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10 Stories Proved That Physical Distance Could Never Be the Roadblock of True Love!

10 Stories Proved That Physical Distance Could Never Be the Roadblock of True Love!

After all the ups and downs in your love life and all the misery of not being able to find the one, you have finally met the person who makes you feel like on top of the world and who you can’t imagine spending the rest of your life without. However, there is a catch. A huge one, actually. Measurable by miles.

Even though you believe that your love is strong enough, the constant struggle involved in keeping a long distance relationship can at times wear you down, and make you question if it’s all worth it. The constant juggling between different time zones, the endless phone calls, the texting, the Facetiming, the video chats, the worrying, the missing, the waiting, the planning, the travelling… As if keeping a relationship isn’t challenging enough, for long distance couples, everything is so much more complicated.

That being said, it is important to know that you are not alone in your struggles and challenges. People have been keeping long distance relationships since forever, even in the pre-internet era, when their ways of communication were much more restricted.

If you are blessed enough that you have met your true soul mate, remember that love is, after all, the most important thing, and so worth the initial struggle to keep in touch and organize meetings. If you need the additional encouragement to keep going, make sure to read through some of the most heartwarming stories about long distance love that managed to overcome being apart for so long.

Travelers’ love tale

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    It was only logical for Megan and Mike, two world-wide travelers to find each other on a trip. Even though Megan is from Australia and Mike from America, they both took a trip to Africa at the same time, which introduced them to a life of long distance relationship.

    Despite the distance and pessimistic comments by people surrounding them, Megan and Mike have managed to maintain their long distance relationship for three years before marrying each other and starting a life together. Megan provides their recipe for successful long distance relationship – maintaining communication, romance and meeting up.

    10 years of long distance love

      For Carla and her husband, a long distance relationship is the way of life, ever since they first started their romance that would turn into a marriage with children, ten years ago. Being a military wife has many challenges, but they have managed to keep their relationship strong and their love lasting by using every possible means of communication available.

      Strong love and commitment

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        Karen and Jonathan have learned that true love and dedication can always overcome even the toughest challenges of being in a long distance relationship.

        A happy ending

          After a couple years of long distance and parental problems, Tanu and her boyfriend have managed to get their happy ending and prove that a long distance means nothing when the feelings are real.

          “One day closer and one day stronger”

            One of the most encouraging pieces of advice on the struggles included in long term relationships are coming from Tyler Burnett, who learned through his experience of being in a long term relationships that it is all worth it.

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            From unexpected to long distance love story

              Another great love story that went from unexpected to committed long distance relationship.

              Bloggers’ romance

                Ashley and Peter’s relationship started online and is going strong thanks to the technology that allows them to video chat at least once a day. They agree that communication is the most important thing for keeping a long distance relationship strong.

                An improvised proposal

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                  Beautiful and heartwarming story about a long distance couple who had to improvise on the traditional proposal and do it via Skype, yet they managed to endure all the hardships the physical distance involves, for the sake of love.

                  From longing to furniture cleaning

                    Hilary shares her beautiful love story that went from long distance to living together. She and her boyfriend Mickael have gone from longing for each other to adjusting to living together and respecting each other’s habits.

                    A serendipitous flight

                      Izabella and her now husband’s first encounter happened on a plane, following a couple of unplanned events that include his lost passport and changed flight. Their love and commitment keeps on getting stronger despite the challenges of a long distance marriage, before they can finally move in together.

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                      Published on April 7, 2021

                      6 Signs Of A Controlling Person To Be Aware Of

                      6 Signs Of A Controlling Person To Be Aware Of

                      Some of the most manipulative people are so good at what they do that their words and actions can convince you into thinking they truly care about what’s best for you when in reality, it’s quite the opposite. The most common signs of a controlling person are rarely obvious to outside observers. And for someone enmeshed in a controlling relationship or friendship, it can be incredibly challenging to stay away from this toxic person, even if you’re aware of their emotionally abusive tendencies.

                      While it’s ultimately up to you to decide whether to preserve or leave a lopsided, unfulfilling relationship, it’s nevertheless critical to understand the following six signs of controlling people so you can better advocate for yourself and mitigate the influence of their manipulative tendencies in your own life.

                      1. They Push Their Own Personal Agenda

                      Do you know someone who always tries to micromanage the words, behaviors, and attitudes of people around them? Does this person act like they have the right to know anything they want about you, including your location, what you’re doing in a given moment, who you’re talking to online, or any other private information about you? And when planning events and special occasions, does this person dominate conversations, steer plans in their own preferred directions, disparage others’ suggestions, and refuse to collaborate with anyone who might disagree with them?

                      If you answered “yes” to some of the above questions, then those are clear signs of a controlling person whom you absolutely need to be cautious around. Controlling people are reluctant to even consider alternative ideas, let alone enthusiastically work with people who have differing views. They prefer to be the captain of every ship—regardless of how much or how little an issue personally impacts them—and they have an arsenal of manipulative tactics to deploy if someone stands in the way of them achieving their own personal agendas.

                      In long-term relationships with controlling people, you may feel constantly pressured to meet their demands, follow their schedule, and focus on whatever they feel is most important. It’s not an exaggeration to say that these people act like the universe revolves around them, which can be exhausting to deal with for their family members, friends, and colleagues.

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                      2. They Make Everything Transactional

                      Controlling people aren’t always self-centered, but they’re not too empathetic either. Empathy for them tends to appear in the form of strategic concessions they use as a means to get what they want. They typically view interpersonal relationships as transactional opportunities to extract more value from people surrounding them, which can have a draining effect on those they interact with.

