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Published on October 3, 2018

25 Pieces of Empowering Relationship Advice for Women

25 Pieces of Empowering Relationship Advice for Women

Everyone always says, “Relationships are so hard!” But that’s not true. It’s not relationships that are difficult, rather, it’s the people involved in the relationships that MAKE them challenging.

In other words, you can make your relationship better by doing two things:

  1. Requiring more of yourself
  2. Requiring more from your partner

You see, a lot of people are lazy. They think that relationships should just magically run like a well-oiled machine. But that doesn’t happen in real life.

Relationships take effort, and they can be healthy and happy if you know what to do. No one has a magic wand to hand you that will turn your relationship into a fairy tale. But if you follow these tips, you will be pleasantly surprised on how happy you become.

Here is some relationship advice for women so you can use every day to make that happen:

1. Have your own life.

You might be crazy in love with each other, but that doesn’t mean the rest of your life should stop.

Don’t abandon your friends for him. Don’t take up golf and give up your massages if you don’t want to.

Have some independence and an identity of your own. Because if you don’t, things will get boring and routine in the relationship.

2. Don’t be needy.

Being needy and chasing can go hand-in-hand. If you want to see him 24/7, text him 24/7, and basically think the world resolves around him, well, you’re being needy.

Needy behavior is suffocating for people, especially men. You think these behaviors will help you hold on to him, but it actually has the opposite effect – it pushes him away.

3. Make sure you connect physically, emotionally, and mentally.

Easier said than done, but these three things are crucially important.

If you’re just physically connected, but you don’t connect emotionally or mentally, then you won’t make it for the long haul.

Or maybe you connect mentally, but your intimacy is just “meh.” The relationship may be doomed.

You have to have strong bonds in all areas of your relationship, so make sure you keep an eye on that from the very beginning.

4. Don’t chase him.

Unfortunately, many women do this a lot. And you might not even know you’re doing it.

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“Chasing” comes in all forms – it could be obvious, stalker-like behavior such as calling him 100 times a day. Or, it could be more subtle, like you’re the only initiating contact all the time (meaning that you are more interested than he is).

Chasing is a turn-off for men. Let him chase you.

5. Love yourself.

So many women complain that they either can’t find the right partner, or they always attract jerks who don’t treat them right.

Well, it’s probably because you don’t love yourself enough. You can only attract the level of love that you feel for yourself.

So, look at all your good qualities and decide to love yourself exactly the way you are right now.

6. Take care of yourself.

If you love yourself, then you will automatically take care of yourself. This means trying to stay healthy, get enough sleep, go get massages, escape to a bubble bath, or maybe a girls’ night out.

You need to feed your soul in other ways outside of your relationship or else you won’t have anything left to give.

7. Don’t be a people pleaser.

Many women mistakenly believe that if they please other people, then they will automatically love them. This couldn’t be farther from the truth!

A lot of people will take advantage of you if you give too much of yourself. Instead, strive for a healthy balance of being self-less and selfish.

Please your partner, but also make sure they please you too. Relationships are a two-way street.

8. Speak your mind.

When I say “speak your mind,” I mean doing it gently and calmly. Don’t suppress your negative (or positive) emotions. Let them out.

Talk to your partner about any problems you are having. Try to see yourself as a team and solve the problems together. You deserve respect and to have your voice heard.

9. Don’t avoid problems.

No one really likes conflict. Well, maybe there are some people who do, but generally speaking, most people don’t.

So, what happens a lot of the time is they go into avoidance mode. This does not work.

If you avoid problems for years upon years, well, they are going to pile up. And then one day you’ll wake up 25 years later and never be able to sort through them all because they’ve been accumulating too long.

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10. Make time for your partner.

I know I said to have your own life and some independence, but on the flip side, you can’t spend too much time alone (or with other people) because then the relationship could die.

Relationships need attention. So, make sure you go on regular date nights and have deep conversations to keep your connection strong.

11. Demand respect.

When I say “demand,” I don’t mean stomping your foot down and demanding in in a diva kind of way. What I mean is that you need to believe that you deserve to be treated with respect at all times – everyone does.

But here’s the kicker – in order to get respect, you need to give respect. So, by being respectful, you are setting the scene for nothing but kind treatment in return.

12. Strive for equal effort.

People always say, “relationships should be 50-50.” That’s wrong.

They should be 100-100. BOTH people need to put in 100% effort every day to keep the relationship strong.

It can’t be 100-20, 100-50, or even 100-99. It has to be equal.

