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These Ideas Are Categorised As “What Seems Awesome Until You Tried it”, by Over 1000 Reddit Users Around The World

These Ideas Are Categorised As “What Seems Awesome Until You Tried it”, by Over 1000 Reddit Users Around The World

Have you dreamed of saving a budget to travel around the world and never coming back? Is the fantasy of completing a full marathon race in a year in your to-do list? We all have this kind of fantasies in getting things we long for and think that “this idea will be awesome!”. Until you tried it, however, you wish you never asked for it.

A Reedit user has recently asked a question “What seems awesome until you try it?” and over four thousands replies were received within several hours. [1]

Based on the replies, we have listed out some of the common things they regret doing.

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1. “Having a relationship with your best friend; afterwards you’re left single and friendless.” – unknown

It’s a bitter-sweet thing when your partner is your best friend. The story seems beautiful when two of the most important people life have become one. But just like when the user said, if this relationship comes to an end, you will lose both a lover and a best friend.

So what to do if you want to date your best friend but no ruining the friendship?

Always remember to offer openness to communication since it is foregrounded in all relationships, no matter friends or lovers. Listen to the partner’s needs and express your own thoughts to him/her. Never take his/her understanding for granted, just because you guys are best friend.

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2. “Having a job that requires you to travel a lot. The movies make it look nice but really, you just spend your time in airports, planes, taxis and meeting rooms, eating shit food while you’re at it.”- Yedd514

Most people want to leave their hometowns to explore the world. A job abroad may be a dream to many, since this provides opportunities for you to have a crack at new stuff and new people.

Working abroad is very different from travelling, the time you have to visit a museum or get a local dish is limited. You have to get used to the new environment, getting to know your new colleagues and be familiar with the new working style and culture. There might not be much time left for you to explore the beauty of the city.

Before thinking which places you like to work at, consider if the job really suits you. If you prefer dining with family and shopping with buddies, this might not be the best job for you.

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3. Owning a luxury car as a poor person.- porcupinee

A person who doesn’t earn enough for a living wants to buy a luxury car. This is just an example. A lot of people work very hard and save money in order to purchase a branded handbag or a multi-functional watch. You may find satisfaction that a better meal cannot give you. But how long does the happiness last for?

People look for instant pleasure in materialistic pursuit but forget that the hype doesn’t stay long. Regret often comes after some time because you know there were better options.

Sometimes we have to be more practical with the choice we make, and long-term usefulness or happiness is what we should look for.

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4. Not working or educating yourself. It seems like unlimited freedom.- JakeBit

Freedom is a big word we all want in life, from school, work or people. We visualise a lot of happy moments when we can quit from work or school and do whatever we want. It may be a paradise at the beginning, but soon you know it is not.

Imagine yourself sitting on the sofa sipping coffee and watching TV, what are you living for? Do you really want your life to stay in this state? We all need life goals. It is important to keep learning because we find our passion through reading and working in different fields. Through learning, you will understand yourself more, whether you like calculations or if you suit better in the creative industry. Once you find your interest, you will have freedom since you are into the work you are passionate about.

5. Buying and eating a lot of snacks without consideration just to kill sadness.- abrasionshack

What is your way to overcome depression? A common answer: food. Quite a lot of people try to treat themselves better in misery by consuming a variety of snacks. My friend who believes in endorphins from sweets once ate three bars of chocolates and an extra pack of candies in one single night. On the next day, she was still upset, and got a stomachache.

The instant relief by eating does not remove your sadness. The ongoing consumption will even lead to the result of weight gaining and stomachache. To be truly happy, you need to face and fix the problem. It’s fine if you want to get a chocolate bar today because you are sad.

After that, it’s time to think about the source of the problem, find ways, kick it out, and you will no longer need the extra fat.

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Last Updated on August 6, 2020

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

We’ve all done it. That moment when a series of words slithers from your mouth and the instant regret manifests through blushing and profuse apologies. If you could just think before you speak! It doesn’t have to be like this, and with a bit of practice, it’s actually quite easy to prevent.

“Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.” – Napolean Hill

Are we speaking the same language?

My mum recently left me a note thanking me for looking after her dog. She’d signed it with “LOL.” In my world, this means “laugh out loud,” and in her world it means “lots of love.” My kids tell me things are “sick” when they’re good, and ”manck” when they’re bad (when I say “bad,” I don’t mean good!). It’s amazing that we manage to communicate at all.

When speaking, we tend to color our language with words and phrases that have become personal to us, things we’ve picked up from our friends, families and even memes from the internet. These colloquialisms become normal, and we expect the listener (or reader) to understand “what we mean.” If you really want the listener to understand your meaning, try to use words and phrases that they might use.

Am I being lazy?

When you’ve been in a relationship for a while, a strange metamorphosis takes place. People tend to become lazier in the way that they communicate with each other, with less thought for the feelings of their partner. There’s no malice intended; we just reach a “comfort zone” and know that our partners “know what we mean.”

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Here’s an exchange from Psychology Today to demonstrate what I mean:

Early in the relationship:

“Honey, I don’t want you to take this wrong, but I’m noticing that your hair is getting a little thin on top. I know guys are sensitive about losing their hair, but I don’t want someone else to embarrass you without your expecting it.”

When the relationship is established:

“Did you know that you’re losing a lot of hair on the back of your head? You’re combing it funny and it doesn’t help. Wear a baseball cap or something if you feel weird about it. Lots of guys get thin on top. It’s no big deal.”

It’s pretty clear which of these statements is more empathetic and more likely to be received well. Recognizing when we do this can be tricky, but with a little practice it becomes easy.

Have I actually got anything to say?

When I was a kid, my gran used to say to me that if I didn’t have anything good to say, I shouldn’t say anything at all. My gran couldn’t stand gossip, so this makes total sense, but you can take this statement a little further and modify it: “If you don’t have anything to say, then don’t say anything at all.”

A lot of the time, people speak to fill “uncomfortable silences,” or because they believe that saying something, anything, is better than staying quiet. It can even be a cause of anxiety for some people.

When somebody else is speaking, listen. Don’t wait to speak. Listen. Actually hear what that person is saying, think about it, and respond if necessary.

Am I painting an accurate picture?

One of the most common forms of miscommunication is the lack of a “referential index,” a type of generalization that fails to refer to specific nouns. As an example, look at these two simple phrases: “Can you pass me that?” and “Pass me that thing over there!”. How often have you said something similar?

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How is the listener supposed to know what you mean? The person that you’re talking to will start to fill in the gaps with something that may very well be completely different to what you mean. You’re thinking “pass me the salt,” but you get passed the pepper. This can be infuriating for the listener, and more importantly, can create a lack of understanding and ultimately produce conflict.

Before you speak, try to label people, places and objects in a way that it is easy for any listeners to understand.

What words am I using?

It’s well known that our use of nouns and verbs (or lack of them) gives an insight into where we grew up, our education, our thoughts and our feelings.

Less well known is that the use of pronouns offers a critical insight into how we emotionally code our sentences. James Pennebaker’s research in the 1990’s concluded that function words are important keys to someone’s psychological state and reveal much more than content words do.

Starting a sentence with “I think…” demonstrates self-focus rather than empathy with the speaker, whereas asking the speaker to elaborate or quantify what they’re saying clearly shows that you’re listening and have respect even if you disagree.

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Is the map really the territory?

Before speaking, we sometimes construct a scenario that makes us act in a way that isn’t necessarily reflective of the actual situation.

A while ago, John promised to help me out in a big way with a project that I was working on. After an initial meeting and some big promises, we put together a plan and set off on its execution. A week or so went by, and I tried to get a hold of John to see how things were going. After voice mails and emails with no reply and general silence, I tried again a week later and still got no response.

I was frustrated and started to get more than a bit vexed. The project obviously meant more to me than it did to him, and I started to construct all manner of crazy scenarios. I finally got through to John and immediately started a mild rant about making promises you can’t keep. He stopped me in my tracks with the news that his brother had died. If I’d have just thought before I spoke…

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