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10 Stories Proved That Physical Distance Could Never Be the Roadblock of True Love!

10 Stories Proved That Physical Distance Could Never Be the Roadblock of True Love!

After all the ups and downs in your love life and all the misery of not being able to find the one, you have finally met the person who makes you feel like on top of the world and who you can’t imagine spending the rest of your life without. However, there is a catch. A huge one, actually. Measurable by miles.

Even though you believe that your love is strong enough, the constant struggle involved in keeping a long distance relationship can at times wear you down, and make you question if it’s all worth it. The constant juggling between different time zones, the endless phone calls, the texting, the Facetiming, the video chats, the worrying, the missing, the waiting, the planning, the travelling… As if keeping a relationship isn’t challenging enough, for long distance couples, everything is so much more complicated.

That being said, it is important to know that you are not alone in your struggles and challenges. People have been keeping long distance relationships since forever, even in the pre-internet era, when their ways of communication were much more restricted.

If you are blessed enough that you have met your true soul mate, remember that love is, after all, the most important thing, and so worth the initial struggle to keep in touch and organize meetings. If you need the additional encouragement to keep going, make sure to read through some of the most heartwarming stories about long distance love that managed to overcome being apart for so long.

Travelers’ love tale

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    It was only logical for Megan and Mike, two world-wide travelers to find each other on a trip. Even though Megan is from Australia and Mike from America, they both took a trip to Africa at the same time, which introduced them to a life of long distance relationship.

    Despite the distance and pessimistic comments by people surrounding them, Megan and Mike have managed to maintain their long distance relationship for three years before marrying each other and starting a life together. Megan provides their recipe for successful long distance relationship – maintaining communication, romance and meeting up.

    10 years of long distance love

      For Carla and her husband, a long distance relationship is the way of life, ever since they first started their romance that would turn into a marriage with children, ten years ago. Being a military wife has many challenges, but they have managed to keep their relationship strong and their love lasting by using every possible means of communication available.

      Strong love and commitment

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        Karen and Jonathan have learned that true love and dedication can always overcome even the toughest challenges of being in a long distance relationship.

        A happy ending

          After a couple years of long distance and parental problems, Tanu and her boyfriend have managed to get their happy ending and prove that a long distance means nothing when the feelings are real.

          “One day closer and one day stronger”

            One of the most encouraging pieces of advice on the struggles included in long term relationships are coming from Tyler Burnett, who learned through his experience of being in a long term relationships that it is all worth it.

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            From unexpected to long distance love story

              Another great love story that went from unexpected to committed long distance relationship.

              Bloggers’ romance

                Ashley and Peter’s relationship started online and is going strong thanks to the technology that allows them to video chat at least once a day. They agree that communication is the most important thing for keeping a long distance relationship strong.

                An improvised proposal

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                  Beautiful and heartwarming story about a long distance couple who had to improvise on the traditional proposal and do it via Skype, yet they managed to endure all the hardships the physical distance involves, for the sake of love.

                  From longing to furniture cleaning

                    Hilary shares her beautiful love story that went from long distance to living together. She and her boyfriend Mickael have gone from longing for each other to adjusting to living together and respecting each other’s habits.

                    A serendipitous flight

                      Izabella and her now husband’s first encounter happened on a plane, following a couple of unplanned events that include his lost passport and changed flight. Their love and commitment keeps on getting stronger despite the challenges of a long distance marriage, before they can finally move in together.

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                      Last Updated on February 21, 2019

                      The Secret to Effective Conflict Resolution: The IBR Approach

                      The Secret to Effective Conflict Resolution: The IBR Approach

                      In business, in social relationships, in family… In whatever context conflict is always inevitable, especially when you are in the leader role. This role equals “make decisions for the best of majority” and the remaining are not amused. Conflicts arise.

                      Conflicts arise when we want to push for a better quality work but some members want to take a break from work.

                      Conflicts arise when we as citizens want more recreational facilities but the Government has to balance the needs to maintain tourism growth.

                      Conflicts are literally everywhere.

                      Avoiding Conflicts a No-No and Resolving Conflicts a Win-Win

                      Avoiding conflicts seem to be a viable option for us. The cruel fact is, it isn’t. Conflicts won’t walk away by themselves. They will, instead, escalate and haunt you back even more when we finally realize that’s no way we can let it be.

                      Moreover, avoiding conflicts will eventually intensify the misunderstanding among the involved parties. And the misunderstanding severely hinders open communication which later on the parties tend to keep things secret. This is obviously detrimental to teamwork.

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                      Some may view conflicts as the last step before arguments. And they thus leave it aside as if they never happen. This is not true.

                      Conflicts are the intersect point between different individuals with different opinions. And this does not necessarily lead to argument.

