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Why Is It Important To Be A Curator Of Your Life?

Why Is It Important To Be A Curator Of Your Life?

We all want the best things in life if given the choice and the power to do so. Whether it’s our personal or professional life, striving for the ideal situation is what most people aim to achieve. As a result, our hunger for it all brings the need for hard work and doing whatever it takes, but it can come at a price.

The process of ‘gaining the best’ can often consume us to the point where we’re wanting to do and have everything. The problem comes when it starts to eat into us and we start to lack appreciation for what we’ve already collected and achieved. We don’t take stock and fully enjoy what our hard work has brought to our lives because we’re busy chasing the next best thing.

It’s because of this that it’s vital to learn how to be a curator and only select the very best for our lives. This creates space for the appreciation to grow and really be mindful of what’s really best for us and brings us the most happiness.

Why We Need To Stop Chasing Too Much of the Best

Ambition is a wonderful thing. It’s gives us goals to strive for and become the success we want to be to live a fulfilled life. Coming from a genuine and happy mindset, this will only add value to your life.

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The problem occurs when it comes from a space of not wanting to lose out and the idea that having more is somehow better. We’re inclined to believe that having more keeps us feeling safe and prevents those inevitable ‘what ifs’ that pop up in our mind.

In today’s society, we’re easily influenced by others in our quest for greatness. Social media, celebrity influencers and even our own peers who show their lives on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram can have a big affect on how we see ourselves. What others are doing, where their careers are heading, what they’re buying or where they’re travelling, to opens up the opportunity to compare and evaluate your current life direction and can lead you to wanting more and more.

The result of this can mean doing too much and having too much on your plate. With material possessions, your house is filling up with things you want but don’t need. Perhaps you take on more hobbies or projects outside of work that leads to feeling exhausted and stretched out.

The illusion of striving to get more only allows you to be less mindful and appreciative of what you already have and what you’ve already achieved.

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    The Reason Why You Must Be a Curator in Your Own Life

    What makes a museum great? It’s the things you don’t see; the stuff that’s not on the walls or in the showcases. It’s the art of saying no and making the most of the best.

    A curator’s job is making those conscious decisions about what stays and what goes. It’s essentially an editing process – there’s much more stuff off the walls than on the walls and what’s left is the best of the best or a sub-subset of all the possibilities.

    It’s extremely important to make sure you check your motivation when it comes to striving for your achievements. Is it because you love it? Can you see the genuine benefit for your growth? Or is it to look good to others or compete with your peers?

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    Understanding that it’s the quality of things that matter, how they benefit you and knowing what’s beneficial to one person may not be beneficial to you, is crucial to success. Having the right perspective is key. When you look at other people’s lives, adverts, or even certain movies, it’s not the whole picture you’re seeing. People naturally only want you to see the best of them, showing what makes them look successful and happy but carefully editing out the negatives. Being mindful of this is extremely important in your quest for success.

    Don’t compare. Be aware of the motivation behind what you want to succeed at and strive for what’s achievable and relevant to your own life.

    The Best Way To Succeed in Your Life Journey

    The two main points to take away in order to succeed in a happy and wholesome way is to be a curator for your life and your decisions but also to enjoy the process. Stick to what’s essential and don’t get bogged down with what you believe you should be chasing or what you should be possessing. Pare things down until you’re left with the most important things – whether it’s emptying your wardrobe, clearing out a room or evaluating what your short and long term life goals are. Then do it again. You can always add things back later if you need to but you’ll most likely find that what you’re left with is enough to focus on and keep you fulfilled.

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      Enjoy this process and don’t get caught up with the achievements and results. The journey is what’s important here including the growth you gain from going after something. This is where the magic really happens. Focus on the few but important goals so you can really get the best out of yourself and life as a whole.

      Featured photo credit: Startup Stock Photos via pexels.com

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      Last Updated on March 19, 2019

      How to Ask for Help When You Need It Most

      How to Ask for Help When You Need It Most

      Nod your head if you’ve ever had to ask for help at work, at home or anywhere else. Now, nod again if you’ve ever felt shy or silly when doing so.

      I’m sure some of you reading would have nodded twice!

      Whether it’s not knowing the answer to a question in class and looking around to see if your classmates knew, getting stuck on a project at work and needing to get additional input from colleagues, or just being in a new city and needing help with directions, we’ve all been down this road before.

      We may not know what to do, and clearly would benefit with some help, yet we won’t–or are afraid to–ask for help. We either very reluctantly do so eventually, or decide to suffer in silence altogether.

      Why Are We so Afraid of Asking for Help?

      So what stops us from seeking the help that we need? Sometimes it might be that we fear requesting assistance as we don’t want to seem weak, needy or incompetent in front of strangers, our peers or superiors.