If it gets out of balance, you need to have a conversation about that so you can get back on track.

13. Talk about gender roles.

Over the last few decades, gender roles have become blurred. Gone are the days when everyone automatically expects the man to be the bread winner and the woman to stay home and raise the kids.

These days, conversations need to be had about each person’s expectations within the relationship regarding gender roles.

14. Be a good listener.

Usually, we think women are good listeners and men are bad listeners. This isn’t true.

Men and women just listen differently. Women listen to connect with another person, and men listen to solve a problem.

But we all deserve to have someone listen to us. So, don’t forget that your partner needs that too.

15. Show empathy.

Relationships should not be “me vs. you.” It should be “us” as a team. You can’t constantly be only considering your own perspective about anything.

You may or may not be right, but perception is reality. If your partner sees it differently, try to understand. Show him empathy, and then most likely he’ll show it to you in return.

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16. Be accepting of differences.

No one is 100% alike. Even identical twins aren’t exactly the same.

If you have too many expectations of his behavior that are being violated, maybe you should just accept the differences.

And if there are too many differences that you can’t tolerate, then maybe he’s not the person for you.

Oh, and don’t forget, he should accept your differences too.

17. Don’t settle.

There are way too many people in the world who fear being alone. It’s probably because they don’t love themselves enough to hold out for what they deserve. Instead, they settle for “Mr. Good Enough for Now.” And then they find themselves miserable in a short amount of time.

Hold out for “Mr. Right” because you will never find “Mr. Perfect,” but you shouldn’t settle either.

18. Don’t try to change him.

Women are notorious for trying to change their man. They think things like, “If I can get him to lose 30 pounds, then he’ll be more attractive.” Or “If I can just get him to stop playing video games, I’ll be happy.” Or “Once we get married, he’ll change for the better.”

Take this important piece of advice – if you don’t like how his is RIGHT NOW, without any changes, then you shouldn’t be with him. Period. Because you can’t really change him anyway. It just won’t work.

19. Teach him how to treat you.

The behavior you allow from another person is the behavior that will persist.

So, for instance, if early in the relationship he starts yelling at you when he’s angry, you need to correct him by gently saying, “I don’t’ appreciate you yelling at me. I deserve to be spoken to with respect. So, until you do that, I won’t engage in this conversation.”

If you don’t, it’ll only get worse.

20. Become the person you want to attract.

If you don’t love and respect yourself, then you’ll attract someone else who won’t love and respect you either. It all starts with self-love.

You can’t metaphorically beat up on yourself and expect others to treat you like a queen. Trust me, people pick up on this stuff.

Once you love and respect yourself, then you will get the kind of relationship that you want.

21. Don’t be afraid to be alone if necessary.

There’s nothing wrong with being alone! In fact, it can be quite liberating.

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You don’t have to compromise with anyone. You can do whatever you want to do when you want to do it. There is no one to answer to. You can get to know yourself better and work on being a better person.

So, if you’re not happy in a relationship, then try being alone for a while. It might be a lot better.

22. Show appreciation.

Everyone wants to be appreciated by their partner, so what makes you think your man is any different?

Even if he does little things like put dishes in the dishwasher…thank him for it. Thank him for everything and anything he does for you, and then it’ll be more likely that he’ll want to keep doing that in the future to keep you happy.

And don’t forget that he should appreciate you too.

23. NEVER tolerate any kind of abuse.

Abuse isn’t just about having him hit you or beat you up. Abuse comes in all forms – mental and emotional too.

While physical injuries can heal, the mental and emotional wounds are much more difficult to heal.

So, don’t tolerate it if he tries to belittle you, degrade you, or gaslight you. That’s a total deal-breaker.

24. Don’t be jealous or possessive.

It’s understandable that we don’t want to share our man. However, there is a fine line between wanting to keep him for yourself and being overly jealous and possessive. These qualities are smothering and usually pushes men way.

Instead, try to be more secure with yourself, so you don’t worry about losing him. And even if you do, you need to know that you’ll be okay anyway.

25. Don’t be bitchy.

It’s easy to be bitchy and moody. But does anyone really want to be around a person like that? I know I don’t.

Constantly spewing negativity at your man will make him want to avoid you.

Be kind and loving. Stop the bitchiness and ramp up the respect instead.

Now you have it – everything you need to know to have a quality relationship. The list might seem daunting, but it’s really not. It just takes practice.

However, you will need to constantly keep these in mind. But once you do, you’ll find yourself living happily ever after.