                      Instead, proper handling of conflicts can actually result in a win-win situation – both parties are pleased and allies are gained. A better understanding between each other and future conflicts are less likely to happen.

                      The IBR Approach to Resolve Conflicts

                      Here, we introduce to you an effective approach to resolve conflicts – the Interest-Based Relational (IBR) approach. The IBR approach was developed by Roger Fisher and William Ury in their 1981 book Getting to Yes. It stresses the importance of the separation between people and their emotions from the problem. Another focus of the approach is to build mutual understanding and respect as they strengthen bonds among parties and can ultimately help resolve conflicts in a harmonious way. The approach suggests a 6-step procedure for conflict resolution:

                      Step 1: Prioritize Good Relationships

                      How? Before addressing the problem or even starting the discussion, make it clear the conflict can result in a mutual trouble and through subsequent respectful negotiation the conflict can be resolved peacefully. And that brings the best outcome to the whole team by working together.

                      Why? It is easy to overlook own cause of the conflict and point the finger to the members with different opinions. With such a mindset, it is likely to blame rather than to listen to the others and fail to acknowledge the problem completely. Such a discussion manner will undermine the good relationships among the members and aggravate the problem.

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                      Example: Before discussion, stress that the problem is never one’s complete fault. Everyone is responsible for it. Then, it is important to point out our own involvement in the problem and state clearly we are here to listen to everyone’s opinions rather than accusing others.

                      Step 2: People Are NOT the Cause of Problem

                      How? State clearly the problem is never one-sided. Collaborative effort is needed. More importantly, note the problem should not be taken personally. We are not making accusations on persons but addressing the problem itself.

                      Why? Once things taken personally, everything will go out of control. People will become irrational and neglect others’ opinions. We are then unable to address the problem properly because we cannot grasp a fuller and clearer picture of the problem due to presumption.

                      Example: In spite of the confronting opinions, we have to emphasize that the problem is not a result of the persons but probably the different perspectives to view it. So, if we try to look at the problem from the other’s perspective, we may understand why there are varied opinions.

                      Step 3: Listen From ALL Stances

                      How? Do NOT blame others. It is of utmost importance. Ask for everyone’s opinions. It is important to let everyone feel that they contribute to the discussion. Tell them their involvement is essential to solve the problem and their effort is very much appreciated.

                      Why? None wants to be ignored. If one feels neglected, it is very likely for he/she to be aggressive. It is definitely not what we hope to see in a discussion. Acknowledging and being acknowledged are equally important. So, make sure everyone has equal opportunity to express their views. Also, realizing their opinions are not neglected, they will be more receptive to other opinions.

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                      Example: A little trick can played here: Invite others to talk first. It is an easy way to let others feel involved and ,more importantly, know their voices are heard. Also, we can show that we are actively listening to them by giving direct eye-contact and nodding. One important to note is that never interrupt anyone. Always let them finish first beforeanother one begins.

                      Step 4: Listen Comes First, Talk Follows

                      How? Ensure everyone has listened to one another points of view. It can be done by taking turn to speak and leaving the discussion part at last. State once again the problem is nothing personal and no accusation should be made.

                      Why? By turn-taking, everyone can finish talking and voices of all sides can be heard indiscriminantly. This can promote willingness to listen to opposing opinions.

                      Example: We can prepare pieces of paper with different numbers written on them. Then, ask different members to pick one and talk according to the sequence of the number. After everyone’s finished, advise everyone to use “I” more than “You” in the discussion period to avoid others thinking that it is an accusation.

                      Step 5: Understand the Facts, Then Address the Problem

                      How? List out ALL the facts first. Ask everyone to tell what they know about the problems.

                      Why? Sometimes your facts are unknown to the others while they may know something we don’t. Missing out on these facts could possibly lead to inaccurate capture of the problem. Also, different known facts can lead to different perception of the matter. It also helps everyone better understand the problem and can eventually help reach a solution.

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                      Example: While everyone is expressing their own views, ask them to write down everything they know that is true to the problem. As soon as everyone has finished, all facts can be noted and everyone’s understanding of the problem is raised.

                      Step 6: Solve the Problem Together

                      How? Knowing what everyone’s thinking, it is now time to resolve the conflict. Up to this point, everyone should have understood the problem better. So, it is everyone’s time to suggest some solutions. It is important not to have one giving all the solutions.

                      Why? Having everyone suggesting their solutions is important as they will not feel excluded and their opinions are considered. Besides, it may also generate more solutions that can better resolve the conflicts. Everyone will more likely be satisfied with the result.

                      Example: After discussion, ask all members to suggest any possible solutions and stress that all solutions are welcomed. State clearly that we are looking for the best outcomes for everyone’s sake rather than battling to win over one another. Then, evaluate all the solutions and pick the one that is in favor of everyone.

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