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10 Stories Proved That Physical Distance Could Never Be the Roadblock of True Love!

10 Stories Proved That Physical Distance Could Never Be the Roadblock of True Love!

After all the ups and downs in your love life and all the misery of not being able to find the one, you have finally met the person who makes you feel like on top of the world and who you can’t imagine spending the rest of your life without. However, there is a catch. A huge one, actually. Measurable by miles.

Even though you believe that your love is strong enough, the constant struggle involved in keeping a long distance relationship can at times wear you down, and make you question if it’s all worth it. The constant juggling between different time zones, the endless phone calls, the texting, the Facetiming, the video chats, the worrying, the missing, the waiting, the planning, the travelling… As if keeping a relationship isn’t challenging enough, for long distance couples, everything is so much more complicated.

That being said, it is important to know that you are not alone in your struggles and challenges. People have been keeping long distance relationships since forever, even in the pre-internet era, when their ways of communication were much more restricted.

If you are blessed enough that you have met your true soul mate, remember that love is, after all, the most important thing, and so worth the initial struggle to keep in touch and organize meetings. If you need the additional encouragement to keep going, make sure to read through some of the most heartwarming stories about long distance love that managed to overcome being apart for so long.

Travelers’ love tale

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    It was only logical for Megan and Mike, two world-wide travelers to find each other on a trip. Even though Megan is from Australia and Mike from America, they both took a trip to Africa at the same time, which introduced them to a life of long distance relationship.

    Despite the distance and pessimistic comments by people surrounding them, Megan and Mike have managed to maintain their long distance relationship for three years before marrying each other and starting a life together. Megan provides their recipe for successful long distance relationship – maintaining communication, romance and meeting up.

    10 years of long distance love

      For Carla and her husband, a long distance relationship is the way of life, ever since they first started their romance that would turn into a marriage with children, ten years ago. Being a military wife has many challenges, but they have managed to keep their relationship strong and their love lasting by using every possible means of communication available.

      Strong love and commitment

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        Karen and Jonathan have learned that true love and dedication can always overcome even the toughest challenges of being in a long distance relationship.

        A happy ending

          After a couple years of long distance and parental problems, Tanu and her boyfriend have managed to get their happy ending and prove that a long distance means nothing when the feelings are real.

          “One day closer and one day stronger”

            One of the most encouraging pieces of advice on the struggles included in long term relationships are coming from Tyler Burnett, who learned through his experience of being in a long term relationships that it is all worth it.

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            From unexpected to long distance love story

              Another great love story that went from unexpected to committed long distance relationship.

              Bloggers’ romance

                Ashley and Peter’s relationship started online and is going strong thanks to the technology that allows them to video chat at least once a day. They agree that communication is the most important thing for keeping a long distance relationship strong.

                An improvised proposal

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                  Beautiful and heartwarming story about a long distance couple who had to improvise on the traditional proposal and do it via Skype, yet they managed to endure all the hardships the physical distance involves, for the sake of love.

                  From longing to furniture cleaning

                    Hilary shares her beautiful love story that went from long distance to living together. She and her boyfriend Mickael have gone from longing for each other to adjusting to living together and respecting each other’s habits.

                    A serendipitous flight

                      Izabella and her now husband’s first encounter happened on a plane, following a couple of unplanned events that include his lost passport and changed flight. Their love and commitment keeps on getting stronger despite the challenges of a long distance marriage, before they can finally move in together.

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                      Last Updated on January 15, 2021

                      7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

                      7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

                      The popular idiomatic saying that “actions speak louder than words” has been around for centuries, but even to this day, most people struggle with at least one area of nonverbal communication. Consequently, many of us aspire to have more confident body language but don’t have the knowledge and tools necessary to change what are largely unconscious behaviors.

                      Given that others’ perceptions of our competence and confidence are predominantly influenced by what we do with our faces and bodies, it’s important to develop greater self-awareness and consciously practice better posture, stance, eye contact, facial expressions, hand movements, and other aspects of body language.

                      Posture

                      First things first: how is your posture? Let’s start with a quick self-assessment of your body.

                      • Are your shoulders slumped over or rolled back in an upright posture?
                      • When you stand up, do you evenly distribute your weight or lean excessively to one side?
                      • Does your natural stance place your feet relatively shoulder-width apart or are your feet and legs close together in a closed-off position?
                      • When you sit, does your lower back protrude out in a slumped position or maintain a straight, spine-friendly posture in your seat?

                      All of these are important considerations to make when evaluating and improving your posture and stance, which will lead to more confident body language over time. If you routinely struggle with maintaining good posture, consider buying a posture trainer/corrector, consulting a chiropractor or physical therapist, stretching daily, and strengthening both your core and back muscles.

                      Facial Expressions

                      Are you prone to any of the following in personal or professional settings?

                      • Bruxism (tight, clenched jaw or grinding teeth)
                      • Frowning and/or furrowing brows
                      • Avoiding direct eye contact and/or staring at the ground

                      If you answered “yes” to any of these, then let’s start by examining various ways in which you can project confident body language through your facial expressions.

