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Published on May 6, 2020

13 Inspirational Life Lessons For Success

13 Inspirational Life Lessons For Success

One of the greatest teachers around is life. Through life, we experience all kinds of things. But more importantly, these experiences come with very important, inspirational life lessons.

The beauty of these life lessons though is that you do not need to experience all of them first hand. Many people have already gone through various experiences and provided this information to the people of the world.

A good example is Bruce Lee and the life lessons he shared.

But Bruce Lee is one of the many people who have found success and have passed on valuable lessons. A lot of these lessons are lessons many people have also experienced before.

So no matter what, keep these inspirational life lessons in mind because they can lead to more success and growth in your life.

1. Never Stop Learning

Many quotes revolve around this theme. Benjamin Franklin once said that investing in knowledge pays the best interest.

There’s also Einstein’s famous quote:

“Once you stop learning, you start dying.”

These two brilliant minds aren’t wrong. Staying educated by whatever means necessary is important for many things. You do this by reading books or articles. You can also look into being a self-learner.

Learning is one of the greatest joys in life.

2. Take the Leap

Another lesson that has been said many times is “take action”.

That’s not to say you should be jumping in headfirst with no plan. However, you don’t want to be planning too much.

Many people spend a lot of time in the planning or decision phases. They make vision boards and have particular mantras while following a long list of things to do.

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I’m exaggerating a little, but people can drive themselves into a rut from too much planning. Sometimes the best thing to do is to jump in and enjoy the process.

3. You Get What You Put In

One thing people tend to forget is that you get what you put in in life.

To clarify, you get what you put in based on your effort. Effort and hard work are requirements for achieving anything in life.

Sometimes, people think that you can get what you want based solely on visualizing or changing your behavior a little bit. But that’s never been the case.

The only way for you to make any progress is through effort. I improved my posture by doing specific stretches and not simply by visualizing myself in better shape.

If you want to achieve what you want in life, you need to know how much effort you have to put in to get there. This is the case with anything in life, including the habits that you want to change.

4. Be There for Others

Success in life isn’t always a solo project. It’s actually something that requires a group effort. Looking over history, there is always someone who achieved their goal due to help from other people.

With this in mind, it’s important that we show our support for other people. We don’t need to go to the extent that we’re their personal doormat or anything, but occasionally reaching out our hand for someone is nice.

This can be for someone we know or a stranger. A nice and simple gesture makes us and those who we are helping more human. It also makes the world a better place.

5. Keep Going No Matter What

Failure is something we all experience, and the degree of failure can vary. Regardless of the circumstances and the setbacks, we must not lose face and keep moving forward instead.

Failure is a harsh reality. It is also the source of some of the deepest and most personal life lessons we can experience, provided that you see failure this way.

Seeing failure this way matters because it’s the difference between giving up and getting back up and trying something new. You should avoid using the same approach over and over. Instead, use failure as an opportunity to look at new approaches and try new things.

6. Stay True to Yourself

As children, we all had big dreams about what we wanted to do in life. However, those began to change as we grew older and experienced different things. These events shifted our reality and, in some cases, we let others steer our life.

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We lose ourselves and follow down a path that wasn’t our decision or something we are excited about.

You don’t want to be falling into this trap but if you have, you want to work to get out of it.

These days, it’s so important to your success and well-being that you are doing the things that make you happy and fulfilled whenever you achieve your goals.

7. Have an Open Mind

Having an open mind in today’s society is important.

Automation is rapidly taking over many industries and bringing forth more change. Various events around the world shake our realities as well, such as the coronavirus pandemic.

While events are grimmer in some cases, it’s important to have an open mind or, at least, to not fear change.

This is easier said than done as some changes in life are more drastic and are therefore harder to resist. What’s important though is that we take control of the present.

Learn to enjoy the achievements and the things that we have in our lives right now.

8. Have Big Goals

Goals are important cornerstones of our success. They are your compass, and they provide you with directions to pursue in life. However, these goals are often small.

While those goals are important, you want to make sure that you are dreaming bigger or are seeing the bigger picture.

For example, a small goal could be losing 10 pounds in a few months. The bigger goal is being able to run a marathon.

When we have bigger goals, we have better reasons for our actions. Going back to the example, this provides reasons for you to eat healthily, curb cravings, and take on endurance exercises.

Bigger goals add context and provide mental lessons as well.

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Many people laugh at new ideas or tell you it can’t be done because they look only at where you are right now or they think that it’s unlike you.

Prove them wrong.

9. Be Around the Right People

People often bring up the power of association for various reasons. The biggest one is that this is our reality.

The top five people you spend time with have the most influence on your life the most, regardless if you hate the person or love them.

The key to this lesson is to make sure that the people you are spending time with are worth your time and are contributing in some way. Emotionally or directly, these people should be lifting you and guiding you towards a happier life.

10. Be Positive to a Degree

When people think of the phrase “be positive”, most jump to being positive all of the time. While it’s important for you to be positive, you need to have some sense of reality.

There are bad things happening, and it’s unfortunate. That’s part of life. But it’s not something for us to be overly negative about either.

