the comments to remember what and how you felt regarding the response that you received.

Throwback Time

When you’re finding answers to all the aforementioned questions, don’t forget to look back on the life that you’ve lived. You’ll always find a hidden connection between your passions, low-lows, and everything else with your past.

Involve your parents and other family members to hear stories of your past to learn more about yourself. Weigh your existing feelings with your past to find out how you’ve grown emotionally.

How to Utilize This Information to Find Your Life’s Purpose

Once you’ve gathered all the information from the answers to these questions, it will all start to make sense.

Of course, the things that you’re passionate about, that your heart agrees with, and that you find a recurring pattern of are related to your life’s purpose. Similarly, the opposites are what drive you away from the path that you’re meant to be on.

You may not find crystal clear answers, and that’s completely okay. As long as your brain is triggered to think in a certain direction, an explicit answer isn’t necessary.

Just make sure to collect all the information for however many weeks or months it requires. In the end, you’ll be able to put two and two together yourself.

The Bottom Line

At the end of the day, nobody in this world can tell you what the purpose of your life is. You should never let anyone define it for you either.

Yes, it’s time-consuming and will definitely take some deep thinking. But in the end, when you feel complete and at peace with the right answers by your side, it will all be worth it!

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20 Invaluable Things Money Can’t Buy

20 Invaluable Things Money Can’t Buy
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George Lorimer contends,

“It’s good to have money and all the things that money can buy, but it’s good, too, to check up once in a while and make sure that you haven’t lost the things money can’t buy.”

In reality, everyone likes money. It has enough power to determine happy or sad moments for some people. This happens partially because money can trigger your emotions. However, there are many invaluable things money can’t buy.

Money will allow you to experience the luxury of things like a Tesla, an estate, or first-class tickets to anywhere in the world. But, money cannot buy you everything. There are aspects of your life, yourself, relationships, and encounters that forever will be priceless.

So, what are 20 invaluable things money can’t buy?

1. Love

You must have seen this one coming because of how much it is preached throughout life.

Love is a genuine action with beautiful emotions that develops between people who know each other to an extent.

People fall in “love” for different reasons. Love is unconditional and keeps people in connection with each other.

Money may earn you attraction and attention, but love? Not at all.

2. True Friends

Everyone likes to have money because there’s almost no way to survive if we didn’t have a cent or two. And it’s only normal for people to associate themselves with people who are making efforts to make the money.

But sometimes, people are only attracted to what you have and what you can give; not who you are.

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It works just like love. When your money runs low, true friends should remain.

3. Family

We all know that family consists of a father, mother, and children, so let’s consider the individual elements.

A father is only a father as a result of the relationship between him and his child. Can money buy a relationship?

The same concept applies to the mother and child and if a relationship with a father cannot be bought, then neither can one with a mother nor child be bought.

Even if it’s an extended family, you still have to have a relationship with someone who connects you to the other person. It’s not rocket science.

4. Wisdom

Someone defined wisdom as “the mother of knowledge,” and how does one acquire knowledge? He or she receives it from experience.

So, if you cannot buy experience, then you cannot buy knowledge. And if you cannot buy both, then wisdom is definitely out of your league. You have to study, meet people and just experience life to earn it.

5. Happiness

In the words of Eleanor Roosevelt,

“Happiness is not in the mere possession of money; it lies in the joy of achievement, in the thrill of creative effort.”

    Mrs. Roosevelt even acknowledges things money can’t buy. She emphasizes that money can’t buy happiness.

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    Despite all the money a person may have in the bank, he or she still may not have the happiness that we all crave and deserve. Money cannot afford happiness.

    6. Health

    Money can help us afford the best health care services, but health itself? Not exactly.

    We’ve seen millionaires and billionaires lose their lives to a range of diseases that all their money put together could not cure.

    The Dalai Lama said,

    “What surprises me most is ‘man’ because he sacrifices his health to make money then he sacrifices his money to recuperate his health.”

      So, besides the fact that it doesn’t buy us health, sometimes the pursuit of it takes good health away from us.

      7. Long life

      During birthdays, we wish people a long, prosperous and healthy life. Money would be the best gift to send to loved ones to buy these things.

      But since you can’t, you wish these individuals the best life has to offer. You may also give them fun and loving experiences without money.

      8. Time

      The universe has been impartial enough to give us all 24 hours to do whatever we want to. But nobody, with all his or her wealth, has been able to purchase an extra hour, not even a second.

      9. Respect

      They say it is reciprocal. In other words, you can only get respect when you give respect and the last time we checked, there was no money for respect.

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      So if you can’t give something in any currency, then you can’t receive it in any currency either.

      10. Character

      Character is the sum of a person’s attitude. Attitude has to do with the way you behave and although money can influence a person’s character, it cannot buy a good one.

      11. Confidence

      Any “confidence” built on money really isn’t confidence. It’s a shade of pride and usually ends in sheer show-off. That, dear friend, is not confidence. Confidence is a quality you build with time.

      12. Beauty

      There are countless beauty products in the market and all of them cost money. These beauty products can only enhance beauty by covering up blemishes and some go as far as altering some features of the body.

      But none has been able to change the natural beauty of anybody. If you consider surgery, then you are still altering the natural features, not changing it. You can’t buy good looks from your mother’s womb. It’s just not possible.

      13. Sense of Humor

      Some individuals are born with the gift to make others laugh. Most of the comedians around became wealthy as a result of their sense of humor.

      The humor did not come after the money. Nobody became funny overnight because of a swell in their bank account.

      14. Trust

      Why do you trust people? Because they’ve proved themselves to be trustworthy by character. Their character earned them that trust.

      15. Talent

      Talent is a natural skill that has to be discovered and honed. Just like beauty and every other thing that comes naturally, talent cannot be purchased.

      16. Purpose

      People attend conferences and seminars to help them discover their purpose in life. These conferences may be free or paid but the money did not buy them the purpose.

      They already had the purpose way before realizing that they needed to find it. Lots of poor people discovered their purpose and leveraged it to become rich. This goes on to illustrate that money can come as a result of finding purpose but it cannot get you the purpose.

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      17. Satisfaction

      If there’s one thing that money can never buy, it is satisfaction. Even if money finds a way to get any of the other items on this list, it can never afford satisfaction. Money increases our desire for more money. The more the money, the more the hunger.

      18. Empathy

      Never have we ever heard of a man who bought the ability to empathize and never would we ever because empathy is a feeling. Feelings cannot be bought.

      19. Peace

      Why do people employ sophisticated security systems? Because they want to have peace when they go to bed but even with all of that, peace has never been received in exchange for money. It comes as a result of a clear conscience and a good heart.

      Ironically, money may bring enemies which would end up disrupting your peace.

      20. A Good Name

      A proverb says “a good name is better than silver.” This is like comparing two different things: a name and silver (which could be referred to as money).

      What is a “name?” It is a form of identity and how is it received? Your way of life and character helps people to receive you.

      Conclusion

        Overall, these things are invaluable and confidently show that money can’t buy everything.

        While this is the case, money is necessary, so don’t quit your job just because it can’t buy you happiness. And do spend your money and time wisely.

        Also, go out of your way to make people happy. Their money can’t provide this needed emotion. Do not lose or mismanage your health trying to get money.

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