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                      1. Understand How Others Perceive Your Facial Expressions

                      A December 2020 study by UC Berkeley and Google researchers utilized a deep neural network to analyze facial expressions in six million YouTube clips representing people from over 140 countries. The study found that, despite socio-cultural differences, people around the world tended to use about 70% of the same facial expressions in response to different emotional stimuli and situations.[1]

                      The study’s researchers also published a fascinating interactive map to demonstrate how their machine learning technology assessed various facial expressions and determined subtle differences in emotional responses.

                      This study highlights the social importance of facial expressions because whether or not we’re consciously aware of them—by gazing into a mirror or your screen on a video conferencing platform—how we present our faces to others can have tremendous impacts on their perceptions of us, our confidence, and our emotional states. This awareness is the essential first step towards

                      2. Relax Your Face

                      New research on bruxism and facial tension found the stresses and anxieties of Covid-19 lockdowns led to considerable increases in orofacial pain, jaw-clenching, and teeth grinding, particularly among women.[2]

                      The National Institute of Dental and Craniofacial Research estimates that more than 10 million Americans alone have temporomandibular joint dysfunction (TMJ syndrome), and facial tension can lead to other complications such as insomnia, wrinkles, dry skin, and dark, puffy bags under your eyes.[3])

                      To avoid these unpleasant outcomes, start practicing progressive muscle relaxation techniques and taking breaks more frequently throughout the day to moderate facial tension.[4] You should also try out some biofeedback techniques to enhance your awareness of involuntary bodily processes like facial tension and achieve more confident body language as a result.[5]

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                      3. Improve Your Eye Contact

                      Did you know there’s an entire subfield of kinesic communication research dedicated to eye movements and behaviors called oculesics?[6] It refers to various communication behaviors including direct eye contact, averting one’s gaze, pupil dilation/constriction, and even frequency of blinking. All of these qualities can shape how other people perceive you, which means that eye contact is yet another area of nonverbal body language that we should be more mindful of in social interactions.

                      The ideal type (direct/indirect) and duration of eye contact depends on a variety of factors, such as cultural setting, differences in power/authority/age between the parties involved, and communication context. Research has shown that differences in the effects of eye contact are particularly prominent when comparing East Asian and Western European/North American cultures.[7]

                      To improve your eye contact with others, strive to maintain consistent contact for at least 3 to 4 seconds at a time, consciously consider where you’re looking while listening to someone else, and practice eye contact as much as possible (as strange as this may seem in the beginning, it’s the best way to improve).

                      3. Smile More

                      There are many benefits to smiling and laughing, and when it comes to working on more confident body language, this is an area that should be fun, low-stakes, and relatively stress-free.

                      Smiling is associated with the “happiness chemical” dopamine and the mood-stabilizing hormone, serotonin. Many empirical studies have shown that smiling generally leads to positive outcomes for the person smiling, and further research has shown that smiling can influence listeners’ perceptions of our confidence and trustworthiness as well.

                      4. Hand Gestures

                      Similar to facial expressions and posture, what you do with your hands while speaking or listening in a conversation can significantly influence others’ perceptions of you in positive or negative ways.

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                      It’s undoubtedly challenging to consciously account for all of your nonverbal signals while simultaneously trying to stay engaged with the verbal part of the discussion, but putting in the effort to develop more bodily awareness now will make it much easier to unconsciously project more confident body language later on.

                      5. Enhance Your Handshake

                      In the article, “An Anthropology of the Handshake,” University of Copenhagen social anthropology professor Bjarke Oxlund assessed the future of handshaking in wake of the Covid-19 pandemic:[8]

                      “Handshakes not only vary in function and meaning but do so according to social context, situation and scale. . . a public discussion should ensue on the advantages and disadvantages of holding on to the tradition of shaking hands as the conventional gesture of greeting and leave-taking in a variety of circumstances.”

                      It’s too early to determine some of the ways in which Covid-19 has permanently changed our social norms and professional etiquette standards, but it’s reasonable to assume that handshaking may retain its importance in American society even after this pandemic. To practice more confident body language in the meantime, the video on the science of the perfect handshake below explains what you need to know.

                      6. Complement Your Verbals With Hand Gestures

                      As you know by now, confident communication involves so much more than simply smiling more or sounding like you know what you’re talking about. What you do with your hands can be particularly influential in how others perceive you, whether you’re fidgeting with an object, clenching your fists, hiding your hands in your pockets, or calmly gesturing to emphasize important points you’re discussing.

                      Social psychology researchers have found that “iconic gestures”—hand movements that appear to be meaningfully related to the speaker’s verbal content—can have profound impacts on listeners’ information retention. In other words, people are more likely to engage with you and remember more of what you said when you speak with complementary hand gestures instead of just your voice.[9]

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                      Further research on hand gestures has shown that even your choice of the left or right hand for gesturing can influence your ability to clearly convey information to listeners, which supports the notion that more confident body language is readily achievable through greater self-awareness and deliberate nonverbal actions.[10]

                      Final Takeaways

                      Developing better posture, enhancing your facial expressiveness, and practicing hand gestures can vastly improve your communication with other people. At first, it will be challenging to consciously practice nonverbal behaviors that many of us are accustomed to performing daily without thinking about them.

                      If you ever feel discouraged, however, remember that there’s no downside to consistently putting in just a little more time and effort to increase your bodily awareness. With the tips and strategies above, you’ll be well on your way to embracing more confident body language and amplifying others’ perceptions of you in no time.

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