There should be a balance between positivity and accepting reality. What this lesson entails is that you should accept this reality and start looking at your situations in a more positive light.

11. Connect With Others

Life is about what you know, but also who you know.

You already know that people have some influence on our lives, so it makes sense that the more people you know, the more people can change and help you grow.

It’s important for you to reach out to people and connect with them. Studies show strong bonds with people increase our life expectancy.[1]

Moreover, having people to turn to means more people can help you during stress.

12. Remove Your Regrets

Regrets in life are one of the hardest things in life. It’s something that can linger in our lives for decades if we allow it.

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My perspective is that you can always look back at your life and ask: “what if?”

But doing that isn’t going to change anything. You’ve already played your hand, and you’re being dealt a new set of cards to play, figuratively speaking.

What’s important is to look at what you got from that – the experiences and the people that you met through those opportunities. And, of course, the lessons you learned from it.

Reflect on that, and you probably wouldn’t want to change those things. Who knows what would happen if you went a different route? But you and I both know that you would have drastically different experiences whether better or worse.

So, instead of thinking about “what if’s”, look ahead and strive to live your life with no regrets.

13. Stand Firm On Your Beliefs

This inspirational life lesson goes hand in hand with the previous lesson of staying your ground and sticking to what you believe in.

Yes, it’s important to have an open mind and be willing to change and adapt, but not to the extent of flip-flopping and easily changing our ideals.

It’s important that you develop your core values and continue to stay firm on those ideals.

Final Thoughts

There are all kinds of inspirational life lessons out there. Achieving success is not something that has to be done in one particular direction.

So take these lessons to heart and apply them every single day and at every opportunity you can.

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Featured photo credit: Garrett Anderson via unsplash.com

Reference

[1] The Harvard Gazette: Good genes are nice, but joy is better

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10 Ways to Keep Going When the Going Gets Tough

10 Ways to Keep Going When the Going Gets Tough

Whenever you hit a rough patch in life, it can seem like the problems you’re confronting are unique to you and that the whole world is closing in. It might be that you are struggling to find a way out and just can’t see the light of hope anywhere when the going gets tough.

Thankfully, although you might not see it, there is always hope. Nothing lasts forever—not even bad times—and doing things like remembering why you started in the first place and practicing using your courage muscle are just a couple of things that can shorten the difficult times.

If you could find a way to not only survive but thrive when the going gets tough, how would your life change for the better?

Here are ten ways you can do to make that happen today.

1. Realize How Far You Have Come

Whenever you get discouraged on the path to wherever you want to go, it is usually because you are only looking forward, not around you or behind you. Your journey through life will last until your final day, so it is no wonder that you still see a long and sometimes daunting path ahead.

To keep going despite this, it’s important to take a moment or two to look around. Look at where you are standing now compared to when you first started. Look at how far you have come since you first began. Look at how many obstacles and challenges are behind you that you managed to overcome successfully.

The benefits of reflective practice are also extensive, and it is little wonder why.[1]

Looking back at how far you have come is usually the fire you need to keep on burning brightly into the future.

2. Remember Why You Started

When the going gets tough, you need something to cling to in order to keep your grit and remind yourself why you started doing something in the first place. Without this all-important “why, you will be quick to wander from your path.

Whenever things are at their worst, your number one reason for doing the thing is going to be what pulls you through.

As ex-Navy Seal and motivation master David Goggins puts it:

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“‘Why am I here?’ If you know that moment is coming and have your answer ready, you will be equipped to make the split-second decision to ignore your weakened mind and keep moving. Know why you’re in the fight to stay in the fight!”

Sometimes, life can be a bit of a fight, especially within yourself. So, having your reasons for continuing will always help pull you out when times are tough. Try writing these down and posting them in places you look at every day to help them have even more impact.

3. Make It a Habit to Move Forward

Habits are some of the strongest behavioral predictors that we have. Most of our habits happen in our subconscious and are triggered by external or internal cues.

The great thing about habits is that they can be formed through conscious, repeated behaviors, and when practiced enough, they can eventually take their place in the subconscious and guide your life.

Of course, you want good habits to be guiding your life in the background, not bad ones. That’s why it’s a good idea to make it a habit to always move forward.

Contrary to what most people say, moving forward doesn’t necessarily mean that you need to be better every single day for the rest of your life. There are going to be slip-ups, bad days, and circumstances that blow you off course.

Moving forward is all about getting back on track as fast as possible. If you can make that a habit, you can always get closer to where you want to go.

4. Use ‘If-Then’ Planning

When the going gets tough in your life, one of the most effective frameworks that you can put into place is called the ‘if-then’ planning.

This is the simplified version of something called Implementation Intention, a concept created by psychologist Peter Gollwitzer in the mid-’90s.[2] It helps you to make sense of confusing situations and to be able to take action when you are really struggling.

The simplified process is as follows:

“If x happens, I will do y.”

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For example:

“If I start to have negative thoughts, I will take ten seconds to just breathe.”

“If I feel extremely stressed for three days in a row, I will take the fourth day off to recover and reset.”

If-then planning puts a strategy in place for when times are tough. It takes away the element of thinking, planning, and worrying as you already know exactly what you need to do in each situation.