      Especially if you’re in a competitive work environment, there is an understandable fear that if you let your guard down, this information about you not knowing will be used against you. If you’re too open about asking for help, people may start associating you as the leech who’s always relying on someone, and you’ll start to appear incapable in front of your peers. And as much as you would like to play a fair and just game, the reality is that not everyone thinks that way. There will be overly aggressive individuals out there who will gladly walk over you to get to the top in their career.

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      Not to mention, your reputation is at stake. If word got out that you had to seek help of some form, you’ll feel embarrassed or perhaps insecure. You might feel less confident about your abilities and worry about what others think of you. You’re afraid to attract that kind of attention at work.

      Unfortunately, we all have a natural tendency to judge ourselves harshly–often thinking of situations much worse than they actually are in reality. As a result, we also miss out on a lot of potential knowledge or help. If only we were able to see past all that self imposed negativity! Or, at least learn how to manage such situations in a more confident manner.

      Meet Paul

      I have a friend by the name of Paul who runs his own company. He started at a young age and is already a very successful business man at age 40.

      When I ask Paul to name something he does to stay focused and on track in life, he tells me that he has a life coach. He has regular monthly sessions with a life coach who helps him through different aspects of his life.

      “It almost sounds like a counseling session”, I told Paul.

      He simply replied, “Yes.”, with a smile.

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      To Paul, the purpose of having a life coach is to give him perspective and to call out on areas of his life that he may have missed out on or neglected.

      He see’s having a life coach as a benefit to his success, and not as a sign of weakness.

      We’re Seeing It All Wrong

      This got me thinking. Many of us automatically assume that going for counseling, taking self help courses, or seeing a life coach means that something unpleasant has happened or is happening in your life. The word help is regarded as a negative.

      But the truth is, if we can turn “help” around to see it as a positive act, then going for any of the above would actually be an empowering act.

      You need not be in some dire state to seek change. You also don’t have to be at some terrible dead-end or crossroad in life only to seek help. It may just be that you’re wanting to better improve your wellbeing, or to go through some self development to become a better you.

      Everyone goes through periods of change in their lives. Whether it’s naturally occurring, or a ‘forced’ change, it’s always meant to improve our well being, and allow us to become better versions of ourselves. But we can’t always make or go through change alone, and that is completely normal. So we should embrace that fact and know that seeking help from someone or somewhere is a perfectly normal thing to do, and not something to be ashamed of.

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      Help Is Not a Form of Weakness 

      In Paul’s case, having a life coach helps give him an extra set of eyes so that he can envision his life and plans much clearer.

      As a busy working professional, he has many responsibilities to attend to alongside being a father and husband. In order not to burn out or lose sight of his goals, Paul’s life coach acts as a reminder and offers him new insights to problems or situations that Paul may find himself in.

      This is applicable to any form of help and not limited to what a life coach can bring to the table. Research has proven that having a support system has many positive benefits, such as higher levels of well-being, better coping skills and a longer and healthier life.

      If this isn’t enough to convince you, even the most successful people like Richard Branson and Warren Buffet require asking for help and have other people advise them.

      Take athletes for an example. Behind every successful athlete, or any athlete for that matter, is a coach. He or she is there to train and guide them on their path to greatness. Coaches have the ability to point out blind spots and play on the athlete’s strengths. The athlete focuses on a current or specific training routine, but the coach already has a bigger plan mapped out and that one training routine that the athlete is focusing on, is but one of many more training routines that will eventually lead to the athlete succeeding and outperforming. Without the coach’s vision to map that out and guide the athlete, the athlete will be training blindly, and not maximising his efforts.

      Seeking Help Is Strength

      By taking an active step in seeking help or advice, you’re actually taking control of your life, and not letting external circumstances (such as what people think) affect how you behave and perform. It is courageous to accept your weaknesses!

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      So if you’re at a point in life where you’re wanting some change to happen, or feel stuck in a rut, it’s time to turn your weakness into strength by seeking help.

      Here at Lifehack, we’re committed to your personal development. We want to be your transformational coach, to pull you out of that rut so you can be up and going again. Even if you’re not feeling stuck or at a crossroad, there is always more that you can do to improve and upgrade your life.

      Want to learn how to save more time than wasting it? Or how to find out what you should be focusing on at present? Perhaps you just simply want to learn how to ignite that spark of motivation within you again to either pursue new interests or to continue pushing ahead with existing goals.

      Learning never ends. So no matter your age, we’re here to guide you towards becoming a better you.

      If you’re keen to take that step towards becoming a better you, begin a journey of transformation with us here!

      As we guide you through important lessons and Cornerstone Skills that will significantly change your life, you will live the life you’ve always wanted!

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