                      For example, one sign of a controlling person may be their insistence on “keeping score.” This can involve doing nice things for you with the ulterior motive of demanding something from you at a later date in exchange for what you thought was just an act of kindness or a friendly support.

                      Perhaps they shower you in praise (also known as “love-bombing”) or gifts then blow up at you if you don’t intuitively know they’re expecting something back from you. None of us are mind-readers, but controlling people behave as though everyone else should think and act like they want others to and those who fall out of line are punished for failing to meet their impossible expectations.

                      A controlling person may also threaten to withhold support if you don’t adhere to their demands, but they do so in such subtle ways that the guilt they impose blinds you from the unreasonable nature of their behaviors.

                      Some statements to be wary of include:

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                      • “I did ___________ for you. What do you mean you can’t do ___________ for me?”
                      • “Remember how I helped you with ___________? That took a lot of time and energy from me, but I guess you didn’t appreciate my help.”
                      • “I always give you ___________. Don’t you care about my needs too?”
                      • “You’re so selfish!” or “You don’t care about me at all!” (gaslighting if you respond with hesitation or politely decline their request for help for perfectly valid reasons, such as not having enough time or resources to assist them)

                      3. They Criticize Everything

                      One of the most common telltale signs of a controlling person is their capacity to criticize anything and everything, even small things that seemingly don’t matter. As with many toxic traits in relationships, these problems typically start out so small that you may not even notice. At first, you may even agree with their criticism or at least be able to understand their perspective when they bring up an issue.

                      However, the criticism tends to get more intense, more constant, and more perplexing for people who maintain relationships with controlling people. You’ll likely notice how they rarely seem to criticize something they do. It’s almost always other-oriented and these types of people are so manipulative that any rationale they offer can seem plausibly legitimate.

                      Some warning signs of a controlling person who’s overly critical to the point of abusiveness include:

                      • Criticizing things about you that you have little to no control over (e.g., appearance, disability, family)
                      • Criticizing your personal choices and interests, such as educational pursuits, career, clothing, favorite music, time spent on your hobbies, etc.
                      • Punishing you for expressing vulnerability by invalidating thoughts and feelings you share with them
                      • Attacking you whenever you express an opinion counter to theirs

                      4. They Balk When Someone Criticizes Them

                      We all know the adage, “what goes around, comes around.” But this statement doesn’t apply as much to toxic, controlling people. They’d much prefer to dish out criticism without ever having to take it in return.

                      For instance, if your friend constantly talks about your appearance with little regard for your emotions but flips out if you make just a single comment about their appearance, there’s a possibility that they could have some hidden controlling tendencies left unchecked. Remember, these people aren’t just controlling in their behaviors towards others. They’re also actively trying to stay in complete control over every aspect of their lives, which includes how others view them.

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                      This seemingly insatiable desire for control can prompt them to lash out against even the smallest bits of criticism, leaving people around them too weary or scared to speak up again in the future. While it’s possible they may suffer from something called rejection sensitivity dysphoria, this does not excuse them from the consequences of their words and actions. They should seek professional help to better manage their reactions to criticism.

                      5. They Socially Isolate You

                      Not all controlling people do this, but for manipulative narcissists, socially isolating victims is a go-to strategy for maintaining control because it’s effective at preventing people from truly understanding how toxic their partner, family member, or friend is treating them. Think of it this way—if you don’t talk to many other people in your life, there’s less of a risk that you’ll damage their reputation by revealing their abusive tendencies.

                      Socially isolating others also gives the person more control over you and your life as it becomes more difficult to break away from them if you don’t have other healthier channels of communication and interpersonal support to turn to.

                      This process doesn’t happen overnight, nor is it something you can readily recognize as abusive. At first, it may seem reasonable, such as asking you to stop engaging so often with family members with whom both of you disagree on major social or political issues. As the social isolation progresses, they may suggest cutting people out of your life—especially if they don’t like that person, regardless of how you personally feel—or even conjure up high-stakes problems like “it’s me or them” under the guise of saving you from people in your life whom they don’t like for whatever reason.

                      In a controlling person’s life narrative, they’re always the protagonist who’s incapable of any wrongdoing. The blame is always redirected at someone else, whether that’s you or other people in your life. The more they isolate you from other supportive people in your life, the more susceptible you’ll be to falsely believing that they’re right and you “don’t need” your other friends and family when you have someone as perfect as this person.

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                      6. They’re Emotionally Abusive

                      It’s hard enough to be in control of your own emotions but when someone else is constantly belittling you and your interests or leveraging guilt and shame to manipulate you into saying or doing what they want, this can make it even more challenging to stay in control of your own life and emotional well-being.

                      Emotional abuse is another sign of a controlling person that is often overlooked in relationships. After all, human personalities vary widely in terms of passivity, and it’s not uncommon for one person in a relationship to be significantly more passive than the other. This becomes an issue when the controlling partner or friend exudes signs of emotional abuse, which can start subtly and become much more pronounced over time.

                      Concerning signs of emotionally abusive language or behavior to watch out for include:

                      • Dismissing your needs and/or belittling your interests in counterproductive ways
                      • Privately or publicly shaming or humiliating you
                      • Making you feel as though you can never live up to their expectations or do anything right (according to their own vague, subjective standards)
                      • Gaslighting you into thinking they said or did something that never actually happened (making you question your own reality)

                      Final Thoughts

                      It’s sometimes hard to see the negative things about someone with whom we have a relationship. We may sometimes unconsciously overlook the signs of a controlling person, especially if that person is someone we have known for a long time or are close to us. However, cutting them off your life is the best thing you can do for yourself. Just watch out for these six signs of a controlling person and take immediate action when you spot them.

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