The beauty of using if-then is that you can change the if and then for different situations based on whatever works best for you at any given moment.

5. Find Some Mentors

With the internet becoming more expansive and accessible as it has ever been, there are so many ways to get a peek into the world’s top minds and see what they do in their own lives when the going gets tough.

Most successful people have had to overcome some serious struggles to get to where they are. Do a simple search online, and you will no doubt find out about all of the challenges that your favorite people have had to overcome.

Because of this, you should try to take inspiration from these people and find your own mentors. It’s worth recognizing that nobody trying to live their best life can ever get through it without their fair share of challenges to overcome. That’s just part of the hero’s journey.

6. Get out of Your Head

Sometimes, all of the reasoning, thinking, planning, and ruminating in the world doesn’t get you anywhere. In fact, for the serial thinkers and problem-solvers out there, it is oftentimes that too much time in your head results in even more struggle rather than a release of it.

Yes, some things can be solved by thinking. But when the going gets really tough, it is usually just pure heart, emotion, and grit that are going to carry you through. Your mind can become a tyrant, and it is worth being aware of this.

When you feel your own thoughts weighing you down and can’t stop the incessant thinking and worrying about the past, present, and/or future, it is time to step out of your mind for a little while and get into your body. Lift some weights, go for a run, or take a pleasant walk.

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The mind and body are much more connected than most people think—especially when it comes to emotions and fears and doing something beneficial for the body often benefits the unsettled mind as well.[3]

7. Ruthlessly Forgive Yourself

One of the worst things you can do when the going gets tough is to come down hard on yourself. Everyone has these external and internal struggles, and the harder you are on yourself for having them, the more difficult and traumatic the episodes will be when you inevitably slip up.

A lot of people are far harder on themselves than they are on other people, and to keep going in tough times, you need to be just as empathetic with yourself as you would be with your best friend.

Made a mistake? Forgive. Are you still giving yourself a hard time? Forgive. Are you still getting angry over small things “even though we talked about this”? Forgive.

The hard times are much easier to get through when you are at peace with yourself. You will be astonished by how much less pressure you feel when this happens.

8. Take Smaller Steps

It is common for people to stumble in life because they are simply taking on too much at once. Whether it be too much ambition, unrealistic expectations of themselves or others, or some extra curveballs, big steps can sometimes be too much to take.

The truth about big steps is that they are rare, disruptive, and difficult to keep up without crumbling. The big steps—the real life-changing goals and dreams that you have—can often be broken into much smaller steps that are more manageable and that will get you to the same place.

If the going is getting particularly tough, it might be the case that you are simply trying to do too much at once. Try taking smaller, more manageable steps, and see if obstacles and difficulties become easier to navigate.

9. Use Twenty Seconds of Insane Courage

Everyone will agree that the courage we have stored within ourselves is often finite and difficult to sustain for long periods. We tend to think that making a big change in our life and getting out of a rut requires courage for long periods that we simply cannot manage.

The good news is that this isn’t true. Most of the pivotal moments of change in your life—including pulling yourself out of a hole when the going gets tough—come from small, courageous decisions in short, precise moments.

Quite often, using twenty seconds of insane courage when it is needed is enough to completely change the trajectory of our lives. Whether it be asking for that promotion, deciding to go to the gym for the first time in months, or having the courage to break through your insecurities and ask someone out, most of these only require a few seconds of insane courage.

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Standing up and walking into your boss’s office, getting the gym kit on, picking up the phone or sending the text—you only have to be courageous in these few moments, and then you can relax and let life unfold.

Twenty seconds? You can do that, easily.

10. Accept That Your Motivation Will Wane

One of the main reasons that people get discouraged and struggle to keep going in hard times is that they never expected their motivation to dip.

When we start a project or enter a relationship or take something new and exciting on in our lives, our motivation is high, and we are in a mindset of excitement. We start thinking about all of the positives that could come from these things.

However, as time wears on, motivation levels inevitably drop, and you start to focus on the negatives of what’s happening or the added responsibility that you forgot to consider.

When this happens, you have two choices:

  1. You can put on your rose-colored glasses of the past and falsely remember how perfect everything was;
  2. Or you can put on your realistic glasses, face the difficulties, and keep moving forward into something better.

The true test of character comes when you hit a dip, motivation wanes, and you just don’t feel like doing stuff anymore. The secret is to realize that all of this is temporary and that you don’t need motivation to act.

It’s nice to have motivation, but the true test of character comes when motivation inevitably wanes. In those moments, will you keep going?

Final Thoughts

So there you have it. Each of these ten ideas for how to keep going when the going gets tough is versatile enough to be applied to almost any difficult situation that you find yourself in.

Life is going to present many difficulties. This isn’t something to fear but something to embrace. With these steps, you can navigate these stormy waters a little easier.

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Reference

[1] Psychology Today: What Is Self-Reflection and Why It Matters For Wellness
[2] American Psychologist: Implementation Intentions: Strong Effects of Simple Plans
[3] The International Journal of Psychoanalysis: Emotional Processing: The Mind-Body Connection

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