Featured photo credit: mari lezhava via unsplash.com

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Dr. Carol Morgan is a communication professor, dating/relationship and success coach, TV personality, speaker, and author.

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50+ Best Motivational Quotes To Prepare You For Any Challenges In Life

50+ Best Motivational Quotes To Prepare You For Any Challenges In Life

Life is filled with highs and lows —happiness and struggles that will test your resilience and integrity, push you to overcome challenges and leave you with lessons that will make you even stronger on your way up.

It’s the way you feel and think about yourself, including your expectations and beliefs about what is possible to you, greatly determines everything that happens to you.

It all starts with your thoughts. When you change your thoughts, you transform the quality of your life. (Right, Nancy’s story is a typical example!)

Below is a list of the best motivational quotes to inspire you to start your day with a blast:

Quotes for self-assurance

1. Don’t downgrade your dream just to fit your reality, upgrade your conviction to match your destiny.

    2. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem and smarter than you think.

      3. You are confined only by the walls you build yourself.

        4. The man who has confidence in himself gains the confidence of others

          5. You attract what you are, not what you want. If you want great, then be great.

            6. It’s not who you are that holds you behind, it’s who you think your are not.

              Quotes about positivity

              7. Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and think of what could go right.

                8. You should never regret anything in life. If it’s good, it’s wonderful. If it’s bad, it is experience.

                  9. Falling down is an accident, staying down is a choice.

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                    10. If you have the power to make someone happy, do it. The world needs more of that.

                      11. Always believe that something wonderful is about to happen.

                        12. Don’t be afraid to give up the good and go for great.

                          13. Remember that life’s greatest lessons are usually learned from worst times and from the worst mistakes.

                            Quotes for work and success

                            14. Don’t talk, just act. Don’t say, just show. Don’t promise, just prove.

                              15. Never stop doing great just because someone doesn’t give you credit.

                                16. Discipline is doing what needs to be done, even if you don’t want to.

                                  17. Work while they sleep. Learn while they party. Save while they spend. Live like they dream.

                                    18. The key to success is to focus our conscious mind on things we desire, not things we fear.

                                      19. Never apologize for having high standards, people who really want to be in your life will rise to meet them.

                                        20. If it doesn’t challenge you, it won’t change you.

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                                          21. Never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it, time will pass anyway.

                                            22. Don’t fear failure. Fear being in the exact same place next year as you are today.

                                              23. A hill is just another opportunity to leave your competition behind.

                                                24. Don’t quit. You’re already in pain. You’re already hurt. Get a reward from it.

                                                  25. Hustle until you no longer need to introduce yourself.

                                                    26. You didn’t come this far only to come this far.

                                                      27. Be selective in your battles for sometimes peace is better than being right.

                                                        28 If we keep doing what we are doing, we’re going to keep getting what we’re getting.

                                                          29. You will never know your limits until you push yourself to them.

                                                            30. Do what you have to do until you can do what you want to do.

                                                              31. The man on top of the mountain didn’t fall there.

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                                                                32. If your dreams don’t scare you, they are not big enough.

                                                                  33. If you can’t handle stress, you won’t manage success.

                                                                    34. Don’t be pushed by your problems, be led by your dreams.

                                                                      35. Don’t mistake silence for weakness. Smart people don’t plan big moves out loud.

                                                                        36. Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.

                                                                          37. Obsessed is the word the lazy use to describe dedicated.

                                                                            38. You become who you spend your time with.

                                                                              39. Be stubborn about your goals and flexible about your methods.

                                                                                40. Hard work beats talent when talent doesn’t work hard.

                                                                                  41. If you don’t build your dreams, someone else will hire you to build theirs.

                                                                                    42. Between stimulus and response is our greatest power –the freedom to choose.

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                                                                                      43. What comes easy won’t last, what lasts won’t come easy.

                                                                                        44. Don’t limit your challenges, challenge your limits.

                                                                                          45. Work until your idols become your rivals.

                                                                                            Quotes about money

                                                                                            46. Formal education will make you a living. Self-education will make you a fortune.

                                                                                              47. I create new enemies every day, it’s called business.

                                                                                                48. When you have a Million Dollar vision, don’t surround yourself with 1 cent minds.

                                                                                                  49. You can’t get rich thinking poor.

                                                                                                    50. Doing what is comfortable is rarely profitable.

                                                                                                      51. If you can count your money, work harder.

                                                                                                        If you find yourself feeling lost and frustrated, it’s never too late to change things up. Check out this guide:

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